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By *oredSub22 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Malton ish

Yeah or nah...

Met 2 people I chose to be exclusive with down to respect etc

I find men usually expect it. .

How are your experiences

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't expect or offer it. We've never met anyone who did either

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"We don't expect or offer it. We've never met anyone who did either"

This

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore. "

People are difficult to figure out sometimes i guess

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore. "

And on a swingers site., ? .. Who knew ?

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore.

And on a swingers site., ? .. Who knew ?"

I know, some weird stuff happens on here.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I tend to make it clear from the start that I don't offer exclusivity. Some people push for it anyway, but they get in the bin pretty quickly

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore. "

I hear of this happening frequently. It's one reason I smile wryly when people say if you meet married men or women there will be less drama.

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By *oupleSouthEast69Couple
over a year ago

brighton

I was chatting to 2 separate guys who were on fab (so looking for casual encounters you'd expect) and both flaked because I had a serious partner. I got the impression they wanted a woman for them while they were free to pursue anyone they wanted. Gender norms continue to exist in swinging sadly

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore. "

It’s called having your cake and eating it. You dogged a bullet there.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich


"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore. "

I find this hard to understand.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

nope never either way ...its not swinging if your exclusive thats a relationship of sorts

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Why would you want/expect exclusivity on a swinging site?

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore.

I find this hard to understand."

So did I

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By *ensible lady 1960Woman
over a year ago

Near Bishop Auckland.

I meet who i want,and answer to knowone.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I wouldn’t expect exclusivity from anyone I met on Fab

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By *tevieboyyyMan
over a year ago

Waterlooville

Exclusive for my wife, always check if go out with a platonic girl (space) friend for a holiday, walk, or day out that is is okay.

If I have an evening with FWB, on a break due to health reasons, then I also check with my wife.

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By *teph BitchTV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester

i'd go exclusive if it were an option

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Yeah or nah...

Met 2 people I chose to be exclusive with down to respect etc

I find men usually expect it. .

How are your experiences "

Weird thing to expect on a swingers site, if you ask me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be very rewarding being in an exclusive circle.

But I wouldn't expect excluisivity from someone I've just met.

I have had men ive only talked to be jealous that I've met someone for coffee when they have a wife themselves??!?!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think married people whose partners don't know they swing prefer their swinging partner to be exclusive to them for other than emotional reasons

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

We neither expect it nor want it. If we liked the idea of exclusivity we wouldn't be swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah or nah...

Met 2 people I chose to be exclusive with down to respect etc

I find men usually expect it. .

How are your experiences "

Men often expect exclusivity because they're worried their one chance at pussy might find someone better and leave them..

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Yeah or nah...

Met 2 people I chose to be exclusive with down to respect etc

I find men usually expect it. .

How are your experiences

Men often expect exclusivity because they're worried their one chance at pussy might find someone better and leave them.."

True facts

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I don't particularly want it and I'd likely avoid anyone who did

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Never in a million years would I have been exclusive to someone

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Why would you want/expect exclusivity on a swinging site?

"
it happens a lot..

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By *ink vixenCouple
over a year ago

Medway

We have had single guys get all possessive with us in the past and obviously we fuck them straight off but we do wonder if SOME single guys are on here because they have trouble forming relationships owing to jealousy and insecurity issues.

My wife and I are faithful and honest with each other.

If we invite you in we will be honest with you but that’s all we owe you.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

It’s starting to sound more like controlling than exclusivity.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Why would you want/expect exclusivity on a swinging site?

it happens a lot.. "

Join a dating site then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s starting to sound more like controlling than exclusivity."

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"Yeah or nah...

Met 2 people I chose to be exclusive with down to respect etc

I find men usually expect it. .

How are your experiences

Men often expect exclusivity because they're worried their one chance at pussy might find someone better and leave them.."

