FabSwingers.com forum: How many couples

By *enj08475 OP Man
over a year ago

brighton

How many couples do you know of who have split up due to swinging? My friend is just going through this and I am curious, thanks

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

I have known of one couple who met while swinging, happily continued for a while, then split up.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

No one that we personally know.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We've know of a couple over the years. Swingers are no different to vanilla people. Relationships don't always work out. However to be fair proportionally wise I think We've known more vanilla couples breaking up than swinger couples.

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By *aked2sumCouple
over a year ago

Coast

Swinging couples are definitely a lot happier than vanilla couples . Swinging is fun not just sexually but socially and once you take fun out of a marriage what’s left of it ? We know swingers that have split up but probably because they stopped swinging. We know a lot more vanilla couples un happy in their relationship and some even seeking affairs. Think the cause of most break ups is lack of sex and intimacy once you stop loving together you stop laughing together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a few but just like anything relationships can not work out for a multitude of reasons.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Me ! But it wasn't due to swinging.

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By *ACOLCouple
over a year ago

limerick

"Swinging couples are definitely a lot happier than vanilla couples . Swinging is fun not just sexually but socially and once you take fun out of a marriage what’s left of it ? We know swingers that have split up but probably because they stopped swinging. We know a lot more vanilla couples un happy in their relationship and some even seeking affairs. Think the cause of most break ups is lack of sex and intimacy once you stop loving together you stop laughing together "

100% agree with your comment. Swinging is also liberating, you can share your deepest desires with your partner, without feeling judge, great for marriages.

Lina.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

over the 30+ years loads ... swinging only works if your a super rock solid loving couple who are 100% open and honest with each other sadly there are many who try swinging to try and fix things or very one sided they dont last this scene will split you in two if something is not right

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

Swinging couples not any different to other couples in how relationship’s might break down. In some ways swingers have a more open and honest relationship so better. Just my experiences over many years of course. We know some swinger couples who have been married for a very long time. Same with non swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None due to swinging but know plenty that have split after using swinging as a way to patch an already fucked relationship.

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By *fweonlymeettwiceMan
over a year ago

Madrid

This is the main reason why my wife won't enter the swinging life style she has said if she ever fucks another man she we fuck off with him. Guess that's the end of my fantasy to watch her getting a good fucking off another man

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We met one couple who attended a club night and then split up after.

Was messy with kids, houses etc.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
over a year ago

Stoke

Two swinging couples in 5 years, known more none swinging couples split than that.

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

I know of 8 couples who split due to swinging issues.And have been told about 10 others.I also split with My ex in 1998 because of his jealously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex and I met, had some great times swinging together, split, both still play, still meet up and talk about it....totally amicable

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Doing something together that you both enjoy is going to make your relationship stronger, not weaker.

But you have to both genuinely enjoy it.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We know couples that have gone their separate ways but don’t think swinging was the only issue they had .

We know couples that only swing to try and stop their partner from cheating that is not going to end well.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

A lot, however you probably won't find them here to tell you about it.

Mrs

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By *ittle MonkeysCouple
over a year ago

Kimberley

Swinging would be over before our relationship was over. My priority will always be my partner, I would rather lose all swinging activities than lose her. Swinging is only magical with her, without her i don’t think I would go anywhere near it.

If we ever felt it was a cause for concern it would end immediately

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By *arc and KamaCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Wife asked me if I would cheat her and I said that if I wanted to have sex with the other woman we can just go to the club and have mfmf with the other couple.

Do you think this is the reason for having better relation with each other ?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I believe the very first couple we met separated a few years later... no idea if it was swinging related.

Nita

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By *enj08475 OP Man
over a year ago

brighton

Thanks guys for your feedback, mixed experiences but interesting insight, thanks.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"How many couples do you know of who have split up due to swinging? My friend is just going through this and I am curious, thanks"

At least two, a friend (his wife fell for another guy) and a couple we met (he became insanely jealous of his wife's interest in Cherry

Swinging is NOT for couples unless solid as a rock and you've talked in depth about the risks, rules, boundaries, keeping feelings for others in check !

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By *ony MannMan
over a year ago

Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura

"How many couples do you know of who have split up due to swinging? My friend is just going through this and I am curious, thanks"

I've know one woman who split up, but she started swinging to find what she was not given at home, and he never knew.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Chatted with few over the years, whom went there separate ways due to one meeting without the others knowledge. Few times had met them as a couple.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

8 years in the party/ clubs scene and yet to really see a couple who would make me want to do this with a partner.

