FabSwingers.com forum: Boxes Guide to verifications

By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

There is no one perfect way to verify someone the end!

What is a varification or vari for short. put it simply it's to verify that someone is real and to say who they actually say who they are.

But in reality it's more than that, because it gives the other person and idea to the personality and (some cases) sexual preferences and ability of the varification holder, (although done do not read varis and skip reading just to see percentage to actuall meet or webcam or that they are real meets)

A vari says something about not only the vari holder but also the person leaving the vari. And not everyone wants a blow by blow account of the meeting, some want a descreet sounding vari that emphasizes core parts of the interaction of meeting (sometimes not even mentioning [if that took place] the sexual encounter but somehow illude to it).

As mentioned before there is no right or wrong way to write a vari.

After saying that normally a good vari(however you define it) has

1) where you met

2) a short description about them and their personality.

3) what you got up to (chatted, watched a film, eluded how their naughty side came out)

There is no perfect way to write a vari

I am not expert in this. This is 1 area I feel like I need improving on as I feel like I need to make my varis writing more interesting. (And no I'm not writing this because I think I'm somehow god's gift to women because I'm not).

And like always everyone keep respecfull of each other. If the person states they don't want a x-rayed varification. Don't leave an x-rated vari. Also just because you left a vari does not mean that they have to leave a vari. You are under no obligation to leave one. Also do not feel pressured into writing a certain style of vari (yes they come in styles). Write what you feel comfortable with writing.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

So your guide is... I don't know what to put either?

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

We only veri people we've actually played with. Plenty of people are nice until you say no, or they don't follow rules.

Verifying you spoke to someone is really not helpful to others to make an informed decision.

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"We only veri people we've actually played with. Plenty of people are nice until you say no, or they don't follow rules.

Verifying you spoke to someone is really not helpful to others to make an informed decision. "

Your correct and I should have put the caviat line of 'only varify peopke who you have met', which when writing this I forgot.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

If anyone verified us and left sexual details it wouldn't be displayed.

For me verifications show we are real and not catfishes or anything, I can't stand graphic sexual verifications.

Sexual trip advisor reviews aren't for me.

Mrs

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

"But in reality it's more than that, because it gives the other person and idea to the personality and (some cases) sexual preferences and ability of the varification holder"

(Just quoting an extract so not putting the whole thing in, or else your thumb will the sick of scrolling...)

Do you really think verifications should be used (in some cases) to describe a persons sexual ability?

I struggle with a lot of the points you've made in your guide to verifications, but this point especially seems quite vulgar and potential unkind

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

""But in reality it's more than that, because it gives the other person and idea to the personality and (some cases) sexual preferences and ability of the varification holder"

(Just quoting an extract so not putting the whole thing in, or else your thumb will the sick of scrolling...)

Do you really think verifications should be used (in some cases) to describe a persons sexual ability?

I struggle with a lot of the points you've made in your guide to verifications, but this point especially seems quite vulgar and potential unkind

Well yeah when I message someone to meet. 1) I want to know that we will be compatable sexualy yes the profile states most of the likes and dislikes but the vari's can be quite telling in things they like doing and not doing.

2) I can find it a turn on reading them.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I show the veris from people that I enjoy and intend to see again. But if it's crude descriptions of sexual acts, it doesn't get displayed however keen I am on them.

Everyone treats and takes verifications differently.

There is no one way.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

Verifications can be a tricky thing. You meet but they're certainly not for you yet they leave a lovely verification so you're compelled to do the same !. You can often read into others veri's though, something is missing, they've clearly copied previous ones or they are all social meets and nothing else etc. We also had one past lady friend 'pester' a guy we met via our Verifications !

, one reason we don't show them anymore...

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

The X-rated veris can be helpful for us. Certain things in them will help us decide whether to reply to them. Their pics and bio might be good, after reading some veris we may give them a swerve.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

"We only veri people we've actually played with. Plenty of people are nice until you say no, or they don't follow rules.

Verifying you spoke to someone is really not helpful to others to make an informed decision.

Your correct and I should have put the caviat line of 'only varify peopke who you have met', which when writing this I forgot."

I didn't say meet, I mean actually played with. We meet many many people in the bar in the club but don't verify them unless we actually play.

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"We only veri people we've actually played with. Plenty of people are nice until you say no, or they don't follow rules.

Verifying you spoke to someone is really not helpful to others to make an informed decision.

Your correct and I should have put the caviat line of 'only varify peopke who you have met', which when writing this I forgot.

I didn't say meet, I mean actually played with. We meet many many people in the bar in the club but don't verify them unless we actually play."

Oh I see what you mean.

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
over a year ago

Chester

I think as long as you make it clear it was a social meet, a verification’s useful - it confirms the person turned up, looked kind-of like their photos etc etc. All helpful info.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I rarely give verifications for play meets. Personally I don’t play the same way with everyone. Each person is treated as an individual and it depends on how well I know them what we do together.

I rarely display verifications that are explicit either as they are for my eyes only. I organise socials regularly such as quizzes, coffees, etc and get many verifications that way.

My advice is to stick to the facts and and unless requested, keep it generalised.

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By *untimes wantedMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

one veri i would leave guy's on fabguys was.

"He turned up on time and the photo's he had sent me was of him.Decent friendly guy and easy to chat with."

The reason i started to put photo's he sent me rather than his photos are genuine ,was because after i veri one guy he changed his photo's afterwards and they was clearly not of him.I blocked him to remove the text.

That would be where the meet went ok but most prob i would not want a second meet even though the guy had done nothing wrong but was just not for me.

if it had gone really well i would add "look forward to next time" if we had discussed meeting again.

If a meet had not gone well or i found out they had lied or misled me would be no point writing a veri because they would be blocked anyway.

One guy wrote me one.

"Best meet ever massive cock and he cum 3 times fucked me for hours,not a messer meet him"

truth i don't have a massive cock the meet lasted 30 minutes max and i cum once.

I asked him if he veri wrong person his reply was everyone lies on veri's.

And no i did not display it

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