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By *aconteur69111 OP   Man
over a year ago

eastbourne

Ok I am recently Seperated and the divorce was finalised at the beginning of may.

I now have my own flat. And my kids come to stay whenever they want.

I should be able to move on with my life but I am really struggling with it.

I miss the the routine of every day life that I had. I work from home a lot so some days never leave my flat as I have no need to.

Friends are all married with their own families too worry about so I can’t just keep plonking myself on them

I hate cooking for just me, so either don’t bother or just eat stuff that needs no cooking.

I should be having the time of my life but I am having anything but.

I coach grassroots football, but we are having a summer break at the moment so I don’t even have that again till sept.

I have days where I think I have got this and feel really positive, but they are outnumbered by days where I just feel very melancholic and alone.

I can’t be the only divorced person to feel like this, and this might not be the right place to post this.

Maybe I just need to see that other people have gone through the same thing and am not a blithering wreck of a man.

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By *cots99Man
over a year ago

London

I work from home a lot so some days never leave my flat as I have no need to.

Can you find a shared workspace or a local library for at least one day a week?

I would also say don't arrange food deliveries. Go to the shops every day.

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By *lecom1Couple
over a year ago

Stornoway

Join an amateur dramatic society. Great way to meet new people who tend to be somewhat extrovert and over the top. Even if you can't act plenty of other things that need to be done behind the scenes.

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By *cots99Man
over a year ago

London

On that line - join a local choir. There is definitely something about singing in a group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes time, I have been separated for just over 2 years and still waiting for the divorce to finalise.

To be honest our marriage was very dead by the time he left, I still had a wobble though it's a big change and eventually it gets easier. Obviously I don't know the reasons why yours ended.

Sometimes you just have to sit in your feelings and process them.

Try and get a hobby , sitting at home in your own head all day is never a good thing.

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

Hey there,

I'm not sure I have anything much to offer in reply except to say I hear you brother, and I have been there.

Everyone's situation is different but I will say, as a divorced man myself with kids, it does get a lot easier eventually.

Going from a family dynamic to being on your own in a flat is a very rocky experience. Even if the family dynamic was dysfunctional and unhealthy it was still a dynamic.

The idea, at first, feels like it should be great... get to be your own man, your own space, freedom to do your own thing and enjoy things that you maybe had to be compromised or sacrificed when part of a family.

The reality though can be different. Isolating, challenging, uncertain and unfulfilling. Two homes can be expensive but the family still needs to use that same money to operate. So the dream of living the high life as a single man doesn't quite match the finances of a family with two homes to maintain.

It takes quite a bit of time to master that new life style, and also to figure out your new relationship with your family. That is most likely still very important.

You might need to set up a timetable of things you like to do, and just do them. Focus on them, but make sure you don't obsessively indulge in only thing exclusively. Permit a few hours on one thing, and then switch to another thing.

You need to give yourself a variety of different experiences so you don't get bored or become totally consumed by something.

I do totally empathise and sympathise. I know how dark those days can get, and how lost one can feel.

But at some point you find your direction, and new rules and boundaries will fall into place around new opportunities and interests. You'll end up living and enjoying your life on your terms rather than trying to make do with a set of compromises and improvised solutions.

But you can't rush it or force it. Bit by bit, it will happen.

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By *cots99Man
over a year ago

London

One man in London started a wlaking group for men. There are regular walks and you are encouraged to talk and discuss your feelings, or just have a walk.

Search The Proper Blokes Club

All the walks are in the greater London area.

Maybe put something on local social media and start your own?

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By *aconteur69111 OP   Man
over a year ago

eastbourne


"Hey there,

I'm not sure I have anything much to offer in reply except to say I hear you brother, and I have been there.

Everyone's situation is different but I will say, as a divorced man myself with kids, it does get a lot easier eventually.

Going from a family dynamic to being on your own in a flat is a very rocky experience. Even if the family dynamic was dysfunctional and unhealthy it was still a dynamic.

The idea, at first, feels like it should be great... get to be your own man, your own space, freedom to do your own thing and enjoy things that you maybe had to be compromised or sacrificed when part of a family.

The reality though can be different. Isolating, challenging, uncertain and unfulfilling. Two homes can be expensive but the family still needs to use that same money to operate. So the dream of living the high life as a single man doesn't quite match the finances of a family with two homes to maintain.

