FabSwingers.com forum: Single male dilemma

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I heard it was tough going on here as a single male... but yeah, I feel like I'm a leper.

I'm sure I'm doing something wrong. Maybe it's my profile or just my face in general but there's just no interest coming at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what’s the dilemma?

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Maybe try going to a club, you have Club Play in Blackpool. See people face to face, chat. Works for us if we see a guy we like we ask them to join us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don’t get why we see these posts so often.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Appreciate your sentiments and fully empathise with you OP but single males on here are a dime a dozen.

Even with a well written profile and tasteful pictures, ladies and couples have so much options to choose from so I wouldn’t take it personally. Your best bet is get away from your phone screen and go to clubs and socials where you can interact with people in real life.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

What are you offering your meets? Your profile tells people you're good looking and you find this site tiring as single male.

You need to try and sell yourself, stand out a bit and show some personally.

Also your status would put me off.

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

Your a man, so you have a microscopic chance of a meet. It might never happen. I've had 1 meet in 15 years, that's how tough it is on here. There seems to be quite a few lucky guys but the likes of you and me will never get that luck,so all you can do is keep trying

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Don’t rely solely on Fab. Get yourself to a social or club.

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By *apperleymanMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

You’re a lot better looking than me.

You’ve got a better body, younger and probably have a bigger penis. Yet I have met plenty of folk on here and had loads of good meets..

Therefore sell yourself, get out there to clubs, meet folk - be yourself..

Make your profile more interesting and state what you’re into and what you’re looking for..

Most of all be patient and don’t be a dick.

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By *oxy OneWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Think about who you are trying to appeal to and then think about if those people are likely to react well to how you’ve set up your profile.

Women and couples really are spoilt for choice when it comes to single male profiles on Fab.

Statuses like “Need sorting out today” sound like you are going to be a pretty unsatisfying meet from a woman’s perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't believe in luck. You have autonomy here.

Sure there may be a million guys, but that doesn't stop you from being the best version of yourself and showing that to the world.

Those who do well imo do the marketing bit well. It's not yet are selling a better product. But they are better at selling the product.

You were here as a couple it says. Do you think yr former OH would have fallen over herself to have said yes to yr profile, status etc. Can you ask her for comments?

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"I heard it was tough going on here as a single male... but yeah, I feel like I'm a leper.

I'm sure I'm doing something wrong. Maybe it's my profile or just my face in general but there's just no interest coming at all.

This word dilemma, I do not think it means what you think it means.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I heard it was tough going on here as a single male... but yeah, I feel like I'm a leper.

I'm sure I'm doing something wrong. Maybe it's my profile or just my face in general but there's just no interest coming at all.

That is just the way it is for most men. sometimes you get interest, sometimes not.

Just keep being you, be authentic and sooner or later your vibe will attract your tribe.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I've met two women this year through fab. And I'm not an incredible physical specimen of manliness.

Maybe it's luck, maybe it's persistence, but if you don't put the effort in your profile, to sell yourself, people will move on to the next advert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Hiding the profile ain't gonna help either

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Consider how you sell yourself, if you saw a profile/messages like yours, would you reply?

Fab is one route, if you actually want to meet people, you're probably better going outside to venues and events where people actually are instead of assuming a website is going to solve your predicament.

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By *apperleymanMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Hiding the profile ain't gonna help either

Truth hurts…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t have any expectations here at all.

The attention goes to a lot of people’s head, and standard manners goes astray here on fab.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

people need to stop telling people it will all be ok because simply and bluntly put its like this ... if nobody is interested then nobody is interested ...

sexuall attraction is everything its the first thing the brain processes then needs to be filled in with what ever people are looking for and as we will all be different theres no one thing anyone can advise ...

it blunt i know but if you a man then you in for a terrible time not all of you somr guys get it str8 away 99.9% wont and with more n more men joining then the harder it will get for men ...

the biggest problem is men join for sex but oh no not any ole sex most want that free sex on a plate so they can empty their balls and truthly thats not swinging theres a lot more to it than just sex ... men flood in every day making the scene impossible for 99.9%

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

"Don't believe in luck. You have autonomy here.

Sure there may be a million guys, but that doesn't stop you from being the best version of yourself and showing that to the world.

Those who do well imo do the marketing bit well. It's not yet are selling a better product. But they are better at selling the product.

You were here as a couple it says. Do you think yr former OH would have fallen over herself to have said yes to yr profile, status etc. Can you ask her for comments?"

Absolutely this. You have to sell yourself.

Unfortunately, OP, what little there is of your profile doesb't come across as very appealing, simply because of one sentence that gives off the impression that you really can't be bothered to make any effort

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Go to an organised social

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Don't believe in luck. You have autonomy here.

Sure there may be a million guys, but that doesn't stop you from being the best version of yourself and showing that to the world.

Those who do well imo do the marketing bit well. It's not yet are selling a better product. But they are better at selling the product.

You were here as a couple it says. Do you think yr former OH would have fallen over herself to have said yes to yr profile, status etc. Can you ask her for comments?

Absolutely this. You have to sell yourself.

