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"I’m struggling to get new Fab friends. I think it may be my opening line of ‘Genuine guy, no BS!’ Is it too honest? " Yep that screams not genuine and full of BS I tend to go with hey there as the header and usually a comment in regards to their profile description or simply a compliment xx | |||
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"I’m struggling to get new Fab friends. I think it may be my opening line of ‘Genuine guy, no BS!’ Is it too honest? " Got fuck all to do with an opening message….if someone doesn’t like the pics….you’re not getting anything….SIMPLES!! | |||
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"How are you genuine, do you have a stamp up your backside validating you Genuine ginger beard tho "He’s a stamp on his arse saying made in china lol | |||
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"Just make sure they are genuine, thought I was meeting a hot fem once, turned up to her house she was lying on her bed playing with her hard cock " A girl friend wanted a mmf session so she found a guy on here, long story short, the guy how turn up was completely different to the guy on his profile page, even had different colors hair lol, she told him to FO | |||
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"I’m struggling to get new Fab friends. I think it may be my opening line of ‘Genuine guy, no BS!’ Is it too honest? " you don't have a profile hence nothing for women to associate you with  | |||
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"Maybe it takes abit more the a singular line of bio to grab a person's attention. Obviously a shorter sentence in message form won't get you any better results. Women generally will look at a profile before the message only then will they either reply or decline it. A lacking profile will only lack in responses. " Yes, this! Your profile tells me nothing about you so how would I differentiate between you and all the other men who might message me? I also second the point about getting known in clubs and building up some veris and friendships that way. It let's women know you're genuine without you just stating that. | |||
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"Maybe it takes abit more the a singular line of bio to grab a person's attention. Obviously a shorter sentence in message form won't get you any better results. Women generally will look at a profile before the message only then will they either reply or decline it. A lacking profile will only lack in responses. " Ok you make great points and will change up the profile. ( still won’t make up for me being a ginge though lol) | |||
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"Maybe it takes abit more the a singular line of bio to grab a person's attention. Obviously a shorter sentence in message form won't get you any better results. Women generally will look at a profile before the message only then will they either reply or decline it. A lacking profile will only lack in responses. Ok you make great points and will change up the profile. ( still won’t make up for me being a ginge though lol)" I like ginger guys. I also like to know why a guy has messaged me. If they mention something about my profile that's particularly appealing to them, that's far more likely to get a response than if they come across as 'any hole's a goal' types. | |||
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"Really helpful thread because I can't get even 1 meet" You need a profile pic (that isn't a dick pic) to begin with. I never reply to profiles with just a shadow and know I'm not the only one. Your public pics are four pics of your cock and nothing else, and your bio is also only one line so start there. Look at the profiles of some other guys to get ideas of what a 'good' profile looks like then start to build it up. Good luck. | |||
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"That is very true x I will always look at a profile before even reading the message. If it has very little info, or just dick pics, then I don’t even read the message. It doesn’t need a face picture on your profile, but imaginative torso or general body pictures are more appealing. I also look at the background in the pictures and fully read the bio x" Also a good point think about the background of your pics that really does matter after all you don't want to be showing a messy bedroom or a dirty loo in the the background I'm one to talk as a few of mine are in my bathroom but I'm trying to correct that by getting a professional photographer to get some nice snaps | |||
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"Really helpful thread because I can't get even 1 meet You need a profile pic (that isn't a dick pic) to begin with. I never reply to profiles with just a shadow and know I'm not the only one. Your public pics are four pics of your cock and nothing else, and your bio is also only one line so start there. Look at the profiles of some other guys to get ideas of what a 'good' profile looks like then start to build it up. Good luck." I second this. Your profile just comes across as no effort and tbh a not that nice looking set of cock shots what are you actually trying to achieve here. No effort means no reward I'll go ahead and guess your messages are as bland as your bio. That doesn't work nore is it attractive. I'm a fine one to talk my profile isn't perfect by far but at least I've put genuine thought and effort in it. Want more meets then do the work buddy | |||
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"Agreed - any pics in a bathroom are an instant no from me. It is not somewhere that I associate with attraction and suggests that you are in there because you live with your wife or your parents lol x" I'd just like to point out that my profile pics in my bathroom because I had just got out of the tub and thought I looked pretty funny and a tad sexy with the towel like that lol | |||
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"Agreed - any pics in a bathroom are an instant no from me. It is not somewhere that I associate with attraction and suggests that you are in there because you live with your wife or your parents lol x I'd just like to point out that my profile pics in my bathroom because I had just got out of the tub and thought I looked pretty funny and a tad sexy with the towel like that lol " They are inoffensive bathroom pictures. A sexy towel or bathtub picture (without the dick please) can be quite appealing. It’s the pics sat over a toilet that are just plain wrong x | |||