It takes quite a bit of time to master that new life style, and also to figure out your new relationship with your family. That is most likely still very important.

You might need to set up a timetable of things you like to do, and just do them. Focus on them, but make sure you don't obsessively indulge in only thing exclusively. Permit a few hours on one thing, and then switch to another thing.

You need to give yourself a variety of different experiences so you don't get bored or become totally consumed by something.

I do totally empathise and sympathise. I know how dark those days can get, and how lost one can feel.

But at some point you find your direction, and new rules and boundaries will fall into place around new opportunities and interests. You'll end up living and enjoying your life on your terms rather than trying to make do with a set of compromises and improvised solutions.

But you can't rush it or force it. Bit by bit, it will happen."

You hit the nail completely on the head, my dynamic is so different to how it was I struggle with it…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, I get this. Been there and got the T-shirt. All I can say is it takes time to come to terms with. I did some CBT sessions and it is (or can be) a grieving process to go through.

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By *GermanInLondonMan
over a year ago

London

Congrats to finalising divorce and starting a new chapter!

Great result that kids can come whenever they wish!

A few things that helped me...

- cook in batches and freeze. Then easier to have nice food when tired after work. Had the same, hate cooking for one.

- find new things that interest you.

I used a page to "meet up" (not sure if allowed to mention the page but Google should help) for outings, sports or other general hobbies.

-seek help early if struggling mentally. It's a hard time but good news: it will get better with time!!

-gtest to see that your kids seem to play a great part in your life! Adjust your chores to them. I leave as much if the work for when they are away. Keeps me busy and allows me to actively do as much as possible with them.

Hope this helps mate, eventually it will get better!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very much in the midst of this right now. Separated for 2 months now after 15 year marriage.

Now living by myself after leaving my wife, 2 kids and 3 dogs. It is fucking tough. So fucking hard. I walk to Glasgow green every day just to get out the flat and see people.

I've taken up walking football which is getting me talking to others but this is only once a week.

A few weeks ago I went through a really dark and dangerous stage, I think I've pulled myself out of it and I'm starting to get my life together but I still have moments.

In a way, it gives me a bit of strength to see other people here that have been through this and living better lives.

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By *aconteur69111 OP   Man
over a year ago

eastbourne


"I'm very much in the midst of this right now. Separated for 2 months now after 15 year marriage.

Now living by myself after leaving my wife, 2 kids and 3 dogs. It is fucking tough. So fucking hard. I walk to Glasgow green every day just to get out the flat and see people.

I've taken up walking football which is getting me talking to others but this is only once a week.

A few weeks ago I went through a really dark and dangerous stage, I think I've pulled myself out of it and I'm starting to get my life together but I still have moments.

In a way, it gives me a bit of strength to see other people here that have been through this and living better lives. "
be strong sometimes we don’t have any other choice.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

I got divorced more than two years ago. I know the fillings OP.

Few advice based on my experience:

- go for therapy if you can. Helps to realise what you are, what you want and helps to come through past and leave it be

- get a hobby you thought about before but never did because were busy with family commitments.

I bought a piano and started lessons with a teacher. Amazing feelings.

- get engaged in some local community like sport, charity, fishing, diy etc (whatever close to your heart)

- plan for the future (holidays in few months, buying big stuff like new car)

Happy to chat in private if you need to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very much in the midst of this right now. Separated for 2 months now after 15 year marriage.

Now living by myself after leaving my wife, 2 kids and 3 dogs. It is fucking tough. So fucking hard. I walk to Glasgow green every day just to get out the flat and see people.

I've taken up walking football which is getting me talking to others but this is only once a week.

A few weeks ago I went through a really dark and dangerous stage, I think I've pulled myself out of it and I'm starting to get my life together but I still have moments.

In a way, it gives me a bit of strength to see other people here that have been through this and living better lives. be strong sometimes we don’t have any other choice."

I'm trying, I'm hopeless at the moment. I've never lived by myself, joined the army at 18, been married the last 15, I have a few mental health issues and I really don't know what to do.

