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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Unfortunately the quality of single men is terrible which is why most single men do so terribly on this site.

Iv been on this site as a single male as well as couples profiles with 3 ex’s before now joining with my current wife. Iv probably got a really good angle from both sides of the court to help you guys out.

So let’s get started!

Firstly profiles.

we’ll start with pictures. Some ladies like them, some don’t. The ones that do have always seemed to me to prefer artistic photos. Think about angles, background, props, shadows, mirrors and more. Theres loads you can do! Try looking through some gay websites for research purposes and see what kind of pictures those artistic gay folk are creating. Some women seem to love it!

Then theres the profile text. Again this can vary. Some like it straight to the point, what are you looking for? What are your kinks? Describe your sexuality. These women are trying to filter out the men that don’t share kinks.

Other women are looking to be left with a wet pussy after reading your profile. Again talk about your sexuality and preferences but go into some extra kinky descriptive detail. These women are open to finding new kinks so your job is to convince them into trying your kink.

Next we’ll talk about messages. The same theory applies here. Some women like it straight to the point, a short paragraph no more than a few sentences. You can talk about any fetishes that you’ve seen you share on their profile, maybe talk about something in their pictures that attracted you, maybe talk about yourself and a kink you think they’ll be interested in. Theres a lot you can talk about.

Then there’s the other type that again want you to give them a wet pussy just from reading your message. Make it dirty! Length here doesn't always matter but no more than 2-3 paragraphs max.

Things you should never message are:

1 word messages/“hey how are you?”. Imagine telling 50 different people that you’re doing good. Its long, annoying and boring. Those messages just get deleted.

Pitching a kink that they’ve clearly stated they’re not in to - we get this alot! We’re simply exhibitionists, not swingers but single men are always asking to meet up. Just makes you look like a fool and become an instant block victim.

Asking for personal details. This ones just stupid. why would we tell you where we live?? Who cares if our names on here are real or fake?

Theres probably loads more but the essential lesson to take from this is, don’t be a dick.

And please guys don’t ever double message unless its to correct a typo. We don’t care if you’re sorry that we’re not interested or you’re sorry for bothering us. It really wasn’t that much of a bother pressing delete on your message. Remember, nice guys finish last. That saying applies 100% towards the sorry guys!

And also, a tip. Couples on here many times are just friends. Sometimes they dont meet at all but they have long and detailed conversations on this site. These conversations arent always sexual. This is important to know because a lot of times couples will advise each other on which single men are abusive. If you don’t get a reply, dont ever bother sending an abusive 2nd message because you’ll lose more than just that couple!

Thirdly let’s get into some tips. How can you as a single guy get yourself out there fucking another mans wife while he watches?

First advice is on this site. Make sure your profiles good. Like iv said above its impossible to call a profile perfect for everyone so just make it represent you. If you’re creative make it creative, if you’re not then get straight to the point. Then you need to get yourself involved. Make sure you’re persistent with sending messages. Maybe even make it a goal, 10 messages a day for 6 months. The key thing to remember is, for couples when we search for single men we get a list of 10,000+ profiles. We usually browse the first 50 and then get bored/find what we’re looking for. Sitting back and waiting for profile views and messages to land in your inbox isn't going to happen (unless you can figure out how to make yourself number 1 on the search list). In order to get views and messages you have to send messages! And do it regularly if you want to succeed.

Talking about regularly if you also want to get yourself noticed, respond to people in the forums. Regularly get involved in forums. The fab forums are incredible for a huge range of sexy and also not so sexy content. And make sure everything you say is nice. No one wants to fuck someone they cant connect with mentally so make sure you always present yourself as a good person rather than a cunt.

And also try posting regular content. Space out when you upload your pics and keep refreshing your content. Update your status with kinky ideas, naughty jokes etc.

Next bit of advice is get your ass to a club. Yes it may be nerve wrecking and theres always a chance you’ll bump into someone you know but you’re goal is to fuck another mans wife right? So get your ass out there!

Now when you get there you need to make sure you have the right mindset. Theres a good 90% chance you wont get any action apart from touching yourself. You need to go in with that in mind. When you’re there talk to people! Not just ladies and definitely not just men, talk to everyone! You never know a man might have a date thats en route and you could end up joining them! Or a couple may not fancy you but they might meet a couple that do fancy you and introduce you to them. The possibilities are endless you just need to make sure youre in position to catch it when it cums!

Clubs can be really fun, its up to you to get involved. The key is to not be thirsty. It stinks and everyone can smell it a mile away. Just go out and have fun. if anything happens, dope! If not, fuck it at least you had a laugh!

Hopefully with all of that you guys will have a lot more luck!

Happy fabbing!

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

And yet you are not verified.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Thanks for the advice Harry, I really appreciate you taking the time to share the knowledge you’ve gained through your experience. I’m sure that every single male here will benefit from reading this.

