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By *iercedAndTattooedNE6 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

We are thinking about starting to hold our own private parties and looking for your advice, what’s a massive must and a massive must not to provide or do as hosts ?

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"We are thinking about starting to hold our own private parties and looking for your advice, what’s a massive must and a massive must not to provide or do as hosts ? "

Why on earth are you thinking about hosting private parties if you don’t know what the most important things that a host must or must not do are?

Have you ever been to a private party? If you have to ask what’s the most important things for a host to do then it sounds like you’ve never been to one to see what hosts do.

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By *orthernJayMan
over a year ago

LHR


"We are thinking about starting to hold our own private parties and looking for your advice, what’s a massive must and a massive must not to provide or do as hosts ?

Why on earth are you thinking about hosting private parties if you don’t know what the most important things that a host must or must not do are?

Have you ever been to a private party? If you have to ask what’s the most important things for a host to do then it sounds like you’ve never been to one to see what hosts do. "

It’s Friday dude, chill out

They only asked and it’s a valid question!

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Depends what kind of party you want to have. More a play party? More a social with a bit of play? If more a play party have all the people (or at least most) be people you've met before and feel comfortable with. Some newbies fine but if you end up with everyone being new who you haven't met then a complete lottery. Biggest job as hosts is to get the fun going Be ready to naked and the the lead Even quite experienced guests can be shy waiting for somebody to take the lead. If you are thinking of more of a big social gathering, perhaps charging as some do, then different story.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Oh and make sure everybody on a similar page in terms of the mix of people. Some want mainly couples. Some want a lot more men. Be upfront about rough target numbers and mix so people can decide if for them.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

PS not sure you will be around to reply for a while after the comment above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are thinking about starting to hold our own private parties and looking for your advice, what’s a massive must and a massive must not to provide or do as hosts ?

Why on earth are you thinking about hosting private parties if you don’t know what the most important things that a host must or must not do are?

Have you ever been to a private party? If you have to ask what’s the most important things for a host to do then it sounds like you’ve never been to one to see what hosts do. "

This is a fair question, even if it seems a bit negative.

We went to a few different parties before we held our own. It's a good way to see what works and what doesn't, mix of people, location, etc.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"We are thinking about starting to hold our own private parties and looking for your advice, what’s a massive must and a massive must not to provide or do as hosts ?

Why on earth are you thinking about hosting private parties if you don’t know what the most important things that a host must or must not do are?

Have you ever been to a private party? If you have to ask what’s the most important things for a host to do then it sounds like you’ve never been to one to see what hosts do. "

We are in the advice section, people ask for advice. If you would rather try and humilate someone instead then please leave the advice threads alone as it isn't pleasant.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"We are thinking about starting to hold our own private parties and looking for your advice, what’s a massive must and a massive must not to provide or do as hosts ?

Why on earth are you thinking about hosting private parties if you don’t know what the most important things that a host must or must not do are?

Have you ever been to a private party? If you have to ask what’s the most important things for a host to do then it sounds like you’ve never been to one to see what hosts do.

This is a fair question, even if it seems a bit negative.

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A bit?

It seems to depend on who posts as to whether posts get called out or not on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are thinking about starting to hold our own private parties and looking for your advice, what’s a massive must and a massive must not to provide or do as hosts ? "

GF and I used to host. Invite more singles than you need as they drop out more than couples. Be sure they are experiences and not bullshiters. Set a time as people get too d*unk to drive and will stay 24hrs which used to piss me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are thinking about starting to hold our own private parties and looking for your advice, what’s a massive must and a massive must not to provide or do as hosts ?

GF and I used to host. Invite more singles than you need as they drop out more than couples. Be sure they are experiences and not bullshiters. Set a time as people get too d*unk to drive and will stay 24hrs which used to piss me off. "

Why put a * on a word when you can tell what it says?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Don’t invite just your own “type”.

Be clear if it is a heavy play party or social. Private parties for me personally are a no go, I’m a heavy play kinda gal but there’s not enough people at private events to ensure there’s usually someone there my type.

Be super honest with the guest list and make sure everyone’s happy their name being shared. As a single, I wouldn’t attend a party where I didn’t know who was going.

Book a private venue and check it out first, make sure you’re allowed to host parties there.

Give start and end time, if it’s an air bnb people will get d*unk and end up staying otherwise!

Hosting is really hard and lots think they can just have a go at it so really make sure your well known on the club and party scene before doing so

x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd recommend having met all of the attendees in advance. You'll get a much better assessment of them, than from a written bio. It also demonstrates some potential reliability, which is essential for you. There will be no shows, which make the job tougher.

I'd certainly not invest much upfront, until you get into the swing of things, having held some.

Knowing people from clubs is great, as they have some form for being among others. Their reliability is probably higher than just from fab.

Getting the right mix is definitely essential. And deciding on and enforcement of your rules key too.

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By *ilf and old fartCouple
over a year ago

Between Ely and Mildenhall


"We are thinking about starting to hold our own private parties and looking for your advice, what’s a massive must and a massive must not to provide or do as hosts ?

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Why on earth are you thinking about hosting private parties if you don’t know what the most important things that a host must or must not do are?

Have you ever been to a private party? If you have to ask what’s the most important things for a host to do then it sounds like you’ve never been to one to see what hosts do. "

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Bloody hell man, chill out ffs. The lady was quite sensibly asking for advice as her and her partner had not hosted one before and didn't want to make mistakes that would impact on others enjoyment at their party.

She needs positive responses not negative

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"We are thinking about starting to hold our own private parties and looking for your advice, what’s a massive must and a massive must not to provide or do as hosts ?

.

