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By *ME662 OP   Man
over a year ago

inverness

So I’ve been on and off here for a while and I have never had any success. 99% when I message people they just read and don’t reply or delete. I understand I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea but I’m not sure if it’s just me? Some advice would be much appreciated!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

What kind of messages are you sending OP?

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By *lickdee1Man
over a year ago

Dundee

Hey, maybe remove the cock pics from your profile and just have underwear/body pics might help

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

What were your expectations when you joined?

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By *ME662 OP   Man
over a year ago

inverness

Thanks, I really appreciate the feedback you’re the second person to say that! I guess I just went off what some others were doing so never have it a second thought! I’ll definitely give it a try. Thanks again

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By *ME662 OP   Man
over a year ago

inverness

Just realised I replied to the wrong reply! I guess I was just looking to talk and see what happened organically if that makes sense?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

For me, I get a hundred hey how are you do you want to chat messages a day.

Without an actual topic or genuine attempt to engage, the answer is no, I don't want to do the legwork on chatting to someone who probably copy pasted the same message out to every viable orifice.

Side note, a reply on the forum isn't an invitation to an inbox.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi op

Maybe being honest with your own sexuality, don't feel uncomfortable would be less judgement as it t seems like a double edged sword

Good luck pal

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By *ME662 OP   Man
over a year ago

inverness

Yeah that makes sense, sorry about that I just feel uncomfortable as I guess this is the first time I’ve ever really put myself out there on a public platform, but I take your point that wasn’t cool. Thanks for the advice though it really is appreciated! I’ll definitely try to change the way I word my messages and as you said do the legwork!

Thanks again

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Personally the cock pics and some random woman hanging off it would put me off from reading further.

Your profile is your shop window, maybe make it more about you and less about just the cock, there's 1000's of men that think showing their cock will get them laid, stand out from the tons.

Bio could do with a bit more about yourself, what your into what your looking for.

Can't comment on the messages.

Mrs

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By *ME662 OP   Man
over a year ago

inverness

Thank you so much! Yeah I guess it’s not easy to talk about yourself but you’re absolutely right! Also a great way of putting it into perspective! Appreciate the help.

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

Good approach chat us up.

Think your chatting in nightclub.

You wouldn't say hi nice tits for example but they do frequently. On line how are you doing not gonna work easy way to get a do thanks.

We get loads of messages daily and 99% of them have no effort or good introduction.

And most woman have 0 Intrest in a dick pic till we have decided to go further then maybe a peek.

There are hundreds of guys to each girls you have to stand out with the right approach and effort. Takes a bit of graft to get our attention.

And main things, no random dock pics, not friend invites and don't be a pest

Good luck mnj xxxxx

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

You're very young and have a very limited age range that you are interested in. Not many people start swinging until a bit later on in life, and some may even have kids around your age so they'd prefer not to engage.

Please, what's with the text speak? I'm talking about the "hmu" in your profile. Hope you're not using text speak in your messages as that really puts me off. You're not paying per letter so please put full words on.

Your profile is your shop window, people would not message you to ask for further information or photos, they'd just move on to another profile that has all the info readily available. Think about it as if you're going shopping: you have two shops next to each other, both appear to offer the same items but one is gloomy, unwelcoming and without much on display whereas the other is brightly lit, maybe with "sale" signs plastered all over and an interesting display. Which one are you more likely to visit?

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By *ME662 OP   Man
over a year ago

inverness

Thank you so much!!

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By *ME662 OP   Man
over a year ago

inverness

Thank you so much!

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