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"Also, for anyone reading this forum that wants genuine advice on how to make their profile more appealing - go to Spotify (or whatever podcast service you use) and search for a podcast called vanilla to vixen. One of the earlier episodes (around number 3-5) is all about how to upgrade your profile on fab. Well worth a listen x" Oh yup I listened to that episode was rather helpful certainly made me see my profile in a whole different way | |||
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"Sending a message stating your availability is not the way forward. You’ve gone from trying to sound genuine and honest to assumptions and over the top. Especially if the woman you’ve messaged has not expressed any interest in you, or more specifically meeting up. "quick compliment belladonna your photos are absolutely beautiful that's all | |||
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"No just uninspiring. All men on fab claim to be genuine." I claim to be a genuine dick. | |||
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"Sending a message stating your availability is not the way forward. You’ve gone from trying to sound genuine and honest to assumptions and over the top. Especially if the woman you’ve messaged has not expressed any interest in you, or more specifically meeting up. "Thank you for the feedback. I think the issue was I should have checked the chat feed first. I saw you had looked at me and ‘presumed’ you had looked at me for me but rather you looked at me to critique me. My message was genuine about your pictures, they are amazing. My stating my availability was another message. This is my exact point about Fab. There are some on here who have the pick of the bunch and some who hardly get a nibble. Don’t hat on the small fish for trying. Xxx | |||
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"Sending a message stating your availability is not the way forward. You’ve gone from trying to sound genuine and honest to assumptions and over the top. Especially if the woman you’ve messaged has not expressed any interest in you, or more specifically meeting up. quick compliment belladonna your photos are absolutely beautiful that's all "Is that a poke at a guy giving a genuine compliment? Her photos are amazing and really well taken. Why are you mocking a genuine compliment? | |||
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"Be honest with oneself and all around you. Accept your opportunities and respect those who turn them down. Dont be a dick more than once a week as you might get a reputation and that lingers longer than an sti. Never eat chicken nuggets. Sterilise your loofah in the microwave, but not with your baked beans. Although wipes keep everything sparkling, don't flush them and pop them in the bin. These are the golden rules of fab life. " | |||
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"Be honest with oneself and all around you. Accept your opportunities and respect those who turn them down. Dont be a dick more than once a week as you might get a reputation and that lingers longer than an sti. Never eat chicken nuggets. Sterilise your loofah in the microwave, but not with your baked beans. Although wipes keep everything sparkling, don't flush them and pop them in the bin. These are the golden rules of fab life. "Best of the night. | |||
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"Sending a message stating your availability is not the way forward. You’ve gone from trying to sound genuine and honest to assumptions and over the top. Especially if the woman you’ve messaged has not expressed any interest in you, or more specifically meeting up. quick compliment belladonna your photos are absolutely beautiful that's all
Is that a poke at a guy giving a genuine compliment?
Her photos are amazing and really well taken.
Why are you mocking a genuine compliment? "I think it's just a guy genuinely complimenting a woman he's not mocking anyone | |||
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"I’m struggling to get new Fab friends. I think it may be my opening line of ‘Genuine guy, no BS!’ Is it too honest? " It's more that it's too short. It shows no ability to hold a conversation or that you have any interest in the person you are talking to. That will make most people count you out. | |||
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"Sending a message stating your availability is not the way forward. You’ve gone from trying to sound genuine and honest to assumptions and over the top. Especially if the woman you’ve messaged has not expressed any interest in you, or more specifically meeting up. quick compliment belladonna your photos are absolutely beautiful that's all "Thank you x  | |||
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"Sending a message stating your availability is not the way forward. You’ve gone from trying to sound genuine and honest to assumptions and over the top. Especially if the woman you’ve messaged has not expressed any interest in you, or more specifically meeting up.
Thank you for the feedback.
I think the issue was I should have checked the chat feed first. I saw you had looked at me and ‘presumed’ you had looked at me for me but rather you looked at me to critique me.
My message was genuine about your pictures, they are amazing.
My stating my availability was another message.
This is my exact point about Fab.
There are some on here who have the pick of the bunch and some who hardly get a nibble.
Don’t hat on the small fish for trying. Xxx"I have to disagree with you here. I had not looked at your profile until I saw your message. I do not have the feature ‘show I have viewed someone’s profile’ on, so I’m certain there’s no way your profile would show I looked at your profile. That’s neither here nor there. I thanked you for your compliment because I genuinely was thanking you full stop. My response was succinct and gave no indication of any interest. Your response to that was sending me your availability. I cannot see how you assumed a thank you for the compliment was indicative of interest. To assume that I think I’m better than anyone else is a massive assumption. I don’t think myself any better than anyone else and I certainly don’t treat anyone with any disrespect. You don’t know me, but you couldn’t be more wrong. Not that it matters one way or another, but for you to try to make me out to be someone I’m not when you don’t know me is in poor form. | |||
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"Sending a message stating your availability is not the way forward. You’ve gone from trying to sound genuine and honest to assumptions and over the top. Especially if the woman you’ve messaged has not expressed any interest in you, or more specifically meeting up.
