FabSwingers.com forum: One sided sex.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What are people's views on when sex is always one sided?

She loves it anywhere ad everywhere.

She gets want she wants.

I love giving her oral, I love pleasing her.

But when I want something I.e blowjob/ her on top it's just a blunt NO!

Turns me off and normally ends up with us stopping and arguing.

What are people views on this???

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Who's she ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if she won't give you what you want ...then don't give her what she wants ..it's a two way thing ..unless there's 3 of you lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

;) I love to please a woman, but a simple thing as a blowjob or her riding me on top isn't hard in my mind.

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

Don't understand this ....... She should want to please you, its a two way thing, the more horny he gets the more horny I get and vice versa.

I can't stand double standards and view this as being very selfish

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

";) I love to please a woman, but a simple thing as a blowjob or her riding me on top isn't hard in my mind. "

Not hard in her either by the sounds. Ask her why? Compromise? Like doing it sideways?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I truly believe it is worth taking the time to get to know a person prior to meeting him/her for sexy fun.

I make a point in finding out a potential new gent's likes and dislikes prior to meeting him. In turn, I would let him know my own likes and dislikes.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Talk to the lady in question, maybe she feels inhibited and you expecting certain things will make her more so. Don't discuss "her" with strangers discuss her with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like my ex wife lol some of the ladies on here have opened my eyes thank god

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By *orkscrew CurlsWoman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

Sounds like she has to be in control, and would do best with a submissive guy.

If that isn't you then I doubt she will change, or you will get any happier with the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i like to please a man, most of the time.

even if they arent doing much to please me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if she won't give you what you want ...then don't give her what she wants ..it's a two way thing ..unless there's 3 of you lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talk to the lady in question, maybe she feels inhibited and you expecting certain things will make her more so. Don't discuss "her" with strangers discuss her with her."

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

in life there will always be the "givers" and the "takers" . some people only think about themsleves be it pleasure or forwarding their career. best to be frank with the lady in question . if they are your partner they should care about your needs as well ,if not maybe time to reconsider the relationship. if they are a swing meet why are you even arguing?? move on to someone who understands sex is a two way thing and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've only got yourself to blame for being a doormat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've only got yourself to blame for being a doormat."

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By *hris148Man
over a year ago

I agree with this comment the most.....

"in life there will always be the "givers" and the "takers" . some people only think about themsleves be it pleasure or forwarding their career. best to be frank with the lady in question . if they are your partner they should care about your needs as well ,if not maybe time to reconsider the relationship. if they are a swing meet why are you even arguing?? move on to someone who understands sex is a two way thing and enjoy! "

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By *uncouple981Couple
over a year ago

ayrshire

Why don't you look at your last post on this subject?

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I rarely go on top. I just don't particularly enjoy it and if it's not fun i can't get a good rhythm going. Very occasionally it works.

So if i was with someone and that was a big thong for home then we wouldn't be compatible. But that's a conversation to have either out of bed or maybe if you're lying there with a cup of tea all chilled and relaxed to chat - not during!

If you're not able to talk about these things away from sex then you have three choices: make it clear you need to talk about this, move on, or accept how things are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are people's views on when sex is always one sided?

She loves it anywhere ad everywhere.

She gets want she wants.

I love giving her oral, I love pleasing her.

But when I want something I.e blowjob/ her on top it's just a blunt NO!

Turns me off and normally ends up with us stopping and arguing.

What are people views on this???"

I'm a great believer in approaching sex from the point of view of wanting to please your partner. If both of you do that your chances of a great time are improved.

If one of you pleases herself then you need to decide is what you've got with her worthwhile, or would you be happier elsewhere?

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