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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It makes me laugh how many people ask advice and completely ignore it all! Mostly profile advice im talking about. I also know some people dont like the advice given or get offended but why ask in the first place if your not gonna take it on board?

One guy asked last week and got some good advice but has he changed his profile? Not one bit!

Just makes me laugh!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

In the end they can only help themselves. If he is happy with his profile then thats fine. It is annoying though when they keep asking for advice, over and over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some of them don't want advice they just hope to get noticed and who knows? maybe it works

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats something else ive seen! The same people ask advice, do nothing and ask again a week after! Are they that needy? That just puts people off more surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It makes me laugh how many people ask advice and completely ignore it all! Mostly profile advice im talking about. I also know some people dont like the advice given or get offended but why ask in the first place if your not gonna take it on board?

One guy asked last week and got some good advice but has he changed his profile? Not one bit!

Just makes me laugh! "

Better still,the ones that ask for advice, its given, then when you check back it's ' user no longer on site'. Harsh criticism soon sorts the wheat from the chaff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a round about way of getting your opinion of him maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those repeatedly asking make me laugh - they obviously don't know what happens when you click the green arrow!!

Nothing against offering advice here - whether it's newbies or long standing members. But if they're expecting some kind of magic wand or formula - they'll always be disappointed!

You'll always do best being yourself - not what you think others want to see/hear!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all about attention seeking i think. Possibly after a sympathy shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because ultimately, just about every 'profile advice' thread is basically a plea.....'please look at me'

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Just because advice is given doesn't mean the person has to do it.

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

...or it's the advice they didn't want to hear anyone say...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I have found in my life that every time I ask for advice I don't really want to hear the answer and usually completely ignore it..... then set about learning the hard way that the advice given was indeed sound.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because ultimately, just about every 'profile advice' thread is basically a plea.....'please look at me' "

Surely every single thread (and post?) ever is a way of saying 'look at me'.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Because ultimately, just about every 'profile advice' thread is basically a plea.....'please look at me'

Surely every single thread (and post?) ever is a way of saying 'look at me'. "

agree, we are all here to attract attention in one way or another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have stopped commenting on those as most take no notice and do nothing

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It makes me laugh how many people ask advice and completely ignore it all! Mostly profile advice im talking about. I also know some people dont like the advice given or get offended but why ask in the first place if your not gonna take it on board?

One guy asked last week and got some good advice but has he changed his profile? Not one bit!

Just makes me laugh! "

Because they don't really want advice they just want people to look at their profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree we are all advertising ourselves and when we started our joint profile I listened to a lot of advice and it worked for us. I suppose that does show whos genuine as people do actually listen to what others have to say.

Its also right that people dont have to listen but if they did they might realise that they might become successful and have loads of fun!

Thats the point of fab, right? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they don't really want advice they just want people to look at their profile. "

There would be no need to ask for advice on a profile, if people read and used similar posts to gather information and advice others have given. The same things keep coming up and the same advice is handed out. There's even a "single guys guide" buried in the forums somewhere if they cared to look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because advice is given doesn't mean the person has to do it.

"

While this is true it does prompt the question why ask in the first place?

But equally I'm always a bit bemused when people take on every bit of advice thus creating a photofit profile that they hope will please everyone.

I always think that the people that will go on and be succesful here aree those that re-write taking on board the bits of advice that they feel are relevent to them. To me they are the ones that genuinely wanted advice.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Because they don't really want advice they just want people to look at their profile.

There would be no need to ask for advice on a profile, if people read and used similar posts to gather information and advice others have given. The same things keep coming up and the same advice is handed out. There's even a "single guys guide" buried in the forums somewhere if they cared to look."

Do you honestly think grown men, with the acumen to find the site really need the "what am I doing wrong?" approach? Of course not!

SOME men are so flipping lazy and unimaginative they join expecting cock hungry sluts to drop at their feet. It must come as a major shock to discover a montage of their cocks stretched along Sky remotes are not a winning formula that makes panties fall down!

Rather than look up other threads they start their own in the vain hope a cock hungry slut happens along!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

loads do.....

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool


"Its all about attention seeking i think. Possibly after a sympathy shag "

Still laughing at that ^^^ Im thinking of starting a new website 'sympath shag. com' love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its all about attention seeking i think. Possibly after a sympathy shag "

As above!

Haven't been on the forums in a while, what have we missed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they don't really want advice they just want people to look at their profile.

There would be no need to ask for advice on a profile, if people read and used similar posts to gather information and advice others have given. The same things keep coming up and the same advice is handed out. There's even a "single guys guide" buried in the forums somewhere if they cared to look.

Do you honestly think grown men, with the acumen to find the site really need the "what am I doing wrong?" approach? Of course not!

SOME men are so flipping lazy and unimaginative they join expecting cock hungry sluts to drop at their feet. It must come as a major shock to discover a montage of their cocks stretched along Sky remotes are not a winning formula that makes panties fall down!

