FabSwingers.com forum: Need to be discreet

By *ayed2 OP Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

Hey, need to be discreet so profile doesn’t look the best, but other than that I’m I think I’m doing everything alright but still have people reluctant to meet or reply, any ideas what I’m doing wrong

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

Yeah your profile is rubbish.

And there are hundreds of guys in here.

I suspect you are married.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Hey, need to be discreet so profile doesn’t look the best, but other than that I’m I think I’m doing everything alright but still have people reluctant to meet or reply, any ideas what I’m doing wrong "

There is discreet and then there is the online equivalent of going into pub wearing bin bags and a gimp mask with a sign on your chest saying "Please fuck me". I think you need to show a bit more of yourself...pics and words. You can still be discreet. I would assume your messages are in a similar vain so nobody is going to reply.

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By *ayed2 OP Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

I will agree with you there, but I am not haha! What should I be doing to make it more appealing, I’m a newby here so

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By *ayed2 OP Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

My only issue is locally I’d prefer people not knowing I’m on here so just trying to keep private really, what would you reckon I’m best doing

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

You literally have nothing on show, no one knows of there's any attraction, if your trying not to get caught out cheating then just dont cheat!

If you think it'll reflect badly on your profession then don't add a face pic, there's plenty of discreet pics that can be taken.

Mrs

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

You'll never get anywhere with a bland and nondescript profile. No one can argue with that though as it is your choice to use Fab the way you wish.

Good luck

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"My only issue is locally I’d prefer people not knowing I’m on here so just trying to keep private really, what would you reckon I’m best doing"

Give up unless you are prepared to show a bit more of yourself. Or go to a club so people can see you in real life.

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By *ayed2 OP Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

Someone fancy just private messaging me with a good guide on how to step up my profile, admit it shouldn’t be this difficult just a newby

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By *ayed2 OP Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

Appreciate the replies though thanks

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

First thing to do is use your message filters to block men, you won't need to ask them to stop messaging on your profile then.

Otherwise just say a little about yourself and what you'd like from a meet. Put a photo up that nobody can recognise and message the people you like the look of.

All that is no guarantee of success though.

What were your expectations of fab when you joined?

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Someone fancy just private messaging me with a good guide on how to step up my profile, admit it shouldn’t be this difficult just a newby "

Nice try

PS advice to a newbie. If any lady takes you up on that offer it is probably Bob sitting in his y-fronts having a wank in between bites of Shreddies

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Hi OP, I'm not allowed to critique your profile because you haven't really asked for profile advice, but I'll echo some of the above sentiments on here.

You really need to create something that stands out and which represents ·you· as opposed to a generic run-of-the-mill profile.

Your profile doesn't really tell me much, if at all.

Good luck.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Hi OP, I'm not allowed to critique your profile because you haven't really asked for profile advice, but I'll echo some of the above sentiments on here.

You really need to create something that stands out and which represents ·you· as opposed to a generic run-of-the-mill profile.

Your profile doesn't really tell me much, if at all.

Good luck.

Not that red-herring again. We are allowed to critique the profile as it is relevant to the topic of thread about not having success. As per Forum rules...

"No nit-picking please

Unless someone specifically asks for their profile to be critiqued or if it's relevant to the thread e.g. someone is wondering why they're not having success, please don't critique their profile or be mean about it."

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

You need some pics on there and something in your bio that tells people something about what you are looking for and what you can offer.

Photos do not have to be your face or be recognisable. Just a body shot, fully dressed or in underwear. Chest pics, bum pics etc etc. Show your penis if you wish but not too many shots of that.

When most of us ladies look at a profile the first thing we do is look at pics. If there are no pics we will generally not look any further.

If the photos catch put eye we will read your bio.

If your bio tells us nothing then again most will not take it any further than that. You need to sell yourself.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

Look at who's near and then look at the verified guys then act on that information.

It's literally pointless you being on here unless you do something different!

Also, block guy's messaging you, don't need to state it on your profile

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"Someone fancy just private messaging me with a good guide on how to step up my profile, admit it shouldn’t be this difficult just a newby "

Good luck with that one, OP! A lot of people use poorly written profiles as good filter, and the same goes about not changing the age range to represent what age category you're interested in. It screams total laziness, unless you'd really happily fuck a 99-year-old?

There is tons of profile advice on here, and 99% of it is relevant to everyone.

