FabSwingers.com forum: Couples who will meet solo

By *iniskirtcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

We're one of the (possibly rare) couples who meet solo.

Should we continue to use our couples profile for organising solo meets? Or would it be better to have solo profiles for that business?

We worry that people who don't read our verifications might think we're yet another single man posing as a couple - which, if they do read our verifications, they can soon see we're not.

What do think?

Especially would be interested to hear from other couples who meet alone.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

Mrs has a single profile. Not least because what she looks for herself is totally different to what we do as a couple.

Just be careful you don't mix the two as admin will change your profile type if it looks like you're abusing them. Ie meeting as a couple on a single profile.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Hi op,

We met here and kept our individual profiles,we just cross reference our couple profile on each single account.

Miss

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By *iniskirtcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

"Hi op,

We met here and kept our individual profiles,we just cross reference our couple profile on each single account.

Miss"

Do you think cross references helps, or hinders?

Specifically, for the male half?

We're finding it (very) easy for Mrs to get solo meets - no surprise there. Whereas for him we're met with suspicion - even though we offer a voice call with the missus to check this isn't a cheating scenario.

Guys wanting to meet her solo don't even ask about any of that!

Surely, if we have a solo profile for him, and cross-reference the couples profile, we'll be back to square one with people just thinking he's cheating?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Hi op,

We met here and kept our individual profiles,we just cross reference our couple profile on each single account.

Miss

Do you think cross references helps, or hinders?

Specifically, for the male half?

Guys wanting to meet her solo don't even ask about any of that!

Surely, if we have a solo profile for him, and cross-reference the couples profile, we'll be back to square one with people just thinking he's cheating?"

I think he's just going to have to accept that it's going to be tougher for him than his other half on here

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By *iniskirtcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

I think he's just going to have to accept that it's going to be tougher for him than his other half on here "

That's a given.She gets streams of offers on a daily basis. We know how it works on here so absolutely no surprises there.

But if the odds can be evened up just a little, it would be nice.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Hi op,

We met here and kept our individual profiles,we just cross reference our couple profile on each single account.

Miss

Do you think cross references helps, or hinders?

Specifically, for the male half?

Guys wanting to meet her solo don't even ask about any of that!

Surely, if we have a solo profile for him, and cross-reference the couples profile, we'll be back to square one with people just thinking he's cheating?"

He will learn very quickly that life as a ‘single’ male on here will not be easy. You are going to get waaaay more action than him if you have singles profiles.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Amsterdam

I don't think there's anything wrong using a couple profile if you meet alone too. I think most people are able to work out if you're real or not

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"Hi op,

We met here and kept our individual profiles,we just cross reference our couple profile on each single account.

Miss

Do you think cross references helps, or hinders?

Specifically, for the male half?

Guys wanting to meet her solo don't even ask about any of that!

Surely, if we have a solo profile for him, and cross-reference the couples profile, we'll be back to square one with people just thinking he's cheating?"

I've spoken to women and couples from my profile to assure them that I'm happy for Jack to meet alone.

Yep agree ,nobody ever asks to speak to Jack,to confirm he's ok with me having meets .

He hasn't done too badly with meets from his own profile in the past. Although he did have a social with a lady who then decided she wasn't comfortable that he was in a relationship,even though she knew before the meet and had spoken to me herself .

It does seem to be a fab double standard that mean are viewed suspiciously,even when it can be verified by their partner .

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By *iniskirtcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

He will learn very quickly that life as a ‘single’ male on here will not be easy. You are going to get waaaay more action than him if you have singles profiles."

He is well aware of this. Remember he’s dealing with single men all the time on our couples account, so he knows exactly how hard it is for them to get dates.

He’s also had a singles profile on here before, and did have several solo meets. Although he found that many genuinely single women on here were actually looking for partners!

We’re not new to this, we’ve been swinging for 30 years, and we’ve had loads of meets, mainly MMF, but also MFF, MMFF and we’ve both had several solo meets too (I’ve even had FF meets)

But we know the score, and we know the game is very much rigged in favour of the women.

x Miniskirt

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By *iniskirtcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

It does seem to be a fab double standard that mean are viewed suspiciously,even when it can be verified by their partner .

100% agree with that!

We also find that people go from being interested in meeting him, to subsequently insisting they meet us both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet solo, but only he has a single profile currently.

We've found a lot of people find it to be catfishing for him to message from the couple profile about a meet I wouldn't be going to. However it always seems fine when I do the same!!

I've had a single profile before, but completely honestly found the attention too overwhelming. Hundreds of messages that never got read.

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By *iniskirtcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

"We meet solo, but only he has a single profile currently.

We've found a lot of people find it to be catfishing for him to message from the couple profile about a meet I wouldn't be going to. However it always seems fine when I do the same!!

I've had a single profile before, but completely honestly found the attention too overwhelming. Hundreds of messages that never got read."

Exactly the same experience we had / have.

Miniskirt really doesn't need her own profile - she gets enough attention on the couples one.

Perhaps Driver really does need his own solo profile, again.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last message was deleted as didn't read all the replies and based on the female half of the couple.

Doughnut has a single account and as far as I'm aware has only ever come across a few women not wanting to meet because he is in a relationship which is totally fair.