I was hoping you could help us further though with some additional advice regarding what you said in your post. You state that some women like photos and some don’t, some women like profile text that is informative and straight to the point and some like profile text that will make their pussy wet, some women like to receive a message that is informative and straight to the point and some like a message that will make their pussy wet….so I’m confused as to whether i should have photos on my profile or not, should my profile text be informative and straight to the point or should it make a woman’s pussy wet, should I send messages that are informative and straight to the point or should I be sending messages that will make women’s pussy wet? Is there a way to tell whether a particular woman wants informative and straight to the point or if she wants to have a wet pussy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We’re an exhibitionist couple and weve been on here for a month. Were not looking to meet anyone so not too bothered about getting verified.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

@NickD80

No worries! Yeah theres alot of info there. You might’ve missed it but i eventually said “Like iv said above its impossible to call a profile perfect for everyone so just make it represent you. If you’re creative make it creative, if you’re not then get straight to the point”

Its difficult to tell which woman likes which profile but id advise taking a look at their profile and trying to make a judgement call. If their profile is straight to the point, go with that. If its detailed then they’ll probz like someone thats also put in some effort.

Point being there isnt 1 profile for all women. Just put yourself and your personality out there and hopefully someone that likes it will find you/get a message from you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh also iv never seen a man stating that theyre “down for anything” “open minded” “versatile” or “its up to you what happens” ever get any success with the ladies iv previously been here with.

They always prefer a man that knows what he wants. Obviously all women are different but the few examples i have are all the same.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Thanks for the advice Harry, I really appreciate you taking the time to share the knowledge you’ve gained through your experience. I’m sure that every single male here will benefit from reading this.

I was hoping you could help us further though with some additional advice regarding what you said in your post. You state that some women like photos and some don’t, some women like profile text that is informative and straight to the point and some like profile text that will make their pussy wet, some women like to receive a message that is informative and straight to the point and some like a message that will make their pussy wet….so I’m confused as to whether i should have photos on my profile or not, should my profile text be informative and straight to the point or should it make a woman’s pussy wet, should I send messages that are informative and straight to the point or should I be sending messages that will make women’s pussy wet? Is there a way to tell whether a particular woman wants informative and straight to the point or if she wants to have a wet pussy? "

lol glad it wasn't just me who was confused

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

In addition to what the OP has said I would also add "don't be put off my a lack of response, just keep going". If you get a 1 in 100 response that's pretty good going. Things do seem to be tougher on here now than they were pre pandemic but it's still possible. Message, massage, message, join forum discussions (although avoid too much time in the virus and politics rooms) and go to meetings, clubs and parties.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"@NickD80

No worries! Yeah theres alot of info there. You might’ve missed it but i eventually said “Like iv said above its impossible to call a profile perfect for everyone so just make it represent you. If you’re creative make it creative, if you’re not then get straight to the point”

Its difficult to tell which woman likes which profile but id advise taking a look at their profile and trying to make a judgement call. If their profile is straight to the point, go with that. If its detailed then they’ll probz like someone thats also put in some effort.

Point being there isnt 1 profile for all women. Just put yourself and your personality out there and hopefully someone that likes it will find you/get a message from you"

Thanks for replying and I’m sorry if I missed the information in the first post. It just seemed like you were telling us to tailor our profiles and messages to satisfy what women are looking for, but also telling us there are 2 specific and opposing things that women are looking for, so you can understand my confusion from that haha. I appreciate you clarifying it for me and I now understand that i should make my profile and messages a reflection of me and my personality rather than what i think the women you describe in your post are looking for. I agree that it’s best to show our real persona rather than trying to portray a fake one that we think will be more desirable.

So I assume your advice regarding what women look for in profiles and messages was only given as reference information rather than to guide us on writing our profiles and messages? If we should write our profiles and messages to show our true personalities rather than tailor them to suit what women are looking for then advising us on what women are looking for would be irrelevant…or do you advise that we also keep this information in mind when writing them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Essentially im saying do either one of those two.

So dont have a basic profile with nothing of substance on there and loads of ugly photos that are not very pleasant to look at. Put in some sort of effort and if youre mind is left blank by that then go for either one of those 2 options as they seem to work the best as well as covering almost every kind of personality type

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In addition to what the OP has said I would also add "don't be put off my a lack of response, just keep going". If you get a 1 in 100 response that's pretty good going. Things do seem to be tougher on here now than they were pre pandemic but it's still possible. Message, massage, message, join forum discussions (although avoid too much time in the virus and politics rooms) and go to meetings, clubs and parties. "

Well said!

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Oh also iv never seen a man stating that theyre “down for anything” “open minded” “versatile” or “its up to you what happens” ever get any success with the ladies iv previously been here with.

They always prefer a man that knows what he wants. Obviously all women are different but the few examples i have are all the same."

Do you mean that the 4 women you’ve had a couple’s profile with (3 ex’s and current wife) all prefer a man that knows what he wants? It seems obvious that all women prefer a man who knows what he wants then if that’s the case.