I'm getting help for the mental health side now but I have mental blocks stopping me from sorting stuff out. Like I still have not been for a proper food/flat supplies. First time I tried, I walked in with needing loads and walked out with bathroom mats. 2nd time I had a full on panic attack in the store and not been back since

Need to get through this for the kids, I'm starting to have better days and things are improving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What @AlexV16 said.

In the past/now I joined several clubs based on my hobbies and from day one I always felt welcome.

Therapy is very good as well, but there are different types and one that fit one person doesn't always fit the other.

Big question is what you miss from the marriage? If it is just a routine, I think its not something that is hard (but not easy) to change.

If you have very good contact with kids, thats a huge win.

I am going through divorce myself, but have some friends that help me with it + therapy. And relationship with my ex is very good - that helps a lot.

Anyway, if I can give you one actionable advice - see the PureGym - you have one in Eastbourne. I have one locally and its affordable and it has excellent group classes every day that I go few times a week. Nothing helps as much as exercise and its very good motivator to go out.

Maybe you could get a dog, but its relatively big commitment (but lady magnet too)!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As horrible as these feelings are, they are normal reactions to what is (just now) an abnormal situation. Sometimes we dont realise how comforting routines are till they are no longer there. It can feel like you miss the ex partner but it's the routines you miss. I've no real advice to offer as what works for me wont work for you. Some good advice on the thread about getting out, joining clubs etc but...that's not easy either. The loss of identity is real too. I guess time will smooth the edges?

All the very best x

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By *aconteur69111 OP   Man
over a year ago

eastbourne


"As horrible as these feelings are, they are normal reactions to what is (just now) an abnormal situation. Sometimes we dont realise how comforting routines are till they are no longer there. It can feel like you miss the ex partner but it's the routines you miss. I've no real advice to offer as what works for me wont work for you. Some good advice on the thread about getting out, joining clubs etc but...that's not easy either. The loss of identity is real too. I guess time will smooth the edges?

All the very best x"

I am hoping so as I am not this type of person, I am a very gregarious sole and am always the first up at karaoke, I coach kids football at weekends and some week evenings, but it’s the bit when I walk in the flat, to my own company that this feeling of melancholy descends on me.

I will work it out eventually, it is just taking me longer and I am finding it harder than I thought it would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there, done that. Look, not gonna lie to you and say "Heigh Ho, away we go, you'll get there". We're all aware of the platitudes etc but the reality is that you are grieving not for the loss of your marriage, which is sorrowful enough, but for what you thought your life was going to be. That's the part no one tells you, and you can get stuck in it. There is no cure all because it takes the time to process. It's a traumatic experience. If you look at the grief process you will see it has stages. What stage can you relate to, that's where you're currently at.

It's always good to open up, and I can relate to how you don't want to plonk yourself on anyone. No one enjoys "being a burden", and out of routine, you can't just fill it up again and block out the pain.

I can't say my way is the best or only way, but what I did was drink for four months and realised my dog was waking me up for work, so I slapped myself out of that and had to depend on myself. I then set myself a routine. Rise early, go for a walk, look at the things I missed before, breakfast, work, call family on the phone, read books, changed my social circle, went hill walking, travelled, got different hobbies, (Lego, painting, gardening etc). Can't all be done at once, or in a short time but what it gave me was a sense of worth. Money can't buy that. Over 18 months my thought processes altered more positively, and I entered into another relationship, a disastrous 10 year one at that! But I got off my sorry ass and did it all over again.

So what did I do? I learned more about myself and woke up. I discovered what makes me happy, deep down, I focussed on myself, so I could enjoy life again and lo and behold after another year ended up in my current relationship which is exactly where I want to be.

The fact we got together in a car crash is not important, but let's just say you really never know what's around the corner until you go there.

Make a plan, live it. It fails, make a new plan. Never stop. I look back and think "How did I get through all that crap??" I did, scarred, but I did, and you will.

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

A few things that helped me when my last relationship ended and I was living in a flat on my own…

Cook proper meals - I struggled with it and ate a lot of takeaways or just random stuff that didn’t need cooking. As a result I put on a load of weight, which dented my confidence even more. I fixed this by getting some new kitchen kit, finding some recipes and trying new dishes. Check out Gordon Ramsay’s YouTube for some great ideas and batch cook some dishes for freezing too.

Exercise - Going to the gym or the pool or for a walk is a great way to get out of the flat and to have some thinking time while doing something positive for you.