Why on earth are you thinking about hosting private parties if you don’t know what the most important things that a host must or must not do are?

Have you ever been to a private party? If you have to ask what’s the most important things for a host to do then it sounds like you’ve never been to one to see what hosts do.

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Bloody hell man, chill out ffs. The lady was quite sensibly asking for advice as her and her partner had not hosted one before and didn't want to make mistakes that would impact on others enjoyment at their party.

She needs positive responses not negative

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Lady? It’s a couple.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Don’t invite just your own “type”.

Be clear if it is a heavy play party or social. Private parties for me personally are a no go, I’m a heavy play kinda gal but there’s not enough people at private events to ensure there’s usually someone there my type.

Be super honest with the guest list and make sure everyone’s happy their name being shared. As a single, I wouldn’t attend a party where I didn’t know who was going.

Book a private venue and check it out first, make sure you’re allowed to host parties there.

Give start and end time, if it’s an air bnb people will get d*unk and end up staying otherwise!

Hosting is really hard and lots think they can just have a go at it so really make sure your well known on the club and party scene before doing so

x"

Not sure about just inviting own type. Personally that is broadly what I’ve done before with others and almost everybody has had fun We have organised for us to have fun and don’t want people there if no for us or vice versa. If opening your house as many do then want your type you can have fun with. Different if another venue and charging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are thinking about starting to hold our own private parties and looking for your advice, what’s a massive must and a massive must not to provide or do as hosts ? "

Maybe you attend some then you can see what works and what doesn’t?!

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

In addition to the excellent advice on clear start and end times, I would add reminder texts and checkins on the day. 10 tends to be more of a social, 16 a party We tend to do couples only parties now. There’s more play, and it’s less drama. In our experience, singles have a tendency to monopolise conversation and hold up play. Offer snacks rather than food/dinner if people eat too much it ends up as a social. We now do BYOB as proving was super expensive and the benefits were limited. People are quite happy to bring their own. Make it clear whether you’re okay with snow/420 or not as it will inform your clear down process.

Provide bins in each room, and hand-wipes, antibacterial spray and kitchen roll, we also supply towels, and one party we were at had the most amazing fuck-mat!! I plan on getting one for our next one.

I now ensure it’s not just beds and sofas. A “tour” signposting where you are happy for play to take place. Don’t expect to play much, it ends up being more hosting unless it’s well-known friends.

I hope you have a great time!!

Xx

K

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Don’t invite just your own “type”.

Be clear if it is a heavy play party or social. Private parties for me personally are a no go, I’m a heavy play kinda gal but there’s not enough people at private events to ensure there’s usually someone there my type.

Be super honest with the guest list and make sure everyone’s happy their name being shared. As a single, I wouldn’t attend a party where I didn’t know who was going.

Book a private venue and check it out first, make sure you’re allowed to host parties there.

Give start and end time, if it’s an air bnb people will get d*unk and end up staying otherwise!

Hosting is really hard and lots think they can just have a go at it so really make sure your well known on the club and party scene before doing so

x

Not sure about just inviting own type. Personally that is broadly what I’ve done before with others and almost everybody has had fun We have organised for us to have fun and don’t want people there if no for us or vice versa. If opening your house as many do then want your type you can have fun with. Different if another venue and charging. "

I think organising a private party for yourself, is different to hosting.

I’m very particular and fussy, attended 2 private parties in lovely homes with “hot” couples, didn’t play and left both times refusing to ever do one again.

I think the more mix of people the more likely you are to please a majority. But maybe I’m thinking to “party” like.

If I was organising for myself it would be all the men of my type haha! X

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

If you haven't hosted before, maybe start with just hosting a couple you already know. Practical things like making sure you have clean towels for showers, remove easily breakable items from where you intend to play, make the place look nice.

(Mr) I have been places that clearly just invited groups of strangers frequently and the place looks like a dump and you cum and get told to fuck off.

If you plan to expand to include people you don't know, same applies, be a good host.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lock the kids' bedrooms!

Nothing worse than Swingers using kids rooms at a sex party.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Don’t invite just your own “type”.

Be clear if it is a heavy play party or social. Private parties for me personally are a no go, I’m a heavy play kinda gal but there’s not enough people at private events to ensure there’s usually someone there my type.

Be super honest with the guest list and make sure everyone’s happy their name being shared. As a single, I wouldn’t attend a party where I didn’t know who was going.

Book a private venue and check it out first, make sure you’re allowed to host parties there.

Give start and end time, if it’s an air bnb people will get d*unk and end up staying otherwise!

Hosting is really hard and lots think they can just have a go at it so really make sure your well known on the club and party scene before doing so

x

Not sure about just inviting own type. Personally that is broadly what I’ve done before with others and almost everybody has had fun We have organised for us to have fun and don’t want people there if no for us or vice versa. If opening your house as many do then want your type you can have fun with. Different if another venue and charging.

I think organising a private party for yourself, is different to hosting.

I’m very particular and fussy, attended 2 private parties in lovely homes with “hot” couples, didn’t play and left both times refusing to ever do one again.

I think the more mix of people the more likely you are to please a majority. But maybe I’m thinking to “party” like.

If I was organising for myself it would be all the men of my type haha! X"

Well we saw it as hosting - providing a venue and introducing others, laying on food and drinks, hot tub, three playrooms, toys, bit of BDSM equipment, etc. 20 people all a bit different but all people me and other hosts liked (and mostly met). They all mostly had fun too. I really mean for example if you are in 50s and play with people 40-60s no point getting a few in 20s or 30s along. Or if a couple that likes full swap not much point inviting couples where the man just watches. Lots of other examples. .

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