At the moment, your profile is equivalent to going into a shop with absolutely nothing on display apart from tiny "sale" sign in the corner, barely visible. There is no indication to what this shop is offering, there does not seem to be any light inside, yet it's open and want people to come in and shop. When on both sides of it, there are at least slightly brighter shop windows giving at least some indication what the shop is actually selling. Which one would you choose, OP?

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Also, OP, you've only been here for 5 weeks which is nothing in Fab terms, and your status is off-putting.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I love that description!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

First thing to do is use your message filters to block men, you won't need to ask them to stop messaging on your profile then.

Otherwise just say a little about yourself and what you'd like from a meet. Put a photo up that nobody can recognise and message the people you like the look of.

All that is no guarantee of success though.

What were your expectations of fab when you joined? "

This

follow the advice given...

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

Consider this - you're searching for a potential interest. You come across a profile similar to yours. Are you going to engage with it and send the first message?

I believe you get out of fab what you put into fab.

No pictures, no admin verification, talk of needing to be discreet. Those aren't profiles that personally appeal to me.

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By *ayed2 OP Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

I am going to take on all the advice, will sort some pictures to make my profile more appealing, anyone got any thoughts on the updated profile description?

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By *ayed2 OP Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

Slightly updated, see any red flags let me know

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

All credit to you OP for taking notice of the advice you have been given and doing something with that advice.

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By *ayed2 OP Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

I am actually good at acting on on feedback hahaha, served me well in my work life

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I'm guessing you've updated your profile now ,

Set your pic as your profile pic as many of us will straight delete messages from shadows.

Some more pics wouldn't go amiss either if you can ,you don't have to show anything identifiable ,you can be dressed with head cropped off if you prefer.

Miss

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"I am actually good at acting on on feedback hahaha, served me well in my work life "

It's a big improvement

Perhaps keep adding other pics gradually showing a bit more of yourself. And yes set the pic you have to be your profile pic as still showing you as shadow.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Ok. No limits? Red flag. I want someone who has enough experience to know how they do and don’t want to play. High sex drive? I mean, a lot of men think they have high sex drives, but…

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By *ayed2 OP Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

Iv just got the experience to know that anything and everything goes that’s what I mean by that, and a lot may say that but…

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By *ayed2 OP Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

Appreciate the advise ????

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By *untimes wantedMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

read it before and since you updated and big improvement.

noticed a couple of typo's you might want to correct.

i understand you want to be discreet but having it on your header is what people will see first and might assume married man and not read any further.

Nobody on fab should need to say they need discretion it should be a given that anyone on here can expect it unless they state otherwise

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

"Slightly updated, see any red flags let me know "

Why do you need someone to take you to a club. This is a real pet peeve of mine. I get loads of messages asking if they can take me or join me like they are doing me a favour.

I go on my own and if I can then so can you.

I’d maybe reword that bit.

A few more pics would be great - I don’t have face pics on public similar reasons - my job.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"Ok. No limits? Red flag. I want someone who has enough experience to know how they do and don’t want to play. High sex drive? I mean, a lot of men think they have high sex drives, but…"

Lol. I know what you mean regarding high sex drive...

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By *ayed2 OP Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

Well it’s a change for a newby so would prefer attending with someone with experience of clubs, and also planning on more pics soon, just to avoid distinctive tattoos while doing so

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"Well it’s a change for a newby so would prefer attending with someone with experience of clubs, and also planning on more pics soon, just to avoid distinctive tattoos while doing so "

We have all been newbies until that first step into a club.

Regarding tattoos: there are apps that allow you to either edit them out or cover them.

Also, please keep your replies to the forum, no need for private messages.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

"Iv just got the experience to know that anything and everything goes that’s what I mean by that, and a lot may say that but…"

Yeah. I know a lot of people who say that, and none of them follow through. There’s a whole world of fun kinks out there and some of them can kill you. Seriously, that is a turn off and not a turn on.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Well it’s a change for a newby so would prefer attending with someone with experience of clubs, and also planning on more pics soon, just to avoid distinctive tattoos while doing so "

There are free websites that can be used to blur photo's.

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

"...any ideas what I’m doing wrong "

Yes. Expectations and a sense of entitlement.

You do realise that men massively outnumber women on fab, do you?

It's like over 100 men to every woman on here.

