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 etc only to get a small detail wrong….
This isn’t easy for someone in my position to approach anyone either but I hate being tarred with the same brush because of the actions of others…. | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common?" Hi. You have only been on here for three weeks mate. Wait until you have been on here for over a year without even the slightest chance of a meet . In my experience ,the chances of having a meet on here are slim to zero unless your face fits ,have a gym fit body, and look like Popeye on Spinich , and you are interested in clubs and large socials. In my experience on Fab, having a dad bod , and zero meet verifications ,means you have no chance mate . You will get the usual responses about going to a club though . | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? Hi. You have only been on here for three weeks mate. Wait until you have been on here for over a year without even the slightest chance of a meet . In my experience ,the chances of having a meet on here are slim to zero unless your face fits ,have a gym fit body, and look like Popeye on Spinich , and you are interested in clubs and large socials. In my experience on Fab, having a dad bod , and zero meet verifications ,means you have no chance mate . You will get the usual responses about going to a club though ." Could not agree any less than this I have had meets. I am far from gym fit, far from popeye, and am average in all ways. What I am though is “me”, that’s either good enough or it’s not, I won’t change “me” or my approach to anyone or anything. Attitude and management of expectations are key Attitude to others and most importantly yourself and expectations and realisation of if the site isn’t working for you then think what can I do to change that other than moan about it. Most people are attracted to a body but there’s a person behind that body, their mind, their words and most importantly their attitude. A negative attitude is hard work, no one can be positive all the time but negativity can bring you down and that’s not a good place to be for yourself | |||
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"I realise people get inundated with messages & I can see from other profiles how irate other members are in their texts-people not reading profiles obviously being the most common and maybe I taking it too personally when I have approached other parties having done everything right, not being lewd or sending cock shots etc only to get a small detail wrong….
This isn’t easy for someone in my position to approach anyone either but I hate being tarred with the same brush because of the actions of others…."I think if you take things personally, then fab will only upset you. Fab isn't for the over sensitive | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? Hi. You have only been on here for three weeks mate. Wait until you have been on here for over a year without even the slightest chance of a meet . In my experience ,the chances of having a meet on here are slim to zero unless your face fits ,have a gym fit body, and look like Popeye on Spinich , and you are interested in clubs and large socials. In my experience on Fab, having a dad bod , and zero meet verifications ,means you have no chance mate . You will get the usual responses about going to a club though ." Out of all my fab friends, the ones who do best on here are over 50 and would laugh hysterically at being told they have a gym fit body. What they do have is an understanding of the site, and put effort into getting known for all the right reasons, instead of being all woe is me and whiney | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? Hi. You have only been on here for three weeks mate. Wait until you have been on here for over a year without even the slightest chance of a meet . In my experience ,the chances of having a meet on here are slim to zero unless your face fits ,have a gym fit body, and look like Popeye on Spinich , and you are interested in clubs and large socials. In my experience on Fab, having a dad bod , and zero meet verifications ,means you have no chance mate . You will get the usual responses about going to a club though . Could not agree any less than this I have had meets. I am far from gym fit, far from popeye, and am average in all ways. What I am though is “me”, that’s either good enough or it’s not, I won’t change “me” or my approach to anyone or anything. Attitude and management of expectations are key Attitude to others and most importantly yourself and expectations and realisation of if the site isn’t working for you then think what can I do to change that other than moan about it. Most people are attracted to a body but there’s a person behind that body, their mind, their words and most importantly their attitude. A negative attitude is hard work, no one can be positive all the time but negativity can bring you down and that’s not a good place to be for yourself " You can change your body if you want. You can change your attitude if you want. Both will involve work and time. _You_ have to decide if it is worth it and then commit to it. If you don’t want to commit or can’t be bothered then at least you have made a decision. | |||
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"I realise people get inundated with messages & I can see from other profiles how irate other members are in their texts-people not reading profiles obviously being the most common and maybe I taking it too personally when I have approached other parties having done everything right, not being lewd or sending cock shots etc only to get a small detail wrong….
