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"Been members on here for several years and whilst enjoying the swinging scene, we have been doing it on and off for 20 years or so and regularly take holidays in Gran Canaria which we really enjoy, we have not been really outgoing on here. We meet people on holiday at Venus Resort and have a good time and enjoy the atmosphere and fun that the swinging community always seem to have. We have made some very good lifetime friends who we still occasionally meet up with, however we have never really engaged with anyone from Fabswingers even though we would like to. It is not all about the swinging side for us though that is important, firstly we would like to meet people as friends and have social engagements. Does anyone else feel this way and find it hard to say this? Would be interested to learn if there are any other people who feel like they would like to be able to meet in such circumstances. Would really be interested how others begin meetings and the arrangements they make. Look forward to hearing your replies, thank you." Think there are many, couples especially, that are happy to start socially and perhaps become friends in the broader sense. A lot of the local private party and group social scene is very social as well. Saying that most meeting privately probably want to see a route to it leading somewhere more physical. With my partner we used to be happy with one social with play completely off the table but we've stopped doing that as found too many times we ended up with people who just wanted social after social. For us now it social with possibly of playing on first meet (and almost always that's what happens). | |||
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"Been members on here for several years and whilst enjoying the swinging scene, we have been doing it on and off for 20 years or so and regularly take holidays in Gran Canaria which we really enjoy, we have not been really outgoing on here. We meet people on holiday at Venus Resort and have a good time and enjoy the atmosphere and fun that the swinging community always seem to have. We have made some very good lifetime friends who we still occasionally meet up with, however we have never really engaged with anyone from Fabswingers even though we would like to. It is not all about the swinging side for us though that is important, firstly we would like to meet people as friends and have social engagements. Does anyone else feel this way and find it hard to say this? Would be interested to learn if there are any other people who feel like they would like to be able to meet in such circumstances. Would really be interested how others begin meetings and the arrangements they make. Look forward to hearing your replies, thank you. As a younger lad the longer I’ve been on fab the more I’m realising it’s not a hook up site but more a networking one. The amount of weirdos on here are starting to make me want to stick to going to clubs only " Trust me, same for older...pity | |||
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"When we first started we had almost zero interest in socials. Now I think we probably prefer a good social to a sex meet." Grumpymcfucknugget organises the Northampton social, just had one last Saturday and talked to some really nice people, maybe we'll see you at the next one. Or, if you just see us in a club have a chat, we enjoy making friends wherever we are. | |||
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"When we first started we had almost zero interest in socials. Now I think we probably prefer a good social to a sex meet. Grumpymcfucknugget organises the Northampton social, just had one last Saturday and talked to some really nice people, maybe we'll see you at the next one. Or, if you just see us in a club have a chat, we enjoy making friends wherever we are." Yeah, I saw that, but we had a family event. We'll definitely look out for you. Or, we like Leicester, so maybe I'll drop you a msg if we're visiting some time. | |||
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"When we first started we had almost zero interest in socials. Now I think we probably prefer a good social to a sex meet. Grumpymcfucknugget organises the Northampton social, just had one last Saturday and talked to some really nice people, maybe we'll see you at the next one. Or, if you just see us in a club have a chat, we enjoy making friends wherever we are. Yeah, I saw that, but we had a family event. We'll definitely look out for you. Or, we like Leicester, so maybe I'll drop you a msg if we're visiting some time. " A great idea, Leicester is a bit tricky at the moment though, Amigos is a bit small so we tend to go Liberty Elite, Chams or Xtasia. We like to be at our best and if we join someone it's better to have the finer things. We have had self-play social-only trips to clubs, but if we spark it's good to know we can just grab a room. PM is open if you want to align calendars x | |||
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"When we first started we had almost zero interest in socials. Now I think we probably prefer a good social to a sex meet. Grumpymcfucknugget organises the Northampton social, just had one last Saturday and talked to some really nice people, maybe we'll see you at the next one. Or, if you just see us in a club have a chat, we enjoy making friends wherever we are. Yeah, I saw that, but we had a family event. We'll definitely look out for you. Or, we like Leicester, so maybe I'll drop you a msg if we're visiting some time. A great idea, Leicester is a bit tricky at the moment though, Amigos is a bit small so we tend to go Liberty Elite, Chams or Xtasia. We like to be at our best and if we join someone it's better to have the finer things. We have had self-play social-only trips to clubs, but if we spark it's good to know we can just grab a room. PM is open if you want to align calendars x" I was thinking just a pub or coffee shop, but good to know we have options! | |||
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"Oh the other problem is that at clubs and many parties it can be fairly late before the action starts and then got to get home (I know some daytime options). Nearest club for me involves getting back 3am if hang around for most of the action. Privately can meet 7pm chat for an hour, sex for 2-3 hours and be done by 11pm ready for Horlicks and bedtime " I’m the same. I get that clubs involve meeting people new and getting to chat first but the late play is a killer. I like evening time, drink, food, sex and sleep not at 4am | |||
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"Oh the other problem is that at clubs and many parties it can be fairly late before the action starts and then got to get home (I know some daytime options). Nearest club for me involves getting back 3am if hang around for most of the action. Privately can meet 7pm chat for an hour, sex for 2-3 hours and be done by 11pm ready for Horlicks and bedtime I’m the same. I get that clubs involve meeting people new and getting to chat first but the late play is a killer. I like evening time, drink, food, sex and sleep not at 4am " It's a very odd dynamic at times. I know an event organiser who finds it frustrating. Playroom can be empty at 11pm, a few at midnight but buzzing come 1-2am and then they have to close and kick people out when they still want to carry on. Six of us meeting Saturday privately. Some I've had fun with and some not met before. But we are all on the same page and barring a complete disaster I suspect a bundle of bodies on the bed by 9pm latest | |||
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"We love the friendship of it all. Funny how people have different out looks though. We are in a solid relationship which makes this lifestyle perfect for us. We were chatting to a couple in a club not so long ago about this and saying how becoming friends just make every meet better and better and also like you said OP not all about the sex. Anyway they told us they only meet people maximun twice as they are worried feelings would come into the equation. To us that means they haven't got such a solid relationship if they think one of them may develop feelings and run off with someone. But hey ho we don't judge and if it works for them and all that. We believe there is no room for jealousy as that creates drama and we've all seen drama in a club at some point " Wearing couples hat we very rarely meet anyone more than twice as well (well play meet more than twice). To be honest the real reason is we get bored and like the excitement of the chase and new people. However, you can't say we'd get bored meeting you more than twice so the feelings line is a good excuse. It might be true of course but possible just covering | |||
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"As we now dont do clubs, all guys are via FS We have meet several guys face to face but that was on a naturist beach and nothing more than a chat, they got hard on as they talked mainly to Mrs P and went back to do whatever most men would do in their dune or little tent they had or mobile carvan " What was that? | |||
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"I find everyone’s ideas of the swinging world so interesting, and I feel very shallow when I read them. It’s really weird with us, we have no interest in finding friends or chatting, we go to clubs and prefer not to play with people we talk to. It just feels weird chatting with people then playing . if we wanted to go for a social we would join a social club. We often have our fun and leave. Are we terrible ? lol . " You do but you don't... Yup... Weird... | |||
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