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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I doubt very much it is your weight that is the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's probably that your profile is basically crap. Not the greatest pictures and the text is just as bad. Maybe sort that out and you'll have more luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably not your size, but your profile isn't really selling the pair of you,

Maybe tweak it a bit!

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i prefer larger couples mmmm

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick "

Your profile says you’re looking for guys aged 18 – 21

Your verifications are from some aged much older.

However, you’re “looking for” ages between 18 – 99

It’s all very confusing.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick "

see.. that is the thing that you have focused on the issue as to why you can't get meets... but as others have said, there are other red flags on your profile that would have me running in the other direction....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick

see.. that is the thing that you have focused on the issue as to why you can't get meets... but as others have said, there are other red flags on your profile that would have me running in the other direction...."

And of course that age old reason....... PERSONAL PREFERENCE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact u want bareback only will lesson ur chances of a meet.

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By *emon DodgerMan
over a year ago

Blackburn

Plus you want bareback

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By *emon DodgerMan
over a year ago

Blackburn


"The fact u want bareback only will lesson ur chances of a meet."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

18 - 21

bareback only

bi-sexual

not impossible but certainly a niche target market !

more likely to be to do with that than your size

good luck with your continued search

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps you just need to accept that not many people are that into you? I have to do exactly that, there aren't many women about who are into straight TV's.

Do I put that down to narrowmindedness? No, perhaps we're both just not in the mainstream, and have to look that little bit harder as a result!

(but I have to say, the bareback thing, that's not helping anyone!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Barebak 18-21 and crap text al adds to disaster it has nothing to do with size i asure u as we both enjoy either the largrr or the small

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh !

also just noticed on your filters 'no single males'

that may be why many of your target audience aren't messaging you ?

I know you may want to hold the power of who contacts you (and that is your right), but restricting access to those you seek may hinder your efforts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps on al of ure published verys each and every one of them are older than ure age range uve confused the hell out of me sory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to toss my oar in, nobody, nooooooobody finds complaining attractive.

As has already been pointed out, your profile isn't exactly a good advert. Make a few adjustments, I'm sure you're a very friendly pair, so try and reflect that on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be honest. I don't meet couples and I don't meet big guys. Not my thing. So yes for me size would put me off as would age

but I wouldn't have even got as far as looking at either of those things as first thing I do is to read a profile. Yours is not good at all. Very poorly written and off putting

You obviously have had some meets. Perhaps try some clubs to make friends with other couples or females that may interest you.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick "

How fo you know that's the only reason they dint want to meet you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeing what Cali wrote did make me think actually

A bigger woman will always find it easier on here than a bigger man.

I know you are on here as a couple and want that status quo to remain but if you have that target audience, you may find it easier as 2 singles.

There are bi-guys who will play with a big woman but not a big man - myself included.

My preference for guys tend to be younger to (tho not as low as 18-21) and having a profile on a gay or bi site that caters for bigger guys and those who fancy them helps a great deal in getting potential meets.

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

I'm guessing your profile and pics might have a lot to do with it bareback can be a huge issue I know it is for us we wouldn't even consider it. I'm a big girl in a couple and we get meets so maybe it's your criteria or the way your coming across

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I'm big and I have no problems getting meets so I'd be more inclined to agree with the poor profile having more to do with it. Good luck with finding what you want though.

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

18..21 might be just too narrow a window of acceptance. Also it contradicts itself and repeats.. all a bit of a cucumber sandwich really.

Again as has been said, the more robust and resilient have no problems in getting a meet, and without such narrowing and contradictory constraints, so could you.

Good luck.

Wolf

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By *ea and SugarCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Not sure some people have read the profile properly, it says SINGLE MALES MUST BE 18-21 - but the people they have met who are all older are women and couples.

Obviously as some have said, the fact that you are looking for bareback will be an issue for many - and your target market for single males is so small, that your main source of messages (men) will be greatly reduced!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big couples are yum. Simples x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your preferences probably only translate to 2 or 3 guys on here. And as has been said, they're blocked from contacting you.

