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By *layerz OP   Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

Been members on here for several years and whilst enjoying the swinging scene, we have been doing it on and off for 20 years or so and regularly take holidays in Gran Canaria which we really enjoy, we have not been really outgoing on here. We meet people on holiday at Venus Resort and have a good time and enjoy the atmosphere and fun that the swinging community always seem to have.

We have made some very good lifetime friends who we still occasionally meet up with, however we have never really engaged with anyone from Fabswingers even though we would like to.

It is not all about the swinging side for us though that is important, firstly we would like to meet people as friends and have social engagements.

Does anyone else feel this way and find it hard to say this? Would be interested to learn if there are any other people who feel like they would like to be able to meet in such circumstances.

Would really be interested how others begin meetings and the arrangements they make. Look forward to hearing your replies, thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been members on here for several years and whilst enjoying the swinging scene, we have been doing it on and off for 20 years or so and regularly take holidays in Gran Canaria which we really enjoy, we have not been really outgoing on here. We meet people on holiday at Venus Resort and have a good time and enjoy the atmosphere and fun that the swinging community always seem to have.

We have made some very good lifetime friends who we still occasionally meet up with, however we have never really engaged with anyone from Fabswingers even though we would like to.

It is not all about the swinging side for us though that is important, firstly we would like to meet people as friends and have social engagements.

Does anyone else feel this way and find it hard to say this? Would be interested to learn if there are any other people who feel like they would like to be able to meet in such circumstances.

Would really be interested how others begin meetings and the arrangements they make. Look forward to hearing your replies, thank you."

As a younger lad the longer I’ve been on fab the more I’m realising it’s not a hook up site but more a networking one. The amount of weirdos on here are starting to make me want to stick to going to clubs only

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Been members on here for several years and whilst enjoying the swinging scene, we have been doing it on and off for 20 years or so and regularly take holidays in Gran Canaria which we really enjoy, we have not been really outgoing on here. We meet people on holiday at Venus Resort and have a good time and enjoy the atmosphere and fun that the swinging community always seem to have.

We have made some very good lifetime friends who we still occasionally meet up with, however we have never really engaged with anyone from Fabswingers even though we would like to.

It is not all about the swinging side for us though that is important, firstly we would like to meet people as friends and have social engagements.

Does anyone else feel this way and find it hard to say this? Would be interested to learn if there are any other people who feel like they would like to be able to meet in such circumstances.

Would really be interested how others begin meetings and the arrangements they make. Look forward to hearing your replies, thank you."

Think there are many, couples especially, that are happy to start socially and perhaps become friends in the broader sense. A lot of the local private party and group social scene is very social as well. Saying that most meeting privately probably want to see a route to it leading somewhere more physical. With my partner we used to be happy with one social with play completely off the table but we've stopped doing that as found too many times we ended up with people who just wanted social after social. For us now it social with possibly of playing on first meet (and almost always that's what happens).

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

People we meet face to face in clubs far outstrip the ones we have met via Fab, although when we do meet we generally get on very well. Half the battle is getting someone you chat to being in the same place at the same time. But if you meet in a club you are already there.

We won't give up on Fab though, even though numbers are lower, the people we have met via Fab have been amazing and we want to keep doing it.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Been members on here for several years and whilst enjoying the swinging scene, we have been doing it on and off for 20 years or so and regularly take holidays in Gran Canaria which we really enjoy, we have not been really outgoing on here. We meet people on holiday at Venus Resort and have a good time and enjoy the atmosphere and fun that the swinging community always seem to have.

We have made some very good lifetime friends who we still occasionally meet up with, however we have never really engaged with anyone from Fabswingers even though we would like to.

It is not all about the swinging side for us though that is important, firstly we would like to meet people as friends and have social engagements.

Does anyone else feel this way and find it hard to say this? Would be interested to learn if there are any other people who feel like they would like to be able to meet in such circumstances.

Would really be interested how others begin meetings and the arrangements they make. Look forward to hearing your replies, thank you.

As a younger lad the longer I’ve been on fab the more I’m realising it’s not a hook up site but more a networking one. The amount of weirdos on here are starting to make me want to stick to going to clubs only "

Trust me, same for older...pity

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By *randMrsLPCouple
over a year ago

london

As we now dont do clubs, all guys are via FS

We have meet several guys face to face but that was on a naturist beach and nothing more than a chat, they got hard on as they talked mainly to Mrs P and went back to do whatever most men would do in their dune or little tent they had or mobile carvan

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By *weety and BossCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

We’ve meet some lovely couples on here and still remain friends and play when we can. When you have a good connection it’s fun to do either. We enjoy the social side just as much as the fun if it happens.