Listen to this advice, having a few tattoos and going to the gym is not going to make women fall at your feet, you’re going to need to sell yourself. You are the produce on here, not the shopper.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Now the profile is hidden so unable to say anything

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"people need to stop telling people it will all be ok because simply and bluntly put its like this ... if nobody is interested then nobody is interested ...

it blunt i know but if you a man then you in for a terrible time not all of you somr guys get it str8 away 99.9% wont and with more n more men joining then the harder it will get for men ...

It's not true that some men make it harder for others. Zombie accounts, one liner's, dick picks, they all just make it easier for the guys with their heads screwed on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He could have the best profile in the world, evidently it’s far from, but that makes minimal effort. A chunk of people here ( I know not all) are content to get their validation needs, not actually be serious/fake or expect you to meet every demand going as joining fab transforms people into the most sought after person going. Again not here to rattle or cause a storm and I AGREE A BASIC PROFILE (now hidden haha) won’t have much joy, but many profiles with detail etc still get the same outcome.

Sure he’s have better luck finding a no strings meet around Blackpool, surely the standards aren’t that high there

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By *ylonseeker2023Man
over a year ago

Harwich

Meeting is simple.

You go down a street, any street.

The best time is when it gets dark.

Go to a house where you have seen movement, slowly and quietly lift the letterbox cover in the door.

Now, gently stick ya dick through the hatch and bang like hell on the door.

You WILL meet someone, 50/50 it's a female, so better than here statistically

Hope that helps! ??

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

"people need to stop telling people it will all be ok because simply and bluntly put its like this ... if nobody is interested then nobody is interested ...

it blunt i know but if you a man then you in for a terrible time not all of you somr guys get it str8 away 99.9% wont and with more n more men joining then the harder it will get for men ...

It's not true that some men make it harder for others. Zombie accounts, one liner's, dick picks, they all just make it easier for the guys with their heads screwed on."

so 100 to 200 men per woman / couple more in some places dont make it harder ??? tell the 99.99% of men who get nowhere that

and i did say some get it straight away

alot of men also seem to forget about that main thing in this scene ''sexual attraction'' you could be the nicest guy going send the right message not be a dick but no attraction then its all for what ??

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"people need to stop telling people it will all be ok because simply and bluntly put its like this ... if nobody is interested then nobody is interested ...

it blunt i know but if you a man then you in for a terrible time not all of you somr guys get it str8 away 99.9% wont and with more n more men joining then the harder it will get for men ...

It's not true that some men make it harder for others. Zombie accounts, one liner's, dick picks, they all just make it easier for the guys with their heads screwed on.

so 100 to 200 men per woman / couple more in some places dont make it harder ??? tell the 99.99% of men who get nowhere that

and i did say some get it straight away

There is an almost incel like belief from a lot of men on here that if they do certain things, and tick certain boxes, then a woman/couple should have sex with them. Then when this turns out not to be true it’s because women only want to sleep with the ‘top 10% of men’. It’s always the women who are to blame for them failing to get laid, it’s never that they are doing anything wrong. It’s at that point their true colours show and they start talking about how unattractive women get ideas above their station etc.

There are plenty of men with dad bods and a face like a bag of spanners who do well on here, sometimes it’s just down to the fact that you’re not attractive to the people you are messaging.

Mr DD

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By *apperleymanMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

‘There are plenty of men with dad bods and a face like a bag of spanners who do well on here’

That would be me then..

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"‘There are plenty of men with dad bods and a face like a bag of spanners who do well on here’

That would be me then..

Ditto!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Could you ask some of the people you met when you were on here as a couple to verify you ?

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By *ros40Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Remember its called fab swingers

Single men are bottom of the pile

Like others have said, don't just rely on fab

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

"There is an almost incel like belief from a lot of men on here that if they do certain things, and tick certain boxes, then a woman/couple should have sex with them. Then when this turns out not to be true it’s because women only want to sleep with the ‘top 10% of men’. It’s always the women who are to blame for them failing to get laid, it’s never that they are doing anything wrong. It’s at that point their true colours show and they start talking about how unattractive women get ideas above their station etc.

There are plenty of men with dad bods and a face like a bag of spanners who do well on here, sometimes it’s just down to the fact that you’re not attractive to the people you are messaging.

Mr DD"

The words 'nail' and 'head' come to mind.

I see so many forum threads from guys who seem to be under the impression that there is some hidden secret formula to getting meets on fab.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not true that some men make it harder for others. Zombie accounts, one liner's, dick picks, they all just make it easier for the guys with their heads screwed on."

I'd agree with that, once you have the profile verifications to show you're not a time waster. Many couples and women will totally discount unverified profile to avoids fakes so probably would affect you if you're male. unverified and genuine.

IMO the guys banging on about other guys 'ruining it for the decent ones' are writing that in the forum hoping for a profile click from an elusive female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I heard it was tough going on here as a single male... but yeah, I feel like I'm a leper.

I'm sure I'm doing something wrong. Maybe it's my profile or just my face in general but there's just no interest coming at all.

Your negativity isn't helping

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"It's not true that some men make it harder for others. Zombie accounts, one liner's, dick picks, they all just make it easier for the guys with their heads screwed on.

IMO the guys banging on about other guys 'ruining it for the decent ones' are writing that in the forum hoping for a profile click from an elusive female."

Zombie accounts, dick picks etc, make it easier for the guys who do put in some effort, because we stand out.

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