FabSwingers.com forum: Bi curious

By *ature male Oldham OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

After a long think and years of denial I have now decided to admit to myself ( and the world of fab ) that I have strong bi sexual feelings...all I am looking for now is how to find a way to find a gentle introduction to my new lifestyle...serious advice only please ??

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By *anielpiercedMan
over a year ago

by the seaside

Try attending a club's bi night. That way you'll be around like minded people and you won't have to pressure yourself and can just take it at your own pace.

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By *ature male Oldham OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Thanks for the advice

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By *onicZMan
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Definitely echo the above. I discovered my bi side (after being curious for ages) at a chameleons bi night

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Change your profile to allow men to message you maybe?

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By *ature male Oldham OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

"Change your profile to allow men to message you maybe?"

Done..thanks

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

Maybe find a couple who are kind and gentle and patient and understanding who will help you explore at your pace?

Good luck.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

What you may like is probably different to many others, so I'd try to establish what your preferences and tastes are. Some people just like body parts, like a cock, others find the whole of a person, including personality is attractive.

You could potentially meet others in a least threatening or demanding arena, like a club or sauna. This could allow you to view only or walk away, if not interested or to just learn. If you arrange meets, you might find it perceived as more demanding. You could meet with someone who has outline interest, so you proceed slowly. Perhaps you'd prefer another with more experience, to ease the journey.

Ideally you now have ideas for what you want to try out.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"After a long think and years of denial I have now decided to admit to myself ( and the world of fab ) that I have strong bi sexual feelings...all I am looking for now is how to find a way to find a gentle introduction to my new lifestyle...serious advice only please ?? "
. You mention that you have strong bisexual feelings but until you take the plunge and have a bi sexual experience be it in someone home or a club how can you be sure you are bisexual you may have the bi sexual experience and really enjoy it in which case all is well and good or you may have the bisexual experience and not enjoy it and feel ashamed / disgusted with yourself

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
over a year ago

rochdale

"After a long think and years of denial I have now decided to admit to myself ( and the world of fab ) that I have strong bi sexual feelings...all I am looking for now is how to find a way to find a gentle introduction to my new lifestyle...serious advice only please ?? . You mention that you have strong bisexual feelings but until you take the plunge and have a bi sexual experience be it in someone home or a club how can you be sure you are bisexual you may have the bi sexual experience and really enjoy it in which case all is well and good or you may have the bisexual experience and not enjoy it and feel ashamed / disgusted with yourself "

Or both!

It's more than possible to intensely enjoy your experience & then, when the elation has worn off, to be ashamed of yourself.

This would be a regular occurrence for me & took me some time to realise that i didnt actually feel shame but was experiencing the 'drop' after the high.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"Change your profile to allow men to message you maybe?

Done..thanks

You still have men blocked from messaging you. But if that's what you prefer, then keep it that way.

First of all, have a think whether you'd be happy to meet men on their own or whether you'd only like to try same-sex activities with a lady present? Secondly, do get yourself to a bi night, or a bisexual sauna. There is no pressure to join any activities there, you can just watch and do as much or as little as you wish.

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By *angler 321Man
over a year ago

Hereford

Visit a male masseur, or a sauna. No pressure at a sauna, just go at your own speed.

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By *onstantinMan
over a year ago

Newtown

What makes you think you are bi? I ask because I'm never sure myself if I'm bi. I know I don't ever see a bloke and wonder what it would be like to have sex with them but I do think about sex with women I meet or even just see in the street. But while swinging with both men and women present I've enjoyed a cock to suck and I've enjoyed giving my cock to a bloke to suck. I've loved watching a big cock enter a woman also loved a bloke watch my cock enter a woman. Its more about the cock and spunk than the bloke and more about the whole woman experience. Do others relate to this? I'm okay with the bi-curious label. Am I actually bi? Maybe the labels aren't important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just updated my profile too. Been curious for some time. Just fear of taking the plunge. I do think I would prefer a meet with a couple and just seen if things were to develop naturally. Honestly is hard to find a couple though.

