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By *e and him 2021 OP   Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Hi

Just a question/thoughts on experience on fab lately

We been in and out of this lifestyle for a number of years but lately finding things difficult.

In the last 2 years we’ve only managed to get 2 meetings with another couple, yes we get the dynamics are harder due to 4 people having to interact

We’ve sent over the last 2 months probably sent a message a day to different couples either looking to meet or going to a event at a club and in that we’ve got 1 maybe 2 replies the rest have read and no reply or not even opened. It just seems to be a little disheartening and wondering now if it’s just us/a crap profile/bad photos or is it just that time of year and people aren’t meeting to save costs on hotels etc?

Any thoughts and comments would be greatly appreciated

P.s we aren’t really inundated with messages from single guys either( we’ve met lots over the years and is still on the table) we’ve just removed them from the looking for to cut the search to couples and single females

Female half has been to a club alone and when she puts that has an update she gets messages from couples looking to play with her.

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm not sure I've been here for a year and nothing.

Your profile and pictures look fine to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m looking for couples I like to see photos of both.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Bump

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm inundated, I'll pass them your way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi

Just a question/thoughts on experience on fab lately

We been in and out of this lifestyle for a number of years but lately finding things difficult.

In the last 2 years we’ve only managed to get 2 meetings with another couple, yes we get the dynamics are harder due to 4 people having to interact

We’ve sent over the last 2 months probably sent a message a day to different couples either looking to meet or going to a event at a club and in that we’ve got 1 maybe 2 replies the rest have read and no reply or not even opened. It just seems to be a little disheartening and wondering now if it’s just us/a crap profile/bad photos or is it just that time of year and people aren’t meeting to save costs on hotels etc?

Any thoughts and comments would be greatly appreciated

P.s we aren’t really inundated with messages from single guys either( we’ve met lots over the years and is still on the table) we’ve just removed them from the looking for to cut the search to couples and single females

Female half has been to a club alone and when she puts that has an update she gets messages from couples looking to play with her. "
profile and you guys look good,don’t understand problems your having.

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By *e and him 2021 OP   Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent


"I'm inundated, I'll pass them your way.

"
I bet you are pass them on, lol.

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By *e and him 2021 OP   Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent


"Hi

Just a question/thoughts on experience on fab lately

We been in and out of this lifestyle for a number of years but lately finding things difficult.

In the last 2 years we’ve only managed to get 2 meetings with another couple, yes we get the dynamics are harder due to 4 people having to interact

We’ve sent over the last 2 months probably sent a message a day to different couples either looking to meet or going to a event at a club and in that we’ve got 1 maybe 2 replies the rest have read and no reply or not even opened. It just seems to be a little disheartening and wondering now if it’s just us/a crap profile/bad photos or is it just that time of year and people aren’t meeting to save costs on hotels etc?

Any thoughts and comments would be greatly appreciated

P.s we aren’t really inundated with messages from single guys either( we’ve met lots over the years and is still on the table) we’ve just removed them from the looking for to cut the search to couples and single females

Female half has been to a club alone and when she puts that has an update she gets messages from couples looking to play with her. profile and you guys look good,don’t understand problems your having."

We don’t either that’s why we posted we thought it’s just us. Thanks

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

You say the female half gets attention when she's posting about going out alone. People can see what the female half looks like. The male half is apparently just a single dick shot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's almost as if your a single male

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By *e and him 2021 OP   Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent


"You say the female half gets attention when she's posting about going out alone. People can see what the female half looks like. The male half is apparently just a single dick shot."

Thank you will bear this in mind and sort some new pictures of him. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you fully reading their bio and sending polite, respectful, well thought out messages?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen


"It's almost as if your a single male "

Trapped in a female nurse's body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is deffo not the same as say 5 years ago was hard then but now you can see the tumbles

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By *e and him 2021 OP   Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent


"Are you fully reading their bio and sending polite, respectful, well thought out messages? "

Yes and normally end it with a question on weather we are what they are looking for or something about the profile or a club visit etc. x

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By *e and him 2021 OP   Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent


"It is deffo not the same as say 5 years ago was hard then but now you can see the tumbles "

That’s what we are thinking maybe it’s like everything else now a days. Blame COVID

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By *avrick180Man
over a year ago

Pontypool

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"If I’m looking for couples I like to see photos of both. "

This, unless you attach pics of the mr In a message, we'd delete any message (if sent to my couple profile) as I have no idea what your man is like.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Things always go in cycles here, with interest and availability coming and going.

You have to be really well acquainted with what you want - knowing your target audience really well, means that you can aim to give them what they need. It's probable that you have misidentified what the female half of the couples want. If the woman in the couple isn't given sufficient respect and her needs addressed, then you will probably have the couple leaving you cold. It can work either way, any/both in the couple, or from them to you in reverse.

You could potentially chat with couples at swingers clubs and get a feel for what they expect and like, as a minimum, from another couple, via Fab contact.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi op

Maybe use the chat rooms and possibly go live, it's widely used and possibly lead anywhere

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

As a single guy who meets couples I would pass your profile by OP.

It's so heavily biased towards herself that it appears Mr isn't engaged at all. It's not just the photos but the bio only talks about Mrs.

On the photos side it's all subjective of course but the absence of full body shots of Mr and the lack of photos of you together is a red flag for me.

Personally I am not a fan of close up genital shots but that might just be me.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

On here as a couple and we don't find problems meeting couples when we are in the mood.

As others have said your profile is very female centric - in both words, pics and veris. Most couples tend to be looking for a four way experience and the man is important. Even if you send pics of the male half the words in your profile would make us nervous. We've had lots of experiences with couples where it is far too much about the female half so tend to be careful. Maybe that is the reality of what you are looking for in which case it's fine and hopefully you find people. But if you are looking for more than that with lots of four way interaction a few tweaks on words and pics would help a lot.

Also we've chatted to couple where in the messages we get that strong vibe as well and puts us off. Female half may be amazing but if you want to meet a couple there is another female as well.

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