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How to get going as a single male?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, I've been on for a while but only just looking to start now as been too busy with work, looking for advice as it seems so hard to even get a response, is it because I've been on a long time without verification? And if so, anyone willing to help verify?

Thanks in advance!

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I don't think your picture will help... People want to see you

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex


"Hi, I've been on for a while but only just looking to start now as been too busy with work, looking for advice as it seems so hard to even get a response, is it because I've been on a long time without verification? And if so, anyone willing to help verify?

Thanks in advance!"

More likely to be your photos and your profile text. Women look at these before deciding to respond to a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used the site as a single bloke years ago. I found just be open honest and do just look for a fuck. Respect people I found that most women like to chat and click then go for a social first. It was hard to start with but once you got chatting and people realise you where not a pushy prick like a good 90% of the blokes on here then you seem to get more meets. Profile text and pics really help too. Happy fabbing M

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers thank you for the advice, appreciate it, anything else you've picked up would be excellent too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers I'll have a think and look to change up a bit.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Oh and the disc at the end of your profile is meaningless and is used as a filter by people in the know lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice, I'll have a think and change up a bit, appreciate the help.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Ugh... Disclaimer ffs! I think I need sleep

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By *rivateBiDancerMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Talk to people, go to some socials, go to some clubs and don't assume you're going to fall into bed with everyone. Connection is super important

A meaningless fling is fun too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show us yer bum!

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Probably ditch the current photos for starters…. More pics of women than yourself on single male profile isn’t going to attract the kind of suitors you’re after

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks, where do I find the socials etc?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers mate, noted I'll look to change them asap

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By *aznlouCouple
over a year ago

co durham

Will the lady from your profile pic not verify you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She isn't on here, is aware of the pics so could ask her to come on I suppose, good shout.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry


"She isn't on here, is aware of the pics so could ask her to come on I suppose, good shout."
if you’re after women, I would remove the photos of a woman. Instinctively prospects compare themselves to those in photos and opt in/out. Given that you’re not a couple, I suspect having a woman in the photos is a moot point, particularly given that the focus is on her and not you. What do you have to offer? What are your skills? Interests? What can a prospective partner expect? What’s in it for them? Same advice, different thread.

Xx

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for the advice, I appreciate it, in the process of changing now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Advice taken, thanks to all that gave some.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Hi, I've been on for a while but only just looking to start now as been too busy with work, looking for advice as it seems so hard to even get a response, is it because I've been on a long time without verification? And if so, anyone willing to help verify?

Thanks in advance!"

I've also been on here over a year and not had any chance of a meet, despite a detailed profile with new photos added weekly. After looking at a lot of single blokes profiles ,it seems to be a small percentage of guys that get meets ,whilst the vast majority have no luck what so ever ,no matter how much effort is put into a profile and photos.

Good luck anyway mate .

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Talk to people, go to some socials, go to some clubs and don't assume you're going to fall into bed with everyone. Connection is super important

A meaningless fling is fun too... "

What about us who aren't interested in clubs or organised large socials . ?

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"Talk to people, go to some socials, go to some clubs and don't assume you're going to fall into bed with everyone. Connection is super important

A meaningless fling is fun too...

What about us who aren't interested in clubs or organised large socials . ?

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You will have less opportunity to meet like minded people, but that's your choice. The fact that your own personal profile is not upbeat and you regularly post commenting about not getting a meet won't help you either. Expecting people that don't know you, to drive to your house and hop into your hot tub is not likely to happen. People need to feel safe and that's not a good scenario.

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By *rivateBiDancerMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Talk to people, go to some socials, go to some clubs and don't assume you're going to fall into bed with everyone. Connection is super important

A meaningless fling is fun too...

What about us who aren't interested in clubs or organised large socials . ?

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Good luck

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Talk to people, go to some socials, go to some clubs and don't assume you're going to fall into bed with everyone. Connection is super important

A meaningless fling is fun too...

What about us who aren't interested in clubs or organised large socials . ?

You will have less opportunity to meet like minded people, but that's your choice. The fact that your own personal profile is not upbeat and you regularly post commenting about not getting a meet won't help you either. Expecting people that don't know you, to drive to your house and hop into your hot tub is not likely to happen. People need to feel safe and that's not a good scenario."

I am more than happy to meet for a one on one social in a public place for a coffee or a bite to eat to see if there is a spark and attraction. I'm just not interested in clubs or organised socials .

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Talk to people, go to some socials, go to some clubs and don't assume you're going to fall into bed with everyone. Connection is super important

A meaningless fling is fun too...

What about us who aren't interested in clubs or organised large socials . ?

You will have less opportunity to meet like minded people, but that's your choice. The fact that your own personal profile is not upbeat and you regularly post commenting about not getting a meet won't help you either. Expecting people that don't know you, to drive to your house and hop into your hot tub is not likely to happen. People need to feel safe and that's not a good scenario.

I am more than happy to meet for a one on one social in a public place for a coffee or a bite to eat to see if there is a spark and attraction. I'm just not interested in clubs or organised socials ."

Then accept that your chances of meeting and making connections will be vastly reduced. As has been said to you multiple times.

Stop hijacking people posts with your tales of woe. Be more positive and stop moaning on every thread possible about your lack of connections. It may get you attention but for all the wrong reasons.

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By *iorgio79Man
over a year ago

Wallington

There are things you cannot change (how well-endowed you are), things you can change to a degree (being attractive - by being well-groomer, learning to smile, taking good photos) and things you definitely can change (lose weight, getting more muscular).

Work on what you can, maximize your good side.

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