FabSwingers.com forum: Do most ‘serious’ couples just meet in clubs

By *orl1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Our experience of Fab, for us, has been 99% guys contacting us for meets along with the occasional chat with a couple who then turn out to be incompatible or not really into swinging yet.

Maybe we are just getting too old and opportunities are rare now but we wondered if many couples are now looking more at clubs as they know more people are serious about meeting. Btw we’ve never been to a club but Fab has been heavy going so we either give up or try something new.

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By *ackonceagain1777Couple
over a year ago

West Mids

Yes clubs are definitely easier than here in our experience, this takes up way too much time with very little reward! We much prefer to just go to a club and if anything happens it's a bonus if not its a good night out

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I'm not part of a couple, but I find it easier to meet couples in clubs. I found fab isn't always reliable and now I tend to stick to clubs myself because it's much easier to meet people. