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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey everyone,

So I’m now trying to explore the group side of swinging, joining in with couples or 3some etc. I’ve never had such experiences and wondered if you lovely people have some insight. Any tips for a first timer, how it usually goes with a couple etc.

Thanks!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bump

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
over a year ago

Chester

I think the reason you’ve had no replies is that there is no such thing as ‘usual’.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"I think the reason you’ve had no replies is that there is no such thing as ‘usual’. "

I really don’t know what insight or tips he’s expecting to receive, unless he doesn’t know how to interact with more than one person at the same time or doesn’t know how to be intimate and sexual with people then there isn’t much else he needs to know. Surely he has a pretty clear idea of what a threesome is, surely he’s imagined what it will be like to experience a threesome and surely he’s watched plenty of threesome porn videos so it’s not like he’s going into it completely oblivious and unprepared.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

OP something I found out early on when playing with couples is that you are often are a player in their game.It has a slightly different dynamic to how things might usually happen when it's one to one . Nothing wrong with that but need to adapt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the reason you’ve had no replies is that there is no such thing as ‘usual’. "

I’ve not really been messaging, it’s just a thread to ask for advice and learn about that side of swinging but thanks anyway…

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the reason you’ve had no replies is that there is no such thing as ‘usual’.

I really don’t know what insight or tips he’s expecting to receive, unless he doesn’t know how to interact with more than one person at the same time or doesn’t know how to be intimate and sexual with people then there isn’t much else he needs to know. Surely he has a pretty clear idea of what a threesome is, surely he’s imagined what it will be like to experience a threesome and surely he’s watched plenty of threesome porn videos so it’s not like he’s going into it completely oblivious and unprepared. "

It’s more so advice on what actually happens leading to it, initiation I dunno. Because I’ve never done it I’m totally clueless. Sex part I know, pretty simple I guess. But the rest of the couples part.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP something I found out early on when playing with couples is that you are often are a player in their game.It has a slightly different dynamic to how things might usually happen when it's one to one . Nothing wrong with that but need to adapt."

Thank you! This is the type of advice I needed… appreciate it sir

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

Personally, as someone who invites thirds/Groups we always put the scenario in the meet, and follow up with a message about what they can expect and ask them to give us their preferences, experience and limits (hard and soft). We follow up with the address, start, last entry and end times, and reiterate rules etc. when they arrive, we go through everything again in person briefly to ensure there wasn’t a gap in communication and re-consent everyone. Give water, snack bar and go upstairs. Show where the bathroom, loo, condom bin etc is. And then get to it. Everyone knows in advance what is expected, everyone is included in shaping the scene/scenario and leaves happy. It works for us, but everyone is different. We’re not big on surprises or go-with-the-flow mystery as we find people are more likely to get nervous and no-show. But each to their own. Xx ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With couples I find each are extremely different just like all people are different and conversations should talk place about that they are seeking from the interaction. Then you need to decide if that works for you also. It is very dependent on so many things that it is hard to give advice on how it works. It will work differently for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally, as someone who invites thirds/Groups we always put the scenario in the meet, and follow up with a message about what they can expect and ask them to give us their preferences, experience and limits (hard and soft). We follow up with the address, start, last entry and end times, and reiterate rules etc. when they arrive, we go through everything again in person briefly to ensure there wasn’t a gap in communication and re-consent everyone. Give water, snack bar and go upstairs. Show where the bathroom, loo, condom bin etc is. And then get to it. Everyone knows in advance what is expected, everyone is included in shaping the scene/scenario and leaves happy. It works for us, but everyone is different. We’re not big on surprises or go-with-the-flow mystery as we find people are more likely to get nervous and no-show. But each to their own. Xx ms "
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I like this!! Great advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"With couples I find each are extremely different just like all people are different and conversations should talk place about that they are seeking from the interaction. Then you need to decide if that works for you also. It is very dependent on so many things that it is hard to give advice on how it works. It will work differently for everyone. "

Cheers ma’am

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst


"OP something I found out early on when playing with couples is that you are often are a player in their game.It has a slightly different dynamic to how things might usually happen when it's one to one . Nothing wrong with that but need to adapt."

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Totally this. Usually as a single you might be expected to play as a

part of their scenario and fantasies. It's up to you to accept it or not, so discuss beforehand rather than during play (too late?) any expectations they have upon you and any preferences and boundaries for all people involved. A good couple should at least hear and consider your expectations, others won't give a damn. And never expect they will be your play toy, unless that's the agreed dynamic.

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple
over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border

A slightly different bit of advice, from the perspective of a male in a couple. I would be giving you intimate access to one of, if not 'the' most precious thing in my life. That means I need to trust you. If there is something which seems off, it's unlikely we'll progress.

Also, if you do get to meet a couple, make it easy for them. We've agreed to meet guys in the past, but it seems they can only meet two days after the onset of a waxing moon. When they're wearing their favourite yellow pants, and are on page 32 of Catcher in the Rye.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A slightly different bit of advice, from the perspective of a male in a couple. I would be giving you intimate access to one of, if not 'the' most precious thing in my life. That means I need to trust you. If there is something which seems off, it's unlikely we'll progress.

Also, if you do get to meet a couple, make it easy for them. We've agreed to meet guys in the past, but it seems they can only meet two days after the onset of a waxing moon. When they're wearing their favourite yellow pants, and are on page 32 of Catcher in the Rye. "

Lolll understood haha!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP something I found out early on when playing with couples is that you are often are a player in their game.It has a slightly different dynamic to how things might usually happen when it's one to one . Nothing wrong with that but need to adapt.

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Totally this. Usually as a single you might be expected to play as a

part of their scenario and fantasies. It's up to you to accept it or not, so discuss beforehand rather than during play (too late?) any expectations they have upon you and any preferences and boundaries for all people involved. A good couple should at least hear and consider your expectations, others won't give a damn. And never expect they will be your play toy, unless that's the agreed dynamic. "

Communication! Thanks!!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I really think it maybe worth exploring the club scene. We've been involved with a few bigger group things that have involved single guys. Obviously there are also couples who go to clubs looking for a single guy to join them. It's an opportunity to meet people looking for guys to share with and also space for that to happen.

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