FabSwingers.com forum: Profile and messaging advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I am pretty new to this, have my profile set but it doesn't seem to attract any attention in the slightest. I have messaged a few people but to no avail. Om curious as to how I can stand out and get some sort of messaging/meeting going?

Any help is greatly appreciated,

Happy fabbing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. What's your favourite cheese?

2. Will it snow on Christmas day?

3. What was number 1 on the day you were born?

4. Bananas or apples?

5. Have you ever been to Blackpool circus?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women and couples pretty much never message first. They also pretty much never reply.

Join in on the forums and make friends.

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By *nytime2023Couple
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Evening. From our point of view your profile looks decent. The problem you will find is couples and single women receive a lot of message lane everyday. We get over 30 for example and we are on the lower end, some we know get over 100! Standing out is difficult unfortunately but we make time to respond to people, even if it’s a polite no (assuming the have read our profile and send something decent, more than one word or ‘can I fuck the Mrs?’)

Socials and clubs are the single best way to achieve in this lifestyle, once you have a verification or two you may find you get more responses. Hope this helps in some way. X

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"So I am pretty new to this, have my profile set but it doesn't seem to attract any attention in the slightest. I have messaged a few people but to no avail. Om curious as to how I can stand out and get some sort of messaging/meeting going?

Any help is greatly appreciated,

Happy fabbing!"

this site is nt what you think its is or what you want it to be

Im being kind when I say, do yourself a favour and don t waste your time !

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi op

By reading your bio, use the message filters and That will stop you receiving unwanted messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just started getting replys from people and I have been on here on and off for a few years so all I can say is keep trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're a good looking guy and your profile is decent. The only thing I don't like is the negative opening part.

It's pretty hard to find people who you'd want to meet and have sex with, even for women, so don't take it too personally.

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By *opetop4UMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"You're a good looking guy and your profile is decent. The only thing I don't like is the negative opening part.

It's pretty hard to find people who you'd want to meet and have sex with, even for women, so don't take it too personally. "

I would agree with this.

Your profile is like a big fatty lamb joint. You have to cut away the large lumps of unwanted pieces to get to the nice bits!

Starting a profile with, "I'm not looking for willy", and then, "I'm a mechanic, but I was a doctor and a shop assistant" should be left out!"

The bit about getting your hair pulled is a fanny flutterer! (speaking from previous experience!)

A profile should be like a school essay.

It should have a nice introduction, the main part and then the conclusion.

I'm not too experienced in this lifestyle but I've come across a high percentage of professional people and having a profile with tidy grammar and punctuation says a lot about you.

If I've made some mistakes here, I expect that I'll get slaughtered!

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don’t need the line about guys, just set your filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with filters advice.

The last paragraph - I've seen this in someone's profile, sounds cheesy for, but that's just me maybe. Great photos. Without it, I'd reply to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree with filters advice.

The last paragraph - I've seen this in someone's profile, sounds cheesy for, but that's just me maybe. Great photos. Without it, I'd reply to you

*Without the last paragraph that is. Ffs

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If I was nit picking i'd say get rid of the pic with the horns on ,but then I hate the filters people use

Also just block men if you don't want them messaging ,it's easy to do with filters.

In regards to messages ,always read someone's profile & maybe refer to something in it so they know you've read it.

Only message those you may be a good fit for.Join in on the forums too and that will help you chat to people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for the advice and recommendations. It's hugely appreciated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women and couples pretty much never message first. They also pretty much never reply.

Join in on the forums and make friends.

And most of them view in

mode, so you'll never know that they've looked at your profile.

This appears to be yet another one of those threads where the OP seems to be under the impression that there is some secret code or magic password to getting replies and / or meets on fab and blissfully failing to understand that this is just like the 'real world' in that those you are interested in also need to fancy you in order to get things moving in the right direction and that, just because others are on fab does not mean that they are here to shag anyone and everyone who asks.

Ultimately, it all comes down to expectations and realigning them

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Profile looks decent.

Women and couples will probably look at your profile just in stealth mode so won't show up on who's looked at you.

Message wise women probably more than couples get tons of messages you'll need to stand out and get used to not many replies.

Social events are always great for meeting new people have a look at the meets and requests section see if there's any local to you.

Good luck

Mrs

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Women and couples pretty much never message first. They also pretty much never reply.

Join in on the forums and make friends.

That's taring all cpls together. We message if a profile teeks our interest.

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

It's not easy finding someone that makes your mouth water...we all have different types.Personally I reply to 98% of messages.Even to say No thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op your awash in a sea of cock, all looking to jump on the life raft of clunge.

My advice after 7 years of using fab, if your able to ( I know its not fir everyone) get to organised socials and clubs.

If you're relying on fab alone, be prepared to complete p0rn hub

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/1498263

I hope this helps

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I would suggest the first thing is to have no expectations. That way you can't be disappointed.

Only message those that you are relevant to, saying what you can offer. But don't expect a reply. Be yourself. You're an individual, pretty much unique, that's what might work for you. Make it work for you.

Just remember you are one of many. There are always people that are more attractive than yourself, for many reasons. Again, have no expectations.

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