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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I posted this a few years ago on another site and it proved quite helpful so I thought I'd post it on here too.
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HOW TO WRITE A GOOD PROFILE
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A lot of people complain that they recieve little or no response from their profiles and there is a reason why this happens. This guide is intended to inform you as to what makes a good profile and what makes a bad one but it is by no means definitive and each person is free to write their own profile incorporating ideas gained from here or from elsewhere.
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So, to learn what makes a good profile one must first learn what makes a bad profile.
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An uninviting personal ad that states very little information about you or your partner will not instill the desire in anyone to contact you, let alone play with you. Amazingly, there are profiles around that simply say 'Hello!'
--------- that's it, nothing more, nada, zilch, zero!
Would you respond to a profile like that?
Similarly, would you respond to a profile that was too negative, for example:
"We are not looking for anyone at this time because of all the timewasters we have had to endure in the past"
or....
"Please don't email us telling us that you think we are arrogant and nasty because we're just not interested in what you have to say"
or....
"Single guys: don't bother contacting us or we will simply delete you and we don't welcome your attention"
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What's the message that's being sent here?
Simple, it's saying "STAY AWAY FROM ME/US!" - that's what!
It's not very friendly or helpful is it?
You are perfectly entitled to say what you are NOT looking for but it can be done is a much more harmonious way than being direct and blunt about it.
A good profile should include some, if not all, of the following:
* Your age/s
* Your general location
* Your sexuality
* Your ability to travel and/or accommodate
* Your specialist requirements/techniques
* Humour
* Photographs (more later on pictures)
Bearing all that in mind, a typical well written profile may go along the lines of:
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Hi,
We are **** and ****. We are a happily married couple living in ****. We have been swinging for x number of years and have found that we love this lifestyle (him/her more than me sometimes  ), but the one thing we have found for certain is that we love to play with singles/couples either privately at home or in a club.
We are very approachable and are in the swinging lifestyle to have fun with like minded people (as we are a bit zany ourselves and don't take life too seriously). We like a little bit of bondage/spanking as we find it gets **** really turned on. We like to make friends with the people with whom we play with a view to playing again in the future if everyone is ok with that.
M/40 is straight, dark hair, carrying a few extra pounds but knows what to do with it. He has a few tattoos and like to take control.
F/36 is bisexual, slim and attractive, nice boobs and loves to play with girls as well as guys.
We can accommodate and we don't mind travelling for the right people but we have set a range of 50 miles from our home town. But we are prepared to drive long distances for special nights out (munches/club meets/house parties etc) - (it lets us meet sexy peeps we don't usually get the opportunity to meet)
We prefer to exchange emails first and then chat on the phone or cam in order to make sure we're all comfortable with each other enough to arrange a first meet.
If you like the sound of us please get in touch with a photograph, or a link to one, and we will reply as soon as we recieve your mail.
Thanks
**** & **** xxx
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You can see that I have deliberately left out anything that gives off a negative vibe. You have plenty of time to discuss deeper issues once you have made initial contact - this is YOUR shop window and your swinging lifestyle depends on this profile to attract potential playmates.
You will also notice that I have paid particular attention to the correct use of punctuation and grammar, and paragraphs are deliberately kept short so that the profile doesn't become one long mundane droll.
Newspapers are laid out in short paragraphs and columns for a reason: To stop the reader moving their head as they read, thus eliminating potential distractions and keeping their eyes focused on the text in front of them.
Imagine reading something like this:
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Hi we are **** and **** we are a happily married couple living in **** we have been swinging for x number of years and have found that we love this lifestyle but the one thing we have found for certain is that we love to play with singles/couples either privately at home or in a club we are very approachable and are in the swinging lifestyle to have fun with like minded people as we are a bit zany ourselves and don't take life too seriously we like a little bit of bondage/spanking as we find it gets **** really turned on we like to make friends with the people with whom we play with a view to playing again in the future if all concerned are ok with that M/40 is straight, dark hair carrying a few extra pounds but knows what to do with it he has a few tattoos and like to take control F/36 is bisexual, slim and attractive, nice boobs and loves to play with girls as well as guys e can accommodate and we don't mind travelling for the right people but we have set a range of 50 miles from our home town but we will also drive long distances for special nights out (munches/club meets/house parties etc) we prefer to exchange emails first and then chat on the phone or cam in order to make sure we're all comfortable with each other enough to arrange a first meet if you like the sound of us please get in touch with a photograph or a link to one and we will reply as soon as we recieve your mail thanks
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Be honest with me here - how far did you get through that before skipping down to this paragraph? Pretty boring isn't it!
It's the same for single guys except for a few vital rules you should learn right now. And those are:
** Do not expect a flood of replies to your profile as soon as it's posted - it's not gonna happen.
** You are competing against 000's of other men so make your profile stand out from the rest, make your readers think 'I/We have just GOT to meet this guy, he seems cool!'
** Extensive use of humour - use it, make them laugh - even if you are reasonably good looking say you look like the back end of a bus after it's been driven through 100 tonnes of cow turd - but back it up with a picture or they may well believe you!
** Don't come across as conceited in your efforts to appear confident (the two are easily misconstrued)
** Don't brag! Ever! - saying you've had 100 women in 12 months is not appealing.
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Ok. So you've got the text sorted. What about pictures?
Some people cannot post photographs because of fear of being recognised by someone they know stumbling across the site or they may have sensitive jobs and being 'outed' at work as a swinger could be damaging to their career.
But it's still possible to post a body shot and hide or cover up distinguishing features such as piercings or tattoos.
A picture on your profile goes a very long way to establishing contact with your potential playmates, as its one of the first things people look for and one of the first things you will be asked for if you don't have one on your profile.
It's up to you how much you reveal or how sexually explicit the picture is but it is worth having at least one shot on the profile for all to see.
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Finally, ask yourself this question:
What made you read this post to this point?
Answer: The message I am sending, and how it is delivered and laid out.
It's YOUR responsibility to deliver your readers from your opening gambit to your punchline - which is to get them to hit the 'Reply' button and contact you.
I hope this helps, please feel free to add anything you consider relevant below.
Wishy x |
Very well written, just hope some take note... 
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Unlike me keep it shorter than War and Peace.
Take a few minutes to think what you would like to read about someone you were considering meeting, what would make you think WOW! would love to meet him/her/them and then think about how your profile looks in comparison and perhaps add the things you think of that aren't already there.
Turn-off's for us
1 line profiles
no pictures (absolutely not interested) but like OP said they dont have to show faces, we prefer something that shows body shape, clothed first naked if you must.
18-99 standard setting dont waste our time if I am too old put it in your profile and save us both some time.
SHOUTING, we never meet people who are aggressive in thier profiles, they may just be aggressive people in real meet situations too - scary
Desperate profiles
My mums profile
boastfull profiles (cos I love my Ford Fiesta and these Tesco £3 jeans look really cool.