Hobby - Coaching football is great, but you also need something to do indoors to help you focus. Reading, painting, building models, Warhammer, or even video games. Something you can do that’s positive and makes you feel good.

Meet new people - Finding groups to join and places to go is great. It helps you build a wider circle of people and feel less of a burden on other friends and family.

Swing - Hey, it’s swinging site. Sometimes going to a club, relaxing, maybe meeting some people or playing can help too

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By *hropsGuy69Man
over a year ago

telford

Op - it will pass !!

I’m divorced going on 6 Years now and have had rushed relationships since to combat the loneliness …

I’ve since learnt to enjoy my own company and to not rush into another relationship just to simply fill a gap…

I went through times of severe loneliness but it does pass and when it does and you embrace being alone I can tell you it’s awesome … I’m a solo holiday fanatic - bloody love them , meet new people etc and really pushes my comfort zone which I embrace.

One word of advice though - try not to use fab as a gap filler - well actually I should I say I tried to do that and it doesn’t help …. I went months away from fab to help the healing process… others may the opposite helps..

Time is a healer !

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By *hunkyMan
over a year ago

bradford

It’s time to put yourself first fella!

It’s hard I know, my divorce was finalised in February and I rushed into another relationship way too soon and made things a lot messier than they needed to be.

It was the trigger for me to come in here and start going to clubs. It sounds strange but I find it easier to socialise there than at a vanilla bar on my own.

Get out, do the things you said you would do for yourself. It’s ok to put yourself first and actually enjoy your life.

You’ve done the hard part already, time for some fun

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By *aconteur69111 OP   Man
over a year ago

eastbourne

Cheers all it is nice to know I am not alone.

It is ok to not be ok

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I absolutely HATED being married, but I hated being newly divorced more.

Hope you're doing okay, OP.

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By *ocknrollerMan
over a year ago

Glasgow/Stirlingshire


"Cheers all it is nice to know I am not alone.

It is ok to not be ok"

Hi, Im sorry for what you're going through. I've been through a similar experience in the last 12 months. I wont go into all the details, but it's been the hardest 12 months of my life and Im really struggling to keep going at the moment. Im sometimes scared to try giving advice because everyone's situation is unique and it might not be helpful.

But I just want you to know that you're definitely not alone in how you feel or in what you're experiencing right now. I know it's really tough, but I hope that you get through it soon and start to feel like your old self again before long.

It sounds like you have some good positive things to focus on like your kids and the football coaching, I know some people dont have anything to focus on and that's really hard.

Maybe during the off season you could come up with ideas for training sessions or something for your coaching? And spend time making memories with your kids whenever you have the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The end of most eras feel like shit. Sorry for the struggles OP

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Ok I am recently Seperated and the divorce was finalised at the beginning of may.

I now have my own flat. And my kids come to stay whenever they want.

I should be able to move on with my life but I am really struggling with it.

I miss the the routine of every day life that I had. I work from home a lot so some days never leave my flat as I have no need to.

Friends are all married with their own families too worry about so I can’t just keep plonking myself on them

I hate cooking for just me, so either don’t bother or just eat stuff that needs no cooking.

I should be having the time of my life but I am having anything but.

I coach grassroots football, but we are having a summer break at the moment so I don’t even have that again till sept.

I have days where I think I have got this and feel really positive, but they are outnumbered by days where I just feel very melancholic and alone.

I can’t be the only divorced person to feel like this, and this might not be the right place to post this.

Maybe I just need to see that other people have gone through the same thing and am not a blithering wreck of a man.

"

I'm sorry to hear your struggling, give yourself some much needed time to adjust to your new way of life, it's a massive change to go through and you just have to allow yourself to feel, don't be to hard on yourself and think you should be ready to face this, there are no time limits here and nobody should expect you to be "over it" I do agree with going shopping although this isn't all that socail but it gets you out in amongst people..the shared work space is also a great idea..just remember it's not the end, it's just a new way of life that you have to adapt to.

Good luck.

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By *igharryMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Never been through divorce but your description reminds me of a time when i was very lonely. I unfortunately got almost everything wrong so maybe i can give some advice on what i didnt do and wish that i did.

Id recommend a new hobby. The feeling of achieving something you never thought you could achieve can be immense! Maybe try something you wouldn't usually do.