This isn’t easy for someone in my position to approach anyone either but I hate being tarred with the same brush because of the actions of others….
I think if you take things personally, then fab will only upset you. Fab isn't for the over sensitive"Pablo is correct, try not to take things too personally and be confident within yourself. Bruised egos due to unrealistic expectations are never good. Be realistic and have zero expectations and patience. | |||
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I can imagine your target audience is very,very small. Meeting someone who wants to risk getting pregnant by you is going to be extremely difficult, so yes you're going to find it hard. If you're going to take it personally, then fab might not be the right place for you. You need to be extremely thick skinned at times.
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common?" How do you stand out anywhere? Some people have looks, some have great personalities, some have a flash car, some flash the cash, etc, etc, etc. To stand out online is harder than in real life because it's very one dimensional, but only you know you and therefore only you know what makes you stand out from the crowd. However, some generic advice is to accept that some people won't be interested in you because of your age. There's nothing you can do about it, so don't fret it. Whilst your at it, you might as well understand that others won't be interested for other physical feautures, hair, height, location etc and once again you can't change their choice so don't fret. The next thing to do is to put your best foot forward with your profile. It's your shop window so if you want to sell yourself then it needs to be as good as you can make it. Your current profile has several contradictions which shows to us that you aren't 100% sure what you are looking for. I'd suggest you drop the anti gay sentiment, and simply block single men from messaging you in the email filters and if one winks, then take it as a compliment and delete. Don't get worked up by it. The next thing to do is to drop the nonsensical quasi legal privacy statement. It means nothing whatsoever, it is not enforceable and it shows to others that you don't really know what you are doing. Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single man you have an uphill struggle in many respects, however that doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression. Add a few more pictures to help show something of the man you are. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile, and anything in between is great. Next time it's a lovely day, get out and take some big smiling selfies somewhere nice, such as a local landmark or park. However your profile is not everything, and it is difficult for personality to come across in a profile. The forums are a great way to show your personality and also a way of increasing the number of people who will look at your profile, thereby increasing your chances. Although you have only been here a few short weeks, you have become frustrated with messaging and the only forum post you've made is asking for help. Take control of publicising yourself and increase your audience by being involved. Lets be honest, many people have looked at your profile because of this thread alone, so it clearly works to a degree. So if you want some greater interaction then don't rely on messaging alone, get involved with the forums and the chatroom too, both are great ways of getting to know people. The usual advice of going to a club still stands, although we recognise that for some people this is never a viable prospect. However an organised social might be a good way to start? Whatever you decide to do, we wish you luck  | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common?" It is forbidden to ask such questions on FAB it will only attract insults and accusations that you are a moaner who can't get any. You will be told to attend a social or club (if you have the single mans extra fee 60 quid should do it) If you do attend a social be aware that it will be full of others who have been called moaners so their confidence may not be high if they arrive at all. In all FAB is a treat others whatever way one can be bothered to treat others calling names, putting down others etc. Would you want to meet people like that? I would need a risk assessment first. | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common?" Be yourself, and realise that you won’t be for everyone. Then realise that the people on fab who have nearly all the power are women, they get to decide the rules and they get the pick of the men. You can tail against this and think it’s not fair but that will only make it even less likely you will get meets. A pregnancy risk fetish will reduce that chance to practically zero. Accept that you likely won’t get a meet for months yet and focus on showing who you are in the forums. But most of all, and it bears repeating, be yourself. There is no ‘one simple trick’ to get women to fancy you, it will take a lot of time and plenty of effort. Good luck. | |||
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"I just want to thank everybody for their comments that have been noted and taken on board! "Hi op The disclaimer is pointless, please check the FAQ at the bottom of your profile. Then browse the site other profiles see how they are doing things to give you some guidance only to assist in creating your own be truthful and bit of sense of humour Good luck op  | |||
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"We've realised over time there's not much point telling certain people to back off in your profile, as they're not the sort who read
The whole breeding kink will probably put off the overwhelming majority too."The problem with a fantasy is recognising that it IS only a fantasy….I hope I’m not the only one to get carried away by the high the things that turn any of us on? Thank you for your comments | |||
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"I just want to thank everybody for their comments that have been noted and taken on board!
