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By *inky_inked_dom OP   Man
over a year ago

stafford

What’s your obvious red flags here? Some are my expectations, others common ones I hear

Couples, only dick pics and not verified as a couple

No verification or pics for years (but just one verified by a single bloke 8 years ago)

Hotter than the sun, no profile copy and 0 verifications and not verified (but I understand you’ll fill it in soon)

We’re a couple, but you gotta meet male first

Chat only on kik/snap

I can’t afford my rent

Please click/like/love/my pic for xxx

I have no limits. None whatsoever and anything goes

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Um.

The biggest red flag for me is if they're damaged enough to message me at all

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

Soooo many

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By *aviniaCDTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds (close to GAP)

Ignore my few simple profile requests, you're toast!! But Thanks for popping by x x

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

.

Any sign that someone is pushy is a huge red flag for me

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Starting a thread and not bothering to participate in the thread after that.

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
over a year ago

Hyde

Couples only dick pics is an interesting one ..... I personally tend to see too many couples profiles where it's 99% the female and maybe just one dick pic thrown in!

As for the rest.... wayyyyyy too many to list

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Couples only dick pics is an interesting one ..... I personally tend to see too many couples profiles where it's 99% the female and maybe just one dick pic thrown in!

As for the rest.... wayyyyyy too many to list

"

Yes was going to say the same but subtle difference I think.

Couple with all dick pics - red flag as probably not a couple

Couple where 99% female and one dick pic - red flag (from the perspective of another couple) as although probably a couple if you met it would all be about the lady and the man is either a munter or not likely to be very involved

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Couples with only pics of the female, makes me think he's not really that into it & it's all about her.

When someone sends a message, you read it and within a few mins they've send another, screams pushy or entitled.

Anyone asking if I'm free now, with no chat and who hasn't sent me a face pic or asked me for one. Makes me think anyone would do.

Male profiles where u can see all of various different women & just the blokes hand or cock.

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By *ir SupremacyMan
over a year ago

Bolton

You got to love praytothefairies she's so funny ??

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Um.

The biggest red flag for me is if they're damaged enough to message me at all "

Oh.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Profiles full of pics of close ups of genitalia (eww) that’s both penis AND vagina

Shouty profiles with list more of what they’re NOT looking for as opposed to what they are looking for

Anyone who expresses their preferences in a way that can be deemed derogatory or discriminatory

Messages requesting things I don’t feel comfortable with or trying to push boundaries (E.g. asking couples asking if I want to play with the male half too when my profile clearly states I’m straight)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of veris but they won't fuck me.

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By *randMrsLPCouple
over a year ago

london

No offence to anyone but my "red flag" is often people statting threads like this. I don't mean you OP as you are a single male

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By *he_13th_ghostWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

- one word replies

- just dick picks in messages

- when they don't respect my profile.

- clearly didn't read my profile and misgender.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

Ooooh more and more each day... One way conversations here or on whatsapp, changing the rules mid chat or after a social. Claiming they want to meet but are too busy then they display a verification, and then another. No pics of the male, female only. Pushy folk and those who want to meet NOW, even if we haven't even chatted or swapped face pics. Those who don't give out the address even the day before the meet. Those who cancel on the day, even worse Those who cancel twice (one couple three times). Those who claim interest just to get to our friends pics then ignore our messages afterwards. Those who say no penetration on the first meet, then again for the second even though no mention on their profile. Demands for more and more photos or videos with no meet in sight. Those who talk of meeting but shy away from arranging one. Sparse profiles, excuses why they have no photos. Joined years ago but no verifications (or from many years ago). Demands for private information too soon. Demands to play on first meet, no interest in a social first. Folk you meet who are dressed in joggers, tatty clothes, d*unk or offering drugs.... and so on

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By *impcuckMan
over a year ago

edge of taunton

people dont discuss thier red flags because then other try and get around them same with most post on here people trying to find out the rights n wrongs id rather let them find out the correct way

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By *impcuckMan
over a year ago

edge of taunton


"No offence to anyone but my "red flag" is often people statting threads like this. I don't mean you OP as you are a single male"

100% this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who obviously haven't read your whole profile text and age limits

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"people dont discuss thier red flags because then other try and get around them same with most post on here people trying to find out the rights n wrongs id rather let them find out the correct way "

Agreed. The more boxes people are able to tick the less of their true selves shows through.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Any phrase in a profile that indicates how " busy " a woman is with her life or in respect of FAB .It's not going to lead to anything worthwhile if they cannot make time to meet . Second red flag is one sentence replies to a message.