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By *ixties-duoMan
over a year ago

keighley

i dont mind larger people at all...but bare back and wanting to meet bi young men as young as my kids, and urs prob if u have any , puts me off ..

also i dont find ur pics appealing at all ..sorry ...personal preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like big men and curvaceous ladies are good with me also.

What puts me off is bareback, and the young age of male partner you will "accept".

Most definitely not my scene, but good luck.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

2 lines of a profile is all you can manage and that will sell yourselves to couples looking to match up...

try expanding it out and you my see a difference

all the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I missing something? I can't see on their profile where they are looking for young men (or any age men lol) or where they like bareback, can somebody enlighten me please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I missing something? I can't see on their profile where they are looking for young men (or any age men lol) or where they like bareback, can somebody enlighten me please? "

It said they only did bareback and only wanted 18-21 yr old men.

And their preferences were set differently to that. Theyve changed it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I missing something? I can't see on their profile where they are looking for young men (or any age men lol) or where they like bareback, can somebody enlighten me please?

It said they only did bareback and only wanted 18-21 yr old men.

And their preferences were set differently to that. Theyve changed it.

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Ah thanks, thought I was going mad lol

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

This one of those examples into the mindset of some of those here, incredibly poor profile very restrictive "wants" and then complaining when they arent flooded.

Common sense guys come on.

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

snap saucy . i was just going to say same thing...im guessing they have took advise and changed it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat"

And yet throughout history fat people were the attractive ones ( it's only been recently that skinny has become attractive)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat"

So thus we would subliminally shy away from those with disabilities, older people, or plain old wimpy blokes cos they all lack agility and primal fitness?

"/

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat"

Maybe, but the Willendorf Venus shows they actually worshipped the larger lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

Maybe, but the Willendorf Venus shows they actually worshipped the larger lady."

And a lot more paintings beside that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

So thus we would subliminally shy away from those with disabilities, older people, or plain old wimpy blokes cos they all lack agility and primal fitness?

"/"
dont shoot the messenger..we have been evolving for two million years for a vast majority we were hunters up until a few thousand years ago..how many disabled or old people have you slept with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

So thus we would subliminally shy away from those with disabilities, older people, or plain old wimpy blokes cos they all lack agility and primal fitness?

"/ dont shoot the messenger..we have been evolving for two million years for a vast majority we were hunters up until a few thousand years ago..how many disabled or old people have you slept with?"

I sleep with a disabled person every night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

So thus we would subliminally shy away from those with disabilities, older people, or plain old wimpy blokes cos they all lack agility and primal fitness?

"/ dont shoot the messenger..we have been evolving for two million years for a vast majority we were hunters up until a few thousand years ago..how many disabled or old people have you slept with?

I sleep with a disabled person every night. "
im not denegrating fat elderly or infirm merely pointing out that we are still programmed to exhibit primal behaviour..aggression for instance is a throwback response...over time altruism will relpace hostility and even the most humongous of us may be considered attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its interesting that you _iew it as a solely altruistic behaviour though, having sex with less than the finest examples of humanity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its interesting that you _iew it as a solely altruistic behaviour though, having sex with less than the finest examples of humanity.

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did you read what i said? If so you failed miserably to comprehend ...by the way i am a carer to two people one with cerebral palsy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal choice, end of.

I'm not the slimmest in the world granted but I'm healthy and work out five times a week. Ultimately I don't find unhealthy people attractive, but there are plenty of people who do, you just need to find those.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I see the profile text has been changed....

and I think the point has been missed by the OP, because at least the old text was truthful....

now this is guilt by omission.......

what people said is that there may have been other reasons that they may have been unsuccessful, not the reason they thought it might be.........

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick "

Whoa! Really, I mean whoa!

