FabSwingers.com forum: Separate room swapping?

By *weetnotinnocent OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

Hi, can you let us know if you have tried this and what rules you set out, looking to try but haven't found anyone yet?

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

We've tried it. We didn't need any new rules.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

With one couple it just happened naturally after all playing together on their bed. The bedroom door was open though so I could hear what was going on in the kitchen and had no concerns

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
over a year ago

Hyde

We haven't tried this strictly.... but have been in a same bugger room separately.

For me personally, the things I would consider;

- sexual boundaries (say if you keep certain activities just for your partner)

- timing

The latter would stress me out.... imagine if one couple finished up quickly whilst the other was busy having fun for ages lol

Yepsss.... that's my over active mind!!

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By *oandjohnCouple
52 weeks ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

We have done this a couple of times with couples we have meet previously. We had no rules other than to enjoy yourselves and be respectful with the ladies boundaries respected.

We have even been in Chameleons club and have ended up having separate fun. The Mrs went off with another couple on one occasion and on another disappeared for a while and when we met up again I asked what she had been up to and I have never been told other than having fun.

If you start setting rules up for everything you could be setting yourselves up for problems because every night is different.

I would suggest that the only rules you have is: Have fun, enjoy yourselves, don’t do anything you don’t want to, don’t pressure your partner and what happen in a club or meeting stays in a meeting.

As every night is different there will be times when one partner or another gets more action/fun on that occasion and that is just how the cookie crumbles. Do moan and just go with the flow.

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By *rpeggioCouple
52 weeks ago

Baughurst

Similar experience to what others have described. It happened naturally: the place had a living room with only one small sofa and a bedroom, the sofa was used by her and I, so she and him went to the bedroom to play more comfortably.

No different rules from the usual ones: safe sex. No means no. Stop the play if something make us unhappy.

Besides that, there are many things we usually don't do but it's a preference, not a prohibition, so it's ok if we change without asking each other.

Ah... Timing. Yes, with some couples, the male and female need different times, so separate rooms can help. If one play-pair finishes earlier, they chat until the other two are done, without disturbing their play, when you are in separate rooms. Or we go and naughty "disturb" them, if you get what I mean.

Never hired separate hotel rooms though, so no experience on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

We have done this, we love it, we don’t set boundaries for individual play like this, it can restrict the fun,

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By *andB130Couple
52 weeks ago

northampton

Done it but prefer same room

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By *ossannCouple
52 weeks ago

London

Don't see the point. We can both get dates and sex on our own. Part of why we do this is to watch each other.

For us, couples who really want different rooms usually have different intentions and desires than us with this.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
51 weeks ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

We done it on our last meet it was amazing. There were no rules other than everyone showing respect. It was pre arranged that it was going to be separate rooms. We chatted for about 20 mins then went upstairs. Bedroom sores left open enough to hear what was happening. We played for about an hour then me and the lady went downstairs followed soon my J and the other guy. Quick chat then back to the separate rooms for round 2. We loved the whole experience and would happily do it again

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By *hexcoupleCouple
50 weeks ago

redditch

It is something we want to try, just need to find a couple to join us

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By *allySlinkyWoman
50 weeks ago

Leeds

" have been in a same bugger room separately.

Is this room for anal only ?

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By *entle_lover_xMan
50 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

Tried this with my partner recently. We’ve done lots of same room swapping but this was really different and we both enjoyed. No new rules. We did it with two singles (albeit singles who knew eachother) and like the idea of doing that more.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

We have done this with no new rules, just both need to be secure in your relationship

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
50 weeks ago

Hythe

We did a separate room swap in a hotel with adjoining rooms. Left the door open so we could hear each other. It was a fantastic evening

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By *ewcouplemidsCouple
50 weeks ago

walsall

Have done this on a couple of occasions but with people we know and trust so our boundaries wouldn't be pushed

Can be just as fun as all together and also can be more relaxing as no need to keep looking over to see if the partner is giving any signals to stop

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By *tmmCouple
50 weeks ago

harlow

you will not find it is easy to find .. most couples are not brave enough,,

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By *otBrunetteHimCouple
50 weeks ago

birmingham

We’ve done this. Same rules as if we were in the same room nothing in that respect changed. Although we much preferred when we all were in the same room swapping x

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By *orl1971Couple
50 weeks ago

Glasgow

We’ve done it. It’s a different experience and a lot of fun. You don’t get the same distractions as you get in same room.

We had no new rules but need to trust the other people. Having said that everyone is within earshot.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

We have tried it but much prefer same room.

We hired a little cottage with a hot tub and it started off in the same room but the other woman wanted to try it so we did. Lasted about 20minutes then back to the same room.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
50 weeks ago

Southport

We've done this once. Enjoyed it but also enjoy watching each other too but I suspect we'll try separate rooms again as there's something extra naughty in it too

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
50 weeks ago

near you...