So many men come into the forums asking for profile advice and 'where am I going wrong?' threads, such as this one, which clearly shows that you all think there's some magic formula, secret password or handshake or something to being more successful on fab when there just isn't.

People who are on fab aren't here to shag anyone who asks them. Everyone is here for their own reasons and their own enjoyment and you have to consider that fab is just like the 'real' world in as much as people will only be interested in you if they find you attractive or like your personality.

You've been here 5 weeks.

That's nothing. Most single men don't get their first meet until they've been on fab for about a year.

People need to get to know you. You need to have been here a while so that others can be confident you're not going to delete your profile once you've got your kicks.

And as for the excuse about your face pictures, answer me this : Do you think anyone else from your work is on here? If someone was to 'out' you to your employer, surely they would also be inadvertantly 'outing' themselves - as they'd need to be members on here in order to see your pictures.

Just be yourself, lower your expectations and be patient

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

You’ve answered the question yourself. The word discreet makes me nauseous to be honest.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Set your profile to an area that you're comfortable with others getting to know you and be clear which areas you're interested in traveling to.

Almost everyone wants discrimination, it goes without saying.

Read the many posts from single men who struggle to get meets and adopt the relevant tips and feedback given to them. Have you seen many of them OP?

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

"Set your profile to an area that you're comfortable with others getting to know you and be clear which areas you're interested in traveling to.

Almost everyone wants discrimination, it goes without saying.

Read the many posts from single men who struggle to get meets and adopt the relevant tips and feedback given to them. Have you seen many of them OP?"

Surely you mean discretion, not discrimination. Has the dreaded auto-carrot struck again?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Hi OP, I'm not allowed to critique your profile because you haven't really asked for profile advice"

Yes you are it says so in the rules.

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

"Hi OP, I'm not allowed to critique your profile because you haven't really asked for profile advice

Yes you are it says so in the rules. "

Indeed. To clarify, Unless someone specifically asks for their profile to be critiqued or if it's relevant to the thread e.g. someone is wondering why they're not having success, please don't critique their profile or be mean about it. We want the forum to be open and friendly to newbies and everyone starts somewhere.

So, whilst OP hasn't asked for profile advice, in this instance, such advice is relevant to the thread.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Your status contradicts your professionalism and young single dad suggests mad shagger whos not likely to stay around

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over a year ago

"My only issue is locally I’d prefer people not knowing I’m on here so just trying to keep private really, what would you reckon I’m best doing"

You think they'll recognise your cock or ass?

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By *ayed2 OP Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

I’ll be honest find it a bit mad just throwing an ass picture up for a man

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

There's lots of good ideas here. Seen as how you asked for ideas and got advice. Never mind the pedants!

I'll echo the 'ideas' that suggest youll benefit from more photos. Just practice and you'll get better. I use constraints to push my creativity in my photos. For example I didn't allow music to take the same type of photo twice. And I only take photos when I'm feeling attractive.

Have a look at guys profiles. Some of them have great photos that vary from classy to raunchy to hilarious.

I aim to have a gallery of photos that will give an impression of the type of person I am. You'll find your niche just keep at it and delete mercilessly the ones that are not up to scratch for you.

Another idea you might consider is editing your profile over time. Read it every week or so. Keep chipping away at the extraneous information that goes without saying like discretion, hygiene etc

Paragraphs!

And don't be afraid to tell people things about yourself that might not seem germain to having sex! Some people are funny (I'm not) some are succinct (I'm not) some are are articulate. I am so I lean into that.

And finally, ignore the red herrings about how long it takes to get a veri or a meet. Be bold, be charming and polite and never push harder than you've been invited to. Flirting is opening a door. Propositioning is inviting a conversation to end.

I went to clubs on my own. It's easier than you think.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"I’ll be honest find it a bit mad just throwing an ass picture up for a man"

lol why? They can't fuck a picture. Well perhaps they can but they might get a paper cut on cock and you wouldn't know anything about it

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

You're in the majority looking for the minority.

You've been on here 5 weeks - change your expectations and dig in for the long haul.

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By *ayed2 OP Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

I just feel like that’s more a gay or bi type of lad thing to do

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By *nvisible_manMan
over a year ago

TWICKENHAM

"Slightly updated, see any red flags let me know

Why do you need someone to take you to a club. This is a real pet peeve of mine. I get loads of messages asking if they can take me or join me like they are doing me a favour.

