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By *H787 OP   Couple
over a year ago

northampton

M27 F 24 here , looking to couple swap for the first time but wanted to know how it felt seeing your wife get fucked by another guy and if it changes the relationship at all?

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"M27 F 24 here , looking to couple swap for the first time but wanted to know how it felt seeing your wife get fucked by another guy and if it changes the relationship at all? "

It doesn’t sound like you’re too sure that you really want to do it. I sense some trepidation in your question.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"M27 F 24 here , looking to couple swap for the first time but wanted to know how it felt seeing your wife get fucked by another guy and if it changes the relationship at all? "

Nobody can tell you how it will feel for you. It could change your relationship for the better, the worse it not at all.

Don't do it if there's doubt in either of your minds or it you're not absolutely sure if the difference between love and sex.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"M27 F 24 here , looking to couple swap for the first time but wanted to know how it felt seeing your wife get fucked by another guy and if it changes the relationship at all? "

But how would your wife feel seeing you fucking another woman? It works both ways, we haven't ventured into that dynamic yet because we are both unsure! It's both of you who matter not just one of you..talk it through properly and cover every little detail.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"M27 F 24 here , looking to couple swap for the first time but wanted to know how it felt seeing your wife get fucked by another guy and if it changes the relationship at all?

But how would your wife feel seeing you fucking another woman? It works both ways, we haven't ventured into that dynamic yet because we are both unsure! It's both of you who matter not just one of you..talk it through properly and cover every little detail. "

Yeah, I wonder why the couple are only looking at it from the male perspective….what could cause a couple to only think like a man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would say it's definitely not for everyone.

You'll both go through every emotion and it's how you harness those emotions, we love watching each other but I'm sure it's caused plenty of problems for others..

Talk, talk and talk some more and agree if one of you wants to stop then you both stop.

Good luck, it's a great journey if it's your thing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"M27 F 24 here , looking to couple swap for the first time but wanted to know how it felt seeing your wife get fucked by another guy and if it changes the relationship at all?

But how would your wife feel seeing you fucking another woman? It works both ways, we haven't ventured into that dynamic yet because we are both unsure! It's both of you who matter not just one of you..talk it through properly and cover every little detail.

Yeah, I wonder why the couple are only looking at it from the male perspective….what could cause a couple to only think like a man? "

Its only him who's unsure, the whole thing is her idea and he's worried she won't feel the same afterwards, he's a little insecure and worried?

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"M27 F 24 here , looking to couple swap for the first time but wanted to know how it felt seeing your wife get fucked by another guy and if it changes the relationship at all?

But how would your wife feel seeing you fucking another woman? It works both ways, we haven't ventured into that dynamic yet because we are both unsure! It's both of you who matter not just one of you..talk it through properly and cover every little detail.

Yeah, I wonder why the couple are only looking at it from the male perspective….what could cause a couple to only think like a man?

Its only him who's unsure, the whole thing is her idea and he's worried she won't feel the same afterwards, he's a little insecure and worried?"

Indeed and I have encountered this exact situation in real life. Also it is male half on the account at this time and asking from his perspective which again is totally normal as few couples come on Forum together typing comments as a couple.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

OP it is totally normal to have some reservations. Only you can tell if you are ready but it is wonderful and doesn't need to change your relationship. If you are worried you could start gently, just chatting, flirting, bit of soft swap. Not all couples will be happy with that but you could find somebody who is.

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By *H787 OP   Couple
over a year ago

northampton

thanks everyone , it’s from the male perspective as i wrote the post and just wanted to know how some other people reacted or felt whilst watching it ???? will deffo look to try soft swap first and see how we both feel x

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By *H787 OP   Couple
over a year ago

northampton

you would be correct haha thanks

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

We've had experiences with couples where we met, get on, started to play. then the guy has bottled it, leaving the other three participants very frustrated.

In our experience it is the guys who generally duck out first, so be careful what you wish for.

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst


"thanks everyone , it’s from the male perspective as i wrote the post and just wanted to know how some other people reacted or felt whilst watching it ???? will deffo look to try soft swap first and see how we both feel x"

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What? You have not tried soft swing first? In that case, don't go for full swap yet. We did go for it in our first time and it was awesome, but in hindsight we see now that we were lucky because it could have backfired spectacularly.

Try soft first. If either of you feel uncomfortable or jealous then, it will be noticeable. If soft goes well, them when you two are sure that you are ready to try full swap, go with a more experienced couple that is not pushy and don't hide to them that it's your first full swap, so they give you time to check with each other, don't take things for granted and they are more understanding if either of you wants to stop the play.

Contrary to what most people think, at that moment many couples freeze and are unable to say stop or "I'm not ok with this" and keep saying they are ok when clearly they are not based on their body language, so an experienced couple will stop the play if they see one of you is having cold feet. We had to do it twice with newbies, despite both saying they were ok.

No one can tell you how you'll feel at the moment when you see your partner being fucked or her seeing you fucking another woman. Just ask each other how you feel, if you are enjoying it. If you want it to go on, etc. My advice is not to do separate rooms on your first time.