Ain't that the truth. Do what you want not what random men want

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Married people whose partner is unaware want exclusivity because it lessens the risk of them giving their partner a sti. Which lets face it would be tricky to explain, nobody believes the 'i caught it from a toilet seat' any more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're exclusive, you're not a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually love hearing my lovers stories of other meets

No exclusivity here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met people then met others and all of a sudden their tone has changed.

I move along after that, I'm not here for jealously or exclusivity. It hasn't happened often but it has happened here and there over the years. I've always been very upfront with who I am and what I'm here for.

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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

Wouldn't expect it from anyone. However mrs was chatting with some single male couple of years ago and he became quite possessive. We ended it quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us, men that want Brat to be exclusive to them is a big red flag and major turn off for her, for obvious reasons.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I met a woman a few times on a previous profile and she insisted I be exclusive to her.

I told her I wasn't interested in that arrangement for a number of reasons one of which was that she had a number of fbs and declared that regardless of our arrangement she would continue to meet them and anyone else who took her fancy at socials and parties.

I walked away and became a bad guy in her eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met a woman a few times on a previous profile and she insisted I be exclusive to her.

I told her I wasn't interested in that arrangement for a number of reasons one of which was that she had a number of fbs and declared that regardless of our arrangement she would continue to meet them and anyone else who took her fancy at socials and parties.

I walked away and became a bad guy in her eyes. "

Not sure how anyone makes such an ask given her stance on the matter. I guess anyone can make the ask and it's left to the other party to accept or decline.

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By *con7Man
over a year ago

BARNET

Not sure exclusivity is in the spirit of swinging, but there is no right or wrong in my opinion. Do whatever works for you.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

I can be, and I am “exclusive” with my girlfriend in the emotional/romantic sense and always will be

Sexual exclusivity on the other hand, is not something I’m looking for now that I’ve discovered swinging. The likelihood of me going back to that is slim to none

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By *oneybee1001Woman
over a year ago

Around and about

I reckon that if you meet someone on a swingers website or in a swingers club then the question is being exclusive is a bit daft. It would have to be a mutual decision to both leave the lifestyle and no longer be swingers as the pure nature of swinging is sex with others

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Why would you want/expect exclusivity on a swinging site?

it happens a lot..

Join a dating site then."
I didn't say I wanted It but it gets asked off me a lot x

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I actually love hearing my lovers stories of other meets

No exclusivity here! "
I'm the same. It's hot x

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Only really come across anything once.

A couple we were arranging a social with were unhappy that we were still active on Fab when we'd agreed to meet them. Unsurprisingly, we decided they weren't for us...

It is rather strange given its a swinging site.

Nita

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Back in the early days when I was a single guy I didn't expect or observe it. However there was a couple of women who did not demand it or vocalise it (adhering to the same lifestyle logic) but I definitely picked up a vibe they weren't 100% happy with the terms. I've experienced occasions when in conversation my recent activity with other women came up (normally a conversation instigated by them) or a new verification appeared on my profile. Their words would technically suggest they were cool with it and supportive but there would be an undercurrent, a vibe that would suggest otherwise. In my experience a lot women if they could have their optimal outcome it would be exclusively despite saying they're cool with NSA (probably many men too). Which I guess is just human. Not everyone deep down likes to share their toys. But at that time it was something I was unwilling to give because I was enjoying the freedom and variety on offer. That's why I entered this world to enjoybthe freedom and variety. To be fair one of these women didn't stick around on here too long after. I think ultimately Swinging wasn't for her.

Mr

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

No thanks... The only reason I am ever only having sex with one man is because I can't find anyone I want to get as far as sex with

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Can we keep replies to the thread please!

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

the moment you become exclusive is the moment you are not swinging!

surely! or have I got that wrong?

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"the moment you become exclusive is the moment you are not swinging!

surely! or have I got that wrong?"

Correct unless as a couple x

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"the moment you become exclusive is the moment you are not swinging!

surely! or have I got that wrong?

Correct unless as a couple x"

Swinging together that is...

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"We neither expect it nor want it. If we liked the idea of exclusivity we wouldn't be swingers. "

Simples

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