One i would do is to take up a dance class. Iv got no rhythm so if i managed to learn how to dance that’d be very exciting and on top of that its a great way to meet new people and really good for your health!

Otherwise say if youve never learnt to play chess, try join a chess club and learn. Imagine the feeling you’ll get once you go from knowing nothing to learning to beat the best player in the club!

And im sure theres plenty more. Just try step out of your comfort zone, learn a new skill etc and things should hopefully look up from there!

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By *igharryMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Ok I am recently Seperated and the divorce was finalised at the beginning of may.

I now have my own flat. And my kids come to stay whenever they want.

I should be able to move on with my life but I am really struggling with it.

I miss the the routine of every day life that I had. I work from home a lot so some days never leave my flat as I have no need to.

Friends are all married with their own families too worry about so I can’t just keep plonking myself on them

I hate cooking for just me, so either don’t bother or just eat stuff that needs no cooking.

I should be having the time of my life but I am having anything but.

I coach grassroots football, but we are having a summer break at the moment so I don’t even have that again till sept.

I have days where I think I have got this and feel really positive, but they are outnumbered by days where I just feel very melancholic and alone.

I can’t be the only divorced person to feel like this, and this might not be the right place to post this.

Maybe I just need to see that other people have gone through the same thing and am not a blithering wreck of a man.

I'm sorry to hear your struggling, give yourself some much needed time to adjust to your new way of life, it's a massive change to go through and you just have to allow yourself to feel, don't be to hard on yourself and think you should be ready to face this, there are no time limits here and nobody should expect you to be "over it" I do agree with going shopping although this isn't all that socail but it gets you out in amongst people..the shared work space is also a great idea..just remember it's not the end, it's just a new way of life that you have to adapt to.

Good luck. "

Really love the bit where he says “there are no time limits here”. 1000% right! Take all the time, or as little time as you need. There literally is no clock.

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By *aconteur69111 OP   Man
over a year ago

eastbourne

Just done the lonely single man walk round sainsburys trying to decide on what to eat. Came out with wine, cheese, ham and ice cream…. At least I got out the flat.

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Just done the lonely single man walk round sainsburys trying to decide on what to eat. Came out with wine, cheese, ham and ice cream…. At least I got out the flat."

Hey Mr Raconteur,

I'm not around until late August but if you ever felt like a pint and a chat I'm up the coast in Brighton and would be up for drive down your way to swap notes on experiences.

Us blokes aren't all that great at talking about it to friends and relations and sometimes, a good chat works wonders, and a stranger takes the awks out of it.

Offer is there for a few week's time if you want to.

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By *ockforplay66Man
over a year ago

Southampton/isle of wight/ everywhere

Hi mate,

I went through similar, with my separation starting shortly before covid struck. I moved on to my boat, which sounds glamorous but in reality it’s like a caravan that floats!

Covid changed my work pattern so I ended up being 100% home working through out. That’s when the loneliness struck me.

Others have said it, but I will reiterate, there is no time limits or targets. If it takes you a year, that’s fine, if it take you longer, that’s fine too. Do things at your pace.

I would also agree with finding g a reason to get out of the flat, even if it’s just a short walk to the shops. I cursed the fact that I don’t have a freezer on the boat so had to buy everything fresh every couple of days. But when I started feeling the loneliness, I was grateful for the need to go to the shops every few days at least.

It might also be worth looking at some sort of counselling as well. Regardless of the reasons for your divorce, it is a trauma and might be worth just having an impartial ear to bend from time to time.

Whatever you do decide, there are plenty here who know what you are going through and plenty of us willing to chat to help you through it.

Stay positive

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

Can I amend my previous post to say "pint" is totally optional. It could be a coffee, a bag of chips and a can of Lilt, or Twenty Bensons, a couple of E's and a spliff made of Oregano that we buy off a bloke called Harry the Fence.

Or a sherbert Dib-Dab, or packet of Ryvita that we shoplift from Budgens.

World's your oyster really.