Rather than look up other threads they start their own in the vain hope a cock hungry slut happens along! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because they don't really want advice they just want people to look at their profile.

There would be no need to ask for advice on a profile, if people read and used similar posts to gather information and advice others have given. The same things keep coming up and the same advice is handed out. There's even a "single guys guide" buried in the forums somewhere if they cared to look.

Do you honestly think grown men, with the acumen to find the site really need the "what am I doing wrong?" approach? Of course not!

SOME men are so flipping lazy and unimaginative they join expecting cock hungry sluts to drop at their feet. It must come as a major shock to discover a montage of their cocks stretched along Sky remotes are not a winning formula that makes panties fall down!

Rather than look up other threads they start their own in the vain hope a cock hungry slut happens along! "

Lol thats so funny, and so right!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its all about attention seeking i think. Possibly after a sympathy shag

Still laughing at that ^^^ Im thinking of starting a new website 'sympath shag. com' love it.

"

U really would make millions! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have the time and motivation to check whether someone has taken advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a newbie to this site. I don't understand why ppl need advice on how to write their profile.. Its clear what this site is for before they joined, so why the need to ask?

Ppl obviously know what they want or they wouldn't have joined in the first place?

Personally I think if you have to ask, is this place really for them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take my advice your advice must be shite!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm a newbie to this site. I don't understand why ppl need advice on how to write their profile.. Its clear what this site is for before they joined, so why the need to ask?

Ppl obviously know what they want or they wouldn't have joined in the first place?

Personally I think if you have to ask, is this place really for them ?"

My point, exactly!

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Advice is useful to help one make a decision..it isn't always a reason for changing ones mind, surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

End of the day its his profile and up to him not you . xx

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By *amie0151Man
over a year ago

Wallasey


"It makes me laugh how many people ask advice and completely ignore it all! Mostly profile advice im talking about. I also know some people dont like the advice given or get offended but why ask in the first place if your not gonna take it on board?

One guy asked last week and got some good advice but has he changed his profile? Not one bit!

Just makes me laugh! "

I think it's probably a cheeky and sneaky ploy to get Fabber's to look at their profiles... negative attention's better than no attention so they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It makes me laugh how many people ask advice and completely ignore it all! Mostly profile advice im talking about. I also know some people dont like the advice given or get offended but why ask in the first place if your not gonna take it on board?

One guy asked last week and got some good advice but has he changed his profile? Not one bit!

Just makes me laugh!

I think it's probably a cheeky and sneaky ploy to get Fabber's to look at their profiles... negative attention's better than no attention so they say "
you could be right xx

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Cynical or what? Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a newbie to this site. I don't understand why ppl need advice on how to write their profile.. Its clear what this site is for before they joined, so why the need to ask?

Ppl obviously know what they want or they wouldn't have joined in the first place?

Personally I think if you have to ask, is this place really for them ?"

The thing is that some people register on this site and think that women will swoon at the sight of their cocks so don't particular bother with the profile, then moan that they aren't getting any meets so I agree that this really isn't the place for them

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"I'm a newbie to this site. I don't understand why ppl need advice on how to write their profile.. Its clear what this site is for before they joined, so why the need to ask?

Ppl obviously know what they want or they wouldn't have joined in the first place?

Personally I think if you have to ask, is this place really for them ?

The thing is that some people register on this site and think that women will swoon at the sight of their cocks so don't particular bother with the profile, then moan that they aren't getting any meets so I agree that this really isn't the place for them "
sad but true I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first started on this site I asked some people who have been on here for awhile what are the "do's" and "don'ts" kind of thing and for a bit of advice. But doing it in the forums is just attention seeking............ look at my profile haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Askholes, people that constantly ask for your advice and then ignore it

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Askholes, people that constantly ask for your advice and then ignore it "
always assuming your advice is good of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Askholes, people that constantly ask for your advice and then ignore it always assuming your advice is good of course! "
I have a friend that talks over your answer though lol, doesn't give me a chance to be wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I look at it is why ask for some ones advice and not take. It just defeats the object.

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Sometimes one just wants another opinion that's all. God how arrogant to assume you're advice should always be taken.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool


"Sometimes one just wants another opinion that's all. God how arrogant to assume you're advice should always be taken. "

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Sometimes one just wants another opinion that's all. God how arrogant to assume you're advice should always be taken.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

sometimes the advice given isn't what some want to hear.. so they ask again hoping to hear what they want to hear.....

in the end the only thing people can do is help themselves to help themselves.. and in that respect I am beginning to think more and more that no advice is the best advice...

people who really want to find a way will... be that thru reading topics.. or reading others profiles.... spoonfeeding doesn't make it better.....

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

There are those who only want people to agree with them. I agree, if that is all they want so that they don't feel they alone making the decision, then yes they are insecure and just winding us up.

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