I think being friends brings a bonus to the connection and fun as you’re all relaxed with each other and know what the other ones like. We have done the odd hook up without the social side but still prefer both.

Builds trust too which is vitally important

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It can be really hard to meet other couples on fab, I'm half a couple, but we kept our single accounts for that reason.

Many want fem play and I'm straight, when you do find a couple who want the same sort of play as you, there's then the issue of 4 way attraction to consider too.

We've only met and played with a few couples on here. One we met at a social & at a later date we went to a club with them and played.

You're deffo not alone on this & we are the same in that we like to be friends with those we meet too and socialise.

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By *inks_apeyCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We don't tend to meet anyone off fab, more a networking thing, to line up people to say hello to at clubs and events etc.

Lots of people do get meets and down and dirty off here though I would think, unfortunately for a lot of people though, they expect this to be a hookup site and it's never been, swinging is a subculture and if you don't get into it then your only brushing the surface. Or that's how I see it anyhow.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Yes wearing my couples hat a lot of people do meet off here and have what you might call couples hook ups. We do and see lots of others who do. The club scene is great but lots don’t want that. Either too far from a club, too much of a palaver, cost, time, too much social side and not enough sex. Know some couples who were big clubbers but given up as clubs too social and now just meet privately for straight down to it sex. Horses for courses I guess.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Oh the other problem is that at clubs and many parties it can be fairly late before the action starts and then got to get home (I know some daytime options). Nearest club for me involves getting back 3am if hang around for most of the action. Privately can meet 7pm chat for an hour, sex for 2-3 hours and be done by 11pm ready for Horlicks and bedtime

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

When we first started we had almost zero interest in socials. Now I think we probably prefer a good social to a sex meet.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"When we first started we had almost zero interest in socials. Now I think we probably prefer a good social to a sex meet."

Grumpymcfucknugget organises the Northampton social, just had one last Saturday and talked to some really nice people, maybe we'll see you at the next one. Or, if you just see us in a club have a chat, we enjoy making friends wherever we are.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"When we first started we had almost zero interest in socials. Now I think we probably prefer a good social to a sex meet.

Grumpymcfucknugget organises the Northampton social, just had one last Saturday and talked to some really nice people, maybe we'll see you at the next one. Or, if you just see us in a club have a chat, we enjoy making friends wherever we are."

Yeah, I saw that, but we had a family event. We'll definitely look out for you. Or, we like Leicester, so maybe I'll drop you a msg if we're visiting some time.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"When we first started we had almost zero interest in socials. Now I think we probably prefer a good social to a sex meet.

Grumpymcfucknugget organises the Northampton social, just had one last Saturday and talked to some really nice people, maybe we'll see you at the next one. Or, if you just see us in a club have a chat, we enjoy making friends wherever we are.

Yeah, I saw that, but we had a family event. We'll definitely look out for you. Or, we like Leicester, so maybe I'll drop you a msg if we're visiting some time. "

A great idea, Leicester is a bit tricky at the moment though, Amigos is a bit small so we tend to go Liberty Elite, Chams or Xtasia. We like to be at our best and if we join someone it's better to have the finer things. We have had self-play social-only trips to clubs, but if we spark it's good to know we can just grab a room. PM is open if you want to align calendars x

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"When we first started we had almost zero interest in socials. Now I think we probably prefer a good social to a sex meet.

Grumpymcfucknugget organises the Northampton social, just had one last Saturday and talked to some really nice people, maybe we'll see you at the next one. Or, if you just see us in a club have a chat, we enjoy making friends wherever we are.

Yeah, I saw that, but we had a family event. We'll definitely look out for you. Or, we like Leicester, so maybe I'll drop you a msg if we're visiting some time.