(Not oysters though, they make me barf)

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Hey chin up mister there are plenty of us out there. Literally can't remember the last time I had a dinner as live off toast. Being alone gives me time to reflect on my life and how I wish it had been different but then I remember there are people worse off than me. Luckily I go out to work but I also have 2 dogs. The dogs keep me company and sane and give me a reason to walk miles daily. Its not easy but try and embrace life the best you can.x

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Hey chin up mister there are plenty of us out there. Literally can't remember the last time I had a dinner as live off toast. "

Right, I'm catching a plane to Glasgow YOU SHOULD NOT BE LIVING ON TOAST ALONE, LADY.

*packs wok and nutmeg grater*

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock


"Hey chin up mister there are plenty of us out there. Literally can't remember the last time I had a dinner as live off toast. Being alone gives me time to reflect on my life and how I wish it had been different but then I remember there are people worse off than me. Luckily I go out to work but I also have 2 dogs. The dogs keep me company and sane and give me a reason to walk miles daily. Its not easy but try and embrace life the best you can.x"

Dogs are amazing for your mental well-being. Walking in the door to be met with unadulterated joy, is incredibly infectious, and for a while leaves you feeling content with your life.

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By *aconteur69111 OP   Man
over a year ago

eastbourne


"Just done the lonely single man walk round sainsburys trying to decide on what to eat. Came out with wine, cheese, ham and ice cream…. At least I got out the flat.

Hey Mr Raconteur,

I'm not around until late August but if you ever felt like a pint and a chat I'm up the coast in Brighton and would be up for drive down your way to swap notes on experiences.

Us blokes aren't all that great at talking about it to friends and relations and sometimes, a good chat works wonders, and a stranger takes the awks out of it.

Offer is there for a few week's time if you want to."
will hold you to that

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By *aconteur69111 OP   Man
over a year ago

eastbourne


"Hey chin up mister there are plenty of us out there. Literally can't remember the last time I had a dinner as live off toast.

Right, I'm catching a plane to Glasgow YOU SHOULD NOT BE LIVING ON TOAST ALONE, LADY.

*packs wok and nutmeg grater*"
let me know what flight your booking

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By *aconteur69111 OP   Man
over a year ago

eastbourne


"Hey chin up mister there are plenty of us out there. Literally can't remember the last time I had a dinner as live off toast. Being alone gives me time to reflect on my life and how I wish it had been different but then I remember there are people worse off than me. Luckily I go out to work but I also have 2 dogs. The dogs keep me company and sane and give me a reason to walk miles daily. Its not easy but try and embrace life the best you can.x

Dogs are amazing for your mental well-being. Walking in the door to be met with unadulterated joy, is incredibly infectious, and for a while leaves you feeling content with your life."
I had 2 dogs but I had to leave them with ex as she kept the house. I am in a 3rd floor flat so dogs not an option. I have two cats now which are great but it’s not the same….

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Just done the lonely single man walk round sainsburys trying to decide on what to eat. Came out with wine, cheese, ham and ice cream…. At least I got out the flat.

Hey Mr Raconteur,

I'm not around until late August but if you ever felt like a pint and a chat I'm up the coast in Brighton and would be up for drive down your way to swap notes on experiences.

Us blokes aren't all that great at talking about it to friends and relations and sometimes, a good chat works wonders, and a stranger takes the awks out of it.

Offer is there for a few week's time if you want to.will hold you to that"

Great. We'll do it.

I'm back in the area around the 20th August.

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Hey chin up mister there are plenty of us out there. Literally can't remember the last time I had a dinner as live off toast.

Right, I'm catching a plane to Glasgow YOU SHOULD NOT BE LIVING ON TOAST ALONE, LADY.

*packs wok and nutmeg grater*let me know what flight your booking"

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock


"Hey chin up mister there are plenty of us out there. Literally can't remember the last time I had a dinner as live off toast. Being alone gives me time to reflect on my life and how I wish it had been different but then I remember there are people worse off than me. Luckily I go out to work but I also have 2 dogs. The dogs keep me company and sane and give me a reason to walk miles daily. Its not easy but try and embrace life the best you can.x

Dogs are amazing for your mental well-being. Walking in the door to be met with unadulterated joy, is incredibly infectious, and for a while leaves you feeling content with your life.I had 2 dogs but I had to leave them with ex as she kept the house. I am in a 3rd floor flat so dogs not an option. I have two cats now which are great but it’s not the same…."

That's a shame, hope she let's you spend time with them.

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