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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We usually do blind socials with people. We know, it’s not for everyone, but we’ve had pics screen captured and distributed . We have also had single guys send us full length naked photos, face showing, of people they’ve met and might consider FWBs, probably without permission. We’re very careful with photos because of this.

A single guy contacted us and we said we’d be happy to do a blind social. We live in the same city and both verified. We could meet for an hour. He said his time was too valuable to do a blind social. Fine by us.

However, made us think, especially for single guys, how much time does it take on the site to find someone to have a social with ? Hours, days, weeks ?

Surely a bird in the hand, so to speak, is better than two in the bush. No pun intended

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By *verageSausageMan
over a year ago

Flintshire

How much time do I spend looking for people huh?

Well, that's easy to answer.

Way more less time than I spend searching for the TV remote control.........

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Quite a few men have agreed to meet us and never asked for a face photo first. If they did we'd be happy to provide one. We'd never send nudes with our faces showing though

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"How much time do I spend looking for people huh?

Well, that's easy to answer.

Way more less time than I spend searching for the TV remote control........."

same here but it's my phone I'm always looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spend very little time looking for people for socials or meets. From time to time I come across a profile either through the forums or browsing hot pics. If I'm interested I'd send a message or hotlist them to follow until I can send one or until I have something to write about.

I also add to the hotlist from people who've contacted me directly as well and I'm interested in meeting.

I am not against having a social as I enjoy meeting people in person.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I take my time and until they've caught my interest can be days, weeks, months.

If was just a social nothing else week depending upon whom with

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol


"We usually do blind socials with people. We know, it’s not for everyone, but we’ve had pics screen captured and distributed . We have also had single guys send us full length naked photos, face showing, of people they’ve met and might consider FWBs, probably without permission. We’re very careful with photos because of this.

A single guy contacted us and we said we’d be happy to do a blind social. We live in the same city and both verified. We could meet for an hour. He said his time was too valuable to do a blind social. Fine by us.

However, made us think, especially for single guys, how much time does it take on the site to find someone to have a social with ? Hours, days, weeks ?

Surely a bird in the hand, so to speak, is better than two in the bush. No pun intended "
for me personally I'd rather know what someone looks like because there's more chance they wouldn't like me than the other way round

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I haven't used the search function on here in years and haven't sent a first contact message since the beginning of 2020 so I don't spend any time currently searching.

When I am meeting I don't do blind sex meets. I've done that once and while it wasn't terrible it's not something I'm keen to repeat.

I also don't meet for sex first time. It's always a social only and it's not negotiable.

I've had my pics and info passed around like many others and I've had well respected forum users ask my friends for personal info on me and also send me detailed information on other forum users so I'm well aware of the games.

I don't have facepics on here and only ever share one with someone I've already agreed to meet and we need to recognise each other in the coffee shop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is scary showing face pics in this day and age, I show a face pic if I'm genuinely interested in them, definitely not if the profile says to send a face pic with the first message if they don't have any on show. But I don't have face and naked pics

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By *hermalprobeMan
over a year ago

South Lincs

I spend quite a lot of time looking, every morning, every evening, send a few messages, some are looked at, some are deleted, some are unread, none have been replied. I'm not meeting without chatting first and then only a social first time around. I need that connection. If it happens then it will happen.

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By *ysonfuryMan
over a year ago

Stockport

I go through phases, there me be periods where I go through lots of searching and sending an introduction message to couples or single ladies that catch my eye. I prefer regular meets and I have been lucky enough to find that so that can reduce time looking. Happy fabbing everyone

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By *wee690Man
over a year ago

Up North

Far too much

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I agree with him, my time is too valuable to converse and meet with people I don’t know I find sexually attractive.

I don’t know many people, if any, who would be up for this.

And don’t think people should settle for it just cos it takes a long time to find someone suitable/ appropriate/ attractive.

If that’s your thing that’s fine, totally understand your hesitancy for photos.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

None tbh.

We used to spend time maybe an hour or two at weekends, looking for people who looked compatible, answering & sending messages etc however, we were plagued with no shows so now fab is just an extention of our time in clubs and we won't meet privately at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years and only a couple of meets !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years and only a couple of meets !!