As a fellow fatty with no trouble meeting I don't think it's your size that's the issue!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I see the profile text has been changed....

and I think the point has been missed by the OP, because at least the old text was truthful....

now this is guilt by omission.......

what people said is that there may have been other reasons that they may have been unsuccessful, not the reason they thought it might be........."

Happens all the time, why I don't give advice because people then tailor their profile to what others want to read, opposed to being honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick "

The seven meet verifications on your profile show otherwise surely?

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

And another profile that had a clear warning to stay away has been changed due to advice given in the forum.

There's now no warning on there at all that this couple prefer bareback. In fact, they've gone as far as saying safe sex in preferences which is clearly a lie!

Mahvellous! Job well done forums!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think of the young lads, going bareback, what a risk. Ive seen another profile asking for the same thing. Barely more than kids, swinging, in a really unsafe way.

I have a teenage son and I worry. "-

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick "

i know i agree!

i mean ffs its only a shag whats with all these fussy people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick "

P.S i think you'll find your bones are pretty much the same size as everyone elses

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

The safe sex was there in interests they changed the content of profile so it was misleading to start with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was just all very misleading, they even had preferences set so people they were interested in couldnt mail them, as pointed out already.

Without them commenting on their own thread its hard to know but hopefully theyve worked it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though the OP has made changes to their profile it's still not going to sell you!

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

Also another possible contradiction is that on some photos their old username implies they smoke but on the new one they claim they don't so more off putting things there for some like us who don't meet smokers.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"And another profile that had a clear warning to stay away has been changed due to advice given in the forum.

There's now no warning on there at all that this couple prefer bareback. In fact, they've gone as far as saying safe sex in preferences which is clearly a lie!

Mahvellous! Job well done forums!"

Don't you treat all meets as risks anyway and play safe at all times then?

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick

P.S i think you'll find your bones are pretty much the same size as everyone elses "

I was just going to say that!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick "

Some people do, and some have met you both too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We can't bloody win .we changed the profile to be more honest then we are told that we are now lying

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Why are you all nice and not telling them the truth even if it will hurt?????

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Complaining wont get you anywhere..

Profile.not good.. Tweak it.. Change pics some are poorly taken..

Change age..

Put what you both want out of this..

Take bareback off..

Best i can do to help.. Good luck..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can't bloody win .we changed the profile to be more honest then we are told that we are now lying "

It does now say you prefer bareback. Thing is its not a profile really. It doesn't sell you to others.

It's meant to show why people should meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus you asked.for advice and thats what we are giving you.. Dont like the negative then dont ask..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol ok I will take the fall and say you arent being honest now. You are just hiding the bits that put people off.

Or dont you like bareback and young men... Or both. Together.

Most folk like clean safe sex.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Complaining wont get you anywhere..

Profile.not good.. Tweak it.. Change pics some are poorly taken..

Change age..

Put what you both want out of this..

Take bareback off..

Best i can do to help.. Good luck.. "

Why should they take bb off if its what they want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Complaining wont get you anywhere..

Profile.not good.. Tweak it.. Change pics some are poorly taken..

Change age..

Put what you both want out of this..

Take bareback off..

Best i can do to help.. Good luck.. "

Why would they take bareback off?

Isn't that misleading potential future meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are you all nice and not telling them the truth even if it will hurt?????"

we was saving that job for you

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"We can't bloody win .we changed the profile to be more honest then we are told that we are now lying "

no... you took out everything that people commented on when you presumed wrongly it was your size being the only factor as to why you didn't get meets....

its not exactly telling the truth now though is it...

you took out information which others may use to decide whether you would be suitable for them to meet....

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

You need to sell yourselves better the preference bit is better but you still don't say anything about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can't bloody win .we changed the profile to be more honest then we are told that we are now lying "

But your profile isn't more honest now though is it? You've just taken out the things you think people disagree with...do you still prefer bareback? then put it in-at leats people know what they're getting and clearly those who have already met you don't have an issue with it...or indeed with your size...