Thank you for the feedback.
I think the issue was I should have checked the chat feed first. I saw you had looked at me and ‘presumed’ you had looked at me for me but rather you looked at me to critique me.
My message was genuine about your pictures, they are amazing.
My stating my availability was another message.
This is my exact point about Fab.
There are some on here who have the pick of the bunch and some who hardly get a nibble.
Don’t hat on the small fish for trying. Xxx
I have to disagree with you here.
I had not looked at your profile until I saw your message. I do not have the feature ‘show I have viewed someone’s profile’ on, so I’m certain there’s no way your profile would show I looked at your profile. That’s neither here nor there.
I thanked you for your compliment because I genuinely was thanking you full stop. My response was succinct and gave no indication of any interest. Your response to that was sending me your availability. I cannot see how you assumed a thank you for the compliment was indicative of interest.
To assume that I think I’m better than anyone else is a massive assumption. I don’t think myself any better than anyone else and I certainly don’t treat anyone with any disrespect. You don’t know me, but you couldn’t be more wrong. Not that it matters one way or another, but for you to try to make me out to be someone I’m not when you don’t know me is in poor form.
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"Sending a message stating your availability is not the way forward. You’ve gone from trying to sound genuine and honest to assumptions and over the top. Especially if the woman you’ve messaged has not expressed any interest in you, or more specifically meeting up.
Thank you for the feedback.
I think the issue was I should have checked the chat feed first. I saw you had looked at me and ‘presumed’ you had looked at me for me but rather you looked at me to critique me.
My message was genuine about your pictures, they are amazing.
My stating my availability was another message.
This is my exact point about Fab.
There are some on here who have the pick of the bunch and some who hardly get a nibble.
Don’t hat on the small fish for trying. Xxx
I have to disagree with you here.
I had not looked at your profile until I saw your message. I do not have the feature ‘show I have viewed someone’s profile’ on, so I’m certain there’s no way your profile would show I looked at your profile. That’s neither here nor there.
I thanked you for your compliment because I genuinely was thanking you full stop. My response was succinct and gave no indication of any interest. Your response to that was sending me your availability. I cannot see how you assumed a thank you for the compliment was indicative of interest.
To assume that I think I’m better than anyone else is a massive assumption. I don’t think myself any better than anyone else and I certainly don’t treat anyone with any disrespect. You don’t know me, but you couldn’t be more wrong. Not that it matters one way or another, but for you to try to make me out to be someone I’m not when you don’t know me is in poor form.
"Thank you for your honesty’s and your polite response to my private message. I think this is a ‘common mistake’ single men make on the site and I am glad to highlight it. From what I can gather one message is ok but two and it’s inappropriate. So in conclusion if you have a good profile with lots of information is the way forward. Add in lots of skilfully taken photos, preferably by a professional photographer you will be ok . There are so manny variables that it can’t be predicted you either click with another Fabber or you don’t. You are the most important factor and you should be who you want to be. Happy Fabbing and thanks for all the posts | |||
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"Agreed - any pics in a bathroom are an instant no from me. It is not somewhere that I associate with attraction and suggests that you are in there because you live with your wife or your parents lol x" ...or share a bedroom with a sibling! | |||
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"Nobody needs a pro photographer on fab. " Agreed. I do all my pics by myself (except for the FF ones which were taken by male partners). Tripod, good lighting, phone in selfie mode, record a short video in various poses, screenshot the best ones, crop out the unnecessary background and voila! Takes about 5 mins to get several good photos. | |||
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"Sending a message stating your availability is not the way forward. You’ve gone from trying to sound genuine and honest to assumptions and over the top. Especially if the woman you’ve messaged has not expressed any interest in you, or more specifically meeting up. quick compliment belladonna your photos are absolutely beautiful that's all
Is that a poke at a guy giving a genuine compliment?
Her photos are amazing and really well taken.
Why are you mocking a genuine compliment? "I wasn't mocking you at all dude I thought I'd compliment her pics through the thread because I assume she wouldn't want a message just saying her pics are beautiful you presume that I'm mocking you when in fact I was complimenting her for myself not to mock you | |||
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"Sending a message stating your availability is not the way forward. You’ve gone from trying to sound genuine and honest to assumptions and over the top. Especially if the woman you’ve messaged has not expressed any interest in you, or more specifically meeting up. quick compliment belladonna your photos are absolutely beautiful that's all
Is that a poke at a guy giving a genuine compliment?
Her photos are amazing and really well taken.
Why are you mocking a genuine compliment?
I think it's just a guy genuinely complimenting a woman he's not mocking anyone "indeed I was just complimenting her pics wasn't mocking anyone | |||
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