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By *sian87 OP   Man
over a year ago

redditch

Hi just needed some advice relating to my profile, could you have a look and tell me what im doing wrong? Lol seems impossible go get genuine meets x i know i dont have pics but i always send with messages (im decent looking)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You need a picture and a little more information about yourself. Currently you just state what you want, people also like to know what they're going to get in terms of how a meet will go

Good luck

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By *enuineguy42Man
over a year ago

worcester

Im in the same position, i seem to get quite a few views which are from men, but no actual leads from women or couples

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By *nytime2023Couple
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

To both on this thread, in our opinion, profiles are too vague. Not enough info and not enough pictures. You both also state you can’t accommodate which screams cheating on partner from our experience. OP also states he can’t travel so the pool of people is tiny.

Of course this is only an opinion so feel free to take it or leave it x

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

We just delete any messages from silhouettes.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

[Removed by poster at 08/11/23 10:39:04]

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Without even looking at the bio I'd say your first problem is you have no photos. Start there. Think about who you are competing with. Lots of guys on here make a lot of effort to put their best foot forward. You'll need to do the same.

Lots of people can't accommodate and it doesn't mean they are cheating. I'm not

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Anyone you message will look at your profile before even considering opening your message, so your lack of pictures is going to result in most of your messages being discarded.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Just my take.

No pics, can't accom and daytime meets often indicates someone's on here behind their partners back.

If you are, best to be honest.

The no pics means most will delete any message, you can add some sort of pic op, it doesn't have to identify you.

You've written that you're straight, but enjoy bi mmf, which is it?. If you are bi or curious theres nothing to be ashamed of,again be honest though,it goes a long way.

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Cock pics, plenty of cock pics, you needs at least 200 cock pics.. don t thank me

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By *un and Games 2016Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Vague, unengaging and a bit selfish.... I'd delete. Sorry

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By *irthKing97Man
over a year ago

beccles

I’ve asked this question myself many times. Best advice I have been given is going to a social, which has worked wonders

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Cock pics, plenty of cock pics, you needs at least 200 cock pics.. don t thank me"

Ha ha how funny and original

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

As others have said you really need to at least put a up a profile pic of some description. Many won’t even open your message or look at profile if not. Straight delete. Pic doesn’t need to reveal your face of course but just give a hint about you. If you can’t do that then doesn’t say much about you more generally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi just needed some advice relating to my profile, could you have a look and tell me what im doing wrong? Lol seems impossible go get genuine meets x i know i dont have pics but i always send with messages (im decent looking)"

Your profile states that you’re straight, but your brief write up suggests otherwise. That’ll confuse some people.

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

I think you should spend some time updating your profile to remove the contradictions.

A subtle profile picture doesn't have to reveal your full face.

Potentially a brief explaination why you are seeking daytime meets- it may be something simple as night time worker but people will draw conclusions.

Acknowledge many require a connection and quality conversation. So you are limited your option pool with the content as is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PS if you can't accommodate or travel how are you going to meet?

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"PS if you can't accommodate or travel how are you going to meet?

"

I think that is taking a rather literal meaning of can’t travel. A lady was asked this last week and said she could obviously step out of her door and meet locally (same town) but couldn’t travel far.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Look at some good profiles on here

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

If you always send pictures with messages then why don’t you have any pictures on your profile? I can completely understand people not having pictures on their profile if they aren’t comfortable with strangers having access to them and that is the only acceptable reason for not having any pictures on your profile, but if you’re sending pictures with your first message you’re giving strangers access to your pictures. I know it means you have more control over which strangers have access to your pictures but there’s not much difference between choosing certain strangers to have access to your pictures and every stranger having access to your pictures. I said not wanting strangers to have access to your pictures is the only acceptable excuse for not having any pictures on your profile but it’s still a pretty nonsensical excuse because it’s possible to post pictures that don’t reveal your identity, in fact that’s what the large majority of people do here.

If you actually do always send pictures with your first message it means that hardly anyone will respond to your messages because you don’t have any pictures on your profile and strangers still have access to your pictures because you’re sending your pictures to strangers, so there’s not point doing what you’re doing.

