FabSwingers.com forum: Give Me Your Definition Of A Social Meet

By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x "

They are just unreasonable twats. I’ve had socials where there has been a kiss but usually by the lady instigating. Also socials with a goodbye peck on the cheek. If there might be more this is usually discussed before - social and see where it goes.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

In the past when I was single ,I cancelled a couple of meets that were socials only when the man kept trying to assume it would be more.

They're not being v respectful of your boundaries op and that doesn't bode well.

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Completely agree, thanks for the reassurance.

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Exactly, I couldn't have been more clear that nothing was going to happen...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social…

A coffee, a drink, maybe dinner

That’s about it

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Exactly, I couldn't have been more clear that nothing was going to happen... "

It's same when they try and bypass the social to invite themselves to your home -just no

A social is to see if there's attraction and a connection for me.

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By *red010171Man
over a year ago

South West ish

I approach any meet as just a social, if something more happens then that's good if it doesn't then that's good. Never have expectations of something more going on.

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By *eddfmyd11Man
over a year ago

Towcester

I think the problem is some guys just don't know how to take no as an answer.

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Thank you.

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Thank you.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Meeting, getting to know each other over a drink or maybe a meal building on the connection seeing how it developes and if there is any chemistry like strange friends likeability factor

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

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By *ewcouplemidsCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x "

Idea of a social in our understanding is exactly what it says a social no play just drinks maybe a meal and loads of banter to see how everyone gets on xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A coffee or a walk, anything really where I can chat to them and see how we vibe.

A photo is great but there is so much more that will make someone attractive.

Their tone, mannerisms, how they treat others, how they come across.

Please don't let the twats put you off.

I've met some genuinely fabulous people by having a social first. If they can't be respectful on a social you know for certain they won't be in bed.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hello

if you use the reply and quote per comment it's easier to understand whom you are replying to

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x "

'Social' from a sex site! Good luck with that one, missus.

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By *ewbie09Man
over a year ago

alcester

For me a social is just that. A social get together to see if there is a good connection. Never any expectation for anything more. Obviously if everyone clicks then things can happen but nothing is expected x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x

'Social' from a sex site! Good luck with that one, missus. "

If you just fuck that's cool. Other people do things differently.

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x "

What did you say to them?

I do the same and make it clear a social is just that. If they hint at more then I cancel the social.

If they do what you've said during the social I would make my excuses and leave, then let them know via message that I would not be meeting them again.

I wouldn't say it to their face during the social because people who are so disrespectful can't be trusted.

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Funchal - So because I'm on a sex site that means I'm automatically obliged to have sex if I agree to meet with someone ???

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Exactly x

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Literally that "this is a social, a chance to meet to see of there is attraction etc..."

After eluding several times I said very clearly "Nothing is going to happen"

Not sure how I could have made it any more clear...

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Ah thank you beautiful, And no I won't x

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Meet, chat, see if you get on.

If there's an instant vibe, arrange to meet again.

I never carry condoms on a social because I have no intention of having sex. If we feel the urge, we can always arrange to meet later on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x

'Social' from a sex site! Good luck with that one, missus. "

It’s not a sex site those is it?! it’s a swingers site! Yeah men can be at it right away but before a women goes into someone’s home or they into yours the danger aspect is obviously there. Social meets are very much a part of swinging to see if you will have fun in the bedroom, this is the kind of attitude why I left, but just can’t stay away

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Ah thank you, first time commenting

Hello

if you use the reply and quote per comment it's easier to understand whom you are replying to

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Very reassuring, thanks..

"Meet, chat, see if you get on.

If there's an instant vibe, arrange to meet again.

I never carry condoms on a social because I have no intention of having sex. If we feel the urge, we can always arrange to meet later on."

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

I completely agree... x

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x

'Social' from a sex site! Good luck with that one, missus.

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Very reassuring, thanks..

Meet, chat, see if you get on.

If there's an instant vibe, arrange to meet again.

I never carry condoms on a social because I have no intention of having sex. If we feel the urge, we can always arrange to meet later on."

Your profile only gives a door ajar look at you and your likes but the social is a chance to bring the one dimensional profile to a living person ?

And like a lot of things what you see online isn’t what you get in person especially if you’ve already stated it’s a nothing more until you find a click with them ?

The it’s a sex site isn’t true like said this is for like minded swingers and safety comes first so a no thanks means no from any of the parties

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x

'Social' from a sex site! Good luck with that one, missus. "

This site is called ‘FabSwingers’, it not called ‘Fab Sex Site’. Swinging used to be a whole lifestyle, it’s meeting people, socialising, making friends and having naughty fun if get on well or feel like it. It’s a real shame that the site seems to now be full of folk just looking for hook ups with no effort, no social chat or any sort of connection and that people think you’ll sleep with anyone or be up for anything because you are on Fab.

