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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its often said on this site ‘were all adults’ so why do people push and push until you have to block them?

Being blocked for being abusive, that goes without saying but repeated ‘attention seeking’ messages from the same people for example.

I dont get it. Its supposed to be fun on here. Do folk get a kick out of being blocked? I guess most dont give it a second thought (I'm expecting the comment ‘i wouldn't make a thread about it block and move on ’)

Fab should be a positive experience for everyone. Are people their own worst enemy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because a twat is a twat, and that's the end of that!

They suck the soul out of you so why waste time on them? Block and move on.

Don't expect standards in people who simply do not have any. You're giving them too much respect.

Block.

Not blocking them allows them license to thrive. Blocking them, silences them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think some people believe they've got no chance of meeting so decide to be as annoying as possible. And I think some people have no self awareness and/or social skills.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

fab will never be a positive experience for 99.9% of the men on here most are doomed to fail the moment they join... .. entailment .. and sex on a plate is why most join but they join a scene where there are far far fewer couples and women for them to meet thats way before liking someone or attraction ...

this is one scene where clearly there is not someone for everyone and never will be.... frustration jealousy and all sorts creep in ...

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Its often said on this site ‘were all adults’ so why do people push and push until you have to block them?

Being blocked for being abusive, that goes without saying but repeated ‘attention seeking’ messages from the same people for example.

I dont get it. Its supposed to be fun on here. Do folk get a kick out of being blocked? I guess most dont give it a second thought (I'm expecting the comment ‘i wouldn't make a thread about it block and move on ’)

Fab should be a positive experience for everyone. Are people their own worst enemy? "

Sometimes people block folk just so they don't appear in searches anymore

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By *olmateMan
over a year ago

west mids

Could it not be possible that people who block others for no reason feel it as a satisfactory sport, too ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d one man ask me to block him after he messaged a second time after I’d already replied to a previous message saying thank you but no thanks.

Some I block through necessity after repeated messages, others I use it as a filter

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Its often said on this site ‘were all adults’ so why do people push and push until you have to block them?

Being blocked for being abusive, that goes without saying but repeated ‘attention seeking’ messages from the same people for example.

I dont get it. Its supposed to be fun on here. Do folk get a kick out of being blocked? I guess most dont give it a second thought (I'm expecting the comment ‘i wouldn't make a thread about it block and move on ’)

Fab should be a positive experience for everyone. Are people their own worst enemy? "

Blocking helps to continue to make it fun it's like the easy way around and forget about it ,you end up with a platform of people on similar wavelength

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Could it not be possible that people who block others for no reason feel it as a satisfactory sport, too ??"

There's always a reason, even if you don't know what it is

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I would block profiles if I had sent a message which had been read and instantly deleted . This way I didn't message again or even looked at the profile again it was a way of sorting profile's. There are so many .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have discovered that as this a free to join site, it does attract the dreamers and loon toons x. Just block and move on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sometimes been surprised to be blocked by People that I was on the verge of meeting.

(Perhaps it gets too real for the time wasters)

But normally I don't mind. And I block people that I have no interest in seeing in my searches, or people that pester, or who post vile status updates that I know then I would never meet them..

Block away, it makes for a much more peaceful experience.

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By *aLinCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

This is a great idea. We wish it would be added to FAQ. We usually block after we get tons of unanswered messages from one person (now we understand that it might be that that person wasn't aware he/she sent 57 messages previous month) or someone who sends friend request without chatting first.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I do think some people believe they've got no chance of meeting so decide to be as annoying as possible. And I think some people have no self awareness and/or social skills. "

During my first few month's on Fab I did the same as everyone else. I spent time reading profiles, research if I was in the age range they were looking for , within a distance that was realistic , had the attributes they were looking for, that our interests matched ,all before sending a polite ,well thought out message ,all while accepting the chances of getting a reply were slim to zero.

I never sent a second message if I didn't get a reply ,I just accepted they were not interested in me . I did this for my first six months on here before I accepted I will never be lucky enough to meet anyone, even for a coffee or bite to eat and a nice social to meet new people, So I haven't messaged anyone for the last eight months ,and just read ,and partake in the forums now.

I've realised only a tiny percentage of single blokes will ever get the play meets on here, and I'm not one of them .

I was reading a thread on here yesterday ,posted by a woman ,asking why single blokes who have been on here for over a year(like myself),and haven't had a meet are still on here . My reason is ,I have stayed on here because I have accepted how this site works ,and which types of guys will ,and won't have success ,so I don't chase the impossible dream anymore .