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"We usually do blind socials with people. We know, it’s not for everyone, but we’ve had pics screen captured and distributed . We have also had single guys send us full length naked photos, face showing, of people they’ve met and might consider FWBs, probably without permission. We’re very careful with photos because of this.

A single guy contacted us and we said we’d be happy to do a blind social. We live in the same city and both verified. We could meet for an hour. He said his time was too valuable to do a blind social. Fine by us.

However, made us think, especially for single guys, how much time does it take on the site to find someone to have a social with ? Hours, days, weeks ?

Surely a bird in the hand, so to speak, is better than two in the bush. No pun intended "

I havnt managed to even have a social for just a coffee and chat in my year and a half on here .

So , in my experience, it's 18 months and counting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will look but I don't spend hours looking for people.

I wouldn't meet someone blindly, I don't see the point as if I am not attracted or vice versa then nothing would ever happen. I do like the social side to swinging for sure but if I am arranging a social with one person or a couple that is with a view to see how we click for it to progress. My time is too limited and schedule is busy to do it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We usually do blind socials with people. We know, it’s not for everyone, but we’ve had pics screen captured and distributed . We have also had single guys send us full length naked photos, face showing, of people they’ve met and might consider FWBs, probably without permission. We’re very careful with photos because of this.

A single guy contacted us and we said we’d be happy to do a blind social. We live in the same city and both verified. We could meet for an hour. He said his time was too valuable to do a blind social. Fine by us.

However, made us think, especially for single guys, how much time does it take on the site to find someone to have a social with ? Hours, days, weeks ?

Surely a bird in the hand, so to speak, is better than two in the bush. No pun intended "

It takes time and real patience just over a year for me and still waiting for my first meet I think maybe due to the age range I'm looking for but to be fair I want my encounters to be special

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I pretty much never use the search or send opening messages.

All of my meets, social or otherwise have come through connecting through silly forum games (Irish section) or social events and private parties. I do get the occasional message and they have often worked out too.

I would say my approach and what makes me happy is up participate in the community, make new friends and see what comes. Occasionally I get to have great sex with people I really like.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Yet another post bashing single guys. Why do so many couples profiles post about single guys doing horrendous things, from not turning up to meets, sharing pictures of other people without permission and even attempting r@….pe? I know lots of men, all of which have been single at some point, who wouldn’t dream of doing any of the things people on here say that single men do all the time.

Are you saying in your post OP that whenever you’ve been asked to show your faces before a meet in the past you’ve always sent a full body, naked picture showing your faces and these are the pictures that you, somehow, know single guys have shared with other people? Or are you saying that you’ve sent pictures of just your faces and single guys have shared them with other people? If the first is true then why are you sending full body, naked pictures showing your face when just a picture of your face will suffice? And if the second’s true then why would single guys share pictures of just your faces and if they actually are sharing them then what harm does it do? Millions of people every day post pictures of their faces on various social media platforms that anyone can steal and share with other people but hardly anyone ever does because there’s nothing to gain from doing it.

You’ve said that you’ve received pictures from single guys of someone showing their full naked body and their face which you’ve automatically assumed are pictures of someone that they’ve met and are sharing without their permission. Why do you assume that they’re sharing them without their permission? I assume that if they’re sending them to you then they’re showing you what the other person looks like who you’ll meet with them so why do you automatically assume the worst rather than accepting that they have permission to send it as that other person will be meeting you with him. Also, there are endless pictures of naked women showing their face available on the internet so if a single guy is sending you a picture of someone without their permission it’s more likely that it’s a random picture they’ve found on the internet.

Saying that you don’t send pictures to single guys because they’ll share them with other people, and that any pictures you receive from single guys of their female partner have been sent without their permission, is incredibly offensive to single guys who would never do anything like that, which is the large majority of single men in my experience. I know it’s hard to believe but most single men have morals and would never do any of the things that they’re regularly accused of doing on here.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"Yet another post bashing single guys. Why do so many couples profiles post about single guys doing horrendous things, from not turning up to meets, sharing pictures of other people without permission and even attempting r@….pe? I know lots of men, all of which have been single at some point, who wouldn’t dream of doing any of the things people on here say that single men do all the time.