I'm unsure how well you come across when you complain that people who have a preference not to meet you "make you sick"...really? Is all of this that important to express such disgust? Are people not entitled to just not fancy you? If someone doesn't fancy us, it's of no matter to us...possibly if your egos are that fragile, this game isn't for you...rejection is a fact of life around here isn't it?

Your profile was very negative previously and frankly, some of your pictures are very unflattering...it's a real shame because your verifications state time and time again what a great, fun and lovely couple you are...let them speak for themselves...maybe use soem of the language other people who clearly liek you have used to describe you to describe yourselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Complaining wont get you anywhere..

Profile.not good.. Tweak it.. Change pics some are poorly taken..

Change age..

Put what you both want out of this..

Take bareback off..

Best i can do to help.. Good luck..

Why should they take bb off if its what they want?"

They shouldnt. They just asked why they werent getting meets. Said it was cos they were big.

It wasnt. Loads of us like bigger people. It was being bareback that put people off, and that they only wanted young lads in their first profile. "/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need to sell yourselves better the preference bit is better but you still don't say anything about you "

thing is it dont matter how they sell themselves they have already made their minds up its their size thats the issue and if thats the case no matter what they put people still wont meet cause they will still be the same size

Personally, and im going to be blunt here, i think they need to drop the atitude, not everyone likes fat people, ive been turned down for being to big you deal with it, accept not everyone will like you and move on, ranting on here about people not liking your size wont get you a meet, it will just put more off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We do like playing bareback but it is will play safe if the couple it couples prefer"

Well that doesn't make sense..does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I actually thought your veris were great. I think communication on the profile is the issue here?

If you want bb say so, set your preferences clearly and write a good bio, positive things about you both that sell you and get peoples interest.

And maybe some different pics. I dont have many, so cant talk, but some folks on here have some lovely ones, even just clothed shots, or partially undressed and taken by each other.

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By *uncouple981Couple
over a year ago

ayrshire

We wouldn't meet you because we don't find Big Boned people attractive, sorry if this makes you sick. Oh and Nearly forgot we don't like bareback.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon


"We can't bloody win .we changed the profile to be more honest then we are told that we are now lying

But your profile isn't more honest now though is it? You've just taken out the things you think people disagree with...do you still prefer bareback? then put it in-at leats people know what they're getting and clearly those who have already met you don't have an issue with it...or indeed with your size...

I'm unsure how well you come across when you complain that people who have a preference not to meet you "make you sick"...really? Is all of this that important to express such disgust? Are people not entitled to just not fancy you? If someone doesn't fancy us, it's of no matter to us...possibly if your egos are that fragile, this game isn't for you...rejection is a fact of life around here isn't it?

Your profile was very negative previously and frankly, some of your pictures are very unflattering...it's a real shame because your verifications state time and time again what a great, fun and lovely couple you are...let them speak for themselves...maybe use soem of the language other people who clearly liek you have used to describe you to describe yourselves?"

"maybe use some of the language other people, who clearly like you, have used to describe you to describe yourselves"

I think that's a great bit of advice for your profile description.

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By *eal_Dick_TurpinMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick "

cos they steal all the pies, innit...

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over a year ago


"You need to sell yourselves better the preference bit is better but you still don't say anything about you

thing is it dont matter how they sell themselves they have already made their minds up its their size thats the issue and if thats the case no matter what they put people still wont meet cause they will still be the same size

Personally, and im going to be blunt here, i think they need to drop the atitude, not everyone likes fat people, ive been turned down for being to big you deal with it, accept not everyone will like you and move on, ranting on here about people not liking your size wont get you a meet, it will just put more off"

Us Dudley girls never going to be skinny are we.... Real ale and pork crunch. Folks dunno what their missing!

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By *witch mix vanillaCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

A 2 line profile would not interest us at all.

Yes you do like bareback, but not many people do, too much at risk!

It only takes one person to lie and well lots of consequences that I would not even want to think about.

Your verification's are good, all saying how much enjoyable people you are.