So for single men who are genuinely down for anything, open minded, versatile etc. do you think they should give the impression from their profile that they actually know what they want? Or do you think they should make their profile represent their true personalities as per your previous advice? Again, is your advice purely reference information or are you suggesting single men use your advice to tailor their profile to be more desirable to women?

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

What I'm getting from this is that Fab should have an option to have two profiles perhaps with a toggle switch so ladies can choose depending on their personality and mood. The first could be a "Standard Profile" profile for general use and then an option to toggle to "Wet Pussy Profile" should they be in that frame of mind. Perhaps other options could be added. My only worry is that if artistic pic inspiration for the wet pussy option is gleaned from gay website there might might be too many bleached rims on display.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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So for single men who are genuinely down for anything, open minded, versatile etc. do you think they should give the impression from their profile that they actually know what they want? Or do you think they should make their profile represent their true personalities as per your previous advice? Again, is your advice purely reference information or are you suggesting single men use your advice to tailor their profile to be more desirable to women?"

I’d say at that point they should figure it out and then pursue it. Think about what they like, and then decide what they really want to do the most.

If you don’t have a goal thats simply unattractive and that rule applies to more than just fab. Not many women find a man with no passion, goals etc attractive. Its why millionaires get so much pussy.

Regarding referencing or following. Thats for the reader to decide. Im just putting what i can see from my angle on this topic out there for those that are interested.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"

So for single men who are genuinely down for anything, open minded, versatile etc. do you think they should give the impression from their profile that they actually know what they want? Or do you think they should make their profile represent their true personalities as per your previous advice? Again, is your advice purely reference information or are you suggesting single men use your advice to tailor their profile to be more desirable to women?

I’d say at that point they should figure it out and then pursue it. Think about what they like, and then decide what they really want to do the most.

If you don’t have a goal thats simply unattractive and that rule applies to more than just fab. Not many women find a man with no passion, goals etc attractive. Its why millionaires get so much pussy.

Regarding referencing or following. Thats for the reader to decide. Im just putting what i can see from my angle on this topic out there for those that are interested."

You do realise Nick is yanking your chain don't you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You do realise Nick is yanking your chain don't you? "

Yep but im bored so why not reply to it lol

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"What I'm getting from this is that Fab should have an option to have two profiles perhaps with a toggle switch so ladies can choose depending on their personality and mood. The first could be a "Standard Profile" profile for general use and then an option to toggle to "Wet Pussy Profile" should they be in that frame of mind. Perhaps other options could be added. My only worry is that if artistic pic inspiration for the wet pussy option is gleaned from gay website there might might be too many bleached rims on display."

I was actually thinking more along the lines of single men needing 2 profiles, a straight to the point profile and a wet pussy profile so that when they want to send a straight to the point message they can send it from their straight to the point profile and wet pussy messages can be sent from their wet pussy profile. They just need to be careful not to send a straight to the point message from their wet pussy profile, or vice versa, as the woman will be attracted to either the profile or the message but put off by the other, so they’ll be completely confused….

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"

So for single men who are genuinely down for anything, open minded, versatile etc. do you think they should give the impression from their profile that they actually know what they want? Or do you think they should make their profile represent their true personalities as per your previous advice? Again, is your advice purely reference information or are you suggesting single men use your advice to tailor their profile to be more desirable to women?

I’d say at that point they should figure it out and then pursue it. Think about what they like, and then decide what they really want to do the most.

If you don’t have a goal thats simply unattractive and that rule applies to more than just fab. Not many women find a man with no passion, goals etc attractive. Its why millionaires get so much pussy.

Regarding referencing or following. Thats for the reader to decide. Im just putting what i can see from my angle on this topic out there for those that are interested.

You do realise Nick is yanking your chain don't you? "

Spoilsport….

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What I'm getting from this is that Fab should have an option to have two profiles perhaps with a toggle switch so ladies can choose depending on their personality and mood. The first could be a "Standard Profile" profile for general use and then an option to toggle to "Wet Pussy Profile" should they be in that frame of mind. Perhaps other options could be added. My only worry is that if artistic pic inspiration for the wet pussy option is gleaned from gay website there might might be too many bleached rims on display."

Lool love this! Wonder how many guys would bother creating 2 profiles though!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I was actually thinking more along the lines of single men needing 2 profiles, a straight to the point profile and a wet pussy profile so that when they want to send a straight to the point message they can send it from their straight to the point profile and wet pussy messages can be sent from their wet pussy profile. They just need to be careful not to send a straight to the point message from their wet pussy profile, or vice versa, as the woman will be attracted to either the profile or the message but put off by the other, so they’ll be completely confused…."

Mate we mightve just solved it!

Guys if you want more success. 2 profiles is the way!

Damn if only my wife let me swing. Would be making my 2 profiles now!

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"

So for single men who are genuinely down for anything, open minded, versatile etc. do you think they should give the impression from their profile that they actually know what they want? Or do you think they should make their profile represent their true personalities as per your previous advice? Again, is your advice purely reference information or are you suggesting single men use your advice to tailor their profile to be more desirable to women?

