FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling pretty invisible on here

By *eebz OP Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

Hi everyone was just really seeking some advice as I am finding it very difficult on here,I was so excited about joining the site and exploring but it seems no one is really interested, struggling to even get folks to look at my profile,any feedback would be much appreciated

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By *ablohuneyMan
over a year ago

London / Hampshire

Hi mate,

I know the feeling. I've not that long been on the site (3 weeks or so) but most of the time messages don't even seem to get read and it's even rarer to get a response.

I get the impression it's a bit of a sausage fest, so can understand why women wouldn't reply to the majority of messages when they are inundated.

I'm sure others who have been here longer will correct me if I'm wrong.

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

Patience and politeness, that’s the key. I know it’s frustrating but men outnumber couples and females about a billion to one here! There will be someone for you, in the meantime I suggest going to a club or an organised social. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few comments in the forum is a good way to get some attention, and take a look at the web cams you can chat and make friends with people in there

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
over a year ago

Hyde

Sorry you're feeling that way... it can be hard on here for men.

I don't see anything wrong in your profile or pics ... so nothing to suggest.

I would then say make sure you're targeting your msgs right .for the actual msg, not a copy and paste job either and show you've read their profile. 'Who' you're sending it to also matters.

For example if you msgd us - we would delete with no reply - unless you were going to be at the same event/club as us. Simply due to the fact that we don't meet outside of clubs. We get many 'hey your profile looks hood let's chat' but that's not what we're here for... so... taking a moment to read a profile may help you in the long run.

Good luck

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By *xford blue333Man
over a year ago

Oxford

"Hi everyone was just really seeking some advice as I am finding it very difficult on here,I was so excited about joining the site and exploring but it seems no one is really interested, struggling to even get folks to look at my profile,any feedback would be much appreciated "

I've found it to be like that too on here, but I keep on plodding along being polite & as someone on here said, read the profile first.

Think that goes a long way.

Going to a social or club I think would be the best bet. Put yourself out there, let folk see the real you.Think chatting in person is better than messaging.

I'm attending my first local social on December, which is way out of my comfort zone but gonna give it a go.

Good luck, think that comes into it too sometimes.

Anyway that's the voice of inexperience.

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Socials and clubs my friend.

Use this site to keep in touch with people you have already met. Also useful to find socials and find out what events are taking place.

Have fun

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Hola OP.

Women and couples on here get many messages every day from people who haven't read their profile and don't match their preferences, so many won't bother responding to anything that looks like a bland copy paste that could be sent to any viable orifice or that simply doesn't inspire them.

Don't take the numbers being against you too much to heart. The people I've met stood out even brighter against the endless sea of unwanted noodles in my inbox, so the murky background only helps you if you actually fit what people want an approach in the right way for them.

Socials, clubs, and engaging with people on the forums are all good ways of getting yourself out there where people can see you.

You'll do just fine I'm sure

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Lower your expectations and don’t forget the real world off fab for meeting women

You’ve got a verification in 5 months so you’re doing ok

Don’t let fab run your life

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By *eebz OP Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

Thank you for the words of wisdom buddy,Always polite and normally very patient but was starting to get really worried that there is something wrong with me haha I think a little trip to a local club is needed.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Thank you for the words of wisdom buddy,Always polite and normally very patient but was starting to get really worried that there is something wrong with me haha I think a little trip to a local club is needed."

Hi op

Try either using the meet section and the chat rooms.

Even stick around the forum's

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By *eebz OP Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

Thanks so much for the advice,I think that what is so disheartening as I do take the time to read everyone’s profiles and like to put a lot of thought into my messages,then you see people saying about getting these copy and paste message or messages with little words or effort and I’m thinking to myself I’m writing mini novels and no one is even reading them haha

Thanks again for taking the time to help out

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Plenty stuff happens in Scotland so don't give up. There are 3 good clubs here and loads of social advertised on the Scottish forum. Going to a social is a great start to meet people

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By *opon72Man
over a year ago

Kildare

Hi finding it extremely hard to get verified or even a chat back off someone after texting them im always polite don't send dic pix until I'm asked for them. Irish guy looking for fun here . What's wrong on here in to couples m/f f/f or just fm thanks

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By *usbandandktCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Who said that ?

Joking aside a single male on here 5 months with 2 veri’s under his belt, one from a meet you aren’t doing too bad really, as a single male you are one of the majority I’m afraid and here the minority rule, keep your chin up and keep trying, as others have said get noticed in forums and maybe try a club

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

You’re a good looking lad, decent photos but the video does nothing for us. Your profile is a bit generic, it needs a little more personality. Apart from you liking lots of sexual stuff it doesn’t really say much. You’ll find men telling you that’s fine but you aren’t looking to meet them.

It’s a crowded field, and you need to stand out, not blend in.