He doesn't get much from his single account, lots of men but he doesn't meet men, can't remember the last time he got a meet from his actual profile, it's been through other avenues (clubs etc).

Danish x

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By *ister-mischiefMan
over a year ago

Trafford

We both have separate accounts and link them together to our couples. Mrs has more attention on her singles than we do on our couples.

My male single account well it is what it is along with the vast percentage of accounts on fab - a male account but one thats allowed to play.. some ladies will some dont we all have preferences.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We play solo. Especially the male with his B/d streak.

Mrs preferred clubs she likes the social side, especially in her joy of bi play.

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By *omethingDifferent4FunWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh-ish

"We're one of the (possibly rare) couples who meet solo.

Should we continue to use our couples profile for organising solo meets? Or would it be better to have solo profiles for that business?

We worry that people who don't read our verifications might think we're yet another single man posing as a couple - which, if they do read our verifications, they can soon see we're not.

What do think?

Especially would be interested to hear from other couples who meet alone. "

As others have said, it is very inequal/one sided on the single profiles front unfortunately. And there is definitely more suspicion from women even when mentioning the wife's single profile etc which is frustrating.

You at least mention very obviously on your profile that you enjoy solo meets as well as together, unfortunately it's just the way of Fab that you will get more offers from men than women for that.

My husband has found it far easier meeting and getting to know folk through in person socials and club nights than online for the above reasons.

Could be worth a try and good luck to you both!

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By *iniskirtcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

My husband has found it far easier meeting and getting to know folk through in person socials and club nights than online for the above reasons.

Could be worth a try and good luck to you both!

Yeah, good suggestion that. We've been to clubs and socials together and it is a good way to meet people. Probably easier than the single male account option - that's definitely a lot of hard work and frustration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a recent meet we don't mind the idea of meets where its either hubby and a couple, or the male half and us. It does depend on the people. That said, we plan on keeping just our couples profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wife sometimes meets solo but only if the guy is happy for her to face time and him to take some pics or vid on her phone so we can watch when she gets home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're one of the (possibly rare) couples who meet solo.

Should we continue to use our couples profile for organising solo meets? Or would it be better to have solo profiles for that business?

We worry that people who don't read our verifications might think we're yet another single man posing as a couple - which, if they do read our verifications, they can soon see we're not.

What do think?

Especially would be interested to hear from other couples who meet alone. "

This is something that we've just started to experiment with, I have loads of messages but Mr finds that women he does get a conversation with don't put much effort in. I'm super chatty and will chat to a lot of people regardless, apparently that's not how a lot of solo women operate!

It's hard work!

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By *atnayCouple
over a year ago

STEVENAGE

"We're one of the (possibly rare) couples who meet solo.

Should we continue to use our couples profile for organising solo meets? Or would it be better to have solo profiles for that business?

We worry that people who don't read our verifications might think we're yet another single man posing as a couple - which, if they do read our verifications, they can soon see we're not.

What do think?

Especially would be interested to hear from other couples who meet alone. "

We only have a couples profile, but I do meet at clubs solo. We have no secrets and both read all messages. Separate profiles would mean constanly logging out to check each others accounts. Just a thing we have. But we're very clear in our bio I tnk. N

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

I mostly meet solo so I have a single Females profile.We tend to be a couple at friends fetish parties.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

We started with single profiles, then became a couple, we may investigate solo stuff but for now we are enjoying group fun

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

When I meet men from couples, I prefer messages from a legit, well verified couples profile

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"When I meet men from couples, I prefer messages from a legit, well verified couples profile

Or better still meet as a couple first, with solo meets as follow up meets, arranged in person

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"When I meet men from couples, I prefer messages from a legit, well verified couples profile

Or better still meet as a couple first, with solo meets as follow up meets, arranged in person "

I don’t meet couples

so was just speaking from experience xx

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By *iniskirtcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

"When I meet men from couples, I prefer messages from a legit, well verified couples profile

Interesting that you should say this. Because we have wondered if a couples profile is actually more better than a single guy's - even for getting solo meets.

We seem to qualify too - we're legit, and we have several verifications that prove we're both real.

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By *apperleymanMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Couples who also meet singly tend to put their single profile names up too.

I think that adds to their authenticity..

That way you can also see it’s not just a bloke posing as a couple.

There’s a couple of couples profiles that say daily “only male meeting today” for the last two years.. no new photos, no new veri’s - clearly trying to live off the old couples profile..

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By *iniskirtcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

That way you can also see it’s not just a bloke posing as a couple.

Definitely have seen those profiles. Pretty obvious from our profile and verifications that it is not just a bloke posing as a couple though.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

That way you can also see it’s not just a bloke posing as a couple.

Definitely have seen those profiles. Pretty obvious from our profile and verifications that it is not just a bloke posing as a couple though. "

I think we need to get off the subject of fake couples because it's obvious you are real. Was just thinking meeting singly is doable but to assuage the worries of the person they meet that it's not a single guy pretending maybe they could just meet the couple first. Then do singly later. Sure there are plenty out there that don't care and will meet anyone, but for those that are unsure it's an easy fix.

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