I’d say at that point they should figure it out and then pursue it. Think about what they like, and then decide what they really want to do the most.

If you don’t have a goal thats simply unattractive and that rule applies to more than just fab. Not many women find a man with no passion, goals etc attractive. Its why millionaires get so much pussy.

Regarding referencing or following. Thats for the reader to decide. Im just putting what i can see from my angle on this topic out there for those that are interested.

You do realise Nick is yanking your chain don't you? "

I was going to get into asking him about the ‘artistic gay folk’ and whether all gay folk are artistic so we can copy the style of pictures on any of their profiles or whether we need to determine which of the gay folk are artistic and only copy their style.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"What I'm getting from this is that Fab should have an option to have two profiles perhaps with a toggle switch so ladies can choose depending on their personality and mood. The first could be a "Standard Profile" profile for general use and then an option to toggle to "Wet Pussy Profile" should they be in that frame of mind. Perhaps other options could be added. My only worry is that if artistic pic inspiration for the wet pussy option is gleaned from gay website there might might be too many bleached rims on display.

Lool love this! Wonder how many guys would bother creating 2 profiles though!"

Well, I’m guessing only the guys who actually think that there are just 2 types of women, the ones looking for a straight talking man and one’s looking for a man who makes their pussy wet because the men who know that every woman is different and have their own unique tastes and desires (as is the case with men) won’t bother.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Iv been careful to not say all women are like this. I didnt talk about the ex’s and wife to show, its to say im using the examples of 4 women. Based off those examples and my own experiences as a single man i can give this advice as iv seen it work.

Of course not all women are the same. Some like artistic profiles, some don’t… some have a completely different opinion.

But if any single man is really struggling then heres some suggestions of what iv seen work successfully

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By *pforfun12Man
over a year ago

Norwich

Amzito well I don’t see much in your profile pictures so maybe you should start with yourself and post some pictures and maybe others will follow because your profile gives the impression that your got it all on the bottom so high light is with your presence

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By *pforfun12Man
over a year ago

Norwich

I new there was a bit of comedy on here if you persevere you will always here that one yes you no the one ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I was going to get into asking him about the ‘artistic gay folk’ and whether all gay folk are artistic so we can copy the style of pictures on any of their profiles or whether we need to determine which of the gay folk are artistic and only copy their style. "

Well if the gay folk are not artistic then would it be appropriate to call them artistic gay folk? No right?

Some gay people are creative af especially when it comes to erotica and picture taking. one ex in particular really loved perving on pictures of gay men which is where this suggestion came from.

Im getting bored of this now. Good night

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Amzito well I don’t see much in your profile pictures so maybe you should start with yourself and post some pictures and maybe others will follow because your profile gives the impression that your got it all on the bottom so high light is with your presence "

I would if we were trying to meet people.

We’ve got our kink of exhibitionism so our profile is built for that. The advice here doesn’t apply to our profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Came here to give some advice and instead i get the above.

Fuck it. Hope you guys have fun wanking!

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


" I was going to get into asking him about the ‘artistic gay folk’ and whether all gay folk are artistic so we can copy the style of pictures on any of their profiles or whether we need to determine which of the gay folk are artistic and only copy their style.

Well if the gay folk are not artistic then would it be appropriate to call them artistic gay folk? No right?

Some gay people are creative af especially when it comes to erotica and picture taking. one ex in particular really loved perving on pictures of gay men which is where this suggestion came from.

Im getting bored of this now. Good night "

Some straight people are creative when it comes to erotica and picture taking as well Actually lots of great pics on here among the dross or cock close-ups and bathroom mirror pics.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Came here to give some advice and instead i get the above.

Fuck it. Hope you guys have fun wanking! "

It was a good try and sure some will find it useful. I am now retreating to bed and pondering my life.....just realised I had my first group sex session before you were born. Where did the time go

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


" I was going to get into asking him about the ‘artistic gay folk’ and whether all gay folk are artistic so we can copy the style of pictures on any of their profiles or whether we need to determine which of the gay folk are artistic and only copy their style.

Well if the gay folk are not artistic then would it be appropriate to call them artistic gay folk? No right?

Some gay people are creative af especially when it comes to erotica and picture taking. one ex in particular really loved perving on pictures of gay men which is where this suggestion came from.

Im getting bored of this now. Good night

Some straight people are creative when it comes to erotica and picture taking as well Actually lots of great pics on here among the dross or cock close-ups and bathroom mirror pics. "

Maybe the straight men on here with the great pics on their profile are the ones who’ve gone onto gay sites and copied the style of pictures that the artist gay folk have on their profile….

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"And yet you are not verified. "

Idiot lol

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Oh also iv never seen a man stating that theyre “down for anything” “open minded” “versatile” or “its up to you what happens” ever get any success with the ladies iv previously been here with.

They always prefer a man that knows what he wants. Obviously all women are different but the few examples i have are all the same."