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By *ecretescapeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

I think your profile is great, and liked the vid, nice cock

Only thing that would put me off is the fact you're a smoker xx

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By *ingmanMilkmaidCouple
over a year ago

Abergavenny

The first thing to do is go to organized socials. Get as many verifications as possible from that and display them. If possible try and arrange meets from that interaction. Make sure you have good pictures. Not too many cock shots. Have a good bio that is written well with what you are looking for (not too long not too short). Be charismatic and fun when you communicate. Be patient and consistent. That way you have the best chance of success. We hope that helps.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

My genuine advice is that if it’s knocking your confidence being here, or bringing anything negative to your life then delete your profile and leave.

Often folk have to adjust their expectations of what Fab will be like. Sometimes it’s probably worth just accepting it’s not for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Socials and clubs my friend.

Use this site to keep in touch with people you have already met. Also useful to find socials and find out what events are taking place.

Have fun "

This 100%.

I only stick to clubs now and dont bother to arrange meets. I use his for the forums and keeping in touch etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've checked out your profile and pics, honestly your good and two meets in 5 months isn't actually bad.

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By *eebz OP Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

It’s a crowded field, and you need to stand out, not blend in."

Thanks so much for the advice,do you have any suggestions for what I can change or add to make my personality shine through in my profile?

I think I was guilty of just copying others as I had no idea how to write a bio,so I took the talking sexual route as I thought that was what’s expected

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is all over the place and you sound very green.

It makes you sound like a bit of a beg. We’d avoid a profile like yours because it would appear you don’t know who you are, it’s feels like you’ve tried to tick every box.

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By *melie LALWoman
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Patience and politeness, that’s the key. I know it’s frustrating but men outnumber couples and females about a billion to one here! There will be someone for you, in the meantime I suggest going to a club or an organised social. Good luck. "

Wow that must make me the only female here... Lucky me

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

You’re a good looking guy, but location can also be a factor. If you lived in London or a bigger City you’d probably get more interest but the area you live in may not have that many people around from the site. But I don’t really know how popular the site would be in your area. Maybe check ‘who’s nearby’ and see how many live close by.

Either way, Good luck Op

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

I think you have a delicious looking cock and I didn't even get down to reading your profile, you're just very far away for me, unfortunately! If you're ever in the midlands, give me a shout

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

nothing wrong with been invisible op,,, it as its good points

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By *alhamCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London

I think you have a decent profile. Better than many male profiles I have seen. Nothing particular I would change.

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By *eebz OP Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

"Your profile is all over the place and you sound very green.

It makes you sound like a bit of a beg. We’d avoid a profile like yours because it would appear you don’t know who you are, it’s feels like you’ve tried to tick every box. "

It’s more just cluelessness on my part as I have never written a bio on any social media before,so I can definitely understand you saying it’s all over the place

Curious to what makes me sound like a bit of a beg ?as your status is currently begging for fabs on pics haha I joke

For sure know who I am just have a hard time portraying it on a profile,thank you for the feedback

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By *igboobstCouple
over a year ago

barrow

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By *anJXMan
over a year ago

Warrington

Yeah have the same issue it's just the site, the women are sent 100 messages so unless they contact you it's a hopeless task

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

There's nothing wrong with you or your profile. You have age and looks on your side yet , as you have discovered , very little interest. The problem is your expectations with fab .. it isn't a hotbed of illicit activity for the vast majority. Its always been this way . Far too many men chasing very few women which changes the more normal dating dynamics.

Try clubs , tinder , nightclubs..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take 10 mins out the day to use the search function on the forums and use keywords like profile advice or why is it hard, there will be a lot of threads, but take the time to read as theres really good advice amongst the sarcasm lol

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

You may never get a meet. I had one 8 years ago after trying for 7 years. I reckon that was a million to one chance as theirs been nothing since and I think its unlikely I will ever have fun again. Who knows what the girls are looking for,but the likes of you and me don't have it. All you can do is continue to plug away at it and hope for the best.

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Your profile is all over the place and you sound very green.

It makes you sound like a bit of a beg. We’d avoid a profile like yours because it would appear you don’t know who you are, it’s feels like you’ve tried to tick every box. "

"bit of a beg" some charming people here ?

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

It’s a crowded field, and you need to stand out, not blend in.

Thanks so much for the advice,do you have any suggestions for what I can change or add to make my personality shine through in my profile?

I think I was guilty of just copying others as I had no idea how to write a bio,so I took the talking sexual route as I thought that was what’s expected "

Your profile is about you, what makes you different from the sea of other single men on here, what does make you different? What do you enjoy apart from fucking people on the internet?

Most important thing to remember is who you are here to meet, you’ll see plenty of men on the forums being bitter about not getting meets, and how the website is biased towards women, and even how awful women are, that sort of thing plays great to all the other bitter men who can’t get meets, not so much to the women and couples you do want to meet.

Be one of the good ones, don’t get bitter and slag off the very people you want to attract, it’s not going to make meeting people any easier!

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