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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok i attended a club in ireland a few weeks ago with a lady i had on here (shock we do have one)

My question comes from something i experienced during the visit. Several people went straight up to my lady friend and started chatting to her completely ignoring me. Now is it me or was this just rude? And btw my first ever club visit so i'm not up on the whole procedure shall we say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rude. And to me not acceptable and unlikely to get people anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes rude indeed and in my experience not common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing that shocks me most about this thread is that there is a club in Ireland.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going with someone soon because we want the experience of having sex with each other where other people are doing the same.

If we were to swing i'd be more than happy if a couple started talking to us. However what i'm hoping doesn't happen is having a constant wave of guys on there own coming up and trying to get involved some how. I've not been to a club yet and don't know if this happens often or if most people tend to get the picture after you've said 'no thanks' a couple times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rude and all too common on here message wise. But in clubs I have found the odd chancer having a go when one of us pops to the bar. But it gets them no where.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm going with someone soon because we want the experience of having sex with each other where other people are doing the same.

If we were to swing i'd be more than happy if a couple started talking to us. However what i'm hoping doesn't happen is having a constant wave of guys on there own coming up and trying to get involved some how. I've not been to a club yet and don't know if this happens often or if most people tend to get the picture after you've said 'no thanks' a couple times."

If you are worried about single guys then go on a night when it is couples only. Plus research the club most suited to your needs, clubs are not the same.

People should and generally will accept no, if not then report them to the staff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm going with someone soon because we want the experience of having sex with each other where other people are doing the same.

If we were to swing i'd be more than happy if a couple started talking to us. However what i'm hoping doesn't happen is having a constant wave of guys on there own coming up and trying to get involved some how. I've not been to a club yet and don't know if this happens often or if most people tend to get the picture after you've said 'no thanks' a couple times."

We always go to a very well run club and have been several times on mixed nights and have found the singles (both sexes) well behaved however as stated you do get the odd funny experience like for instance I had a man come over to me mid blow job and grab my toe and shake it to get my attention then introduce himself at least he was polite I suppose. Most clubs won't stand for it to be honest and the single guy issue does get a bit exaggerated on here tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought clubs were rare in Ireland? Perhaps this could explain the lack of protocol being observed...

Or perhaps common courtesy is also rare

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok thank you guys. And yes we have two clubs in ireland but not full time swing clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok thank you guys. And yes we have two clubs in ireland but not full time swing clubs. "

We'll be over in the summer, I'll PM you nearer the time if that's ok ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah thats no problem. Always glad to help our friends across the water.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

It happens in the swinging world and you can do is quite planely make it obvious that your "together" and what they just did is out of order.

I think the _worst_ we have had was talking to some couple in a club (they initiated it), just having a nice chat asking what they were after "FFM 3 some" fair enough explained how they can be quite difficult to achieve and can take some time and effort etc

Only to be asked if Mrs Cherry would be allowed to play alone with them , the total lack of consideration for a male half of a couple really sucks at times :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... Several people went straight up to my lady friend and started chatting to her completely ignoring me. Now is it me or was this just rude? ...."

That was extremely rude of them. One of the basic tenets of swinging is courtesy and respect for everyone. I hope your next experience of a swingers club is more positive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh no you picked it up wrong. I had a brillant time apart from that. I will deffo be going back again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens in the swinging world and you can do is quite planely make it obvious that your "together" and what they just did is out of order.

I think the _worst_ we have had was talking to some couple in a club (they initiated it), just having a nice chat asking what they were after "FFM 3 some" fair enough explained how they can be quite difficult to achieve and can take some time and effort etc

Only to be asked if Mrs Cherry would be allowed to play alone with them , the total lack of consideration for a male half of a couple really sucks at times :P"

It's unbelivable isn't it. We've encountered similar with a couple who couldn't understand why I would have a problem not playing with the female half of them while he fucked crystal because, to quote "you do full swing so it's not like you've not seen her fucked by another man before and will get jealous". I mean seriously how wide of the mark can you be?

And while these instances are rare, they do leave a bad taste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id say rude yea, if I go up to couples usually introduce myself to both xx

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