Are you saying in your post OP that whenever you’ve been asked to show your faces before a meet in the past you’ve always sent a full body, naked picture showing your faces and these are the pictures that you, somehow, know single guys have shared with other people? Or are you saying that you’ve sent pictures of just your faces and single guys have shared them with other people? If the first is true then why are you sending full body, naked pictures showing your face when just a picture of your face will suffice? And if the second’s true then why would single guys share pictures of just your faces and if they actually are sharing them then what harm does it do? Millions of people every day post pictures of their faces on various social media platforms that anyone can steal and share with other people but hardly anyone ever does because there’s nothing to gain from doing it.

You’ve said that you’ve received pictures from single guys of someone showing their full naked body and their face which you’ve automatically assumed are pictures of someone that they’ve met and are sharing without their permission. Why do you assume that they’re sharing them without their permission? I assume that if they’re sending them to you then they’re showing you what the other person looks like who you’ll meet with them so why do you automatically assume the worst rather than accepting that they have permission to send it as that other person will be meeting you with him. Also, there are endless pictures of naked women showing their face available on the internet so if a single guy is sending you a picture of someone without their permission it’s more likely that it’s a random picture they’ve found on the internet.

Saying that you don’t send pictures to single guys because they’ll share them with other people, and that any pictures you receive from single guys of their female partner have been sent without their permission, is incredibly offensive to single guys who would never do anything like that, which is the large majority of single men in my experience. I know it’s hard to believe but most single men have morals and would never do any of the things that they’re regularly accused of doing on here. "

That's quite a rant considering the OP was just sharing their experience and asking a genuine question.

It's not like everyone already doesn't know that there are many many single male accounts on here that send out the most vile and impropriate things. And there are plenty of off site chat rooms where guys (and gals) share pics they've lifted off of fab.

Why not just answer the question?

How much time do you invest in trying to find meets?

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Yet another post bashing single guys. Why do so many couples profiles post about single guys doing horrendous things, from not turning up to meets, sharing pictures of other people without permission and even attempting r@….pe? I know lots of men, all of which have been single at some point, who wouldn’t dream of doing any of the things people on here say that single men do all the time.

Are you saying in your post OP that whenever you’ve been asked to show your faces before a meet in the past you’ve always sent a full body, naked picture showing your faces and these are the pictures that you, somehow, know single guys have shared with other people? Or are you saying that you’ve sent pictures of just your faces and single guys have shared them with other people? If the first is true then why are you sending full body, naked pictures showing your face when just a picture of your face will suffice? And if the second’s true then why would single guys share pictures of just your faces and if they actually are sharing them then what harm does it do? Millions of people every day post pictures of their faces on various social media platforms that anyone can steal and share with other people but hardly anyone ever does because there’s nothing to gain from doing it.

You’ve said that you’ve received pictures from single guys of someone showing their full naked body and their face which you’ve automatically assumed are pictures of someone that they’ve met and are sharing without their permission. Why do you assume that they’re sharing them without their permission? I assume that if they’re sending them to you then they’re showing you what the other person looks like who you’ll meet with them so why do you automatically assume the worst rather than accepting that they have permission to send it as that other person will be meeting you with him. Also, there are endless pictures of naked women showing their face available on the internet so if a single guy is sending you a picture of someone without their permission it’s more likely that it’s a random picture they’ve found on the internet.

Saying that you don’t send pictures to single guys because they’ll share them with other people, and that any pictures you receive from single guys of their female partner have been sent without their permission, is incredibly offensive to single guys who would never do anything like that, which is the large majority of single men in my experience. I know it’s hard to believe but most single men have morals and would never do any of the things that they’re regularly accused of doing on here.

That's quite a rant considering the OP was just sharing their experience and asking a genuine question.

It's not like everyone already doesn't know that there are many many single male accounts on here that send out the most vile and impropriate things. And there are plenty of off site chat rooms where guys (and gals) share pics they've lifted off of fab.

Why not just answer the question?

How much time do you invest in trying to find meets?"