Done this a few times and it can be fun especially if the couple we meet have different tastes or personalities.

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By *errynkarenCouple
50 weeks ago

Telford

We always did this before we started going to clubs and parties.

No extra rules are needed other than do not disturb the couple who hasn’t finished unless invited in.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
50 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Hi, can you let us know if you have tried this and what rules you set out, looking to try but haven't found anyone yet?"

I'm a solo polyamorous swinger. I only experience sexual touch with men. I haven't met a trans-man yet but I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

I have played with couples in the following scenarios:

1. male partner alone after I met the female partner.

2. male partner with female partner in the room watching.

3. male partner with female partner with another partner in another room ( yes we could hear them and them us)

4. male partner where the female partner could not hear or see us.

5. Same room group play where I'm interacting the male partner and female partner is interacting with others in the group.( male or female or both)

6. Cuddled with my play partner while watching other singles or couples play.

You choose your level of comfort. I experience compersion so I get satisfaction from other people enjoying themselves even if I'm not doing anything at all.

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By *rpeggioCouple
50 weeks ago

Baughurst

"Hi, can you let us know if you have tried this and what rules you set out, looking to try but haven't found anyone yet?

I'm a solo polyamorous swinger. I only experience sexual touch with men. I haven't met a trans-man yet but I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

I have played with couples in the following scenarios:

1. male partner alone after I met the female partner.

2. male partner with female partner in the room watching.

3. male partner with female partner with another partner in another room ( yes we could hear them and them us)

4. male partner where the female partner could not hear or see us.

5. Same room group play where I'm interacting the male partner and female partner is interacting with others in the group.( male or female or both)

6. Cuddled with my play partner while watching other singles or couples play.

You choose your level of comfort. I experience compersion so I get satisfaction from other people enjoying themselves even if I'm not doing anything at all."

That's a lovely description and thanks for sharing. I'm surprised you have never experienced a dance room FMF scenario with a both-straight couple. Fir a compersionate person, there's a lot to enjoy being one of the two people teaming up to pleasuring another.

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By *rpeggioCouple
50 weeks ago

Baughurst

Meant same room, not dance room

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By *entle_lover_xMan
50 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

"Hi, can you let us know if you have tried this and what rules you set out, looking to try but haven't found anyone yet?

I'm a solo polyamorous swinger. I only experience sexual touch with men. I haven't met a trans-man yet but I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

I have played with couples in the following scenarios:

1. male partner alone after I met the female partner.

2. male partner with female partner in the room watching.

3. male partner with female partner with another partner in another room ( yes we could hear them and them us)

4. male partner where the female partner could not hear or see us.

5. Same room group play where I'm interacting the male partner and female partner is interacting with others in the group.( male or female or both)

6. Cuddled with my play partner while watching other singles or couples play.

You choose your level of comfort. I experience compersion so I get satisfaction from other people enjoying themselves even if I'm not doing anything at all."

Congratulations but only number 3 relates to separate room swapping. If we all listed all the things we've done not related to separate room swapping we might be here all day

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
50 weeks ago

West London

We're same room or nothing. It's we both decided from the start.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
50 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

"We're same room or nothing. It's we both decided from the start.

We've been the same but then at a party lots playing in a room and one half finishes and goes for a drink and leaves other still playing. With lots of people floating around we got used to not being next to eachother when doing things. Now happy for one to disappear alone somewhere. When just meeting a couple we have always been four in a room but the other week I went upstairs with the lady expecting the other two to follow and they didn't. They just carried on downstairs and it was great

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By *rpeggioCouple
50 weeks ago

Baughurst

"Hi, can you let us know if you have tried this and what rules you set out, looking to try but haven't found anyone yet?

I'm a solo polyamorous swinger. I only experience sexual touch with men. I haven't met a trans-man yet but I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

I have played with couples in the following scenarios:

1. male partner alone after I met the female partner.

2. male partner with female partner in the room watching.

3. male partner with female partner with another partner in another room ( yes we could hear them and them us)

4. male partner where the female partner could not hear or see us.

5. Same room group play where I'm interacting the male partner and female partner is interacting with others in the group.( male or female or both)

6. Cuddled with my play partner while watching other singles or couples play.

You choose your level of comfort. I experience compersion so I get satisfaction from other people enjoying themselves even if I'm not doing anything at all.

Congratulations but only number 3 relates to separate room swapping. If we all listed all the things we've done not related to separate room swapping we might be here all day

Mhhhm... I think quite a lot of those lists might be very very brief

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"Hi, can you let us know if you have tried this and what rules you set out, looking to try but haven't found anyone yet?"

Set whatever rules work for you and make sure the other couple know and stick to them. Don't let them guilt trip you into doing something that you as a couple haven't agreed on.

If they don't like it you're just not compatible.

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