FabSwingers.com forum: Organise a party

By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

Hi all

What's the best way to organise a small party, maybe 2 or 3 couples, when you don't really know any other couples in the swinger world?

Thanks xx

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Hi all

What's the best way to organise a small party, maybe 2 or 3 couples, when you don't really know any other couples in the swinger world?

Thanks xx "

Maybe pop a post in the meets and requests section see who would be up for it locally, I've seen lots of posts about many not turning up to these type of things so maybe worth inviting more than you expect.

Mrs

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By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

Thank you!xx

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By *orthernJayMan
over a year ago

DXB / SG / Thailand Krabi

"Hi all

What's the best way to organise a small party, maybe 2 or 3 couples, when you don't really know any other couples in the swinger world?

Thanks xx

Mrs "

Just a mention about numbers OP, having hosted a great many parties, both at clubs and private invite only; I’d suggest 50% no show is a good rule of thumb.

Half to a quarter of those who say they’ll rock up don’t; even when we took deposits for club nights, people would pay and still not turn up!

Invite double the number you’d like!

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By *lamgirl1TV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

Hi if u need a maid for the party I’d be game xx

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"Hi all

What's the best way to organise a small party, maybe 2 or 3 couples, when you don't really know any other couples in the swinger world?

Thanks xx "

You are most welcome to come to ours (Daventry) on Friday. We’re hosting another couple as well. Looking to have 4x, as there is a 50-70% drop out rate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all

What's the best way to organise a small party, maybe 2 or 3 couples, when you don't really know any other couples in the swinger world?

Thanks xx "

Message couples and invite them to your party.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"Hi all

What's the best way to organise a small party, maybe 2 or 3 couples, when you don't really know any other couples in the swinger world?

Thanks xx

Mrs

Just a mention about numbers OP, having hosted a great many parties, both at clubs and private invite only; I’d suggest 50% no show is a good rule of thumb.

Half to a quarter of those who say they’ll rock up don’t; even when we took deposits for club nights, people would pay and still not turn up!

Invite double the number you’d like!"

I will second this statement. If you invite your intended 3 couples. Then may only get 1 or even none turn up. So if you are intending on 3 then have a guest list for 9-12. Bad day you might get two. On a good day you might get all 9 couples there.

When the party gets more established then the drop outs might be less.

Also what is the theme of your party?

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

You meet people at socials and when you have met them a few times at socials or other parties they will feel confident about accepting an invitation to your own small party. I like small gatherings at mine especially around the dinner table or in the garden

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By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

Really useful, thanks everyone! Xx

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston

"Hi all

What's the best way to organise a small party, maybe 2 or 3 couples, when you don't really know any other couples in the swinger world?

Thanks xx "

Hey guys, hope you're having a great start to the week!

I (Moose) used to hold monthly house parties with my ex wife. We use to have anywhere between 2 and 4 couples attend, and they were amazing fun!

Through trial and error we found that a couple of things made the whole process much smoother:

1: always invite at least one couple you've played with before that you have good chemistry with.

2: Don't be afraid to ask them for recommendations of people they've played with who they think would be good at a party.

3: Only post a meet or advertise if you enjoy the more random element of a club type meet.

4: This worked for us, but might not be for everyone. When you do the invites, have a time set when everyone dresses down/goes upstairs etc. For newer people this means there's a time to decide to jump in without having to make a move, or to decide to leave if they're feeling nervous.

Whichever way you decide to go, we always found house parties to be awesome fun and more relaxed than club meets. Much easier to take 5 for a breather, step back to take pics, or just enjoy the view! All knowing there'll definitely be a bed to go back to when you're ready!

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Hi all

What's the best way to organise a small party, maybe 2 or 3 couples, when you don't really know any other couples in the swinger world?

Thanks xx

Mrs

Just a mention about numbers OP, having hosted a great many parties, both at clubs and private invite only; I’d suggest 50% no show is a good rule of thumb.

Half to a quarter of those who say they’ll rock up don’t; even when we took deposits for club nights, people would pay and still not turn up!

Invite double the number you’d like!

When the party gets more established then the drop outs might be less.

Also what is the theme of your party?"

Having organised couples parties before really don't agree with this if you do it a certain way and if hosting at home with say a limit of 3 couples you really don't want 9 turning up! Whole different dynamic and space requirement.

They key for me is focus on people who have been to something before and then keep in regular contact once they have said yes. Tell them just 3-4 couples and if really can't make it then fine but let you know so can ask somebody else. Give them a ladder to climb down ahead of time. I've had people drop out few days before but never had somebody not turn up on the day. It's all about getting the right people who are serious and communicating.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

As for theme what you do mean? Couples having a drink, chat and sex is a good enough theme isn't it?

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By *4tCouple
over a year ago

warrington

It can be hard work

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

We have done parties and had up to 40+ peeps attend.It is great fun but you have to enjoy hosting.Smaller parties are great but there is always a drop off.Post a party then prehaps arrange a small social a few weeks before to meet up with potential couples.

We have had some amazing parties.

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By *leet5124Man
over a year ago

Jamaica

I also find the difficult to arrange parties in Jamaica. Having read quite a lot of articles and books on the subject, I have to admit my attempts at organising have not always been successful. The proverbial problem with non attendees ( even after checking hours before) is not limited to the United Kingdom. Jamaica being Jamaica, we have provided the necessary discretion and security.

I am going to have a further attempt when I return next month and if it doesn’t work out, then that is my final effort at trying.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

I think this forum thread could help, pick a date and ask interested couples to message.

You could also approach a club and ask if one of their less busy nights can be used, then the club can help in promoting it too.

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