If OP was just asking how much time people invest in looking for meets why did OP need to say that single guys share pictures of other people without their permission? Lots of people say that they don’t send face pictures to anyone without needing to say that the reason is because single guys will share the pictures without their permission. The post feels more like a rant about single men than it is about asking the question. Plus it makes no sense, OP talks about not sending a face picture because they’ve received full naked body pictures with face showing of other people from men that they assume the man didn’t have permission to send. What has sending a face picture got to do with receiving full body naked pictures? Is OP claiming that it’s unsafe to send just face pictures to people or is OP claiming that to show their face they have to show it with their full body naked as well?

The man who refused to meet them obviously has a rule that he won’t meet someone that won’t show their faces to prove they’re real because it would be unsafe to do so, so is OP saying that someone should break their own rules and put themselves in danger just because it takes a long time to find a meet?

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"Yet another post bashing single guys. Why do so many couples profiles post about single guys doing horrendous things, from not turning up to meets, sharing pictures of other people without permission and even attempting r@….pe? I know lots of men, all of which have been single at some point, who wouldn’t dream of doing any of the things people on here say that single men do all the time.

Are you saying in your post OP that whenever you’ve been asked to show your faces before a meet in the past you’ve always sent a full body, naked picture showing your faces and these are the pictures that you, somehow, know single guys have shared with other people? Or are you saying that you’ve sent pictures of just your faces and single guys have shared them with other people? If the first is true then why are you sending full body, naked pictures showing your face when just a picture of your face will suffice? And if the second’s true then why would single guys share pictures of just your faces and if they actually are sharing them then what harm does it do? Millions of people every day post pictures of their faces on various social media platforms that anyone can steal and share with other people but hardly anyone ever does because there’s nothing to gain from doing it.

You’ve said that you’ve received pictures from single guys of someone showing their full naked body and their face which you’ve automatically assumed are pictures of someone that they’ve met and are sharing without their permission. Why do you assume that they’re sharing them without their permission? I assume that if they’re sending them to you then they’re showing you what the other person looks like who you’ll meet with them so why do you automatically assume the worst rather than accepting that they have permission to send it as that other person will be meeting you with him. Also, there are endless pictures of naked women showing their face available on the internet so if a single guy is sending you a picture of someone without their permission it’s more likely that it’s a random picture they’ve found on the internet.

Saying that you don’t send pictures to single guys because they’ll share them with other people, and that any pictures you receive from single guys of their female partner have been sent without their permission, is incredibly offensive to single guys who would never do anything like that, which is the large majority of single men in my experience. I know it’s hard to believe but most single men have morals and would never do any of the things that they’re regularly accused of doing on here.

That's quite a rant considering the OP was just sharing their experience and asking a genuine question.

It's not like everyone already doesn't know that there are many many single male accounts on here that send out the most vile and impropriate things. And there are plenty of off site chat rooms where guys (and gals) share pics they've lifted off of fab.

Why not just answer the question?

How much time do you invest in trying to find meets?

If OP was just asking how much time people invest in looking for meets why did OP need to say that single guys share pictures of other people without their permission? Lots of people say that they don’t send face pictures to anyone without needing to say that the reason is because single guys will share the pictures without their permission. The post feels more like a rant about single men than it is about asking the question. Plus it makes no sense, OP talks about not sending a face picture because they’ve received full naked body pictures with face showing of other people from men that they assume the man didn’t have permission to send. What has sending a face picture got to do with receiving full body naked pictures? Is OP claiming that it’s unsafe to send just face pictures to people or is OP claiming that to show their face they have to show it with their full body naked as well?

The man who refused to meet them obviously has a rule that he won’t meet someone that won’t show their faces to prove they’re real because it would be unsafe to do so, so is OP saying that someone should break their own rules and put themselves in danger just because it takes a long time to find a meet?"

That was too many angry words so I didn't read it.

I would just like to note that you still haven't answered OP's question.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Yet another post bashing single guys. Why do so many couples profiles post about single guys doing horrendous things, from not turning up to meets, sharing pictures of other people without permission and even attempting r@….pe? I know lots of men, all of which have been single at some point, who wouldn’t dream of doing any of the things people on here say that single men do all the time.