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Couples with public face pics, but aren't photo verified.. we smell a rat!!!

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By *ink vixenCouple
over a year ago

Medway

Wanting to “push your boundaries”

What does no mean to you?

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By *assagejMan
over a year ago

Bude

“Hey “

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Red Flags?

None that I'm going to list here as that helps people build a profile that isn't an honest representation of them.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Wanting to “push your boundaries”

What does no mean to you? "

Oh yes, such a narcissistic thing to say. You just know it’s going to be all about them and how they think they can make you do other things people haven’t.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Red Flags?

None that I'm going to list here as that helps people build a profile that isn't an honest representation of them. "

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

The main one being on the site several months or more and no pictures

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

An ever increasing number, but we find them very helpful in swerving!

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By *randMrsLPCouple
over a year ago

london

Those that claim to be a couple and then the man offers to play alone

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By *irth.controlMan
over a year ago

London


"Wanting to “push your boundaries”

What does no mean to you?

Oh yes, such a narcissistic thing to say. You just know it’s going to be all about them and how they think they can make you do other things people haven’t."

To be fair there is a whole dynamic at play here where this is sought after and specifically asked for by the receiver. It's an entirely separate discussion in itself, but there is a world of difference between ignoring strictly laid out hard limits, and pushing people where they desire to be pushed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you have on your profile what and not you’re looking for but get people still trying to change your mind

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By *use and wolfCouple
over a year ago

angus


"Um.

The biggest red flag for me is if they're damaged enough to message me at all "

But aren't all the most fun folk a little damaged?

Not reading the profile. Unsolicited Cock Shots, People that can't hold a decent conversation about what they want. Drama.

There are probably more

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Those that claim to be a couple and then the man offers to play alone"

“Wife not meeting at the moment” for about 4 years!

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By *randMrsLPCouple
over a year ago

london

Bottom line - ask questions probing questions and those lying will soon get angry or blame you for asking too many questions. If you are a couple or single lady, you can never be too careful meeting people - so share with others who you are meeting etc or always meet in a public place first time

we always deamnd they bloke send us their face pic holding our user name next to it, works for us

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk/Essex


"Profiles full of pics of close ups of genitalia (eww) that’s both penis AND vagina

Shouty profiles with list more of what they’re NOT looking for as opposed to what they are looking for

Anyone who expresses their preferences in a way that can be deemed derogatory or discriminatory

Messages requesting things I don’t feel comfortable with or trying to push boundaries (E.g. asking couples asking if I want to play with the male half too when my profile clearly states I’m straight)

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Blame that on the amount of guys on here who claim they are straight but are as gay as they come on the guys site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Profiles full of pics of close ups of genitalia (eww) that’s both penis AND vagina

Shouty profiles with list more of what they’re NOT looking for as opposed to what they are looking for

Anyone who expresses their preferences in a way that can be deemed derogatory or discriminatory

Messages requesting things I don’t feel comfortable with or trying to push boundaries (E.g. asking couples asking if I want to play with the male half too when my profile clearly states I’m straight)

"

This

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By *ancsCouple2025Couple
over a year ago

Wigan

Too good to be true. Both really hot, wide age range, can accommodate.

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By *candiumWoman
over a year ago

oban

Bad grammar in messages.

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By *ylonseeker2023Man
over a year ago

Harwich


"Profiles full of pics of close ups of genitalia (eww) that’s both penis AND vagina

Shouty profiles with list more of what they’re NOT looking for as opposed to what they are looking for

Anyone who expresses their preferences in a way that can be deemed derogatory or discriminatory

Messages requesting things I don’t feel comfortable with or trying to push boundaries (E.g. asking couples asking if I want to play with the male half too when my profile clearly states I’m straight)

"

Spot on.

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By *ickie_RankingMan
over a year ago

London

One to three word answers.

Not asking any questions back.

I tend to get this a lot.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"One to three word answers.

Not asking any questions back.

I tend to get this a lot. "

Eh

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Questions like "what are you into"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rude entitled people. The talking like I'm a walking vagina, couples profiles where it is obviously not a couple , lots of things.

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By *oppy56Couple
over a year ago

grimsby

Guys that can only meet day times midweek ( married & cheating)

Can’t you just nip out of work to meet me..?

One word messages,

Over complimenting

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Missus not here, she's on holiday with friends, no female pics or just 1 blurry pic like it's been taken on a 80s camera, no verifications even tho been on over a year, who they been meeting ??

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We can be put off very quickly by pushiness or over enthusiasm. We prefer people a little more chilled out. Some people go 0-100 in a couple of messages or just message all the time. Ideally we'd prefer to keep talk to establishing basic chemistry, making arrangements and then saving the chat until we meet in person.

Also we're no here for girl on girl show or to feel like a girl on girl experiment. Which of course is a perfectly legitimate desire and some express this openly in their profile. However some couples/females can be sly about this until down the line. We both like to be active participants and Mrs likes the guys and women. Sometimes its later on it becomes apparent that they just want the guys to watch or not touch the other female (which again is perfectly legitimate but not for us). Also no problem with it being a ladies first time with another woman. But it's just the way some people go about saying it that makes it sound more like they are looking for a live female sex toy to experiment with rather than something just natural.

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By *ancsCouple2025Couple
over a year ago

Wigan

Exactly

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By *randMrsLPCouple
over a year ago

london

For the record - i rarely reply to a so-called couple where mr is playing alone. Block them, our choice as it is yours.

I recall meeting men frequently on a nautust beach and the club we used to go to - they would often say, "my gf/wife is joining me in a while..." You know the "GF/wife" they were referring to, yes, the imaginary one. As we got more confident re club/beach, I used to say, we are a bit buy now, come back when she is here, lol

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Anything that shows someone hasn't read our profile before messaging is a red flag.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"For the record - i rarely reply to a so-called couple where mr is playing alone. Block them, our choice as it is yours.

I recall meeting men frequently on a nautust beach and the club we used to go to - they would often say, "my gf/wife is joining me in a while..." You know the "GF/wife" they were referring to, yes, the imaginary one. As we got more confident re club/beach, I used to say, we are a bit buy now, come back when she is here, lol "

With regards clubs sometimes due to commitments I'll be there alone with Mrs coming to meet me later (or the other way round). Or either of us on the rare occasion there alone all evening or with freinds. However I'm not there to be entertained by people seeing me as a stepping stone to the Mrs. I wouldn't want that. When I'm there alone I just want people who are intrested in me as an individual.

And why would anyone who just wants couples play with guy before the Mrs comes? I don't know what guys aim to achieve by lying about it? It depends the context of how a guy says it but likewise if we smell BS as a way to win favour with us we'd say the same

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By *oneybee1001Woman
over a year ago

Around and about


"Profiles full of pics of close ups of genitalia (eww) that’s both penis AND vagina

Shouty profiles with list more of what they’re NOT looking for as opposed to what they are looking for

Anyone who expresses their preferences in a way that can be deemed derogatory or discriminatory

Messages requesting things I don’t feel comfortable with or trying to push boundaries (E.g. asking couples asking if I want to play with the male half too when my profile clearly states I’m straight)

"

Yup sums it up for me (well except for couples, they ask if I want to play with females and I'm straight too!)

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

red flag is when you go back to a lady s house and her husband is hiding behind the Kitchen door with a machete !

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By *uriouscouple4fun2022Couple
over a year ago

Kempston

Single guys hesitant to send a face pic and their profile says "cannot accommodate" - married/relationship

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