Also, your profile literally says you’re ‘always open and up for trying anything new’….so how does that tie up with you saying all your partners (including your current wife) prefer a man who knows what he wants?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most importantly read the bloody profile of those you are looking to connect with ....and I mean read what they have written and respect it !!!!

99.9% of the men who inbox me have not read my profile and just run in all eager which is such a turn off.

... if you can't take a minute to read what I have written and respect it why do you think I would ever ever want to meet you ???

It also just tells me that you are contacting me to solely satisfy YOUR NEEDS not mine.

For this reason I've just blocked all single males ...its too f**king frustrating.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Most importantly read the bloody profile of those you are looking to connect with ....and I mean read what they have written and respect it !!!!

99.9% of the men who inbox me have not read my profile and just run in all eager which is such a turn off.

... if you can't take a minute to read what I have written and respect it why do you think I would ever ever want to meet you ???

It also just tells me that you are contacting me to solely satisfy YOUR NEEDS not mine.

For this reason I've just blocked all single males ...its too f**king frustrating."

There’s a good reason why 99.9% of men who message you haven’t read your profile but I can’t say what it is as I’m not allowed to critique a profile unless they request it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most importantly read the bloody profile of those you are looking to connect with ....and I mean read what they have written and respect it !!!!

99.9% of the men who inbox me have not read my profile and just run in all eager which is such a turn off.

... if you can't take a minute to read what I have written and respect it why do you think I would ever ever want to meet you ???

It also just tells me that you are contacting me to solely satisfy YOUR NEEDS not mine.

For this reason I've just blocked all single males ...its too f**king frustrating."

Exactly right and its why i have to filter it all and delete messages before showing zito anything. Im fully aware of how the toxicity will instantly put her off the lifestyle

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By *orset.JMan
over a year ago

Weymouth


"And yet you are not verified. "

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By *orset.JMan
over a year ago

Weymouth

Op- Sassy is right.

Your advice is sound but would be so much more legitimate if you were verified. There are so many fake profile on here.

Social meets such as coffees/ web chat are all valid means of verification.

So many couples/ women on their profile that they will only chat to verified members - irrespective of how good their profile is and it is the first thing that is looked at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most importantly read the bloody profile of those you are looking to connect with ....and I mean read what they have written and respect it !!!!

99.9% of the men who inbox me have not read my profile and just run in all eager which is such a turn off.

... if you can't take a minute to read what I have written and respect it why do you think I would ever ever want to meet you ???

It also just tells me that you are contacting me to solely satisfy YOUR NEEDS not mine.

For this reason I've just blocked all single males ...its too f**king frustrating.

There’s a good reason why 99.9% of men who message you haven’t read your profile but I can’t say what it is as I’m not allowed to critique a profile unless they request it. "

Give a theoretical example then

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Most importantly read the bloody profile of those you are looking to connect with ....and I mean read what they have written and respect it !!!!

99.9% of the men who inbox me have not read my profile and just run in all eager which is such a turn off.

... if you can't take a minute to read what I have written and respect it why do you think I would ever ever want to meet you ???

It also just tells me that you are contacting me to solely satisfy YOUR NEEDS not mine.

For this reason I've just blocked all single males ...its too f**king frustrating.

There’s a good reason why 99.9% of men who message you haven’t read your profile but I can’t say what it is as I’m not allowed to critique a profile unless they request it.

Give a theoretical example then "

Too late now. We’d know who he was referring to

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

The quality of single men is great.

And it seems I’ve met a lot more of them than your profile suggests

You’re on a couple profile, not sure the need to create a forum post to bash a whole group of people seems really weird.

Block and move on from the ones you don’t want to message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most importantly read the bloody profile of those you are looking to connect with ....and I mean read what they have written and respect it !!!!

99.9% of the men who inbox me have not read my profile and just run in all eager which is such a turn off.

... if you can't take a minute to read what I have written and respect it why do you think I would ever ever want to meet you ???

It also just tells me that you are contacting me to solely satisfy YOUR NEEDS not mine.

For this reason I've just blocked all single males ...its too f**king frustrating."
go on then ...this should be a hoot

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

Offering advice to people you aren’t looking to meet

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Most importantly read the bloody profile of those you are looking to connect with ....and I mean read what they have written and respect it !!!!

99.9% of the men who inbox me have not read my profile and just run in all eager which is such a turn off.

... if you can't take a minute to read what I have written and respect it why do you think I would ever ever want to meet you ???

It also just tells me that you are contacting me to solely satisfy YOUR NEEDS not mine.