I go on my own and if I can then so can you.

I’d maybe reword that bit.

A few more pics would be great - I don’t have face pics on public similar reasons - my job. "

I agree with this. You haven't got the balls to walk into a club alone but you would be willing to strip naked & get into a group sex situation? Smells of double standards.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"I just feel like that’s more a gay or bi type of lad thing to do "

If it increases your chances of attracting the right people for you it might be worth getting over it!

Lots of women like a nice butt. Not than you think don't care at all snug a six pack.

The game (my game) is to maximise the chances of attracting the sort of people in interested in.

You gotta have some game. You'll figure that out over time. You're no it's good. Your a good looking guy. Your asking questions and taking feed back on board.

Just for that you are already a country mile ahead of the many many men who do the opposite to what you just did.

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By *nvisible_manMan
over a year ago

TWICKENHAM

"My only issue is locally I’d prefer people not knowing I’m on here so just trying to keep private really, what would you reckon I’m best doing

You think they'll recognise your cock or ass? "

Is he Runcorn's Ronnie Pickering?

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"I just feel like that’s more a gay or bi type of lad thing to do "

A lot of women find men bums attractive. We are talking of a pic of you bum cheeks from a distance not a wide open a-hole pic. They are more often found on bi and gay profiles.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"I just feel like that’s more a gay or bi type of lad thing to do "

It's really not.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"I just feel like that’s more a gay or bi type of lad thing to do "

Well you just keep going with your feelings and ignore the feelings of women that you are attempting to attract

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

If you have to be *that* discreet then I wouldn't bother being on fab at all. You'll ha2be to show more than that.

Also, this line implies you're here for the easy women:

'unfortunately the woman that are on the same level as me don’t come easy.'

You also say you're looking for something regular. That's fine, but will also limit responses. You might consider adding that after you've had some experience on here, but totally up you of course.

I'd add some interests to your profile.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"I’ll be honest find it a bit mad just throwing an ass picture up for a man"

Well, you want women and women will want to see more of you, so get on with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are allowed to be anxious about entering a new environment they have no experience of. I like the idea of attending a club but I am horribly awkward and anxious in environments filled with people where I don’t know anyone. Even a work social event that includes lots of people I don’t know fills me with anxiety. I’m broadly an introverted 121 person unless I’m comfortable and know most people in the room well. No shame in wanting to connect with someone who has experience to effectively hold your hand. A club is a very scary experience to most people who haven’t experienced it before.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

I'm going to assume that people you know can identify you by your legs and arms given there is only a pic of your chest!

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"...any ideas what I’m doing wrong

Yes. Expectations and a sense of entitlement.

You do realise that men massively outnumber women on fab, do you?

It's like over 100 men to every woman on here.

You've been here 5 weeks.

That's nothing. Most single men don't get their first meet until they've been on fab for about a year.

People need to get to know you. You need to have been here a while so that others can be confident you're not going to delete your profile once you've got your kicks.

Just be yourself, lower your expectations and be patient

This is something iv said time and time again about exposing themselves while exposing others...I don't understand why people just don't get this!

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I'm going to assume that people you know can identify you by your legs and arms given there is only a pic of your chest! "

And if that is the case he could post pictures of him wearing clothes that cover his arms and legs so they can’t identify him so we can also assume that he doesn’t have any pictures of him with clothes on.

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By *hree_into_oneCouple
over a year ago

warrington

One or two cock shots will help, particularly if well endowed.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"...any ideas what I’m doing wrong

Yes. Expectations and a sense of entitlement.

You do realise that men massively outnumber women on fab, do you?

It's like over 100 men to every woman on here.

You've been here 5 weeks.

That's nothing. Most single men don't get their first meet until they've been on fab for about a year.

People need to get to know you. You need to have been here a while so that others can be confident you're not going to delete your profile once you've got your kicks.

Just be yourself, lower your expectations and be patient

This is something iv said time and time again about exposing themselves while exposing others...I don't understand why people just don't get this! "

This is really not true. There are lots of thing somebody disposed to cause trouble could do without outing themselves. I had a lady once threaten to put pics of me on a village notice board or post through neighbours letterboxes if I didn't give her money.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

"...any ideas what I’m doing wrong

Yes. Expectations and a sense of entitlement.

You do realise that men massively outnumber women on fab, do you?

It's like over 100 men to every woman on here.