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The disclaimer is pointless, please check the FAQ at the bottom of your profile. Then browse the site other profiles see how they are doing things to give you some guidance only to assist in creating your own be truthful and bit of sense of humour
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? Be yourself, and realise that you won’t be for everyone. Then realise that the people on fab who have nearly all the power are women, they get to decide the rules and they get the pick of the men. You can tail against this and think it’s not fair but that will only make it even less likely you will get meets. A pregnancy risk fetish will reduce that chance to practically zero. Accept that you likely won’t get a meet for months yet and focus on showing who you are in the forums. But most of all, and it bears repeating, be yourself. There is no ‘one simple trick’ to get women to fancy you, it will take a lot of time and plenty of effort. Good luck." So true-women DO have a lot of power.I hope I haven’t offended any of the women who have read what I said and who have talked me down….I didn’t think clearly enough writing my original profile & it just vomited onto the screen-what sounds hot to me isn’t to anyone else and I really need to think before I write…. | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? It is forbidden to ask such questions on FAB it will only attract insults and accusations that you are a moaner who can't get any. You will be told to attend a social or club (if you have the single mans extra fee 60 quid should do it) If you do attend a social be aware that it will be full of others who have been called moaners so their confidence may not be high if they arrive at all. In all FAB is a treat others whatever way one can be bothered to treat others calling names, putting down others etc. Would you want to meet people like that? I would need a risk assessment first." Thank you for the honesty….I appreciate the time you have given me INSTEAD of getting abusive  | |||
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"We've realised over time there's not much point telling certain people to back off in your profile, as they're not the sort who read
The whole breeding kink will probably put off the overwhelming majority too.
The problem with a fantasy is recognising that it IS only a fantasy….I hope I’m not the only one to get carried away by the high the things that turn any of us on?
Thank you for your comments "Oh absolutely, and definitely not kink shaming by the way as we are major kinksters! It's a difficult one, you want to show your honest self x | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? Hi. You have only been on here for three weeks mate. Wait until you have been on here for over a year without even the slightest chance of a meet . In my experience ,the chances of having a meet on here are slim to zero unless your face fits ,have a gym fit body, and look like Popeye on Spinich , and you are interested in clubs and large socials. In my experience on Fab, having a dad bod , and zero meet verifications ,means you have no chance mate . You will get the usual responses about going to a club though ." I haven't got a gym bod, never been to a social, like everyone at some point I had no verifications, never been to a club and hardly look like Popeye.... I am also 60 years old..... And have met some wonderful people here and had some amazing meets.... So maybe something else is the problem for you? Try not to be so negative... It works wonders  | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? Hi. You have only been on here for three weeks mate. Wait until you have been on here for over a year without even the slightest chance of a meet . In my experience ,the chances of having a meet on here are slim to zero unless your face fits ,have a gym fit body, and look like Popeye on Spinich , and you are interested in clubs and large socials. In my experience on Fab, having a dad bod , and zero meet verifications ,means you have no chance mate . You will get the usual responses about going to a club though . Could not agree any less than this I have had meets. I am far from gym fit, far from popeye, and am average in all ways. What I am though is “me”, that’s either good enough or it’s not, I won’t change “me” or my approach to anyone or anything. Attitude and management of expectations are key Attitude to others and most importantly yourself and expectations and realisation of if the site isn’t working for you then think what can I do to change that other than moan about it. Most people are attracted to a body but there’s a person behind that body, their mind, their words and most importantly their attitude. A negative attitude is hard work, no one can be positive all the time but negativity can bring you down and that’s not a good place to be for yourself You can change your body if you want. You can change your attitude if you want. Both will involve work and time. _You_ have to decide if it is worth it and then commit to it. If you don’t want to commit or can’t be bothered then at least you have made a decision." Thank you for the support-I am back at the drawing board and thinking about how best to present