Are you saying in your post OP that whenever you’ve been asked to show your faces before a meet in the past you’ve always sent a full body, naked picture showing your faces and these are the pictures that you, somehow, know single guys have shared with other people? Or are you saying that you’ve sent pictures of just your faces and single guys have shared them with other people? If the first is true then why are you sending full body, naked pictures showing your face when just a picture of your face will suffice? And if the second’s true then why would single guys share pictures of just your faces and if they actually are sharing them then what harm does it do? Millions of people every day post pictures of their faces on various social media platforms that anyone can steal and share with other people but hardly anyone ever does because there’s nothing to gain from doing it.

You’ve said that you’ve received pictures from single guys of someone showing their full naked body and their face which you’ve automatically assumed are pictures of someone that they’ve met and are sharing without their permission. Why do you assume that they’re sharing them without their permission? I assume that if they’re sending them to you then they’re showing you what the other person looks like who you’ll meet with them so why do you automatically assume the worst rather than accepting that they have permission to send it as that other person will be meeting you with him. Also, there are endless pictures of naked women showing their face available on the internet so if a single guy is sending you a picture of someone without their permission it’s more likely that it’s a random picture they’ve found on the internet.

Saying that you don’t send pictures to single guys because they’ll share them with other people, and that any pictures you receive from single guys of their female partner have been sent without their permission, is incredibly offensive to single guys who would never do anything like that, which is the large majority of single men in my experience. I know it’s hard to believe but most single men have morals and would never do any of the things that they’re regularly accused of doing on here.

That's quite a rant considering the OP was just sharing their experience and asking a genuine question.

It's not like everyone already doesn't know that there are many many single male accounts on here that send out the most vile and impropriate things. And there are plenty of off site chat rooms where guys (and gals) share pics they've lifted off of fab.

Why not just answer the question?

How much time do you invest in trying to find meets?

If OP was just asking how much time people invest in looking for meets why did OP need to say that single guys share pictures of other people without their permission? Lots of people say that they don’t send face pictures to anyone without needing to say that the reason is because single guys will share the pictures without their permission. The post feels more like a rant about single men than it is about asking the question. Plus it makes no sense, OP talks about not sending a face picture because they’ve received full naked body pictures with face showing of other people from men that they assume the man didn’t have permission to send. What has sending a face picture got to do with receiving full body naked pictures? Is OP claiming that it’s unsafe to send just face pictures to people or is OP claiming that to show their face they have to show it with their full body naked as well?

The man who refused to meet them obviously has a rule that he won’t meet someone that won’t show their faces to prove they’re real because it would be unsafe to do so, so is OP saying that someone should break their own rules and put themselves in danger just because it takes a long time to find a meet?

That was too many angry words so I didn't read it.

I would just like to note that you still haven't answered OP's question."

How do you know how many angry words there were if you didn’t read it? If you read it you’d have seen that i didn’t actually use any angry words, I was just replying to your post because i thought we were having a discussion about it.

To answer OP’s question, I haven’t got a clue how much time I invest in trying to find meets. I guess it depends what can be assigned to trying to find meets. I’ve read a lot of people saying that getting involved in the forums increases your chances of getting noticed and can lead to getting more meets so should I assign all the time I spend in the forums to the time invested in getting meets? Or is it just time spent looking through profiles, sending messages, receiving messages etc? Because sometimes I’ll be chatting in the forums and someone will post who seems cool so I’ll look at their profile to see if we’re suited and could maybe meet, so that’s time spent in the forums that isn’t directly assigned to finding someone to meet that momentarily changes to being time invested in finding someone to meet. It’s very difficult to give an accurate figure for how long i spend to be honest.

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By *ylonseeker2023Man
over a year ago

Harwich

Good question.

Actively using a search option, never really BUT..

I have used certain key words on Forum search which will in turn open up 'X' amounts of threads that often lead to potentially interesting profiles..I very roughly guess that may amount to 4-5 hrs spread over an average week.

Then comes the local Updates which will throw up potentially interesting profiles.. I'll look daily so let's guess at 3 hrs over the week.

That makes 7-8 hrs/week.

Seems a lot but when I break it down, then add it up, yeah.

Hope that helps OP.

