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"Is it just us, or are there an awful lot of single men who give it all the chat but when it comes down to it, can't meet at "normal" times I.e weekends? Don't get us wrong, we completely understand people work etc but a good 70-80% of the single guys we talk to have really obscure times to meet. Like between 13:30-14:15 every 2nd Tuesday, or never on the weekend because of "stuff". Is it nerves or are there alot of men doing the dirty on here? We're not here to judge or ruffle feathers, but it's getting a bit boring now "Dunno. But if I don't meet on certain weekends, it's because I am going drinking with my mates, and then know I will be fucked the next day from the alcohol. | |||
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"Some of us don’t get a chance because of them" Boohoo | |||
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"How do you know they are not single parents? Have parents to look after. Ask them the question " Exactly - which is why I state my position on my profile | |||
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"Can’t say I’ve ever experienced this no. If the same thing is happening, maybe change your approach? Visit a club?" Agreed. Never experienced it as I only meet weekends. Clubs are good for that as tends to be the busiest events | |||
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"Is it just us, or are there an awful lot of single men who give it all the chat but when it comes down to it, can't meet at "normal" times I.e weekends? Don't get us wrong, we completely understand people work etc but a good 70-80% of the single guys we talk to have really obscure times to meet. Like between 13:30-14:15 every 2nd Tuesday, or never on the weekend because of "stuff". Is it nerves or are there alot of men doing the dirty on here? We're not here to judge or ruffle feathers, but it's getting a bit boring now "My hours are alive place plus I work second and 3rd jobs and cannot accommodate. It's one of the reasons I like clubs. But I believe they're should be a mutual communion or give and take otherwise it's either disrespectful or just not going to work | |||
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"I's getting a bit boring now "Yeah it’s getting boring these single men exercising control over how they spend their quality time and with who. How dare they. Personally, I don’t offer weekend meets to anyone until they’ve demonstrated that they’re both genuinely interested and reliable. Up until then, the meet is either going to be at a less valuable time or, like 50 Cent, you can find me in the club. If someone can’t turn up for a coffee on a Thursday afternoon having agreed on it, why should I take a chance on that person ruining a perfectly good Saturday night? | |||
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"Is it just us, or are there an awful lot of single men who give it all the chat but when it comes down to it, can't meet at "normal" times I.e weekends?" They are not single... They are attached and under the WAG Curfew at the weekends. | |||
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"Why would any single be potentially any more available at weekends than couples? They may still have work They may still have children They may well have to do as much mundane stuff Sometimes people just tend to overthink everything and in doing that it can be moulded to fit any narrative… " This, all the way.  | |||
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner" This isn't true. Most are unattached. I've organised a few parties and most of the singles I've met are genuinely single. | |||
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Perhaps the guys you're seeking are already out having fun on the weekends
Q. Do you seek the gents you mention or do they approach you?
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner" That is: A) a hell of an assumption B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…. | |||
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner This isn't true. Most are unattached. I've organised a few parties and most of the singles I've met are genuinely single. " it is true | |||
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner That is: A) a hell of an assumption B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…." Is not asumming its facts | |||
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner That is: A) a hell of an assumption B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…. Is not asumming its facts" This is based on your extensive experience meeting men is it? | |||
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner That is: A) a hell of an assumption B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…. Is not asumming its facts This is based on your extensive experience meeting men is it?" Nope and will not never meet men on here as Im not that way inclined (no offence to does who who do) and again I didnt say all men with single profiles aernt'single. 60% of men on here with single profiles aren't single to be precise. End off | |||
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"Because they're married cheating wankers "Not all.. But your not wrong i think x | |||
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"That would be because they are “Fab single”. Different to normal single. Lol. " Wrong x | |||
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"Not all guys, just the liars that aren’t single and true. " Ok as cant message xx | |||
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner That is: A) a hell of an assumption B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…. Is not asumming its facts This is based on your extensive experience meeting men is it? Nope and will not never meet men on here as Im not that way inclined (no offence to does who who do) and again I didnt say all men with single profiles aernt'single. 60% of men on here with single profiles aren't single to be precise. End off " I'd love to know your process for making up random numbers | |||
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"People should stop using "facts" in debates unless they provided considerable empirical evidence to support their argument. "Yep! It's called "anecdotal evidence". So John Snow, the Father of Public Health gathered enough evidence from observation that a well in Soho was the cause of illness. He shut that well down and the illness stopped. That was years before Cholera was discovered under the microscope. I've experienced enough "single" men who wants weekday lunchtime knee trembles and they can't make weekends ... That's enough evidence for me. I rest my case m'lord... | |||
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"People should stop using "facts" in debates unless they provided considerable empirical evidence to support their argument.
Yep! It's called "anecdotal evidence".
So John Snow, the Father of Public Health gathered enough evidence from observation that a well in Soho was the cause of illness. He shut that well down and the illness stopped. That was years before Cholera was discovered under the microscope.
I've experienced enough "single" men who wants weekday lunchtime knee trembles and they can't make weekends ... That's enough evidence for me.