For this reason I've just blocked all single males ...its too f**king frustrating.go on then ...this should be a hoot "

I think there is selection bias among those who choose to message you. You basically only want to hear from men who have something to offer in terms of parties/orgy type invites. Almost all men on here have very little to offer in that sense so would read your profile and not message. Let’s say out of 1000 maybe 900 would fall into that category. They are the silent sensible ones you never hear from. Out of the other 100 a large chunk probably haven’t bothered to read your profile or have and think they will be just try their luck anyway. Maybe 1 or 2 of that 100 have something sensible to say on the orgy front (perhaps 1 in 1000 men). The ones you hear from are 10% of men maybe and not 99%. Most of us are sensible

PS I sometimes arrange parties and orgies with a lady friend . This is about the only sense in which I’m a 1 in 1000 unicorn

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Advice for single men

Don't post unsolicited dick pics in your first message

Be more creative with your messages but not over the top

If you say your gonna meet, turn up

If speaking to couples address them both

That's what we think anyways

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By *impcuckMan
over a year ago

edge of taunton

advice to all be yourselves so that people can make a choice based on what they see / read / hear a few couples complaining on the smallest section of the site make no difference just be you

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By *ingle To MingleMan
over a year ago

Swalwell

A large number of men on here already have 2nd and 3rd profiles. Often their fake couple profile and then their bi profile on the other fab site

It's such a pity men seem to need to lie to be seen as equals in the world of sex still. I wonder where they get that idea from and why promoting a false persona benefits them instead of being honest.

Personally, I'd rather go without than lower myself to that nonsense. Be yourself and people who like you, will like you for yourself, not the pretend version.

And maybe try to not see sex as the be all and end all of life - it's extremely boring to do so.

Your mind is your biggest sex organ, use it better.

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

Had quite a lot of males confess that they have more than one profile. And that they have at least three or four. Because they're trying to get as much attention as they can. At least six of them have told Me they were never a couple, yet they have a couples profile.

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By *ingle To MingleMan
over a year ago

Swalwell


"Advice for single men

Don't post unsolicited dick pics in your first message

Be more creative with your messages but not over the top

If you say your gonna meet, turn up

If speaking to couples address them both

That's what we think anyways

"

Advice to couples...

Don't post unsolicited dick pics.

Please get creative, the messages tend to lack any originality other than stereotypical (heard it all before) chat.

If you say you're going to meet, don't expect people to never stand you up, that's life, get over it.

When you speak to single people, write two chats, one from him and one from her - only polite if I'm talking to two people that want to be acknowledged separately, that you both reply too. Just good manners.

Anyways.

That's just what modern thinking, feminism and egalitarianism suggests

I personally don't care. I don't really know why single guys struggle, but I suspect they're just simping for someone's ego most of the time.

Try not giving a toss, it's amazing how many people want what they can't have

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

I’m taking inspiration from the gay lads then…

a kind of Queer Eye for the Fab Guy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it only me that thinks you’ve packed an awful lot in for someone who’s still only 30 OP?

Sorry to veer off the topic!

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By *nytime2023Couple
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Feel like we’re wading in to a shot storm here…but most of what has been written regarding single guys is correct. We are well verified and visit clubs, receive on average 30-40 messages a day from single guys (what we predominantly want) So many have not read our profile (which is very detailed) and send one word messages or worse, ‘hey babe’. We both have access and can read messages and if you isolate the female the male will just move it on. We’re after intimate, 3 people fun. We appreciate that to a straight guy the attraction is with the female but at least respect the relationship.

Having said that, we have met two guys on Fab who were awesome from start to finish. We just have to sift a lot to find them.

Guys, be honest and polite and that’s a start.

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley


"Advice for single men

Don't post unsolicited dick pics in your first message

Be more creative with your messages but not over the top

If you say your gonna meet, turn up

If speaking to couples address them both

That's what we think anyways

Advice to couples...

Don't post unsolicited dick pics.

Please get creative, the messages tend to lack any originality other than stereotypical (heard it all before) chat.

If you say you're going to meet, don't expect people to never stand you up, that's life, get over it.

When you speak to single people, write two chats, one from him and one from her - only polite if I'm talking to two people that want to be acknowledged separately, that you both reply too. Just good manners.

Anyways.

That's just what modern thinking, feminism and egalitarianism suggests

I personally don't care. I don't really know why single guys struggle, but I suspect they're just simping for someone's ego most of the time.

Try not giving a toss, it's amazing how many people want what they can't have "

Or your right just don't give em a chance and block em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most importantly read the bloody profile of those you are looking to connect with ....and I mean read what they have written and respect it !!!!

99.9% of the men who inbox me have not read my profile and just run in all eager which is such a turn off.

... if you can't take a minute to read what I have written and respect it why do you think I would ever ever want to meet you ???

It also just tells me that you are contacting me to solely satisfy YOUR NEEDS not mine.

For this reason I've just blocked all single males ...its too f**king frustrating.go on then ...this should be a hoot

I think there is selection bias among those who choose to message you. You basically only want to hear from men who have something to offer in terms of parties/orgy type invites. Almost all men on here have very little to offer in that sense so would read your profile and not message. Let’s say out of 1000 maybe 900 would fall into that category. They are the silent sensible ones you never hear from. Out of the other 100 a large chunk probably haven’t bothered to read your profile or have and think they will be just try their luck anyway. Maybe 1 or 2 of that 100 have something sensible to say on the orgy front (perhaps 1 in 1000 men). The ones you hear from are 10% of men maybe and not 99%. Most of us are sensible

PS I sometimes arrange parties and orgies with a lady friend . This is about the only sense in which I’m a 1 in 1000 unicorn "
99.9% of those who inbox me not 99.9% of men on here....

guess my point is proven so thanks for that ...

reading is always an issue .