Bulk up your profile, explaining why people think that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Us Dudley girls never going to be skinny are we.... Real ale and pork crunch. Folks dunno what their missing! "

what!!

yoiu mean im not skinny, when did that happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes me sick that it makes some people sick that the sick people think everyone is sick and sizest.

Has anyone got a sick bag?

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area


"Why are you all nice and not telling them the truth even if it will hurt?????"

yeah but i think what people were pointing out was you prefer bareback which alot of people dont agree woth and would never do.. but they werent saying remove that from your profile just so you get meets.. if thats what you like thats upto you but others have the right to know that.. so you change the profile but did you just change yourselves ie decide safe sex only.. probably not.. in which case on that you just covered up the fact you do.. thats what people are getting at..

people have preferences and maybe your preferences dont attract as many people as you want.. thats life.. there will be some im sure..

some better upto date pics might help to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the above statement update your pics would be a good start

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By *eal_Dick_TurpinMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"

Us Dudley girls never going to be skinny are we.... Real ale and pork crunch. Folks dunno what their missing! "

akshully, to my personal taste the best thing about duudlay is the accent, not as "arse cream" as brummies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick "

bigger boned?? ppl have the rite to decide if they like over weight ppl or not!their choice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick "

To be honest your photos are unflattering and 2 1/2 years old...you have described yourselves as 'big boned, ample and curvy' which is not exactly the truth...you prefer bareback...your profile is brief, lacks punctuation and is badly written to the point that it doesn't actually make sense.

Just my opinion as to why you may not be getting the attention you feel you merit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick

To be honest your photos are unflattering and 2 1/2 years old...you have described yourselves as 'big boned, ample and curvy' which is not exactly the truth...you prefer bareback...your profile is brief, lacks punctuation and is badly written to the point that it doesn't actually make sense.

Just my opinion as to why you may not be getting the attention you feel you merit "

couldnt have put it better myself

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I messaged a lady about a week ago...this thread just made me remember her...as she said my body was not her type. I didn't message back so had to assume I was too slim for her or she was saying 'no' in a polite way. I didn't think I was going to perform a multi-colour upchuck. Horses for courses and personal preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Us Dudley girls never going to be skinny are we.... Real ale and pork crunch. Folks dunno what their missing!

what!!

yoiu mean im not skinny, when did that happen "

I think I saw a skinny person in Dudley once. They died of hunger in the queue outside Greggs. Flippin heck that queue's long.

:-S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

So thus we would subliminally shy away from those with disabilities, older people, or plain old wimpy blokes cos they all lack agility and primal fitness?

"/ dont shoot the messenger..we have been evolving for two million years for a vast majority we were hunters up until a few thousand years ago..how many disabled or old people have you slept with?"

My best fb is an amputee

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick

To be honest your photos are unflattering and 2 1/2 years old...you have described yourselves as 'big boned, ample and curvy' which is not exactly the truth...you prefer bareback...your profile is brief, lacks punctuation and is badly written to the point that it doesn't actually make sense.

Just my opinion as to why you may not be getting the attention you feel you merit "

+1

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"And another profile that had a clear warning to stay away has been changed due to advice given in the forum.

There's now no warning on there at all that this couple prefer bareback. In fact, they've gone as far as saying safe sex in preferences which is clearly a lie!

Mahvellous! Job well done forums!

Don't you treat all meets as risks anyway and play safe at all times then? "

Yes of course I do however, I also choose not to knowingly play with people who play bareback. The profile did state it originally however, due to "advice" given on this forum, it was changed (even though it's now been changed back again). That took away my and anyone elses choice.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Having been on the site for while and having read many threads on this or a similar topic I would say that size is rarely the reason people do not get meets. More often than not it is about the way a profile is set up, ie pictures and text.