Send regards to Edinburgh, home to family, sadly a long way up north from here.

Oh, and as a Nylonseeker, that is my profile name I think , this seems an opportune time to say you have super legs X

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By *ylonseeker2023Man
over a year ago

Harwich

Oh ..

As to you 'ranting' ....I guess it could be perceived as a rant, I think that what is being missed is that your 'observation' is linked to your question, the one leads to the other. That's how I read it anyway.

As to someone being too busy to take an hour out to meet others that are verified and in the same city/town or close by, hmmm, ok. A very busy individual indeed or must have an abundance of folk that tick all the boxes and play by only his rules.

Or of course its all bollocks and something isn't right.

At least you haven't wasted your time.

I guess single men get a bad image here as there will be a number of idiots and with a high ratio of single guys that leads to a greater volume of those that make it difficult for genuine folk.

The amount of couples and females that have profiles that already put us single men 'in place' can't be just coincidental.

That said, not all single ladies or couples play fair but are they possibly fake profiles with single fellas at the keyboard or just disgruntled folk that have become what they are due to bad experiences?

Chicken and egg scenario I think. It is however a great shame.

There are many genuine single men, single ladies and couples, that's for sure. Sorry, I forgot TV's, TS and all the other various guises of sexual denominations...there are now so many classifications, sorry about that.

Yes, a shame.

It's a bit like me throwing in 'you have super legs' will be seen as trying to flatter you with just the one motive....I have read that all over the place...'men will just say this/that in order to get into your bedroom...

Yeah, don't worry, I am in Essex after all and not heading north....but hey...everybody is entitled to their own opinion and no one case is the same as another! :-

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By *ylonseeker2023Man
over a year ago

Harwich

Oh ..

As to you 'ranting' ....I guess it could be perceived as a rant, I think that what is being missed is that your 'observation' is linked to your question, the one leads to the other. That's how I read it anyway.

As to someone being too busy to take an hour out to meet others that are verified and in the same city/town or close by, hmmm, ok. A very busy individual indeed or must have an abundance of folk that tick all the boxes and play by only his rules.

Or of course its all bollocks and something isn't right.

At least you haven't wasted your time.

I guess single men get a bad image here as there will be a number of idiots and with a high ratio of single guys that leads to a greater volume of those that make it difficult for genuine folk.

The amount of couples and females that have profiles that already put us single men 'in place' can't be just coincidental.

That said, not all single ladies or couples play fair but are they possibly fake profiles with single fellas at the keyboard or just disgruntled folk that have become what they are due to bad experiences?

Chicken and egg scenario I think. It is however a great shame.

There are many genuine single men, single ladies and couples, that's for sure. Sorry, I forgot TV's, TS and all the other various guises of sexual denominations...there are now so many classifications, sorry about that.

Yes, a shame.

It's a bit like me throwing in 'you have super legs' will be seen as trying to flatter you with just the one motive....I have read that all over the place...'men will just say this/that in order to get into your bedroom...

Yeah, don't worry, I am in Essex after all and not heading north....but hey...everybody is entitled to their own opinion and no one case is the same as another! :-

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I don’t search as such, but I’ll check out which single guys are attending any events I’m going to.

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Can we just clarify. We don’t mean to bash single guys on here. Just telling our experiences. We have direct experience of pics being shared without permission; ours. We have also had single guys send us pics of their FWB when we say we’re currently looking for couples. Have also read, on the forums, where couples have shared other people’s face pics with their group of friends. So it’s not just single guys.

Some screenshot and distribute for whatever reason. When it’s happened to you it makes you wary.

We prefer a face to face blind social. We see as an hour out of our life. Just a drink and no sex. We don’t share face pics and don’t expect any in return. We would meet at a club too.

Our question was really as a single guy, how much time in searching does it take to get a couple to share face pics or go on a social. We see couples/single women saying they spend no time searching and, with respect, those groups really don’t need to search if they want to just accept incoming messages.

If we liked a profile, they had veris and wanted to meet for an hour only for drinks without exchanging face pics then we’d think that’s a lot easier than trawling through profiles and sending messages which get ignored

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't look for meets at all so zero hours, if a conversation happens then it happens.