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Most importantly read the bloody profile of those you are looking to connect with ....and I mean read what they have written and respect it !!!!

99.9% of the men who inbox me have not read my profile and just run in all eager which is such a turn off.

... if you can't take a minute to read what I have written and respect it why do you think I would ever ever want to meet you ???

It also just tells me that you are contacting me to solely satisfy YOUR NEEDS not mine.

For this reason I've just blocked all single males ...its too f**king frustrating.go on then ...this should be a hoot

I think there is selection bias among those who choose to message you. You basically only want to hear from men who have something to offer in terms of parties/orgy type invites. Almost all men on here have very little to offer in that sense so would read your profile and not message. Let’s say out of 1000 maybe 900 would fall into that category. They are the silent sensible ones you never hear from. Out of the other 100 a large chunk probably haven’t bothered to read your profile or have and think they will be just try their luck anyway. Maybe 1 or 2 of that 100 have something sensible to say on the orgy front (perhaps 1 in 1000 men). The ones you hear from are 10% of men maybe and not 99%. Most of us are sensible

PS I sometimes arrange parties and orgies with a lady friend . This is about the only sense in which I’m a 1 in 1000 unicorn 99.9% of those who inbox me not 99.9% of men on here....

guess my point is proven so thanks for that ...

reading is always an issue .

"

Yes I know you meant 99.9% of the men who message you. I was trying to explain why that might be the case as vast majority of men on here who ready your profile won't message you. Not sure how you think my response proves your point.

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford


"Unfortunately the quality of single men is terrible which is why most single men do so terribly on this site.

Iv been on this site as a single male as well as couples profiles with 3 ex’s before now joining with my current wife. Iv probably got a really good angle from both sides of the court to help you guys out.

So let’s get started!

Firstly profiles.

we’ll start with pictures. Some ladies like them, some don’t. The ones that do have always seemed to me to prefer artistic photos. Think about angles, background, props, shadows, mirrors and more. Theres loads you can do! Try looking through some gay websites for research purposes and see what kind of pictures those artistic gay folk are creating. Some women seem to love it!

Then theres the profile text. Again this can vary. Some like it straight to the point, what are you looking for? What are your kinks? Describe your sexuality. These women are trying to filter out the men that don’t share kinks.

Other women are looking to be left with a wet pussy after reading your profile. Again talk about your sexuality and preferences but go into some extra kinky descriptive detail. These women are open to finding new kinks so your job is to convince them into trying your kink.

Next we’ll talk about messages. The same theory applies here. Some women like it straight to the point, a short paragraph no more than a few sentences. You can talk about any fetishes that you’ve seen you share on their profile, maybe talk about something in their pictures that attracted you, maybe talk about yourself and a kink you think they’ll be interested in. Theres a lot you can talk about.

Then there’s the other type that again want you to give them a wet pussy just from reading your message. Make it dirty! Length here doesn't always matter but no more than 2-3 paragraphs max.

Things you should never message are:

1 word messages/“hey how are you?”. Imagine telling 50 different people that you’re doing good. Its long, annoying and boring. Those messages just get deleted.

Pitching a kink that they’ve clearly stated they’re not in to - we get this alot! We’re simply exhibitionists, not swingers but single men are always asking to meet up. Just makes you look like a fool and become an instant block victim.

Asking for personal details. This ones just stupid. why would we tell you where we live?? Who cares if our names on here are real or fake?

Theres probably loads more but the essential lesson to take from this is, don’t be a dick.

And please guys don’t ever double message unless its to correct a typo. We don’t care if you’re sorry that we’re not interested or you’re sorry for bothering us. It really wasn’t that much of a bother pressing delete on your message. Remember, nice guys finish last. That saying applies 100% towards the sorry guys!

And also, a tip. Couples on here many times are just friends. Sometimes they dont meet at all but they have long and detailed conversations on this site. These conversations arent always sexual. This is important to know because a lot of times couples will advise each other on which single men are abusive. If you don’t get a reply, dont ever bother sending an abusive 2nd message because you’ll lose more than just that couple!

Thirdly let’s get into some tips. How can you as a single guy get yourself out there fucking another mans wife while he watches?

First advice is on this site. Make sure your profiles good. Like iv said above its impossible to call a profile perfect for everyone so just make it represent you. If you’re creative make it creative, if you’re not then get straight to the point. Then you need to get yourself involved. Make sure you’re persistent with sending messages. Maybe even make it a goal, 10 messages a day for 6 months. The key thing to remember is, for couples when we search for single men we get a list of 10,000+ profiles. We usually browse the first 50 and then get bored/find what we’re looking for. Sitting back and waiting for profile views and messages to land in your inbox isn't going to happen (unless you can figure out how to make yourself number 1 on the search list). In order to get views and messages you have to send messages! And do it regularly if you want to succeed.