Also, if you can’t be bothered to write more than a handful of words in your bio then you should at least make to effort to ensure they’re all spelt correctly. If you’re not very good at spelling then there are plenty of free online tools you can use that will check and correct your spelling for you so there’s no excuse other than laziness. Why is anyone going to be tempted in any way to interact with someone who displays such an obvious sign of laziness.

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By *atted_angelTV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester


"Hi just needed some advice relating to my profile, could you have a look and tell me what im doing wrong? Lol seems impossible go get genuine meets x i know i dont have pics but i always send with messages (im decent looking)"

Why are you so lazy you know when you look at a profile and it looks good so why not do something similar with your own twist. Realistically no one is going to message you without a single picture either!!!

I'm not being mean but why are you surprised no one sends you messages!!

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By *sian87 OP   Man
over a year ago

redditch

Thank you everyone, reading the replies its quite obvious what was wrong lol changes being made!

Thanx again

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Hi just needed some advice relating to my profile, could you have a look and tell me what im doing wrong? Lol seems impossible go get genuine meets x i know i dont have pics but i always send with messages (im decent looking)

Why are you so lazy you know when you look at a profile and it looks good so why not do something similar with your own twist. Realistically no one is going to message you without a single picture either!!!

I'm not being mean but why are you surprised no one sends you messages!!"

To be fair ,you can have loads of photos on public show, including face pics, ,and still never receive a message .

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Who had 22nd reply on their bingo card?

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Who had 22nd reply on their bingo card? "

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"Who had 22nd reply on their bingo card? "

Yep

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By *uckslut888Woman
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Hi just needed some advice relating to my profile, could you have a look and tell me what im doing wrong? Lol seems impossible go get genuine meets x i know i dont have pics but i always send with messages (im decent looking)

Why are you so lazy you know when you look at a profile and it looks good so why not do something similar with your own twist. Realistically no one is going to message you without a single picture either!!!

I'm not being mean but why are you surprised no one sends you messages!!"

Off topic a little here sorry, but I had to say Angel, you are stunning x

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Who had 22nd reply on their bingo card?

"

There will be thousands of single blokes on here , myself included ,with a good selection of photos ,and a detailed profile who never even receive a message ,or a reply to one they have sent.

As there will be thousands ,including myself who use all the other tools available on Fab to contact people , post in forums , check who are posting meets who are looking for someone who we fit their criteria ,etc , who have never had any success on here,and probably never will.

Just a guess ,but it's seems like only 1% of single blokes have any success ,which it looks like you are lucky enough to part of that minority . And good luck to you mate , I'm glad you are successful ,I really am.

But the vast majority of us never will be , even though we use all the tools offered to us by our Fab membership.

Anyway ,take care ,and I hope your successful Fab life continues .

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Needs more details more pics

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Who had 22nd reply on their bingo card?

There will be thousands of single blokes on here , myself included ,with a good selection of photos ,and a detailed profile who never even receive a message ,or a reply to one they have sent.

As there will be thousands ,including myself who use all the other tools available on Fab to contact people , post in forums , check who are posting meets who are looking for someone who we fit their criteria ,etc , who have never had any success on here,and probably never will.

Just a guess ,but it's seems like only 1% of single blokes have any success ,which it looks like you are lucky enough to part of that minority . And good luck to you mate , I'm glad you are successful ,I really am.

But the vast majority of us never will be , even though we use all the tools offered to us by our Fab membership.

Anyway ,take care ,and I hope your successful Fab life continues .

"

Google PMA or manifestation. Dreams can come true

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By *tan7724Man
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Would like some advice on my profile, read profiles , send respectful messages and seem to be struggling, am a professional person with own secluded flat but not a lot of luck .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get on average 2 profile views per day.

I am living the dream

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Would like some advice on my profile, read profiles , send respectful messages and seem to be struggling, am a professional person with own secluded flat but not a lot of luck . "

Well you’ve had two meets in August so not sure what you were expecting Constant fanny flow?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

You have 1 public photo in a dirty mirror that's difficult to see.

Nothing about you in your bio, no hints at your personality or what kind of man you are.

Your profile is your shop window if you want people to take notice make it better than the other 10000's of men's profiles out there & put some effort in.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would really appreciate so advice on improving my profile. What I can do to improve. Can anyone recommend anything?

Thanks

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By *sian87 OP   Man
over a year ago

redditch

Thank you for the replies changes being updated

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