FabSwingers.com forum: Met...then ghosted...a sad story.

By *ohnnyMcWeez OP Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

A couple of weeks ago I met someone who I'd known for ages on Facebook, we'd chatted for a while but I never considered she'd like me. Anyway she requested me as a friend on here and she drove down from Bristol to Dorset to come and see me and I thought we got on so well, she even performed a sex act on me down a dark lane.

She invited me up to Bristol and we were going to a BDSM club.

I was quite shocked that the next day, she backtracked and said she was busy and I couldn't come up, without much explanation she then basically stopped messaging.

She obviously doesn't have to give me any reason at all, and yes it may appear that I am slightly miffed.

Do I just park this experience and move on, if there was something wrong with me then I would have loved some feedback, if people don't talk then how can they possibly get better?

Sorry, this is slightly rambling but I thought I would ask how people deal with rejection and/or ghosting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately, this does happen. If you can't know the reasons remember the time for the fun that was had and move on. Don't dwell on any possible negatives as it will eat away at you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m cold and brutal, so I’d suggest you move on.

There’s no point letting thoughts of why, how, what went wrong…..live in your head rent free.

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By *ibLeiMan
over a year ago

Manchester

People ghost for reasons that are often too difficult to figure for the persons on the receiving end. I know it sucks but you’d only hurt yourself trying to understand. I’d suggest you move on and keep your expectations low when it comes to future potential meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple of weeks ago I met someone who I'd known for ages on Facebook, we'd chatted for a while but I never considered she'd like me. Anyway she requested me as a friend on here and she drove down from Bristol to Dorset to come and see me and I thought we got on so well, she even performed a sex act on me down a dark lane.

She invited me up to Bristol and we were going to a BDSM club.

I was quite shocked that the next day, she backtracked and said she was busy and I couldn't come up, without much explanation she then basically stopped messaging.

She obviously doesn't have to give me any reason at all, and yes it may appear that I am slightly miffed.

Do I just park this experience and move on, if there was something wrong with me then I would have loved some feedback, if people don't talk then how can they possibly get better?

Sorry, this is slightly rambling but I thought I would ask how people deal with rejection and/or ghosting."

Comes back to respect. I get many messages that simply are.. Blocked from males who are doing just that. Dishonesty too. I just block and move away from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She invited me up to Bristol and we were going to a BDSM club.

I was quite shocked that the next day, she backtracked and said she was busy and I couldn't come up, without much explanation she then basically stopped messaging.

She obviously doesn't have to give me any reason at all, and yes it may appear that I am slightly miffed.

Do I just park this experience and move on, if there was something wrong with me then I would have loved some feedback, if people don't talk then how can they possibly get better?

Sorry, this is slightly rambling but I thought I would ask how people deal with rejection and/or ghosting."

There's no other way to deal with it than to just move on.

Like you said she doesn't owe you an explanation/feedback

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Have you considered that you might be overthinking things just a tad?

Something might have come up in her vailla life, and she might consider it too personal and private to share with you.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Sorry that happened op ,it does leave you feeling crap.

Is she single do you know ? Could be guilt If not.

Something may have come up in life or maybe she just enjoys the chase.

You'll never really know unless she chooses to get in touch again.

Try and move on or you'll drive yourself mad.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

She obviously doesn't have to give me any reason at all, and yes it may appear that I am slightly miffed.

Do I just park this experience and move on "

Sorry to hear about your experience OP. You are quite wrong, if she is a decent person she need to say something rather than ghost you.

She was OK to exchange body fluids but no decency to exchange a word? I hate modern dating world making this normal.

You are quite right and your next statement. Park it as experience and move on. Say thanks to her saving you future troubles. I am 99% sure you’d have a lot of them with such emotionally immature person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens to us all, it can be hard sometimes to deal with and you think of a million reasons best thing is just move on and dont dwell on it.. onwards and upwards

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

She hasn't ghosted you, she's told you quite clearly that she's not available to meet you now. It would be nice to know a reason but I think for your sanity's sake it's best to assume that she feels she made a mistake or something in her personal life has changed.

She let you know, that's the main thing.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Sorry to hear that, it’s never nice when that happens. While other people have said that she doesn’t owe you an explanation, I think it reflects badly on her that she doesn’t give you some reason (hopefully the real reason!) - basic manners I would say.

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