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Absolutelyagree x

"Very reassuring, thanks..

Meet, chat, see if you get on.

If there's an instant vibe, arrange to meet again.

I never carry condoms on a social because I have no intention of having sex. If we feel the urge, we can always arrange to meet later on.

Your profile only gives a door ajar look at you and your likes but the social is a chance to bring the one dimensional profile to a living person ?

And like a lot of things what you see online isn’t what you get in person especially if you’ve already stated it’s a nothing more until you find a click with them ?

The it’s a sex site isn’t true like said this is for like minded swingers and safety comes first so a no thanks means no from any of the parties "

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Exactly, its incredibly sad...

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x

'Social' from a sex site! Good luck with that one, missus.

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Couldnt agree more...

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x

'Social' from a sex site! Good luck with that one, missus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A small walk arround the park !

Few drinks

Good music

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

"A small walk arround the park !

Few drinks

Good music

Thank you

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

I've had some brilliant social meets. I've been for coffee, cocktails, out running, and for nights out. But if it's decided it's a social meet up, then it should be a given that all parties respect that agreement.

I have cancelled quite a few socials when they've started suggesting what should happen if we get on over coffee.

On the plus side, they show their true colours and it makes it easier for you to make a decision on whether they're the kind of guy you'd like to see again.

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By *erfectly-Perverted OP Woman
over a year ago

Bramhall

Yes, absolutely, ultimately respect should be first and foremost.

I'm definitely not against kissing or more on a social, but it has o feel right on both sides, there's just too much assumed on the guys part in my experience no matter what you say... x

"I've had some brilliant social meets. I've been for coffee, cocktails, out running, and for nights out. But if it's decided it's a social meet up, then it should be a given that all parties respect that agreement.

I have cancelled quite a few socials when they've started suggesting what should happen if we get on over coffee.

On the plus side, they show their true colours and it makes it easier for you to make a decision on whether they're the kind of guy you'd like to see again. "

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Yeah, I've had this happen. I'm always very clear it's just coffee, and I usually stick to daytime.

If they imply anything before hand like " so back to yours after then" I'm likely to just cancel.

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By *u78Woman
over a year ago

NORTHAMPTON

"Funchal - So because I'm on a sex site that means I'm automatically obliged to have sex if I agree to meet with someone ??? "

Completely agree with your comment, yes we're on a sex site but nothing is guaranteed. I'm still a person and want to be treated as such before we do anything else. And this is where a lot of guys don't get it. Be respectful, then we can see where it goes. Not too much to ask!

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x

'Social' from a sex site! Good luck with that one, missus. "

Plenty of us do and have a lovely time doing it.

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By *elshmumWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

To me a social meet is just that, an opportunity to meet a person in a social setting and ascertain if we would be compatible. If anyone pushed for more that day when the rules have been clearly set then I would not consider meeting them after to play.

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

A social is physically meeting the end...

It's a requirement it's not a invitation to fuck it's not a tick box to then go fuck it's not even a promise of. A return meet. It's simply to see if who you say you are who you type to be and if there's any chemistry that is either there or could develop.

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By *ldFashionedGentMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

It’s an opportunity to meet someone in person and see if there is a spark, a connection and a comfort level that has existed via messaging.

People shouldn’t be pushing for anything more. And by doing so, or getting stroppy about it, I would imagine rule themselves out of any potential for anything further in the future.

OP I think you were right to be a little aggrieved at the individuals response and I wouldn’t let it bother you.

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By *ornyfriendlygentlemanMan
over a year ago

Mid-Sussex

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x "
I can understand what you are saying you have a social to find out if you have a connection with the person or people you are meeting,maybe a friendly kiss when you part isn't to far out of order,then if you want to take it further afterwards it's up to you to decide.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x

'Social' from a sex site! Good luck with that one, missus. "

I’ve had loads of socials from Fab.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

We had a social with a guy when we first started out..made it clear there would be nothing happening on the social, firstly he turned up amd was the polar opposite of his pictures, but not to be rude we went through with the social, he had it in his mind he was getting a shag..and kept diverting the conversation to sex, and pulling at his crotch, making sounds and thrusting his hips at every opportunity he could...this was in our house..it was uncomfortable to say the least and made some excuse why we had to cut it short...why do some guys think this behaviour is acceptable, especially when you invite them into your home..I'm sorry this happned to you, it must have been quite scary x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a social is a no expectations social,meet,drink,chat laughs and see how you get along with no expectations but it seems many blokes clearly think more will happen on the social...maybe yes IF we get along but it has to be no expectations..we wouldnt have promised anyone anything apart from the no expectations social

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By *irjamesMan
over a year ago

Warrington

Just go with it, but you can usually tell if they do or don’t , can’t hide chemistry but be respectful and wait for the lady to instigate I say

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

One good tactic with socials if you really absolutely want it to just be a social and rule out the possibility of anything more is to say beforehand - I've only got 30 mins for a quick coffee to say hello or something similar. Then easy to leave and if they say they don't want to meet if only 30 mins then pretty clear they are hoping for more on the day. Of course if all going well can chat longer (had a 30 min coffee turn into 2 hour coffee) or even take it further if all good and you both have time.