I rest my case m'lord..."hat Snow did was science. He formulated a hypothesis- illness comes from water in a specific well-based on observation, probably originally based on anecdote, then tested that hypothesis by shutting the well and thus found it to be correct. The hypothesis that most ‘single’ men that can’t meet on weekends are attached is more difficult to test. I would guess it is probably sound based on the fact most single men would move heaven and earth for casual sex but attached ones can’t explain disappearing on weekends to the wife. Yes, I know there are a few genuine exceptions. | |||
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"Is it just us, or are there an awful lot of single men who give it all the chat but when it comes down to it, can't meet at "normal" times I.e weekends? Don't get us wrong, we completely understand people work etc but a good 70-80% of the single guys we talk to have really obscure times to meet. Like between 13:30-14:15 every 2nd Tuesday, or never on the weekend because of "stuff". Is it nerves or are there alot of men doing the dirty on here? We're not here to judge or ruffle feathers, but it's getting a bit boring now "Alternatively it’s because they’re don’t put having sex with random people above everything else in life. Someone who maintains a range of hobbies and interests and values the time they spend with families and friends is likely to be a more interesting and rounded individual. Complaints like those in the post seem only to propagate the single guy=bad stereotype myth on this website. Most single guys are equally frustrated with what seems to be a couples privilege that exists here. Reasons commonly given such as no babysitter do not get called into question in the same way. Ultimately, make your choices carefully. But establishing a rapport over time and speaking on the phone to confirm intent or lack of and then arranging a future time convenient to all parties is likely to pay dividends. Just like any situation. | |||
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"Ultimately, make your choices carefully. But establishing a rapport over time and speaking on the phone to confirm intent or lack of and then arranging a future time convenient to all parties is likely to pay dividends. Just like any situation." Oh this I have done and have met some attached men, sadly trapped into fatherhood. One even confessed to making detailed arrangements with Fabbers because the fantasy of a Saturday evening meet sustained his sexual excitement through the week. Knowing full well he'll be changing nappies on Saturday evenings. I can believe this to be true because he rarely logs on his "single" profile past Friday afternoon. | |||
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner That is: A) a hell of an assumption B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…. Is not asumming its facts This is based on your extensive experience meeting men is it?" | |||
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"Well apart from me who is truly single most men with single profiles on here have a partner That is: A) a hell of an assumption B) one way to run over people with a big old bus…. Is not asumming its facts This is based on your extensive experience meeting men is it? "I agree based on many years of experience so pack your bus up please, as experience trumps supisition  | |||
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"Is it just us, or are there an awful lot of single men who give it all the chat but when it comes down to it, can't meet at "normal" times I.e weekends? Don't get us wrong, we completely understand people work etc but a good 70-80% of the single guys we talk to have really obscure times to meet. Like between 13:30-14:15 every 2nd Tuesday, or never on the weekend because of "stuff". Is it nerves or are there alot of men doing the dirty on here? We're not here to judge or ruffle feathers, but it's getting a bit boring now
Alternatively it’s because they’re don’t put having sex with random people above everything else in life.
Someone who maintains a range of hobbies and interests and values the time they spend with families and friends is likely to be a more interesting and rounded individual.
Complaints like those in the post seem only to propagate the single guy=bad stereotype myth on this website. Most single guys are equally frustrated with what seems to be a couples privilege that exists here. Reasons commonly given such as no babysitter do not get called into question in the same way.
Ultimately, make your choices carefully. But establishing a rapport over time and speaking on the phone to confirm intent or lack of and then arranging a future time convenient to all parties is likely to pay dividends. Just like any situation."Have learned this over time! | |||
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"Is it just us, or are there an awful lot of single men who give it all the chat but when it comes down to it, can't meet at "normal" times I.e weekends? Don't get us wrong, we completely understand people work etc but a good 70-80% of the single guys we talk to have really obscure times to meet. Like between 13:30-14:15 every 2nd Tuesday, or never on the weekend because of "stuff". Is it nerves or are there alot of men doing the dirty on here? We're not here to judge or ruffle feathers, but it's getting a bit boring now
Alternatively it’s because they’re don’t put having sex with random people above everything else in life.
Someone who maintains a range of hobbies and interests and values the time they spend with families and friends is likely to be a more interesting and rounded individual.
Complaints like those in the post seem only to propagate the single guy=bad stereotype myth on this website. Most single guys are equally frustrated with what seems to be a couples privilege that exists here. Reasons commonly given such as no babysitter do not get called into question in the same way.
Ultimately, make your choices carefully. But establishing a rapport over time and speaking on the phone to confirm intent or lack of and then arranging a future time convenient to all parties is likely to pay dividends. Just like any situation."This may come as a shock but swingers who mainly meet weekends also have families, hobbies, work weekends sometimes etc. It is understandable if people mainly meet weekdays and occasionally weekends but it is the people who clearly say NEVER free at weekends. It's bloody obvious if somebody can only ever meet weekday afternoons. And this applies to ladies and couples as well as men, although my experience from running groups and socials is that it is much more likely with men. People who've been around the block on this site for years are not fools. | |||
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