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Curse of the winks.

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By *ne4morefun OP   Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

We seem to be getting loads of winks lately that just go nowhere. We always reply to a wink with a short message but these aren't even been read nowadays.

Anyone else have this?

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By *ebauchery DivineWoman
over a year ago

Down in Dickleburgh Drive

I gave up on winks a long time ago, I find them a waste of time. I don't look at them nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My guess your message either didn't float the winkers boat or it was lost in many other messages.

Myself I don't send winks, I think if a profile interests me enough I'll invest the few minutes to message them

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By *azzler2Man
over a year ago

halifax

I use winks just to let others know I am interested if they then wink or message back I always send a message back it only polite to do so

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By *ne4morefun OP   Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells


"I use winks just to let others know I am interested if they then wink or message back I always send a message back it only polite to do so"

We agree with this.

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By *heelerMan
over a year ago

Northants


"I use winks just to let others know I am interested if they then wink or message back I always send a message back it only polite to do so

We agree with this."

I agree i believe this is the way it should if you wink and they ignor it then to me they are not interested

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By *he Black ExperienceMan
over a year ago

banbury


"I use winks just to let others know I am interested if they then wink or message back I always send a message back it only polite to do so

We agree with this.

I agree i believe this is the way it should if you wink and they ignor it then to me they are not interested "

I totally agree as well, I always send a cheeky wank, oops wink if I'm interested not all profiles actually give you something to work with for a first message . And I do like a wa.. sorry wink in return.

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By *ne4morefun OP   Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells


"My guess your message either didn't float the winkers boat

"

That could be although it seem the messages are not even read. And its happened about 8 times in the last two weeks.

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By *rsmith21zMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"My guess your message either didn't float the winkers boat

That could be although it seem the messages are not even read. And its happened about 8 times in the last two weeks.

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I can't even wink lol

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Yes but then most messages are unread too

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We often return a wink thinking it's an expression of interest only to be met by silence. I think some people see it as no more than a friendly nod as you pass in the street, not meant to be responded to with any more than a brief nod back.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I've given up with winks we've returned a few with zero response.

Mrs

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY

I never get any

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

I gave up on responding to winks a long time ago, because pretty much every time I did, I'd be completely ignored

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By *ortherner81Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"I use winks just to let others know I am interested if they then wink or message back I always send a message back it only polite to do so"

This would be my view of a wink. I wouldn’t just wink because I liked a profile or something unless I also wanted to try and open a conversation.

But equally appreciate it can be seen as low effort.

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By *imionMan
over a year ago

redditch

Can I ask u a question and I'm sure I'm gonna sound stupid in asking this but when you read on people post that to.make more of am effort in first meassge than just hello how are u.. what kinda thing are the best things to write as i find it hard to start a conversation with someone I don't know pls help with any ideas thank you in advance

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By *lsiePTV/TS
over a year ago

Gateshead

I love winks. It's an easy way to go 'hey, I'm interested'. If someone winks me I'll check them out, and message them if I like what I see.

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By *hor ThumbMan
over a year ago

bristol

As a guy on this site I absolutely understand that women get inundated with messages, not only is a personal message (done well) take time, 99% of the time it isn’t replied to. Now, I don’t expect a reply but why put effort into something when the reply ratio is so bad. Also, let the ladies check you out, then they can decide if they want to contact you, without them worrying about being inundated with unsolicited messages. I don’t understand why people dislike winks. Maybe they get too much attention here. Well, good for you!

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By *hor ThumbMan
over a year ago

bristol


"I love winks. It's an easy way to go 'hey, I'm interested'. If someone winks me I'll check them out, and message them if I like what I see."
. This!

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By *hor ThumbMan
over a year ago

bristol


"Can I ask u a question and I'm sure I'm gonna sound stupid in asking this but when you read on people post that to.make more of am effort in first meassge than just hello how are u.. what kinda thing are the best things to write as i find it hard to start a conversation with someone I don't know pls help with any ideas thank you in advance"
these people who put this on their profile are being demanding. You’ll spend time and effort on a witty reply and hear nothing, don’t dance to the tune of their entitlement and self importance.

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By *imionMan
over a year ago

redditch

You think so as I tend to find this site a real confidence killer

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent


"We seem to be getting loads of winks lately that just go nowhere. We always reply to a wink with a short message but these aren't even been read nowadays.

Anyone else have this?"

Well I’ve had a good look at your profile and pics… and winked

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Except I couldn’t, because I’m too old lol, but lots of Fabs

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

It’s not just winks and first messages that get ignored . That’s fine and people will say that’s site rules.

What really gets on our nerves is when you are messaging back and forth then they either don’t respond or block. No response. No ‘sorry but …’ message. To walk away mid conversation is just ignorant.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

This usually how they go for me:

Recieve a wink

I wink back

Unsolicited friend request sent but no follow up message.

*face palm*

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By *ouple24669Couple
over a year ago

Brechin

Yes this happens all the time. A couple will wink….we reply to the wink then they read the message and don’t reply. I don’t get it. Why would you wink if you’re not going to reply when you get a response??

Doesn’t make any sense and is quite frustrating to have made the effort then get ignored when they’ve made first contact.

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By *ussexboxMan
over a year ago

Ferring


"I use winks just to let others know I am interested if they then wink or message back I always send a message back it only polite to do so

We agree with this."

I'm the same, just missing the wink back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send lots of winks and messages and don’t ever seem to get much of a response to either unfortunately.

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