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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all wil you not meet someone if they had a skin condition I.e eczema or psoriasis they are both just dry skin and you can't catch it. My husband has psoriasis and people look down on him wen he has the creams on as it goes red. We know everyone has there own taste but just asking will you meet someone with any skin conditions.???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez some people are so shallow! It wouldn't stop me meeting someone.

I met a lady quite a few times who had a skin condition, only stopped meeting because she moved away. X

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

If it isn't contagious I don't see the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all wil you not meet someone if they had a skin condition I.e eczema or psoriasis they are both just dry skin and you can't catch it. My husband has psoriasis and people look down on him wen he has the creams on as it goes red. We know everyone has there own taste but just asking will you meet someone with any skin conditions.???"

What some people may see as aesthitically distasteful, others may not. It's no more an issue than meeting someone with a limb missing for example. So may find it repulsive, others wont. I don't think its being 'shallow' to not meet people with physical disfigurements anymore than it's not shallow not having the ability to clean up someone elses sick for example.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i am a sufferer of psoriasis (top of my head) and people have never said anything to me about mine... its something i live with and i move on.....

p.s have you tried holland and barretts pure aloe vera gel... works wonders with mine when i get flare ups....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too suffer with psoriasis and understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As true as you say, such conditions aren't contagious but I suppose some people will be put off anyway - suppose its depends on the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jeez some people are so shallow! It wouldn't stop me meeting someone.

I met a lady quite a few times who had a skin condition, only stopped meeting because she moved away. X"

Why is it shallow?? Depending on the severity it is off putting to a lot of people, that doesn't make them shallow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind these conditions at all as long as no infection is present cos I have low immunity.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

I (Amy) have psoriasis on my bum and Vince could never understand why I always wanted meets to know beforehand.

It may be quite common and obviously it's not contagious but it dents MY confidence a little and, admittedly, it would probably destroy my self-esteem if we ever got that one meet who reacted badly to it...

It may not mean anything to most people but I prefer them to be aware. x

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

"I (Amy) have psoriasis on my bum and Vince could never understand why I always wanted meets to know beforehand.

It may not mean anything to most people but I prefer them to be aware. x"

That's totally understandable, things that are insignificant to others can mean so much more to yourself when you live with them.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"p.s have you tried holland and barretts pure aloe vera gel... works wonders with mine when i get flare ups...."

Hmm, may have to give that a go.

I've usually just stuck with sudocreme but it can be a pain to apply because of how thick it is. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"p.s have you tried holland and barretts pure aloe vera gel... works wonders with mine when i get flare ups....

Hmm, may have to give that a go.

I've usually just stuck with sudocreme but it can be a pain to apply because of how thick it is. x"

Nooo..sudocreme is the best thing for shaving rash, not psoriasis...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I (Amy) have psoriasis on my bum and Vince could never understand why I always wanted meets to know beforehand.

It may not mean anything to most people but I prefer them to be aware. x"

I agree it does affect your confidence when you get an adverse reaction fron folk. Kids dont bother if they see it some will ask adults are worst.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"Nooo..sudocreme is the best thing for shaving rash, not psoriasis...lol"

Oh, it works wonders on my psoriasis.

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By *ig bird brightWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

i have a very rate skin condition called hidrantis suppurativa it has put me off meeting as its well and truely knocked my confidence. i was always up front that i had scarring when i met .also had some very nasty hurtful comments about it that i was not clean etc but thats far from the truth. but as people say its other peoples preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of best treatments that worked for me was light treatnent similar set up to sunbeds but with totally different kind of light. Creams etc have not really helped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how bad it was and what it was

Some skin condition tho harmless can flear up quite bad and if im going to be honest i wouldnt want to meet someone who had scabs and flacky skin, it wouldnt be nice if while you was playing little bits was flacking off onto you

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Jeez some people are so shallow! It wouldn't stop me meeting someone.

I met a lady quite a few times who had a skin condition, only stopped meeting because she moved away. X"

Why is it shallow? Is it any different from people not meeting those with tattoos, piercings, beards, hairy backs etc? We all have our own benchmark as to what's asthetically pleasing: it doesn't automatically make people shallow.

You see these types of threads every day: people aren't meeting me. Is it because I'm fat/black/asian/bi/disabled/small cocked...variations on a theme.

Op, I wouldn't meet someone with very noticable sore skin because (a) this is fantasy for me and a playmate covered in emolient wouldn't do it for me; and (b) I play rough with wax and alcohol, I'd be worried about hurting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's not a look at me post just a general post his skin in not flakey or infected just some redness on his arms and legs he is always clean and tidy he uses a lot of creams to keep it at bay.. just thought I will ask as I know it's something people can get upset about. And thanks for tips. Xxx

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I've got it too and if I see someone looking at it or they comment I just say it's psoriasis, it's not catching but if it bothers you then I understand and leave it at that.

Dovobet,Dovonex, Metosyn,Silkis all good and keep it at bay, there is no cure it's all about management and learning to live with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not a look at me post just a general post his skin in not flakey or infected just some redness on his arms and legs he is always clean and tidy he uses a lot of creams to keep it at bay.. just thought I will ask as I know it's something people can get upset about. And thanks for tips. Xxx"

Unfortunately there are folk in life who are uneducated about psoriasis and other skin conditions and yes at times it can be depresding but as you say its part of life and managing it is key whether it be creams or other ways is not important

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"That's totally understandable, things that are insignificant to others can mean so much more to yourself when you live with them."