A great idea, Leicester is a bit tricky at the moment though, Amigos is a bit small so we tend to go Liberty Elite, Chams or Xtasia. We like to be at our best and if we join someone it's better to have the finer things. We have had self-play social-only trips to clubs, but if we spark it's good to know we can just grab a room. PM is open if you want to align calendars x"

I was thinking just a pub or coffee shop, but good to know we have options!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh the other problem is that at clubs and many parties it can be fairly late before the action starts and then got to get home (I know some daytime options). Nearest club for me involves getting back 3am if hang around for most of the action. Privately can meet 7pm chat for an hour, sex for 2-3 hours and be done by 11pm ready for Horlicks and bedtime "

I’m the same. I get that clubs involve meeting people new and getting to chat first but the late play is a killer. I like evening time, drink, food, sex and sleep not at 4am

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Oh the other problem is that at clubs and many parties it can be fairly late before the action starts and then got to get home (I know some daytime options). Nearest club for me involves getting back 3am if hang around for most of the action. Privately can meet 7pm chat for an hour, sex for 2-3 hours and be done by 11pm ready for Horlicks and bedtime

I’m the same. I get that clubs involve meeting people new and getting to chat first but the late play is a killer. I like evening time, drink, food, sex and sleep not at 4am "

It's a very odd dynamic at times. I know an event organiser who finds it frustrating. Playroom can be empty at 11pm, a few at midnight but buzzing come 1-2am and then they have to close and kick people out when they still want to carry on.

Six of us meeting Saturday privately. Some I've had fun with and some not met before. But we are all on the same page and barring a complete disaster I suspect a bundle of bodies on the bed by 9pm latest

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Late starts are almost annoying, as Mr can go several times with a drink between, leaving it to the last 2 hours is wasteful when there's so much more in the tank.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We love the friendship of it all. Funny how people have different out looks though. We are in a solid relationship which makes this lifestyle perfect for us. We were chatting to a couple in a club not so long ago about this and saying how becoming friends just make every meet better and better and also like you said OP not all about the sex. Anyway they told us they only meet people maximun twice as they are worried feelings would come into the equation. To us that means they haven't got such a solid relationship if they think one of them may develop feelings and run off with someone. But hey ho we don't judge and if it works for them and all that. We believe there is no room for jealousy as that creates drama and we've all seen drama in a club at some point

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"We love the friendship of it all. Funny how people have different out looks though. We are in a solid relationship which makes this lifestyle perfect for us. We were chatting to a couple in a club not so long ago about this and saying how becoming friends just make every meet better and better and also like you said OP not all about the sex. Anyway they told us they only meet people maximun twice as they are worried feelings would come into the equation. To us that means they haven't got such a solid relationship if they think one of them may develop feelings and run off with someone. But hey ho we don't judge and if it works for them and all that. We believe there is no room for jealousy as that creates drama and we've all seen drama in a club at some point "

Wearing couples hat we very rarely meet anyone more than twice as well (well play meet more than twice). To be honest the real reason is we get bored and like the excitement of the chase and new people. However, you can't say we'd get bored meeting you more than twice so the feelings line is a good excuse. It might be true of course but possible just covering

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By *fternoon-DelightMan
52 weeks ago

Southend-on-sea

Hi, I totally agree about clubs usually leading to a very late night out. I'd love to know more about the daytime options you mentioned :0)

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By *arl17Man
52 weeks ago

Central Portugal


"As we now dont do clubs, all guys are via FS

We have meet several guys face to face but that was on a naturist beach and nothing more than a chat, they got hard on as they talked mainly to Mrs P and went back to do whatever most men would do in their dune or little tent they had or mobile carvan

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What was that?

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I have been on fab for many years off and on. I have used it to solely arrange meets but I now tend to stick to clubs.

This way works for me.

The aligning of schedules and arranging things in advance started to take the fun out of it a little for me, we're all busy so it was necessary; this way I'm in the mood and there already so I can do the social bit and proceed onto more if we want to.

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By *fternoon-DelightMan
9 weeks ago

Southend-on-sea

Totally agree about the issue of clubs meaning a very late night. I'd be grateful to see the daytime options you know of

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By *andK123Couple
9 weeks ago

Devon

I find everyone’s ideas of the swinging world so interesting, and I feel very shallow when I read them. It’s really weird with us, we have no interest in finding friends or chatting, we go to clubs and prefer not to play with people we talk to. It just feels weird chatting with people then playing . if we wanted to go for a social we would join a social club. We often have our fun and leave. Are we terrible ? lol .

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By *arl17Man
8 weeks ago

Central Portugal


"I find everyone’s ideas of the swinging world so interesting, and I feel very shallow when I read them. It’s really weird with us, we have no interest in finding friends or chatting, we go to clubs and prefer not to play with people we talk to. It just feels weird chatting with people then playing . if we wanted to go for a social we would join a social club. We often have our fun and leave. Are we terrible ? lol . "

You do but you don't... Yup... Weird...

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