That said some people, ladies and couples included, don't want any social. Just meet for the 30 mins and have a quick play

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By *wFunGuy4YouMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

The problem with some people on the site nowadays. Seem to think its a site for a leg over only. Ive been on this site for god knows how long now and ive seen changes. It use to be Swingers....have a chat, laugh, drink then just let thinks happen....the social banter etc. Its as though everything is in a rush, nobody wants to do that like it use to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A nice social meet in a coffee shop or pub for a nice chat and laughs to see how all parties get along and see where things go from there .

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"A social…

A coffee, a drink, maybe dinner

That’s about it"

This ^^

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

A social to us is just that a social, see if there's mutual attraction and a connection, if we want we will generally agree to meet again for any sexual stuff.

We have had one social turn into more but following a discussion about it, no diving in for kisses or anything we had a room booked at the place of the social and that was that, but generally a social is just a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social to us is meet up, few drinks have a chat about experiences and stuff. Maybe some food then call it a night leaving you hungry for more if you clicked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for us we meet have sex then step back into the normal life. Karen

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Meet up in a public place go for a coffee/tea or perhaps something stronger depending on the vibe and time of day have a nice chat see if there's a connection and then politely say your goodbyes and part ways if all went well fantastic if it wasn't so well then take it on the chin be polite and part ways don't be horrible

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By *itygamesMan
over a year ago

i've had many a social, i leave fab/sex/that kinda stuff at home and treat it like a date , ie , meet in a boozer, have a drink or a coffee , talk about general stuff , work , life , hobbies , holidays , etc , nice to meet you , maybe a kiss on the cheek or handshake, feel free to message me if youd like to meet again.......

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By *unwanted1Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x "

I don't understand why people have to spoil themselves. Like most here a social is meet have a chat and a drink discuss what you are into a little more etc. Yes should there be any fun after the initial drink and chat then good but it should never be expected

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

A social meet is a drink and a chat, only on one occasion in 18 years has it led to sex, and that was instigated by the couple I met.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Coffee and cake, maybe lunch. Drinks possible but depends on whether I'm driving/riding so location is important

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Not for us we meet have sex then step back into the normal life. Karen"

Nothing wrong with that, but it's not a social.

And even on a sex date, people can change their mind and not have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not for us we meet have sex then step back into the normal life. Karen

Nothing wrong with that, but it's not a social.

And even on a sex date, people can change their mind and not have sex."

too right and well said

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By *irty_little_blondeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

For me a social is meeting to get to know the person before any play.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

A 1 on 1 public social for a coffee or bite to eat sounds like heaven to me. To meet up with someone and have a meal ,good conversation would be so nice . Sadly it seems the majority on here are only interested in clubs and large organised socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social would imply no fucking. When arranging a meet on a swingers site with another couple it would be a bit pointless if fucking was off the table. We noticed a lot of folk who do socials very rarely play so we tend to avoid socials where we can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A social would imply no fucking. When arranging a meet on a swingers site with another couple it would be a bit pointless if fucking was off the table. We noticed a lot of folk who do socials very rarely play so we tend to avoid socials where we can."

this is where a social is better,we wouldnt promise anyone a shag.how dya know if you are compatible enough to wanna fuck em.a few pictures on here and a few lines of words just doesnt cut it for us but each to their own

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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago

Cap d’Agde, France

We always meet socially with new meets, never a problem but then we are a couple!

Both of us have to agree about play, we don’t take one for the team and I guess only 30-40% of socials lead to play.

Have always sensed a feel of desperation with most single guys, I guess it’s because the field is so competitive that to get a meet is like hitting the jackpot.

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By *abrielle43Woman
over a year ago

Kildare

I clarify beforehand a social is just a chat to see if there's any mutual interest. Play meet arranged for a future time.

Any hassle over more happening immediately then I'll cancel. Same if it's gone well but when saying goodbye and leaning in for a peck on the cheek they grab your arse and try and throw the tongue in, instantly off-putting.

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By *ntrigued888Woman
over a year ago

Beds

My socials apart from 1 were just meeting for a drink.

