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Telling a partner about swinging.

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By *ornyone30 OP   Man
over a year ago

ABERDEEN

I'm interested to hear from anyone who has had the discussion with a partner about joining the swinging lifestyle. How did you broach the subject, what was the outcome? I'd like to test the water with my wife and was looking for suggestions/advice

Ps. If your imput is "show her your fab account etc" save yourself the bother and scroll on by. TIA.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

I've always been open about being a swinger so Flik knew right from when we first met. It was her choice to get involved so no pressure from me.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

I just suggested it to him one day. As a "what do you think about" type of discussion. He was reluctant to start with so we had lots of talks, looked at clubs etc. Then one week we said sod it, let's just go and see what it's all about.

And the rest is history. We started going to afew clubs, then went to Xtasia and we were asked if we were on fab, that's how we found this site.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Swinging requires trust or else it all falls to bits, just remember that

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Try watching one of the shows about swinging with her 'The open house experiment' or similar and asking what she thinks or saying "I'd love to try that with you".

Prepare to be asked questions, listen to them and answer honestly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We came up with a fantasy wish list over a couple of bottles of wine and going to a club cropped up.

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By *oe n JayCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

Maybe start with social meets without expectations

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By *isubandyMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

When we started, I just said to her that I'd love to see her having sex with others and that I'd love to experiment with my bi side.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Just tell her about the fun you are having and that you really want her to join in

You don't have to show her your profile.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Have you brought it up with her before op?

I guess I'm just wondering why now when you've been on here 3 +years

You know her better than any of us op ,ask her if she has any unfilled fantasy's or if she'd consider going to a club with you.

If she says no ,will you just continue this without her ?.

Miss

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

What's made you want to test the water after doing it behind her back for so long without doing so?

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Visiting Blackpool

Unless you have a good sex life as a couple it may not work out well unfortunately. So many couples on here have a Male driven profile, don't have the already great sex life and unfortunately end up separating. We took our first steps over 20 years ago and can't even remember the conversation, only that we were always adventurous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm interested to hear from anyone who has had the discussion with a partner about joining the swinging lifestyle. How did you broach the subject, what was the outcome? I'd like to test the water with my wife and was looking for suggestions/advice

Ps. If your imput is "show her your fab account etc" save yourself the bother and scroll on by. TIA. "

What do you mean broach the subject? Do you want her to swing with you?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Have the talk simple as that, discuss fantasies etc.

Swinging requires a huge amount of trust and communication if you can't do that then I'd say it's not for you.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby spoke to wife, that simple. He said it would be hot to try swapping partners and to fuck while watching each other. He offered to have a MFM threesome first if needs be, just to prove he wasn't just interested in other women, but as were both horny little buggers we just went to a swing club amd stuck with couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try watching one of the shows about swinging with her 'The open house experiment' or similar and asking what she thinks or saying "I'd love to try that with you".

Prepare to be asked questions, listen to them and answer honestly. "

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By *uzanne and RickyCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

I’ve introduced several partners some who simply refused, some jumped at it. I always used to watch porn with them and ask if they liked what they saw and if it turned them on. Some liked the idea but in reality having two guys or sharing with another couple was too much. Some couldn’t wait to fuck others. Everyone is different but I do think we’re all a bit kinky, you just need to find out what that kink is. Good luck!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should probably explain how much you love her in the deepest way, let her know the love is unbreakable. Then ask the open questions. Explain that your gonna push the boundaries with the questions about how your Sex life can be enhanced and in what ways.

Maybe have pen and paper and allow each other to raise 10 suggestions, then show one another... If it's on neither suggestion list then verbally suggest it... By this point she should be buttered up, if she says yes... GREAT!! If she don't take to kindly, then laugh it off as if it was a joke lol

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By *oe n JayCouple
over a year ago

Surrey


"I think you should probably explain how much you love her in the deepest way, let her know the love is unbreakable. Then ask the open questions. Explain that your gonna push the boundaries with the questions about how your Sex life can be enhanced and in what ways.

