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By *erti OP   Man
over a year ago

around

Okay can someone help me with how I’m supposed to start a conversation on here because I keep being left on delivered

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Find something in their profile or forum posts that interests you and start a conversation about that.

Their actual profile text. Not just the list of interests or their photos.

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By *erti OP   Man
over a year ago

around

I get that but when they say like “don’t just message hey be interesting” and then that’s about it on the profile texts it’s just a bit hard to start off I feel

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"I get that but when they say like “don’t just message hey be interesting” and then that’s about it on the profile texts it’s just a bit hard to start off I feel"

Then why are you messaging them at all if there's nothing there to actually interest you beyond a selection of orifices?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"I get that but when they say like “don’t just message hey be interesting” and then that’s about it on the profile texts it’s just a bit hard to start off I feel

Then why are you messaging them at all if there's nothing there to actually interest you beyond a selection of orifices?"

This is an excellent point

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"I get that but when they say like “don’t just message hey be interesting” and then that’s about it on the profile texts it’s just a bit hard to start off I feel

Then why are you messaging them at all if there's nothing there to actually interest you beyond a selection of orifices?"

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Most people will look at your profile before deciding whether to read your message.

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By *erti OP   Man
over a year ago

around

Because I’ve tried messaging the people that acc interest me but I get no reply which is why I’ve resorted too branching out to other people but I’m just struggling which is why I’m now asking for advice

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By *erti OP   Man
over a year ago

around

Can you judge mine and tell me what I should change

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Can you judge mine and tell me what I should change "

Your profile says "message me" and literally nothing else ! You need perhaps to suggest why people should message you.

You have a stunning physique so I suggest deleting the 'three t-shirt cock out' pics and focus on your torso.

Personally I find emojis really off-putting. A cropped pic looks much better.

Wishing you success on here

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Because I’ve tried messaging the people that acc interest me but I get no reply which is why I’ve resorted too branching out to other people but I’m just struggling which is why I’m now asking for advice "

You've branched out to people who don't interest you, but you want them to be interested in you?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Because I’ve tried messaging the people that acc interest me but I get no reply which is why I’ve resorted too branching out to other people but I’m just struggling which is why I’m now asking for advice "

Anyone who potentially was interested in you, and just read this, now probably isnt.

I wouldn’t be into someone who I know is chasing people they aren’t into just to get laid.

Seems desperate

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Haha, wow, what a thing to admit in public!

But yep, most people will check a profile before reading a message and, for me, if the profile tells me absolutely nothing, the message remains unread.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Their is no magic formula but certain folk may need a little bit more info. I've messaged very limited bio and glad I did as users at times can find it difficult where to begin so think outside the box be creative...

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Because I’ve tried messaging the people that acc interest me but I get no reply which is why I’ve resorted too branching out to other people but I’m just struggling which is why I’m now asking for advice "

You want to know how to interest the people that don't interest you beyond jusr being a passable orifice?

I have zero advice on how to go about that.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

You have to ask yourself "why should they message me back?". Most people will check out a sender's profile before deciding whether to respond or not. What makes yours stand out from the hundreds of other single blokes on here?

Start there.

LvM

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

Go to a club. If you can hold a conversation, I'm sure your body and cock will do the rest. You are fit and if you have decent social skills I'd expect you to do well in a club.

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By *erti OP   Man
over a year ago

around

Wow a lot of hurt people making me feel a lot better for asking for help, cheers guys

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By *erti OP   Man
over a year ago

around

Those of you who acc tried to help thanks x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

What are you writing in your messages? Most of the ones we get are pointless and go straight in the bin. Do you write the standard "Hi" or "How are you?" type messages that proliferate on here or do you say anything worth responding to? Short messages like those will appear in a preview and somebody can know there's no point in even clicking on it to show the sender it's been read.

Men outnumber women substantially on here. There is no guaranteed way to get responses. The more you have going for you, the better your chances of getting something back. There are four things that can scupper your prospects if they aren't up to snuff:

Avatar

Profile text

Gallery

Message content

Get any of these wrong and you are putting yourself at a disadvantage that other men aren't, so you are likely to lose out. If your avatar and message preview catches somebody's eye, a lot of women will look at the profile before opening the message. If the profile is a fail, your message won't get read.

So don't only look at messaging. Look at all those things and ask yourself if they are the best they can be. Are you presenting a person that somebody would want to reply to. I can tell you that the vast majority of single men who send us messages clearly have not done that and their messages go straight in the bin.

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By *erti OP   Man
over a year ago

around

Okay thank you I’ll have to start updating my profile and try new things

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