Know a few who have stopped or split up but know loads who I think prefer the idea of it than the doing.

Definitely only a whilst im single thing for me

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By *use and wolfCouple
over a year ago

angus

Actually none that i am aware of.

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By *xtrafetishCouple
over a year ago

London

Good morning x

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We don’t know any who have split and from comparing local couples now and say 5 years ago then most couples seem to still be together.

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By *hoenix_1Man
over a year ago

richmond

"I have known of one couple who met while swinging, happily continued for a while, then split up.

That happened to me, met on Fab, lived together for 4 years, then split up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of one but it was a long distance relationship which in its self puts a strain on any relationship

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Wife asked me if I would cheat her and I said that if I wanted to have sex with the other woman we can just go to the club and have mfmf with the other couple.

Do you think this is the reason for having better relation with each other ?"

Possibly, I wish I would have gone the same way mate

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By *ullishPeteMan
over a year ago

South

I've known a few. I'm fact the woman I'm living with currently is one of them.

Usually there are other things going on though, the swinging itself can be a trigger but rarely the cause

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"over the 30+ years loads ... swinging only works if your a super rock solid loving couple who are 100% open and honest with each other sadly there are many who try swinging to try and fix things or very one sided they dont last this scene will split you in two if something is not right

Good comment xx

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

Hmmmm I wouldn't say swinging split me and my wife up but it may have been a factor.

My wife was driving it more from the start, ok I didn't take much persuading but after a while she began to get insecure if she thought the girl was hotter than her. Jealously started and she thought I was doing it with her (I wasn't) so we took a break but ultimately it was financial problems that caused the break up

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

"Hmmmm I wouldn't say swinging split me and my wife up but it may have been a factor.

My wife was driving it more from the start, ok I didn't take much persuading but after a while she began to get insecure if she thought the girl was hotter than her. Jealously started and she thought I was doing it without her (I wasn't) so we took a break but ultimately it was financial problems that caused the break up"

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

We met as singles on fab

Now married for 5 years

As soon as we were together our singles profiles were deleted

No great loss for me (mr)

We then got a couples profile and said any issues , we stop swinging

We have had a meet where we had a social , then weeks later an arranged club meet

On the night , we had a grown up , what do we want out of the meet conversation

Then half way through the meet , in a playroom there is total meltdown , screaming , tears , fistie cuffs !

Their profile was deleted before we even got home

So we've seen a break up in the flesh , and it wasn't pretty

You have to be rock solid in your relationship or you will get found out very quickly

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By *xtrafetishCouple
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot hinges on boundaries: soft swap, full swap, the nature of the exchanges, how the couple has been together...

Regardless of type of commitment, sexual orientation, differing familial circumstances, financial issues, new kinks... the true test of any relationship is full disclosure.

Without honesty, no relationship, vanilla or otherwise will last long.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"How many couples do you know of who have split up due to swinging? My friend is just going through this and I am curious, thanks"
I know more couples that met swinging than I know who broke up

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By *aughtyNaughtyCouple69Couple
over a year ago

Suffolk

Very well said - couldn’t agree more with above x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Very well said - couldn’t agree more with above x"

I disagree that swinging couples are happier. For one thing it's incredibly dismissive of the millions of happy monogamous marriages and it also assumes that swingers are somehow superior.

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By *aughtyNaughtyCouple69Couple
over a year ago

Suffolk

Very well said - couldn’t agree more with above x

I disagree that swinging couples are happier. For one thing it's incredibly dismissive of the millions of happy monogamous marriages and it also assumes that swingers are somehow superior."

We all have different opinions - that’s the beauty of exchanging some views

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many couples do you know of who have split up due to swinging? My friend is just going through this and I am curious, thanks I know more couples that met swinging than I know who broke up"

Ooo that is so sweet!

I came to swinging as a couple rather late in life, as I was single for many years. I *was* a swinging singleton though... Best sex was had with married/attached guys. Even had my first MFMF when I was still swinging. Ahhhhh... fun times.

Life's too short!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Very well said - couldn’t agree more with above x

I disagree that swinging couples are happier. For one thing it's incredibly dismissive of the millions of happy monogamous marriages and it also assumes that swingers are somehow superior.

We all have different opinions - that’s the beauty of exchanging some views

You're right, that's why I gave mine

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By *enj08475 OP Man
over a year ago

brighton

Our friends who split recently were swingers but I believe they also had money issues, hard to know which really triggered the split.

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