myself…. | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? Hi. You have only been on here for three weeks mate. Wait until you have been on here for over a year without even the slightest chance of a meet . In my experience ,the chances of having a meet on here are slim to zero unless your face fits ,have a gym fit body, and look like Popeye on Spinich , and you are interested in clubs and large socials. In my experience on Fab, having a dad bod , and zero meet verifications ,means you have no chance mate . You will get the usual responses about going to a club though . Out of all my fab friends, the ones who do best on here are over 50 and would laugh hysterically at being told they have a gym fit body. What they do have is an understanding of the site, and put effort into getting known for all the right reasons, instead of being all woe is me and whiney " Only wine I love is Rose. Yes, too many moaners for all wrong reason. Good luck op | |||
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"the only way you will stand out is to be you by asking for advice you'll just end up like all the other boring profiles who ask ... remember op these forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab let alone the scene add into that how many dont meet at all and are just here for the social side of things.. so best advice is if you want to swing and have fun then tell yourself your one of 100s n 1000s seeking a very few ... youll need very thick skin and you'll need to take rejection on the chin often.. you are you nobody knows you but only you so you dont need stranger to tell you how to write a profile about you ... remember too not all is as it seems there are 1000s of men on here who run single ladies and couples profiles for many many reasons from wanking to cock blocking... best advice and the only advice id give a guy is ... yep go to a club get known and for some they never look back for the rest they will struggle forever.. this is a scene where the men vastly outnumber all 100 to one or 500 to one depending where you live ... so understand its not a scene where there is someone for everyone because there really is not... on the plus side it a great scene if you can get on it " Fantastic reply & Thank you….  | |||
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"Fab isn't about gym bods and chisled abs I'm far from that and I have my Fair share of luck on here sure there's more no taa then yes please but that's part of the journey I've been on here awhile and have only a handful of people I've actually met some didn't go any further then a friendly drink others went to long term things you have to run at your own pace " Thank you!???? | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very Hi. You have only been on here for three weeks mate. Wait until you have been on here for over a year without even the slightest chance of a meet . In my experience ,the chances of having a meet on here are slim to zero unless your face fits ,have a gym fit body, and look like Popeye on Spinich , and you are interested in clubs and large socials. In my experience on Fab, having a dad bod , and zero meet verifications ,means you have no chance mate . You will get the usual responses about going to a club though . Could not agree any less than this I have had meets. I am far from gym fit, far from popeye, and am average in all ways. What I am though is “me”, that’s either good enough or it’s not, I won’t change “me” or my approach to anyone or anything. Attitude and management of expectations are key Attitude to others and most importantly yourself and expectations and realisation of if the site isn’t working for you then think what can I do to change that other than moan about it. Most people are attracted to a body but there’s a person behind that body, their mind, their words and most importantly their attitude. A negative attitude is hard work, no one can be positive all the time but negativity can bring you down and that’s not a good place to be for yourself You can change your body if you want. You can change your attitude if you want. Both will involve work and time. _You_ have to decide if it is worth it and then commit to it. If you don’t want to commit or can’t be bothered then at least you have made a decision." With respect, why should anyone want to change their body shape just to please others? | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? ) Hi. You have only been on here for three weeks mate. Wait until you have been on here for over a year without even the slightest chance of a meet . In my experience ,the chances of having a meet on here are slim to zero unless your face fits ,have a gym fit body, and look like Popeye on Spinich , and you are interested in clubs and large socials. In my experience on Fab, having a dad bod , and zero meet verifications ,means you have no chance mate . You will get the usual responses about going to a club though . I haven't got a gym bod, never been to a social, like everyone at some point I had no verifications, never been to a club and hardly look like Popeye.... I am also 60 years old..... And have met some wonderful people here and had some amazing meets.... So maybe something else is the problem for you? Try not to be so negative... It works wonders "I'd love to know your secret mate ,as I seem to be hitting a brick wall ,as the only advice I get is the usual "go to a club or organised social " . But you seem to have had success without doing any of that . | |||