Talking about regularly if you also want to get yourself noticed, respond to people in the forums. Regularly get involved in forums. The fab forums are incredible for a huge range of sexy and also not so sexy content. And make sure everything you say is nice. No one wants to fuck someone they cant connect with mentally so make sure you always present yourself as a good person rather than a cunt.

And also try posting regular content. Space out when you upload your pics and keep refreshing your content. Update your status with kinky ideas, naughty jokes etc.

Next bit of advice is get your ass to a club. Yes it may be nerve wrecking and theres always a chance you’ll bump into someone you know but you’re goal is to fuck another mans wife right? So get your ass out there!

Now when you get there you need to make sure you have the right mindset. Theres a good 90% chance you wont get any action apart from touching yourself. You need to go in with that in mind. When you’re there talk to people! Not just ladies and definitely not just men, talk to everyone! You never know a man might have a date thats en route and you could end up joining them! Or a couple may not fancy you but they might meet a couple that do fancy you and introduce you to them. The possibilities are endless you just need to make sure youre in position to catch it when it cums!

Clubs can be really fun, its up to you to get involved. The key is to not be thirsty. It stinks and everyone can smell it a mile away. Just go out and have fun. if anything happens, dope! If not, fuck it at least you had a laugh!

Hopefully with all of that you guys will have a lot more luck!

Happy fabbing!"

I gave up after a few paragraphs. What an odd post. Err...Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some more advice! If you get a message display such as "Stop! [this user] is not looking for [your age, gender, etc]". don't ignore it, respect it.

And absolutely never, ever, even in a profile picture (because it shows without even opening the message) show a penis without being asked- those ones are instant block without even opening the message for me.

Read- and respect- profiles. Some people arent looking for your type, move along, don't think you're the special one that they'll make an exception for, it just shows you don't respect them or their boundaries.

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst


"Most importantly read the bloody profile of those you are looking to connect with ....and I mean read what they have written and respect it !!!!

99.9% of the men who inbox me have not read my profile and just run in all eager which is such a turn off.

... if you can't take a minute to read what I have written and respect it why do you think I would ever ever want to meet you ???

It also just tells me that you are contacting me to solely satisfy YOUR NEEDS not mine.

For this reason I've just blocked all single males ...its too f**king frustrating."

___

This makes me think that there seems to be a different dynamic with couples that only seek meeting other couples. The majority understand (more often than not) that they need to negotiate and find common ground among the two couples, so a meeting is not just to satisfy THEIR NEEDS but also OUR NEEDS, and viceversa.

With singles (both men and women), a majority of profiles reek of people wanting to ONLY satisfy their need (large lists of wants, don'ts, negatives, filters and barriers), without bothering to say what can they contribute with.

Many couples also behave like that, for example those that meet mostly with single men and are used to dictate the terms, they expect other couples to behave like pets that they can command, and be there just for them to use as objects. Typically, those are often the couples complaining about other couples, or men, etc when they discover that the "objects" have a mind of their own and fail to attend meets, become rude, etc.

Be yourselves in your profile and treat people the way you would want to be treated when messaging and meeting in person. Simple to say, but a difficult thing to achieve for many.

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By *oyo5053Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater

Sorry appreciate the intent OP but a completely pointless post and as for the sweeping generalisations...wow!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I was just going to say the following……

Wow, condescending much!!!…..

That’s my contribution

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Most importantly read the bloody profile of those you are looking to connect with ....and I mean read what they have written and respect it !!!!

99.9% of the men who inbox me have not read my profile and just run in all eager which is such a turn off.

... if you can't take a minute to read what I have written and respect it why do you think I would ever ever want to meet you ???

It also just tells me that you are contacting me to solely satisfy YOUR NEEDS not mine.

For this reason I've just blocked all single males ...its too f**king frustrating.

There’s a good reason why 99.9% of men who message you haven’t read your profile but I can’t say what it is as I’m not allowed to critique a profile unless they request it.

Give a theoretical example then "

In no way connected at all….if someone has a profile that gives the impression the person has a lot of personality traits that most men would find unattractive and want to avoid then anyone who reads that profile is very unlikely to send them a message afterwards, therefore the majority of people who send messages to that profile will be people who haven’t read the profile so they aren’t aware of the unattractive personality traits displayed therein.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a croc of shite ..

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By *aximossMan
over a year ago

dublin

Thank you it helped a lot I was trying to improve my profile to try to get a verification now I know what to do

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"What a croc of shite .. "

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By *igDesire2Couple
over a year ago

belfast

Always happy to ‘approve’ anyone’s pics ya know.

To be honest, if a guys profile has the avatar and one 20% ok pic, I’ll not bother. And the profile blurb saying ‘fill in later’? Nope.

Maybe they would be the best sex I ever had! But this is all about in investing time in others (the chatting and flirting and then meeting) so a strong start will get the ball(s) rolling

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

Too long to read OP. But if you can put your money where your mouth is I’d follow

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