Maybe have pen and paper and allow each other to raise 10 suggestions, then show one another... If it's on neither suggestion list then verbally suggest it... By this point she should be buttered up, if she says yes... GREAT!! If she don't take to kindly, then laugh it off as if it was a joke lol"

That's some great advice Charlie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mentioned it to my ex partner because I thought it would excite her.Let’s say it wasn’t the reaction I was expecting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr would send me porn gifs of various different porn scenarios

Girl on girl, mfm,fmf, not long after I came out as bi sexual, he claims to have known all along that I was after many flags

After coming out we quickly moved onto swinging, well at least filtering down to our now preferred way of playing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started discussing fantasies on WhatsApp. I suggested fab and she said why not? The test is history as they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you should probably explain how much you love her in the deepest way, let her know the love is unbreakable. Then ask the open questions. Explain that your gonna push the boundaries with the questions about how your Sex life can be enhanced and in what ways.

Maybe have pen and paper and allow each other to raise 10 suggestions, then show one another... If it's on neither suggestion list then verbally suggest it... By this point she should be buttered up, if she says yes... GREAT!! If she don't take to kindly, then laugh it off as if it was a joke lol"

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By *oyager77Man
over a year ago

Colchester

She brought it up years ago but then quickly changed her mind. Saying she loved me too much, I said something about she's got permission but was not discussed further.

I found fab a couple of years ago and just enjoy the forums, and no she does not know.

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By *hris 1972Man
over a year ago

Newport

One night we were talking about fantasies ect and I told her my biggest one was to see her with another man. I'm not really interested in other women tbh just like seeing her being fucked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ink vixenCouple
over a year ago

Medway

Love to be in the club when you walk in with her for the first time and everyone says hello to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suggested this site to my Mrs at the time, we often spoke about it during sex and she got so turned on by it.

We created a couple's account and started posting pics but she wouldn't go as far as meets ect & I didn't pressure her.

After a few months of posting she decided it wasn't for her and unfortunately closed the account.

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

E was always turned on by the thought of having sex somewhere others might see us. So we went to a club just to watch and be watched, and didn't interact with anyone else.

At some point we got corrupted...

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By *ylonseeker2023Man
over a year ago

Harwich


"I just suggested it to him one day. As a "what do you think about" type of discussion. He was reluctant to start with so we had lots of talks, looked at clubs etc. Then one week we said sod it, let's just go and see

And the rest is history. We started going to afew clubs, then went to Xtasia and we were asked if we were on fab, that's how we found this site. "

Nice simple and honest approach and as such things progress. Nice one.

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District


"What's made you want to test the water after doing it behind her back for so long without doing so?"

This!

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By *aughtystaffs60Couple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Trust and honesty are the key. If you have those attributes in your relationship then the sky is the limit IMO. Once lost very hard to regain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One night we were talking about fantasies ect and I told her my biggest one was to see her with another man. I'm not really interested in other women tbh just like seeing her being fucked. "

Cool story from a single man's, unverified account

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By *weetHotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

We didn't have to discuss the subject. 18 years ago we were at a bbq night with another couple. Drink flowing, they instigated playing. Played 2 further times with them. We enjoyed it. They split up ! As someone has said earlier it's all about trust and honesty. 18 years on we've tried most scenarios. Always love our play times. Now we are a lot more savi

don't suffer fools and people who cannot read profile info !

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

You must start with a solid, loving relationship. No doubts or fears. Talk just of fantasies for now, of how you'd love to see her with others and see how she reacts.... Then one day gently suggest making it reality.

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By *exymilf2203Couple
52 weeks ago

Farnborough

We started by posting some pics on an amateur wives website and received good feedback.

The site had a chat room which D started visiting and chatting with people and within a couple of months she was chatting with quite a few guys.

One of them who she really got on well with suggested a meet and was happy for me to be there watching.

That was over 15 yrs ago and still enjoying meets although we have had a break for a few months this year for family reasons but will get back into it in the New Year

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