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" best advice and the only advice id give a guy is ... yep go to a club get known and for some they never look back for the rest they will struggle forever.. " So are you saying that, if a single bloke isn't interested in the club scene, or organised social, then they haven't got a chance of meeting anyone ?. Not everyone wants to go to a club ,not everyone wants to meet people in large groups like a club ,or organised social. Have the days of meeting someone directly from Fab gone. ? | |||
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" best advice and the only advice id give a guy is ... yep go to a club get known and for some they never look back for the rest they will struggle forever.. So are you saying that, if a single bloke isn't interested in the club scene, or organised social, then they haven't got a chance of meeting anyone ?. Not everyone wants to go to a club ,not everyone wants to meet people in large groups like a club ,or organised social. Have the days of meeting someone directly from Fab gone. ? " nope trust me im not the greatest fan of clubs best play is non club and some men will do very well without clubs the club scene is not for all but theres no denying how good a club can be for a guy who gets it right ... again its not 100% bang on and alot of men wont even make it at a club ... i meet often and most of the men i meet 95% at least have all come from meeting in clubs first ...and if we go back to before there were alot of clubs ie 20/25 years back the scene was dogging then mainly for alot of couples and back then most of our private meets came from that scene .... so its who you meet face to face will more than likely meet more often... as with loads of swingers we dont need online to attract other swingers in fact more and more are going back to the older ways of before the internet ... | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? ) Hi. You have only been on here for three weeks mate. Wait until you have been on here for over a year without even the slightest chance of a meet . In my experience ,the chances of having a meet on here are slim to zero unless your face fits ,have a gym fit body, and look like Popeye on Spinich , and you are interested in clubs and large socials. In my experience on Fab, having a dad bod , and zero meet verifications ,means you have no chance mate . You will get the usual responses about going to a club though . I haven't got a gym bod, never been to a social, like everyone at some point I had no verifications, never been to a club and hardly look like Popeye.... I am also 60 years old..... And have met some wonderful people here and had some amazing meets.... So maybe something else is the problem for you? Try not to be so negative... It works wonders
I'd love to know your secret mate ,as I seem to be hitting a brick wall ,as the only advice I get is the usual "go to a club or organised social " . But you seem to have had success without doing any of that ."No secret really... Just be yourself and treat people on here as you would in "real life". If B people like you then great.... If they don't... So so be it. No magic formula, just be yourself | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common?" Type the search forum function and read through the mountain single men asking similar things over the years. Oh it's very common op, we vastly outnumber women and couples. And some get desperate and just message even when they know or can't be bothered to read the profile. Patience, go to clubs and socials are my advice | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? Type the search forum function and read through the mountain single men asking similar things over the years. Oh it's very common op, we vastly outnumber women and couples. And some get desperate and just message even when they know or can't be bothered to read the profile. Patience, go to clubs and socials are my advice " Thanks….I have tentatively got one planned for No ember…. | |||
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"Attending a couple of organised socials is likely equivalent of years of messaging. As you get to chat to all kinds of people in a short time. Even if you don't find anyone on the same wavelength, you'll likely get a polite verification. Which puts you above the keyboard warriors and fantasists that don't come out from behind their computer It's a start "I’m looking for a new start-Keyboards DON’T get you laid!?? | |||
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"Attending a couple of organised socials is likely equivalent of years of messaging. As you get to chat to all kinds of people in a short time. Even if you don't find anyone on the same wavelength, you'll likely get a polite verification. Which puts you above the keyboard warriors and fantasists that don't come out from behind their computer It's a start