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By *ature male Oldham OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

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By *ature male Oldham OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

"What makes you think you are bi? I ask because I'm never sure myself if I'm bi. I know I don't ever see a bloke and wonder what it would be like to have sex with them but I do think about sex with women I meet or even just see in the street. But while swinging with both men and women present I've enjoyed a cock to suck and I've enjoyed giving my cock to a bloke to suck. I've loved watching a big cock enter a woman also loved a bloke watch my cock enter a woman. Its more about the cock and spunk than the bloke and more about the whole woman experience. Do others relate to this? I'm okay with the bi-curious label. Am I actually bi? Maybe the labels aren't important. "

Thank you...you are so right..I think the way forward for me is to meet a MF couple ( M bi) in a no pressure situation

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By *arktightsMan
over a year ago

banchory

For me …

I generally don’t look at guys in the street and lust after them. Some men are hot , yes - but mostly there is no sexual attraction

Looking at women - i am sexually attracted . Women just look nicer than men, generally.

That said - my hottest purely sexual encounters are with men - either in a Gay Sauna or more recently in a relationship with a married man (i am also married). We are having a very hot gay affair….when we can. But could we live together? Hell no !

So - gay? Bi ? Straight? No idea…it is what it is…..

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By *ature male Oldham OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Update...I'm so glad I posted this ...I have my first meet arranged for Monday with a very understanding gentleman

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By *onstantinMan
over a year ago

Newtown

"Update...I'm so glad I posted this ...I have my first meet arranged for Monday with a very understanding gentleman

If you are up to it share your experience and how you felt after your meeting.

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By *painxxxMan
over a year ago

newport

You and me both I have sucked a cock but that’s all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've a nice face, I'm in decent shape and I've got a smaller cock. A "BoyDick" if you will.

I'm great with first timers old man. Just reach out if you'd like an introduction

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By *ature male Oldham OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

"Update...I'm so glad I posted this ...I have my first meet arranged for Monday with a very understanding gentleman

If you are up to it share your experience and how you felt after your meeting. "

Thanks I will

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By *elshman52Man
over a year ago

North Wales

I was in a similar position and went to bi and gay clubs and saunas. I have had some experiences and enjoyed them. Still not tried anal eother way though. I suggest you try Northwich Sauna on its monthly bi day.

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By *ibi_curiousCouple
over a year ago

Shepperton

You may want to try fabguys, there are a lot of understanding guys on there

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

Buy some lube and find someone to give you a good bumming?

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

I’d suggest find likeminded woman that would help you to explore. Your chances to get meet with bi couple on here (or even in club) are very slim as most truly bi couple are looking for experienced bi guy.

Second option - go to a gay club/sauna. It’s the same friendly no pressure environment as bi night at a club but with way more willing people to help you to explore as much or as little as you want.

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By *miller304Man
over a year ago

Halifax

Bi Curious too. Always been with women . But i get hard of the thought of sucking and wanking a nice cock .

IL be taking the plunge soon

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"Buy some lube and find someone to give you a good bumming?"

Maybe he can find Christian Mingle with you, he can dress up as an Alter Boy

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Update...I'm so glad I posted this ...I have my first meet arranged for Monday with a very understanding gentleman

How did the meet go OP?

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By *ueerKinkyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge (She/They And They/Them)

Hi OP

Get some sexual health advice that’s relevant for men who have sex with men. You might be eligible for a Hep B vaccine and PrEP to prevent HIV transmission.

There’s loads of fun ahead for you. Hope you have a great time.

Dee x

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By *irjamesMan
over a year ago

Warrington

"Maybe find a couple who are kind and gentle and patient and understanding who will help you explore at your pace?

Good luck."

Easier said than done, most think it’s a ploy and I get why they think that way. Has to be a club or a Friend of friend Lina thing.

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By *kivi Bi MaleMan
over a year ago

North Shields

Good advice

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By *kivi Bi MaleMan
over a year ago

North Shields

Very good advice

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