You've been here 5 weeks.

That's nothing. Most single men don't get their first meet until they've been on fab for about a year.

People need to get to know you. You need to have been here a while so that others can be confident you're not going to delete your profile once you've got your kicks.

Just be yourself, lower your expectations and be patient

This is something iv said time and time again about exposing themselves while exposing others...I don't understand why people just don't get this!

Some careers would be bought into disrepute. And when you are dealing with members of the public some may try and hold it against you. Bribery etc. and why does everyone man and their dog need to know about my sex life.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm always amazed at how many single dads there are on Fab compared to the real world.

I don't think I have ever seen a profile saying "I'm a single mum".

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"I'm always amazed at how many single dads there are on Fab compared to the real world.

I don't think I have ever seen a profile saying "I'm a single mum"."

Single dad's know that their availability and ability to accommodate are often interpreted as playing away. I think that's why most single dad's explain anyway.

Sometimes I write it on my profile and often times I don't.

Times have changed too (I can only speak for Ireland) and there are a lot more dads acting as primary carers or in equal co parenting relationships.

Also there's plenty of profiles where single moms say so. Plenty

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe I should mention on my profile that I'm a widow with four children

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"Maybe I should mention on my profile that I'm a widow with four children"

Of course that is your choice. No one should judge you for it.

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By *andD8182Couple
over a year ago

Colchester

Could you maybe add a few more discrete pics? The one you have looks good xx

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"I'm always amazed at how many single dads there are on Fab compared to the real world.

I don't think I have ever seen a profile saying "I'm a single mum"."

Mainly because when people see a man's profile that says they can't accommodate they presume he's married but those assumptions don't seem to be made as often about women.

Men therefore feel they have to add their reasons to their profile.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Iv just got the experience to know that anything and everything goes that’s what I mean by that, and a lot may say that but…"

You're very young compared to many on here, so many will doubt the level of experience you claim ... if that was (is) the case, it's actually really concerning given that you're a single parent.

In addition, you have lots more text but there's no indication of what any potential meet would get out of it. You still only have one photo as well.

You mention clubs. This is your your best bet, but don't expect someone to be willing to go with you or to have sex. Treat a club visit as a fun night out with potential extras.

Nita

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Ok. No limits? Red flag. I want someone who has enough experience to know how they do and don’t want to play. High sex drive? I mean, a lot of men think they have high sex drives, but…"

I had a non-fab lady tell me she had no limits.

It took two minutes to find the first limit (anal) and find a few basic kinks she had never heard of (water sports, for one)

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By *hamrocker23Man
over a year ago

Town

It's liberating when you realise people don't give a shit about you as much as you do. I wouldn't worry so much

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Humble bragging about a high sex drive and women being generally unable to match it may well put off the women you seek.

Some may see it as a challenge to try and break you, and some women on here are more than capable of leaving you rocking in a corner like a bosnian warchild. It does come across as slightly arrogant in my opinion.

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By *edtabCouple
over a year ago

Sexville Birmingham

"My only issue is locally I’d prefer people not knowing I’m on here so just trying to keep private really, what would you reckon I’m best doing"

Well if you're friends are on FAB they are doing the same as you......

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"My only issue is locally I’d prefer people not knowing I’m on here so just trying to keep private really, what would you reckon I’m best doing

Give up unless you are prepared to show a bit more of yourself. Or go to a club so people can see you in real life. "

The old 'Go to a club ' stock answer . Maybe not everyone is interested in going to clubs. He has plenty of info in his bio ,although only one photo .

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"The old 'Go to a club ' stock answer . Maybe not everyone is interested in going to clubs. He has plenty of info in his bio ,although only one photo ."

Yes, the old "go to a club" answer, because it works if you want to meet plenty of same-minded people under one roof. And for those that seriously think they want to be part of the lifestyle, clubs, and organized socials, are the best places to start. Yes, they are not for everyone- if your social skills are near zero and all you can do in a presence of a woman, or God forbid a couple, is stare or take your cock out straight away, then forget it, stay at home and complain you're getting nowhere on Fab.

Don't get me wrong, I am very much not a social butterfly, most of the time I prefer people watching than actually chatting, but clubs helped me get at least a little bit out of my shell.

And OP, if you think your local club may be full of local people, or people you know- I have been going to my local club for years and only once saw someone there who I knew. Never anyone from work, for example.

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