If things don't go well, stop both of you and have a chat. If all goes well and have a super time then you'll likely see your relationship strengthened, because you appreciate it not just for the sex but for the love and things that bring you together.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"M27 F 24 here , looking to couple swap for the first time but wanted to know how it felt seeing your wife get fucked by another guy and if it changes the relationship at all? "

If you are thinking these thoughts id rethink if swinging is for you.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

The first time I ever saw it was as horny as fuck

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst


"M27 F 24 here , looking to couple swap for the first time but wanted to know how it felt seeing your wife get fucked by another guy and if it changes the relationship at all?

If you are thinking these thoughts id rethink if swinging is for you."

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OP is being cautious and putting the relationship before swinging. It's normal to question how one would feel before trying. Many couples are experienced soft swingers and still don't want to do a full swap, and I remember how we felt during our first time, similar questions on our minds, yet it turned out that swinging is for us. Looking at the OP verifications and profile, sounds like swinging is for them too, so they just need to take things step by step.

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst


"The first time I ever saw it was as horny as fuck "

Ha ha ha. I bet "literally"

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By *ack201895Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Definitely ease into it, full swapping is a lot all at once. Try smaller steps and work up to it over a few meets

If you do some soft swapping, sit with it for a while and let the dust settle before doing it again. You might find you feel differently a few weeks later than a day later.

If it turns out it's not for you, it's much easier to make your peace with a handjob than something heavier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first time Penny got fucked in front of me I tied her to a bed, blindfolded her and invited 6 guys to bang her whilst I acted as gatekeeper, in for a penny as they say.

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst


"The first time Penny got fucked in front of me I tied her to a bed, blindfolded her and invited 6 guys to bang her whilst I acted as gatekeeper, in for a penny as they say."

Hopefully that's not your advice for the OP

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"thanks everyone , it’s from the male perspective as i wrote the post and just wanted to know how some other people reacted or felt whilst watching it ???? will deffo look to try soft swap first and see how we both feel x"
I would definitely try soft swap first and take it from their .Like others have said it’s not for everyone but always remember you made this decision together so if it goes tits up and it’s not for you it’s not the end of the world ..

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"The first time I ever saw it was as horny as fuck

Ha ha ha. I bet "literally""

TBF we did meet on the swingimg scene so I'd seen her fucked quite a few times before we were together but the first time as a couple was special

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

We would recommend talk and at the most probably same room soft swap until your ready to move forward

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"thanks everyone , it’s from the male perspective as i wrote the post and just wanted to know how some other people reacted or felt whilst watching it ???? will deffo look to try soft swap first and see how we both feel x"

Why not try a club ? Not to go straight at the experience but to chat with others who probably know exactly what your going through is a good place to start slow and maybe find a couple to take you under their wing ?? Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say read a bit on ENM / poly relationships. I was on here with an ex and we did, we knew we definitely wanted to do it but it helped me to read a bit.

We had a social and jumped into full swap and it was absolutely mind blowing amazing and def made us closer.

Very interestingly jealousy is not an emotion in itself. Like sadness or happiness or whatever. It’s a reaction to an emotion - so could be you feel left out, that you feel insecure or something else. It really helped me to understand that

But yeah, don’t do it until you are both absolutely sure and ready - it’s a bit of a mind fuck I won’t lie but also a massive turn on!

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By *H787 OP   Couple
over a year ago

northampton

thanks all!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I can only comment from a female point of view, just one word of warning if your a little unsure don't do it, you can't unsee what you see.

For me seeing the Mr with another woman was kinda meh, didn't think much of it, I actually thought that was my thing watching him with other women turns out I'd much rather join in the fun that's much hotter for me.

The reality of watching wasn't as hot as the fantasy, all 3 having sex together though is hot!

We've not met sexually with another couple as yet so can't comment on that part.

Mrs

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

We have loved seeing each other fucking with other people since our 1st meet. We find it a real turn on. Our last meet we done separate rooms swap for the 1st time, that was amazing as we could hear each other but not see what the other was doing. Would definitely do separate room again but also happy to still do same room

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"M27 F 24 here , looking to couple swap for the first time but wanted to know how it felt seeing your wife get fucked by another guy and if it changes the relationship at all? "

It's amazing, seeing your partner receiving so much pleasure from another yet all the time knowing she's all yours when it's over and she's coming home with you. You must have a very stable and committed relationship though, no insecurities, no jealousies... talk about it, reassure each other, have fun !

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By *randMrsLPCouple
over a year ago

london

We've never done a couple swap

Just a Cuk

About the feeling of your wife being fucked by another and you see it or don't - you cant beat that feeling

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield


"M27 F 24 here , looking to couple swap for the first time but wanted to know how it felt seeing your wife get fucked by another guy and if it changes the relationship at all?

It's amazing, seeing your partner receiving so much pleasure from another yet all the time knowing she's all yours when it's over and she's coming home with you. You must have a very stable and committed relationship though, no insecurities, no jealousies... talk about it, reassure each other, have fun !"

Couldn’t agree more with what you have said. It is so hot seeing your partner having another man’s cock deep inside her. The reclaim sex after is amazing.

As you say the relationship has to be strong. If not it break the relationship. With us swinging has made us stronger together. Neither of us could just have sex with the same person for the rest of our life together. Swinging allows us the freedom to fuck other people without cheating

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