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By *suna24 OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry

Hi everyone. What can you do when you have a meet and people give you a fake address and you have to drive half hour for nothing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report them

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By *suna24 OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry

Thanks for reply. But how??

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By *suna24 OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry

I wrote.them a.message and i know they read it but i havent reply. I sent another message again now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report to admin

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By *suna24 OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry

Thanks for reply. I will wait a little..if they dont reply me, i report them.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"Thanks for reply. I will wait a little..if they dont reply me, i report them."

Eh? You mean to say that you are prepared to wait for someone to reply to your message about why they provided you with a fake address? What makes you think they'll reply and if they do, wouldn't it be probable they'll give you a whole lot of BS all over again?

Just report them straight off, then block and move on. Simples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did u make sure they were genuine before meeting? Such as got a phone number or did they have verifications? See them on cam?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you they gave a fake address why would you want to send them another message? Just report them to admin then nobody else will have a wasted journey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for reply. I will wait a little..if they dont reply me, i report them."

Don't wait for the reply!! I once arranged a meet with a guy, he chose a pub in Bristol, I struggled with finding it so I sent him a message, he read it but didn't respond so I didn't leave my house as I worked on the basis that he wasn't going to be there

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"Did u make sure they were genuine before meeting? Such as got a phone number or did they have verifications? See them on cam?"

Have to agree here. Though, whilst not everyone has a webcam, at least some basic points need to be covered.

Have a contact phone number so if you had got lost, you could have given them a call? Even the best laid out or supplied instructions can get confusing especially if you are driving around in a strange district.

One thing you can do is check their address via map or postcode sites, where you type in the postcode and it checks it.

Did their profile have any verifications or even a friends list option.

Did you speak on the phone at all to both of them beforehand, or was it all done via typed messages?

You got conned; it happens. You'll learn from this I'm sure.

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By *suna24 OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry

Yes,they are a verified couple..

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"Yes,they are a verified couple.."

Look at it this way'.

They are a verified couple; they know the score (or should do), and knew you were travelling half an hour or so to meet up with them, so you were going out of your way to travel to them

Then they supply an address you can't find, that's inconveniencing you and now they won't respond to your enquiry message?

Get real! They aren't going to respond! Stop hoping against hope that they will!

Leave this couple well alone. Unless you let Admin know, this couple will do it again and again and inconvenience others in a similar fashion.

Report them.

Block them.

Move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone. What can you do when you have a meet and people give you a fake address and you have to drive half hour for nothing?"

Drive half an hour home. I'm not sure if it really makes any difference to them or you if you report them. Arranging to meet people for casual sex is a game of chance. Sometimes they turn up and sometimes they don't. There are no guarantees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone. What can you do when you have a meet and people give you a fake address and you have to drive half hour for nothing?"
report and block and learn from it .

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By *suna24 OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry

Thank you everyone....

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By *artsnikCouple
over a year ago

wortley

name and shame

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"name and shame"

He'll get a ban if he does that. Against the rules.

If I get told an incorrect time, place or city to meet then I don't even let the person explain. Block, report, move on.

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By *artsnikCouple
over a year ago

wortley

it would be much better to name and shame then others dont have to go through the same or have a members section like the clubs so people can leave there comments i know you can leave comments but the other person can remove

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"it would be much better to name and shame then others dont have to go through the same or have a members section like the clubs so people can leave there comments i know you can leave comments but the other person can remove"

That could be used maliciously to falsely accuse people of not turning up for a meet. What if the people the OP was due to meet actually had a family emergency and couldn't be there when he turned up? Not saying that the OP is wrong, but not all no shows are malicious, and it would be unfair to name them on here with no right of reply.

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By *artsnikCouple
over a year ago

wortley

i think something like a false address means they had no intention i know what you mean but unless they get banned from site for it other people will have the same happen to them which is not right it just puts people off meets we only meet in clubs now becourse of things like this which has really limited the amount of times we play and takes some of the fun not doing a spontaneous meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it would be much better to name and shame then others dont have to go through the same or have a members section like the clubs so people can leave there comments i know you can leave comments but the other person can remove

That could be used maliciously to falsely accuse people of not turning up for a meet. What if the people the OP was due to meet actually had a family emergency and couldn't be there when he turned up? Not saying that the OP is wrong, but not all no shows are malicious, and it would be unfair to name them on here with no right of reply."

Plus there are genuine mistakes. A couple who I'm friends with arranged to meet a couple in a pub but they never showed.

A month or so later I was at a party that both couples were at and it transpired that there are two pubs with the same name about a mile apart and each couple was sat in the other!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"One thing you can do is check their address via map or postcode sites, where you type in the postcode and it checks it."

Google maps.

Check out the house, and then ask a question about a feature, and see what response you get!

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

Are you thinking that maybe you just got the house number wrong? or something simple like that????

By sending them a message are you thinking that it may be your mistake?

DONT.

If it had been a simple mistake like that they would of replied immediatly and re-arranged.

Report, block and move on,

good luck for the future x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"i think something like a false address means they had no intention i know what you mean but unless they get banned from site for it other people will have the same happen to them which is not right it just puts people off meets we only meet in clubs now becourse of things like this which has really limited the amount of times we play and takes some of the fun not doing a spontaneous meet "

If you report someone as a no show, and they keep doing it and get reported, admin WILL deal. its better to adhere to the site rules and much more satisfying when they finally get booted than name and shame and get banned yourself.

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By *suna24 OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry

They are already report. I dont go to shame anybody, im not that kind of person. But im very Disappointed. It was to be my first fab meet. Do you know how hard it is to find a meet when you are a man and also are not verified?

Thanks a lot everyone.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool


"They are already report. I dont go to shame anybody, im not that kind of person. But im very Disappointed. It was to be my first fab meet. Do you know how hard it is to find a meet when you are a man and also are not verified?

Thanks a lot everyone. "

It wont be your last hun, just see it as experience, and thank god it wasnt a 2 hour drive

Chin up, its the weeeeekend. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm impressed that you managed to get a meet so soon into joining this community.

Given your profile is very stark and you have no visible pics.

Some guys try for months on end and have great profiles and nice pics but don't get meet opportunities.

However I'm sure you will you meet another couple who will not let you down or mess you around.

But do take the very good advice offered on here as many of the forumites are experienced and usually give sound advice.

Good Luck xxx

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Thanks for reply. I will wait a little..if they dont reply me, i report them.

Eh? You mean to say that you are prepared to wait for someone to reply to your message about why they provided you with a fake address? What makes you think they'll reply and if they do, wouldn't it be probable they'll give you a whole lot of BS all over again?

Just report them straight off, then block and move on. Simples!"

Report them, and block them from ever contacting you again, but before you block them memorise those pictures if any well and make sure you write all details including email addy's and phone numbers into your own personal blacklist as some have a habit of 'coming back for another go' on sites like these... if you get my drift

I'd have a rethink about who you contact and how the dialogue goes pre-meet to make sure you don't fall foul of such a thing happening again.

Better luck next time

Wolf

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"it would be much better to name and shame then others dont have to go through the same or have a members section like the clubs so people can leave there comments i know you can leave comments but the other person can remove"

I could come on here and lie and say you both agreed to meet me but did not show up. Name and shame could be abused. Plus it is one person or couples words against another person or couples words. How would admin decide which side is lying?

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By *suna24 OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry

I only want to say im telling the truth. I have private messages of them i could show if someone (admin) need it.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

As you have reported them now block and move on. Better luck next time.

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