I’m looking for a new start-Keyboards DON’T get you laid!??"Well they CAN... But it is finger-labour intensive. | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? It is forbidden to ask such questions on FAB it will only attract insults and accusations that you are a moaner who can't get any. You will be told to attend a social or club (if you have the single mans extra fee 60 quid should do it) If you do attend a social be aware that it will be full of others who have been called moaners so their confidence may not be high if they arrive at all. In all FAB is a treat others whatever way one can be bothered to treat others calling names, putting down others etc. Would you want to meet people like that? I would need a risk assessment first. Thank you for the honesty….I appreciate the time you have given me INSTEAD of getting abusive "NO probs O.P, when I first joined this site I nearly got stung off a couple who offered to meet me at a club. Stating I was in for a great time if I met them, I phoned the club and as a first time visitor it would be 70 quid please. Ive been swinging for 22 years now and I know there is no need to visit clubs or socials that's a mugs game. O.P think hard of places where single men fear to tread and you will find swingers | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? Type the search forum function and read through the mountain single men asking similar things over the years. Oh it's very common op, we vastly outnumber women and couples. And some get desperate and just message even when they know or can't be bothered to read the profile. Patience, go to clubs and socials are my advice Thanks….I have tentatively got one planned for No ember…. "Congratulations mate | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? Type the search forum function and read through the mountain single men asking similar things over the years. Oh it's very common op, we vastly outnumber women and couples. And some get desperate and just message even when they know or can't be bothered to read the profile. Patience, go to clubs and socials are my advice Thanks….I have tentatively got one planned for No ember….
Congratulations mate "Thank you for your reply:did you pay money up front?I wouldn’t pay unless I am actually at the venue….am I being too simplistic? | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? Type the search forum function and read through the mountain single men asking similar things over the years. Oh it's very common op, we vastly outnumber women and couples. And some get desperate and just message even when they know or can't be bothered to read the profile. Patience, go to clubs and socials are my advice Thanks….I have tentatively got one planned for No ember….
Congratulations mate
Thank you for your reply:did you pay money up front?I wouldn’t pay unless I am actually at the venue….am I being too simplistic? "Sorry!Wrong reply to the wrong person! | |||
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"I am not long a member of this site but HOW do I stand out from the crowd?I do try to set my searches to my requirements & don’t approach people I shouldn’t and I do try with messages but I am finding it hard-I take it this is very common? It is forbidden to ask such questions on FAB it will only attract insults and accusations that you are a moaner who can't get any. You will be told to attend a social or club (if you have the single mans extra fee 60 quid should do it) If you do attend a social be aware that it will be full of others who have been called moaners so their confidence may not be high if they arrive at all. In all FAB is a treat others whatever way one can be bothered to treat others calling names, putting down others etc. Would you want to meet people like that? I would need a risk assessment first. Thank you for the honesty….I appreciate the time you have given me INSTEAD of getting abusive
NO probs O.P, when I first joined this site I nearly got stung off a couple who offered to meet me at a club.
Stating I was in for a great time if I met them, I phoned the club and as a first time visitor it would be 70 quid please.
Ive been swinging for 22 years now and I know there is no need to visit clubs or socials that's a mugs game.
O.P think hard of places where single men fear to tread and you will find swingers"So people offering socials/parties are a waste of time?I am very wary of people who post numbers on their profiles-I ran into an extortionist in the first 5 minutes on her….was of legal age but off of the site claimed the profile was being used by a 15 year old girl,how dare you talk to my daughter etc and If I didn’t want my photo splashed all over social media we should come to ‘an arrangement’. I just told them I would go to the police seeing as though I had THEIR number & I reported them to admin. THEN another profile appeared with THE SAME NUMBER & strategically used elements of my initial interaction with them saying ‘wants to meet men 50+’(they are underage remember)so I contacted them telling them to take it down and then reported them to admin 
I have to be mindful of bad actors & scam artists seeing as though I am starting out:is there a thread about scams & things to look out for on here?
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"It is hard for most. I would suggest a social or a club "THATS an interesting name….has it worked? | |||
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