But this one guy, the chemistry was off the wall so I went back to his.

Amazing sex. Wasn't a one off , we still catch up as and when we can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x "

It’s beyond frustrating, we’ve had a couple of instances recently where we open up dialogue with a potential male that we find attractive to us, and initially the flow and content of the conversation is almost perfect and in line with what we are looking for, but then once the suggestion of arranging a social meeting is aired Jesus Christ, both time they have completely changed and they almost become hungry dogs, assuming that they will be able to have a touchy freely, stating how much Lisa’s going to love having both holes fucked, and even to the point of them coming out with it ending with them cumming inside her babreback ffs xx

Given that we are still fairly new to the scene, not a good start

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

A social meet should be taken as just that. Guys will try it on and maybe to some extent understandable. However the guys that go to the extent beyond light flirtation into the realms where they are not respecting the vibe or the feeling you are giving off is a massive red flag (and thus counter productive).

We're yet to do the social meet as a couple (mainly club swingers). However I had a fair few as a single guy. And some of those social meets ended up getting physical. But that was by mutual desire and not coercion. Its never been my plan when I've gone for a social. In fact a factor in why they turned physical is probaby because I've not tried to be pushy and come on hard. I've just been me, concertanted on building a rapport. The most notable time and last time I went on a social meet that turned physical was when I met Mrs Misfit.

The point is not one of should socials always stay social. The point is one of respect for the other person and their wishes when they want it to be social and stay social. Those who can't respect that and put their trousers before the needs and feelings of the other person are the wrong people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A social meet should be taken as just that. Guys will try it on and maybe to some extent understandable. However the guys that go to the extent beyond light flirtation into the realms where they are not respecting the vibe or the feeling you are giving off is a massive red flag (and thus counter productive).

***The point is not one of should socials always stay social. The point is one of respect for the other person and their wishes when they want it to be social and stay social. Those who can't respect that and put their trousers before the needs and feelings of the other person are the wrong people.***

Mr"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x

Given that we are still fairly new to the scene, not a good start "

See it as a useful filter. You found out they are disrespectful and unlikely to be someone you would want to meet. So no time wasted actually meeting them.

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By *randMrs397Couple
over a year ago

durham

"A social…

A coffee, a drink, maybe dinner

That’s about it"

This

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By *orset.JMan
over a year ago

Weymouth

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By *orset.JMan
over a year ago

Weymouth

Unfortunately,I think a lot of guys do not understand that the social side of swinging is as important if more important than the sex itself.

A social meet is just that- conversation.

It allows the space and time to see if there is a connection or not and I think some( a

Minority) guys think that Fab is just like Tindr.

It’s a coffee/ drink a chat and maybe a chance to giggle and laugh - esp if sharing experiences of swinging. ( like the time I had a meet in a coffee shop with wonderful woman when the surrounding conversation volume dropped suddenly and all that could be heard was me uttering ‘ Interesting - I didn’t think the G Spot vibrator would have that effect!’ to shocked customers!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely, establishing if there is a connection is our objective!

We are quite 'picky' and wont jump into bed with just anyone!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

enjoy the company. have fun. have realistic expectations. if it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a social meet with a couple. The male half slapped zitos ass 3 tomes without permission. Was told to stop the first time but still carried on.

Thanks to this zito no longer wishes to meet in person. Not even for a social.

Sucks because im fully aware of how nice and respectful people here can be but we were unlucky to find one of the many bad eggs.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x

'Social' from a sex site! Good luck with that one, missus.

I hate the term ‘sex site’ snd generally the attitude of people who use it, which is usually that everyone here is just a body and that you don’t need to treat people like humans. Awful.

In reply to the OP, for me a social means no play. A think often people think that the play follows. But I don’t, unles you’ve specifically agreed that.

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By *oll_Face_xxWoman
over a year ago

Dollywood

"I've had a couple of social meets in the last week, where the guys have been really pushy trying to kiss me, and assuming it was going to lead to more, then not happy that it didn't.

I assure you I made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that nothing would happen on the social.

Surely that's the very purpose of a social, to establish if there's a connection.

Don't get me wrong if both parties are feeling it then great, I'm sure the lady in question will make it clear, but why so pushy?

I just don't get it... x

'Social' from a sex site! Good luck with that one, missus. "

The sense of assumption and entitlement in your comment doesn't sit well with me.

It's a swing site and that doesn't mean everyone is a guaranteed playmate or both feel a connection.

Any site member is within their rights to have a social meet ... those who push for more are the ones spoiling the Community.

To the OP I'm on the same page with I want a social to see if any chemistry or compatibility and sadly same story despite being very clear .. ive encountered pushy people not respectful of boundaries.x

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