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Do People Really Not Care?

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By *eutraldoll OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Northampton

Okay so this might be a stupid question, and maybe me overthinking. But basically I haven't fully unpacked after moving somewhat recently, living out of boxes, etc. and I find it somewhat embarasssing. Because of it, I don't currently accom. Now, when I explain this to people I usually get "I don't care, a messy place won't bother me." But I feel like/ am concerned that they will be anyway. Do people really not care about a messy place?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't be bothered about you living out of boxes. I'd be bothered by three days washing up, dirty floors and general filth.

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By *obshortMan
over a year ago

Cork


"Okay so this might be a stupid question, and maybe me overthinking. But basically I haven't fully unpacked after moving somewhat recently, living out of boxes, etc. and I find it somewhat embarasssing. Because of it, I don't currently accom. Now, when I explain this to people I usually get "I don't care, a messy place won't bother me." But I feel like/ am concerned that they will be anyway. Do people really not care about a messy place?"

In my job I go into lots of houses/homes. Because they need to clear out the entire attic area, you can imagine the amount of junk and stuff, they have to put everywhere. Around the house, bedrooms bathrooms every room in the house. But the thing is. There is a different between messy,untidy and being dirty. Most people make sure that their bathrooms is clean. So in a nutshell. No I wouldn't care if a house is messy. But dirty is a total different story.

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst


"I wouldn't be bothered about you living out of boxes. I'd be bothered by three days washing up, dirty floors and general filth. "

Totally this.

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay so this might be a stupid question, and maybe me overthinking. But basically I haven't fully unpacked after moving somewhat recently, living out of boxes, etc. and I find it somewhat embarasssing. Because of it, I don't currently accom. Now, when I explain this to people I usually get "I don't care, a messy place won't bother me." But I feel like/ am concerned that they will be anyway. Do people really not care about a messy place?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay so this might be a stupid question, and maybe me overthinking. But basically I haven't fully unpacked after moving somewhat recently, living out of boxes, etc. and I find it somewhat embarasssing. Because of it, I don't currently accom. Now, when I explain this to people I usually get "I don't care, a messy place won't bother me." But I feel like/ am concerned that they will be anyway. Do people really not care about a messy place?"
sorry but I would judge

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I wouldn't be bothered about you living out of boxes. I'd be bothered by three days washing up, dirty floors and general filth.

Totally this."

This Is why some people are put off not by seeing an untidy home picture but one that shows dirty living

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Okay so this might be a stupid question, and maybe me overthinking. But basically I haven't fully unpacked after moving somewhat recently, living out of boxes, etc. and I find it somewhat embarasssing. Because of it, I don't currently accom. Now, when I explain this to people I usually get "I don't care, a messy place won't bother me." But I feel like/ am concerned that they will be anyway. Do people really not care about a messy place?sorry but I would judge"

What judgement would you make?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay so this might be a stupid question, and maybe me overthinking. But basically I haven't fully unpacked after moving somewhat recently, living out of boxes, etc. and I find it somewhat embarasssing. Because of it, I don't currently accom. Now, when I explain this to people I usually get "I don't care, a messy place won't bother me." But I feel like/ am concerned that they will be anyway. Do people really not care about a messy place?"

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Okay so this might be a stupid question, and maybe me overthinking. But basically I haven't fully unpacked after moving somewhat recently, living out of boxes, etc. and I find it somewhat embarasssing. Because of it, I don't currently accom. Now, when I explain this to people I usually get "I don't care, a messy place won't bother me." But I feel like/ am concerned that they will be anyway. Do people really not care about a messy place?"

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Clutter and moving boxes wouldn't bother me.

Dirt however would.

Mrs

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

There is a difference between messy and clean , we would have no problem with messy as long as clean , just tha same as If someone was over the top and picked a glass up as soon as you put it down lol messy can be comfortable

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

If the space is clean, it being abit untidy and having some moving boxes still unpacked isn't going to matter to the majority.

I think the "instahome" look has really changed how people perceive what a home usually looks like. People have lives, kids, heavy work hours etc that often leaves our houses looking nothing like a show home.

Besides, are the type of people who'd judge something like that even worth your time? I don't think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messy is fine. It's when a place is filthy that it's turn off

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

I can't stand a messy place.But more importantly I need to have a sweet smelling clean place.Im a bit OCD about hygiene

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By *randMrsLPCouple
over a year ago

london

Read our profile and you will find out.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I always use the 'mind the mess' when people come in, despite spending two hours cleaning beforehand.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I totally agree with what a number of people have said.

Clutter is not a problem.

Filth is.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I care

I don’t chose to live in clutter, mess or filth so wouldn’t chose to spend my time somewhere that’s like that.

Different if it’s someone I know well who moved a week ago and is still getting sorted. But for a first meet, someone I don’t know and someone still living like that a while later it would be a turn off.

Any messy background photos for me and it’s a no reply lol.

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Some will translate messy as dirty…. Some won’t

Honestly though, first thing we thought reading your opening post.. won’t accommodate because you think it’s messy, then tidy up…

Anyone who doesn’t accommodate, in our eyes, needs a very good reason, otherwise it sounds like a poor excuse that they are hiding something

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