I prefer to meet people at organised socials face to face is much easier for me.

Endless small talk on here is not my thing.

Mrs

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I don't look for meets at all so zero hours, if a conversation happens then it happens.

I prefer to meet people at organised socials face to face is much easier for me.

Endless small talk on here is not my thing.

Mrs "

It’s so much easier face to face. Pics can be old or badly taken and you don’t get much sense of personality in endless messages. A good profile, good pics and a few messages to confirm we are looking for the same thing then a social. Not weeks of messaging. Life’s too short for that

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By *eFCUKaLotCouple
over a year ago

somewhere close

Hardly ever these days, so many time wasters, we’re fed up of it now. A lovely looking couple messaged us last night but we haven’t replied because we just know it’ll go no where.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don't look for meets at all so zero hours, if a conversation happens then it happens.

I prefer to meet people at organised socials face to face is much easier for me.

Endless small talk on here is not my thing.

Mrs

It’s so much easier face to face. Pics can be old or badly taken and you don’t get much sense of personality in endless messages. A good profile, good pics and a few messages to confirm we are looking for the same thing then a social. Not weeks of messaging. Life’s too short for that "

It is so much easier face to face. I end up put off by the pressure to make small talk daily it just becomes more a turn off than anything.

Mrs

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I not actively looking to meet, if I was I wouldn't meet without seeing a face pic though.

They could be anyone and I might know them, I do understand your concerns re privacy though, sadly some don't know the meaning of the word discreet.

Ive had people offer to meet me without seeing what I look like, again I'd want them to know what I'm like first before a meet.

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By *Xtriple7Couple
over a year ago

N Peterborough.

We don't take offers to meet seriously these days, especially if from a couple or single woman. We try not to do blind dates, however it is a concern people sharing pics or reverse image searching.

We had a couple sharing private videos etc that they had been sent by another couple who were interested in meeting them. This is why we never show faces, also cancelled meeting this particular couple too as couldn't trust them.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

I don’t actively search out folk to message, my time is better spent elsewhere than doing all that. Because 99.9% of the time it just ends up coming to nothing.

I’ll fab pics that I like though and/or message people ONLY where I see we’re going to the same event.

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By *GermanInLondonMan
over a year ago

London


"We usually do blind socials with people. We know, it’s not for everyone, but we’ve had pics screen captured and distributed . We have also had single guys send us full length naked photos, face showing, of people they’ve met and might consider FWBs, probably without permission. We’re very careful with photos because of this.

A single guy contacted us and we said we’d be happy to do a blind social. We live in the same city and both verified. We could meet for an hour. He said his time was too valuable to do a blind social. Fine by us.

However, made us think, especially for single guys, how much time does it take on the site to find someone to have a social with ? Hours, days, weeks ?

Surely a bird in the hand, so to speak, is better than two in the bush. No pun intended "

I don't send face pics either due to similar concerns. From a receiving end of a message of course that could spark suspicions but it's just a limit I set myself.

For me a social is to get to know people as a person. And as being relatively new on here I find this hugely rewarding. Anything else is a bonus.

I do send maybe 5 or so messages per week if I see a local profile which piques my interest (and it's mostly the written bits).

Attending a bigger social is way less frustrating then messages for me I must say and great fun and time spent well.

What I find quite disappointing about messaging here is that all single guys seem suspicious from the start. I get that mf or f are likely to be frustrated with full inboxes of one shitty message after the next. But not a nice feeling when suspicions are implied without knowing the person in the first place. Hence messaging is slowly decreasing for me.

Sill fun though on occasion so thumbs up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far too fucking long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Months "

A lot of people bs me into thinking its real here.

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By *ubcup2Couple
over a year ago

London

Too much time

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

For direct meets from FAB, almost no time, too many timewasters.

But using FAB for socials, parties etc a few minutes to decide to attend then send a message.

No fuss, no drama.

After that we generally receive mails to attend future events.

Holidays too, just look up the area and state your dates, easy.

Look who's near when on holiday is brilliant.

Single guys who attend the parties are usually first rate, as like all who attend, they have made an effort to actually get an invite, show up and become part of a friendly, inclusive group.

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