FabSwingers.com forum: How to stand out/ getting off the ground

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all,

Been on the site for about 6-7 months now, and apart from a couple messages recently that went nowhere, and the occasional people perving, I haven't had any luck.

I know the man to women ratio is massively skewed, but the site does feel quite hostile to single men sometimes, so I'm asking for advice in standing out and making the first move.

Since the site is full of lecherous men I tend not message first for fear of being lumped in with the rest, but if I don't message I feel I'm not going to get anywhere.

Advice from both men and women would be appreciated.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

"Hi all,

Been on the site for about 6-7 months now, and apart from a couple messages recently that went nowhere, and the occasional people perving, I haven't had any luck.

I know the man to women ratio is massively skewed, but the site does feel quite hostile to single men sometimes, so I'm asking for advice in standing out and making the first move.

Since the site is full of lecherous men I tend not message first for fear of being lumped in with the rest, but if I don't message I feel I'm not going to get anywhere.

Advice from both men and women would be appreciated.

Like your body

Talk about something other than sex

Show you have a sense of humour.

And the cheat code is to take your body and your sense of humour to an organised social or club so people can see you can talk about something other than sex.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Don't be afraid to message first!! If you think you could fit the bill (and they fit yours of course) go for it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Unfortunately there's no clubs in my city

Typical, eh?

Thanks for the advice though, I appreciate it!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Hi all,

Been on the site for about 6-7 months now, and apart from a couple messages recently that went nowhere, and the occasional people perving, I haven't had any luck.

I know the man to women ratio is massively skewed, but the site does feel quite hostile to single men sometimes, so I'm asking for advice in standing out and making the first move.

Since the site is full of lecherous men I tend not message first for fear of being lumped in with the rest, but if I don't message I feel I'm not going to get anywhere.

Advice from both men and women would be appreciated.

Hi op

Besides the message option do you use anything else on the site to try and connect with others

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do fab peoples photos who I'm interested in, as winks are effectively useless coming from a single male.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I do fab peoples photos who I'm interested in, as winks are effectively useless coming from a single male."

Hi op

Use the reply and quote on who you are replacing to it makes it easier to understand.

You could always use the meet section put out meets for a social for a drink and nothing else see where it leads then theirs the chat rooms and obviously the forums get involved

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I do fab peoples photos who I'm interested in, as winks are effectively useless coming from a single male.

Hi op

Use the reply and quote on who you are replacing to it makes it easier to understand.

You could always use the meet section put out meets for a social for a drink and nothing else see where it leads then theirs the chat rooms and obviously the forums get involved

Replying not replacing

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

no advice is going to help you all it will do s put you in the same pool as all those others who asked = boring...

you need to be yourself to stand out and nobody knows you like you do ... so sit back and have a think ...

but also understand this to most is a lifestyle not insta shag and most need sexual attraction of some sorts its not a free for all theres no free sex on a plate for all most men will get nowhere for lots of reasons ... just be you

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

winks are like marmite ... i mass delete daily

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"I do fab peoples photos who I'm interested in, as winks are effectively useless coming from a single male."

Agreed that they're like marmite - we don't mind weeks provided they're not mindlessly sent out!

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