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I don't think the pests of fab do much thinking whatsoever! X

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

You do wonder what some people’s motivations on this site are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a system. If I'm even in forums and I think gobshite, I'll block them.

If I message and its read with no reply I block, so I don't forget and end up sending a wasted message again.

When I receive a demanding or crude message I reply saying no thanks and block.

If someone lies to me block.

Multiple excuses why a meet couldn't happen block.

Mention their content pages block.

Yes I can be a cunt

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"Its often said on this site ‘were all adults’ so why do people push and push until you have to block them?

Being blocked for being abusive, that goes without saying but repeated ‘attention seeking’ messages from the same people for example.

I dont get it. Its supposed to be fun on here. Do folk get a kick out of being blocked? I guess most dont give it a second thought (I'm expecting the comment ‘i wouldn't make a thread about it block and move on ’)

Fab should be a positive experience for everyone. Are people their own worst enemy? "

Ha !. One couple demanded we sent face pics after we told them they were not for us. We tried to be pleasant but they kept on so had to block them. They then created another profile and started attacking us from there ! . Luckily the second block was the end of that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could it not be possible that people who block others for no reason feel it as a satisfactory sport, too ??

There's always a reason, even if you don't know what it is"

Yes there is.

My profile clearly states I’ll block if people message having clearly ignored what I’m looking for.

They message anyway. I don’t see it as a sport hitting the block button. I just wonder why they do it.

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove


"I do think some people believe they've got no chance of meeting so decide to be as annoying as possible. And I think some people have no self awareness and/or social skills. "


"I do think some people believe they've got no chance of meeting so decide to be as annoying as possible. And I think some people have no self awareness and/or social skills. "

Yes, I think sexual & other life frustrations have a lot to answer for, in people playing up here.

But the repeat messages are also a specific tactic to bump a conversation in case it has fallen out of page, esp when a message appears unread. It's all very haphazard. I'm currently amused when people try to bump convos, in that they assume we've got dozens of people contacting I think repeat messages can be very annoying but are harmless. The contacts here are so haphazard, and on a busy inbox I've even appreciated a bump on an interesting message or conversation I was invested in that got misplaced in the influx. The offensive messages, well that's unacceptable but even adults can't always play nice. The real issue is the ones who will make new accounts to stalk and harass after a block, it's only happened to me explicitly once and it is very intimidating.

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove


"Could it not be possible that people who block others for no reason feel it as a satisfactory sport, too ??"

Definitely! You can tell when someone is enjoying their blocking a little too much when they write in to inform you they're blocking you and why, even though you weren't in conversation

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By *ltcoupleswanseaCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

We don’t have to block often but when we do it’s because people can’t take the word no for one reason or another

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By *eductiveEncountersWoman
over a year ago

South West

I hate having to block.But it is far easier than having to keep on saying ''no''

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


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Sometimes people block folk just so they don't appear in searches anymore "

Exactly this! It’s called ‘sorting the wheat from the chaff’……nothing personal about it, other than no likely match

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


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Fab should be a positive experience for everyone. Are people their own worst enemy?

"

People are often their own worst enemy

Unfortunately though, some people's positive experiences of FAB are not always compatible with everyone else's best experiences. "You can never please everyone" is as true here as it is everywhere else.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've noticed an increase in people literally telling you to block them... I find it very strange.

We're all adults, so if you're done with a conversation, ask them not to contact you again and move on. Why does the mere idea of not being blocked seem to push alot of people over the edge?

We had this lastnight from an individual who didn't like being told we should go our separate ways as our schedules clash and we can't arrange a meet. Because we didn't block him, he went on to send abuse. I think of it as a filter on its own but damn, has all maturity gone out the window when you can just be an arse for no plausible reason?

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

People are always their own worst enemy, something about being anonymous on the Internet makes people absolute fucking savages.

But, even if being blocked does give them some kind of kick, I don't mind.

I blocked them so I don't have to hear from them again.

That means I win.

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By *llaandGCouple
over a year ago

London


"Because a twat is a twat, and that's the end of that! "

Dr Seuss is a Fabber? Who knew?

G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite simply it’s a form of validation for them. For this reason (amongst others), I choose not to block. I’ll utilise the Read/mark-unread feature ‘cause I’m nosey and sometimes curious about what they’ve deigned to send

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