FabSwingers.com forum: Bringing someone in.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Currently I am talking to this woman who is stunning. Been talking and seeing for a month now. Recently we got d*unk and talked about our fantasies and she mention hers would be two couples in the same room playing separately. To be honest I was happy with her saying that. I think this site could help us.

The only thing is that when we talked about it she mentioned that fantasies are there cause we can not attain them. I understand if she is a little cautious with this idea because she has never done it.

Would anyone like to give advice on how to take the next steps with this. This could be something with her as i am interested being with her. I know this is a patient game but was wondering on how to word it for her to become more at ease with. Any help would be grateful.

Thanks all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be patient and let her take the lead

There are things I want to try but don't feel comfortable doing and I would personally hate if my fwb kept bringing it up and saying things in order to rush me into being comfortable on his timeliness instead of on mine

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

As testt says really. Just give it plenty of time.

We were a long long time between first discussing it and joining here.

Actually my attitude was very much like hers. That fantasies will stay that way. And part of that was naivety as I had no idea how big the scene is and how many people practice ENM, attend sex clubs etc etc.

There's that TV programme The House is it called ? Watch that with her too perhaps.

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
over a year ago

M20

Get a mirror. Ease her in to this gently.

I’m not joking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've found discussing our fantasies during sex often leads to us wanting to make them a reality.

We essentially role play them verbally as we fuck, describing to each other the situation unfolding.

This has led to a few of them being explored in real life.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

You could maybe see if she'd go to a club with you,

There's no pressure to do anything in clubs.you can have a drink , chat to others & if you both felt like it play with each other in a room where there are others playing too.

If she says no,don't push things and give her time.one month of seeing each other is nothing in the grand scheme of things .

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

Like others have said, her leading is more likely to get long-term buy-in rather than a sporadic one-off. The mirror idea is a good one. It may also be worth considering a cam session.

Best of luck with it! I hope she has a great time exploring (if she actually wants to, if not, it’s still a super hot fantasy some dirty talk and description could be amazing for).

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

Don't get it OP. What's her fantasy? You two having sex with each other while another couple is having sex in the same room or did she mean to swap (you with the female if the couple and her work the male)?

If it is just sex between the two of you while watching, just offer to go to a club on a couples only night without any pressure on her or expectations, enjoy the experience, and call it a day if she is uncomfortable. If there both of you want to play that fantasy, go to the cinema or group play room that most good clubs have and just watch or soft play with each other while watching couples have sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your support. If you want to know, we sat down and chatted about pissible ways and she seems to be open to more ideas which is great.

We did use a mirror to get us into playing when someone is watching. I just want to thank you all for your help!

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