Exactly, it hasn't bothered any meets we've had so far, so the issue most likely just lies with me. x

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By *-and-LCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I feel your pain on this one, I've had problems with psoriasis for years and its always especially bad at this time of year, seems to clear up during the summer.

Can understand that some people might be put off by it as it can be very unsightly. It's certainly depressing at times and the frustration and anxiety it causes generally makes the condition even worse.

Just got to carry on I guess and hope that there are those who can look past it. As a sufferer myself it definitely would be off-putting or an issue to any meet if one of the other party had it.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

To be honest if it was a bad flair up with flakey skin then it would put me off but some redness to the skin wouldnt.

I know its not contagious but i wouldt want to be licking someone and a bit of skin land in my mouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've suffered with acne for years, I take regular antibiotics but still get flair ups, the last one being very bad (perhaps the worst I've had since my teens). I don't tend to meet until its cleared as it affects my self confidence.

I can understand people not liking it, I guess. But its nit something that's ever concerned me, its all just part of the human condition...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've suffered with acne for years, I take regular antibiotics but still get flair ups, the last one being very bad (perhaps the worst I've had since my teens). I don't tend to meet until its cleared as it affects my self confidence.

I can understand people not liking it, I guess. But its nit something that's ever concerned me, its all just part of the human condition..."

Hmmm, you say 'it's not something that has concerned you'...yet you say it affects your self-confidence?...surely that is a concern?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand people not liking it, I guess. But its nit something that's ever concerned me, its all just part of the human condition...

Hmmm, you say 'it's not something that has concerned you'...yet you say it affects your self-confidence?...surely that is a concern?"

It's not something that concerns me on other people but when I get a flair up it affects me, because I know how judgemental people are. They see a bloke who's nearly 40 with zits and immediately consider him to to be a filthy slob, when, infact my personal hygiene is second to none.

That's what I meant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet someone with a bad skin complaint, just makes me a bit queasy, but i wouldnt call myself shallow either as my ex had no legs, think its just how people react to different things and their own preferences, not about shallow or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"p.s have you tried holland and barretts pure aloe vera gel... works wonders with mine when i get flare ups....

Hmm, may have to give that a go.

I've usually just stuck with sudocreme but it can be a pain to apply because of how thick it is. x"

i realise you stick with the sudocrem because it works but it is massivlely drying xx

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By *lack_BoltMan
over a year ago

oxford

"p.s have you tried holland and barretts pure aloe vera gel... works wonders with mine when i get flare ups....

Hmm, may have to give that a go.

I've usually just stuck with sudocreme but it can be a pain to apply because of how thick it is. x

i realise you stick with the sudocrem because it works but it is massivlely drying xx"

Sudocrem is very drying. However E45 or Diprobase cream would be much better.

However to answer the OP, then no it wouldn't affect me at all. I'd be more concerned that there was a connection or spark between us.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I have psoriasis, but even if I didn't I would still meet someone who did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't meet someone with a bad skin complaint, just makes me a bit queasy, but i wouldnt call myself shallow either as my ex had no legs, think its just how people react to different things and their own preferences, not about shallow or not. "

all i said was "do u want flakes for breakfast"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all i said was "do u want flakes for breakfast""

err nope, just had toast instead after that!! lol

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

"p.s have you tried holland and barretts pure aloe vera gel... works wonders with mine when i get flare ups....

Hmm, may have to give that a go.

I've usually just stuck with sudocreme but it can be a pain to apply because of how thick it is. x"

Diprobase, wont even now you have psoriasis xx

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By *orthwest2someCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Mr north also suffers with psoriasis mainly lower legs elbows regions and its perfectly normal , he bathes every day with lotion prescribed and its just a matter of keeping on top of it , yeah it flares up every now and then but its nothing bad and perfectly safe , not like its the plague is it

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As someone who uses E45, I was glad to see it at half price in that M supermarket today - hope this helps anyone who has dry skin etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi ask about dapzone tablets it will help and get some protopic cream it will sort it trust me

Good luck

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By *uiceyfruitCouple
over a year ago

whitehaven

my hubby has psoriosis and if people dont like it tough. he just does not let it bother him .

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

Oilatum cream is easy to apply and last a good day without being overly greasy etc.

I use it after shaving my napper but it's primarily for eczema and psoriasis, £10 from boots for the large 500g pump bottle or on prescription from doctor.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"Sudocrem is very drying. However E45 or Diprobase cream would be much better.

See, with E45, I found it to be an irritant. Dries my skin out and can also be painful on affected areas. - I'm pretty sure I'm allergic to it.

Will look up Diprobase though, thank you.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There is some good post and if someone has there opinion its there opinion not shallow we all llike what we like but it's the looking down on someone that gets me like in one of our post my husband is one of the cleanest people I know and he can get fler ups but he is always in the bath with all the creams you can think of and as for the flakes in your mouth that's not going to happen well its not happened to me in the 14 years we have bin together and the bits that go in my mouth are not affected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fiind oilatum and e45 no good for me. At its worst i have had spells in hospital wrapped up like a mummy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand people not liking it, I guess. But its nit something that's ever concerned me, its all just part of the human condition..."

i suffer from chronic dermatitis, and yes the word chronic is part of the condition title i didnt stick it in there to make it sound worse than it is lol

I can go months with it being dormant then it flares up, when it does its like little blisters mainly on my legs and hands, i would never in a million years meet anyone while it was up, mainly because it makes me really self conscious as i know it looks ugly plus i wouldnt put anyone in the possition of meeting me looking like that

Skin conditions cant be helped but that does not mean people dont mind them

Its also about how you feel, if you dont feel good you dont act or look good and meeting when ylour feeling a bit down about something to me isnt worth it

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