When writing or rewriting your profile try to think of the kind of person yo0u would like to attract and incorporate that into your write up. For example I prefer people who also like socialising and who have a sense of humour, so those would be the ones I d have in mind when writing my profile. Good luck anyway

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"We can't bloody win .we changed the profile to be more honest then we are told that we are now lying "

But you changed it to omit that you play bareback (even though you've now changed it back again). That's lying by omission so you WEREN'T being more honest at all - you were simply changing your profile to show what you thought people wanted to see to get more meets. 2 completely different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

So thus we would subliminally shy away from those with disabilities, older people, or plain old wimpy blokes cos they all lack agility and primal fitness?

"/ dont shoot the messenger..we have been evolving for two million years for a vast majority we were hunters up until a few thousand years ago..how many disabled or old people have you slept with?

My best fb is an amputee "

One of my fb's was supposed to be "undateable"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been on the site for while and having read many threads on this or a similar topic I would say that size is rarely the reason people do not get meets. More often than not it is about the way a profile is set up, ie pictures and text.

When writing or rewriting your profile try to think of the kind of person yo0u would like to attract and incorporate that into your write up. For example I prefer people who also like socialising and who have a sense of humour, so those would be the ones I d have in mind when writing my profile. Good luck anyway "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat"

i think most over weight ppl are lazy!the reason ppl are over weight is cos they eat to much and dont excercise,therefore i just dont find over weight ppl attractive at all!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"

i think most over weight ppl are lazy!the reason ppl are over weight is cos they eat to much and dont excercise,therefore i just dont find over weight ppl attractive at all!"

There are plenty of those with flat out shit metabolisms same as there are those that can eat and eat and eat and never gain a pound.

To a degree it is lazyness but its not always 100% the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

i think most over weight ppl are lazy!the reason ppl are over weight is cos they eat to much and dont excercise,therefore i just dont find over weight ppl attractive at all!

There are plenty of those with flat out shit metabolisms same as there are those that can eat and eat and eat and never gain a pound.

To a degree it is lazyness but its not always 100% the case. "

thats not strictly true!yea sum ppl have slower metabolisms than others but yur metabolism speeds up the more excercise u do so even ppl with the slowest metabolisms can be slim

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick "

I'm sorry - you haven't got big bones - you're grossly overweight but add to that the fact that you bareback and you will not be found attracitive by a fair few people. sorry to be blunt and i don't intend to be unkind. Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

i think most over weight ppl are lazy!the reason ppl are over weight is cos they eat to much and dont excercise,therefore i just dont find over weight ppl attractive at all!"

That's a very generalised statement! And quite uncalled for!

There are medical conditions and all sorts of reasons why someone may be overweight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

i think most over weight ppl are lazy!the reason ppl are over weight is cos they eat to much and dont excercise,therefore i just dont find over weight ppl attractive at all!

That's a very generalised statement! And quite uncalled for!

There are medical conditions and all sorts of reasons why someone may be overweight "

im just stating facts!like it or lump it!what medical reasons do u know of tht make ppl fat??

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By *tephenb001Man
over a year ago

stapleton

I love curvy women.

It's what a women should look like for me.

And I'm not very far from Burbage

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive"

Except for all the times in history when being larger has been considered sexy or high status.

It's not biological, its culture.

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By *ypnoprincessCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

i think most over weight ppl are lazy!the reason ppl are over weight is cos they eat to much and dont excercise,therefore i just dont find over weight ppl attractive at all!

That's a very generalised statement! And quite uncalled for!

There are medical conditions and all sorts of reasons why someone may be overweight

im just stating facts!like it or lump it!what medical reasons do u know of tht make ppl fat??"

Hypothyroidism and Cushing's syndrome are two that can cause it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bet the Op regrets making this thread now. Shame some people take it too far

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By *ixties-duoMan
over a year ago

keighley


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

i think most over weight ppl are lazy!the reason ppl are over weight is cos they eat to much and dont excercise,therefore i just dont find over weight ppl attractive at all!

That's a very generalised statement! And quite uncalled for!

