FabSwingers.com forum: Controlling the big debate

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have been speaking to a fab friend of mine about most recent escapades and ended up on a topic which we had a real dispute about wonder if you’d be able to help out fellow fabbers.

So I guess I’ll ask this for both Men and women. Men can you control yourself while having sex to stop yourself having an orgasm?

Women do you think you can make a man cum even when he’s trying not to?

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"I have been speaking to a fab friend of mine about most recent escapades and ended up on a topic which we had a real dispute about wonder if you’d be able to help out fellow fabbers.

So I guess I’ll ask this for both Men and women. Men can you control yourself while having sex to stop yourself having an orgasm?

Women do you think you can make a man cum even when he’s trying not to?"

I have done in the past, got told I have "skills" lol.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I think I could the Mr I know his body, not sure about anyone else though.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have been speaking to a fab friend of mine about most recent escapades and ended up on a topic which we had a real dispute about wonder if you’d be able to help out fellow fabbers.

So I guess I’ll ask this for both Men and women. Men can you control yourself while having sex to stop yourself having an orgasm?

Women do you think you can make a man cum even when he’s trying not to?

I have done in the past, got told I have "skills" lol. "

That’s the sort of confidence that is certainly attractive. Starting to hear more women saying they can make a man cum than men saying they can withhold.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I could the Mr I know his body, not sure about anyone else though.

Mrs "

I support it makes sense with a life partner but as you’re not meeting men it’s hard to tell otherwise.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

It starts in the mind lol no one gives us an O we do it ourselves.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Nah. I'm rubbish at the sex!

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I mean yes and no. There is always the point of no return so i guess you mean when you are really in the moment can you drag yourself back - sometimes yes but if you are truly locked in then no.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

For years trained my self to last longer and cum when I wanted then

Later on went through period when I didn't cum at all then few years later went back to coming again there lots of things you can do to increase well you cum or not and level of sperm you produce.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I have found that if I can get past the initial urge to cum then I can control it for the rest of the night. If I can’t, then I can’t

If I find myself starting to want to cum and I want to control it then I just need to slow a little and take a very slight pause - when the urge has gone then I am good to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He brought a new toy home and I almost jumped off the couch and was left in a puddle after two orgasms I wasn't planning on having lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It starts in the mind lol no one gives us an O we do it ourselves.

This is true but does it end in the mind?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nah. I'm rubbish at the sex!"

I don’t know why but that instant made me more attracted to you, explain that logic!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I mean yes and no. There is always the point of no return so i guess you mean when you are really in the moment can you drag yourself back - sometimes yes but if you are truly locked in then no."

Interesting I’ve not reached that place of no return but I usually put myself in a position where I have the power

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have found that if I can get past the initial urge to cum then I can control it for the rest of the night. If I can’t, then I can’t

If I find myself starting to want to cum and I want to control it then I just need to slow a little and take a very slight pause - when the urge has gone then I am good to go."

That’s what I feel as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He brought a new toy home and I almost jumped off the couch and was left in a puddle after two orgasms I wasn't planning on having lol"

One question, and one question only… what’s the toy?

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By *hiny-SinnersCouple
over a year ago

Vale of Glamorgan

Hubby loves edging and drives me nuts with his ability to control exactly when wants to cum or not, so yes it is possible

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By *hiny-SinnersCouple
over a year ago

Vale of Glamorgan

"Hubby loves edging and drives me nuts with his ability to control exactly when wants to cum or not, so yes it is possible

Should have said it comes from the fact he has never stopped masturbating even into his 60s now, and I think this is what has given him the self control.

I do enjoy the challenge of trying to overcome that self control though, and my best shot is usually when I have him tied up in the body bag wanking him mercilessly whilst I get naughty with a willing stud he he

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

In the end, it's just a matter of time, if a woman works a cock it will eventually give up that yummy cum

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

On the whole excitement and mindset play a into it I'd say. I am sure it is the same with women. If you're horny you're horny. In the past I've played with several buddies for many years, sessions could last all night, a few hours, 30mins or an unexpected few minutes.

Sometimes you just enjoy sex and mood doesn't come into, on the other hand, when you want hours of fun, you're off like a shot, it's not down to the woman per se or you wanting a quick meet.

With new meets it's different from woman to woman, which is half the excitement of meeting - sometimes you can have it under control sometimes you attempt to. It's probably all down to horn.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"He brought a new toy home and I almost jumped off the couch and was left in a puddle after two orgasms I wasn't planning on having lol

One question, and one question only… what’s the toy?"

My Little Pony in a big jar

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hubby loves edging and drives me nuts with his ability to control exactly when wants to cum or not, so yes it is possible

Should have said it comes from the fact he has never stopped masturbating even into his 60s now, and I think this is what has given him the self control.

This is very interesting and I would love to understand your success rate. I imagine most men on here must wank on a regular basis, probably why some are on here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In the end, it's just a matter of time, if a woman works a cock it will eventually give up that yummy cum "

That sounds like a challenge to me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On the whole excitement and mindset play a into it I'd say. I am sure it is the same with women. If you're horny you're horny. In the past I've played with several buddies for many years, sessions could last all night, a few hours, 30mins or an unexpected few minutes.

Sometimes you just enjoy sex and mood doesn't come into, on the other hand, when you want hours of fun, you're off like a shot, it's not down to the woman per se or you wanting a quick meet.

With new meets it's different from woman to woman, which is half the excitement of meeting - sometimes you can have it under control sometimes you attempt to. It's probably all down to horn. "

Certainly something in the mind and not necessarily that physical

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

If there’s one guaranteed way to make a man cum it’s by saying “don’t stop, I’m coming”

I’m gone.. the best I can hope for is that we’re coming at the same time..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If there’s one guaranteed way to make a man cum it’s by saying “don’t stop, I’m coming”

I’m gone.. the best I can hope for is that we’re coming at the same time..

That’s certainly a point where I find it most likely to make me cum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Absolutely yes"

Loving the confidence

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Women do you think you can make a man cum even when he’s trying not to?"

Oh yes, many many times!

The most memorable one was when he kept saying, "don't make me cum! Don't make me cum" then "arrraughhhh", I turned around and his cock was out and was spurting hands free...

"Too late", he confessed and we both fell about laughing...

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