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By *nterprizeABC OP   Man
over a year ago

Aberystwyth

Men here outnumber women 70:1 at the very least. I would be interested to see how many last on here before they give up.

With that statistic, then it would be possible to work out the true ratio- as the more men that come and go compared to women that stay, the more men outnumber women over a period of time.

Women will always be more picky, so even with a 1:1 ratio, many men will go without. That is simply how it is.

I am trying to not be a hypocrite here by hiding my profile so I do not pick up on searches- I'm mostly here for the social side. Then again, I do not have the mental stability or selflessness to be a partner of anyone, or even a friend. Just how it is.

Thus- what do people think the male churn is on here?

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Following!!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

We often see these numbers quoted but like to check locally, after all that's a more relevant number for prospective meets. Currently using who's near, the ratio of men to women is 7:1 and if you add couples and women together the ratio is 3:1. It used to be a fairly steady 10:1.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Until there is a massive shift in the society, sites like this will always attract many more men than women. Women come on here looking for a variety of things, hook ups being only one of those. Most men come on here believing they're get their dicks wet quickly and, usually, without much effort. Can you see the issue here, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men come on here believing they're get their dicks wet quickly and, usually, without much effort."

Yes. I was one them I admit. Complete misunderstanding on my part. Desperation, loneliness, bravado among many drivers I’d say.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

You're also forgetting women churn!. The amount of new women on local updates that join then disappear is high.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Until there is a massive shift in the society, sites like this will always attract many more men than women. Women come on here looking for a variety of things, hook ups being only one of those. Most men come on here believing they're get their dicks wet quickly and, usually, without much effort. Can you see the issue here, OP?"

I think porn has a lot to answer for.

They watch it, with all these different categories, some involving cuckold and the likes, then the adverts of wanton women in their area, hot singles and desperate wives.

Most realise it's a load of nonsense, but then they discover this place and all of a sudden it becomes real to them.

The amount of first time or early messages that refer to cuckold, or assume we're cuckold, and with absolutely no understanding of it.

When we explain that's not he we are, they still push for the same thing, usually for Mrs to be alone and ready and waiting for them, they have their way and leave.

I believe the difference in wants and expectations here can drive women away.

If it wasn't for me taking the reigns here, we wouldn't be here, because when we first joined, Mrs took an interest in this site but soon became overwhelmed by it all.

It works for us this way, but I imagine many may leave instead.

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford


"You're also forgetting women churn!. The amount of new women on local updates that join then disappear is high."

Often many of those are fake profiles..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're also forgetting women churn!. The amount of new women on local updates that join then disappear is high.

Often many of those are fake profiles.."

That, and how overwhelming it is for a newbie can make them want to instantly delete.

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By *orillaman32Man
over a year ago

Christchurch


"You're also forgetting women churn!. The amount of new women on local updates that join then disappear is high."

These, I guess, are men pretending to be women to collect pics. Anecdotally of course.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I think on FAB the trend is similar to what is experienced on regular online dating research. Regardless to the ration of men to women a small percentage of men get a disproportionately high amount of the attention. However women (and to some extent couples in the fab context) get a far more even distribution of attention from men. Because of this the top 10% of men actually have a better selection to chose from than the top 10% of women. So when you factor the male to female ratio in with that a few men get a disproportionate amount of the attention it becomes incredibly difficult for a single male.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"You're also forgetting women churn!. The amount of new women on local updates that join then disappear is high."

Often they are the same women, who go on a cock rampage for a couple of months, then disappear, only to reappear with a ‘clean slate’…..

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"You're also forgetting women churn!. The amount of new women on local updates that join then disappear is high.

Often they are the same women, who go on a cock rampage for a couple of months, then disappear, only to reappear with a ‘clean slate’….."

What is wrong with a "cock rampage"? And why do they feel they have to leave/hide their profiles only to appear with "clean slate"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don’t get it, I’m going to be kinda brutal here but I don’t mean it in a nasty way.

Guys, it isn’t rocket science. If you are polite, have decent photos and put some effort into your profile alongside go over to social events you will get to meet people on the site.

Yes men outnumber women to crazy levels but the vast majority send “fuck now” with knob photos attached and it is not difficult to not do that.

The vast majority of guys send cut and paste messages that do not match fems & couples’ profiles, preferences or sexuality and it is not hard to not do that.

The vast majority of guys here have no standards and would fuck a barbers floor, it is not hard to not do that.

A high number of guys also fuck other men because they can’t meet women for reasons I have mentioned above then they lie and claim to be straight. Believe me, it is not hard to not do that.

I’ve been on and off fab for 8 years or so give or tske, and I have never had an issue with meeting people on fab sexually or socially. I am as average as a cup of tea, as I said, it all just isn’t rocket science

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"You're also forgetting women churn!. The amount of new women on local updates that join then disappear is high.

Often they are the same women, who go on a cock rampage for a couple of months, then disappear, only to reappear with a ‘clean slate’…..

What is wrong with a "cock rampage"? And why do they feel they have to leave/hide their profiles only to appear with "clean slate"? "

There’s nothing wrong with a cock rampage at all, it’s kind of what the site is built around lol? And I never said they had to feel like they have to leave/hide their profiles either? It’s just my observations on various women who have popped in and out of here over the years. Totally up to them how they choose to use this site, likewise the rest of us

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"You're also forgetting women churn!. The amount of new women on local updates that join then disappear is high.

Often they are the same women, who go on a cock rampage for a couple of months, then disappear, only to reappear with a ‘clean slate’…..

What is wrong with a "cock rampage"? And why do they feel they have to leave/hide their profiles only to appear with "clean slate"?

There’s nothing wrong with a cock rampage at all, it’s kind of what the site is built around lol? And I never said they had to feel like they have to leave/hide their profiles either? It’s just my observations on various women who have popped in and out of here over the years. Totally up to them how they choose to use this site, likewise the rest of us "

Even if you did not intend it, the tone of your "observations" was very negative to women.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


" Most men come on here believing they're get their dicks wet quickly and, usually, without much effort. "

It could be argued that this post was negative towards single men….

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


" Most men come on here believing they're get their dicks wet quickly and, usually, without much effort.

It could be argued that this post was negative towards single men…."

Of course! Didn't you know that I secretly hate all men and I am a closet lesbian?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


" Most men come on here believing they're get their dicks wet quickly and, usually, without much effort.

It could be argued that this post was negative towards single men….

Of course! Didn't you know that I secretly hate all men and I am a closet lesbian? "

Doesn’t everyone know that?

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


" Most men come on here believing they're get their dicks wet quickly and, usually, without much effort.

It could be argued that this post was negative towards single men….

Of course! Didn't you know that I secretly hate all men and I am a closet lesbian?

Doesn’t everyone know that? "

Nope, some still believe the marketing.

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By *he Dark SaintMan
over a year ago

hitchin

Statistics like this is standard in any kind of ecosystem based on sex. Men and women a simply not the same as there are both genders generally value different things that lead to sex.

Since these sites are tailored to sex which is what most men value more, it'll attract more men. Women value sex too but most value attention more. So it becomes a game of who is worth their attention.

Best way to get some action is to Attend social gatherings like commune events, parties, clubs as many people on here do that anyway. The few that don't will be looking more locally.

Really helps to put your best self forward.

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