There are medical conditions and all sorts of reasons why someone may be overweight

im just stating facts!like it or lump it!what medical reasons do u know of tht make ppl fat??

Hypothyroidism and Cushing's syndrome are two that can cause it

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depression...in fact loads of reasons..i used to be 15 stone due to polycistic ovaries and depression....medication and hardwork helped ...buts its hard and a vicious circle..i think its rather unfair to say most overweight people are lazy and over eat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

i think most over weight ppl are lazy!the reason ppl are over weight is cos they eat to much and dont excercise,therefore i just dont find over weight ppl attractive at all!

That's a very generalised statement! And quite uncalled for!

There are medical conditions and all sorts of reasons why someone may be overweight

im just stating facts!like it or lump it!what medical reasons do u know of tht make ppl fat??"

If you do a google search you will find there are a fair number of medical reasons!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the OP asked why they weren't getting meets! Not asking to have their size critised

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Bet the Op regrets making this thread now. Shame some people take it too far"

Its like a red rag to bulls on here sometimes. As soon as the word 'fat' comes up someone has to weigh in about how fat people are all lazy blah blah blah Daily Mail opinions blah blah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

i think most over weight ppl are lazy!the reason ppl are over weight is cos they eat to much and dont excercise,therefore i just dont find over weight ppl attractive at all!

That's a very generalised statement! And quite uncalled for!

There are medical conditions and all sorts of reasons why someone may be overweight

im just stating facts!like it or lump it!what medical reasons do u know of tht make ppl fat??

Hypothyroidism and Cushing's syndrome are two that can cause it

depression...in fact loads of reasons..i used to be 15 stone due to polycistic ovaries and depression....medication and hardwork helped ...buts its hard and a vicious circle..i think its rather unfair to say most overweight people are lazy and over eat "

Some medications cause weight gain. Im on three drugs two cause gain one causes weight loss as a side effect of what they do. Its much harder to lose weight when external forces are at work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is that no body likes meeting bigger boned couples makes me sick "

Think the glaring answer to this question is in the word "couples"

Big girls get plenty of attention, but sadly, big guys don't

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

i think most over weight ppl are lazy!the reason ppl are over weight is cos they eat to much and dont excercise,therefore i just dont find over weight ppl attractive at all!

That's a very generalised statement! And quite uncalled for!

There are medical conditions and all sorts of reasons why someone may be overweight

im just stating facts!like it or lump it!what medical reasons do u know of tht make ppl fat??"

gabapentine.. strong pain killer.. given by gp for years following surgery for tumour.. weight dropped off once i was able to stop taking it..and stopping taking it was the only thing i changed..

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over a year ago

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over a year ago


"Everyone is being very diplomatic but there are evolutionary reasons why most people are wired to find fat unattractive...in a very short space of evolutionary time we have become sophisticated industrialised but we were hunter gatherers with agility and primal fitness prerequisites to maintain survival...obesity is a relativetly new phenomenon. When we make subliminal decisions as to who we want to mate with most dont decide fat

i think most over weight ppl are lazy!the reason ppl are over weight is cos they eat to much and dont excercise,therefore i just dont find over weight ppl attractive at all!

That's a very generalised statement! And quite uncalled for!

There are medical conditions and all sorts of reasons why someone may be overweight

im just stating facts!like it or lump it!what medical reasons do u know of tht make ppl fat??

gabapentine.. strong pain killer.. given by gp for years following surgery for tumour.. weight dropped off once i was able to stop taking it..and stopping taking it was the only thing i changed.."

yea fair enough medicines and medical reasons can make ppl gain weight,but a lot of over weight ppl are big all their lives and do nothing about it and complain they cant lose weight,anyway id say the reason the op doesnt get meets as they are obese

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i aint skinny is a fatty lolol but dont have problem in meets maybe it aint your size my mates are saying its awfully hard for couples to meet xx maybe it will liven up again soon

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I'm obese and I get loads of offers so kind pisses on your theory huh?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Wow....some of you really do take things way too far.

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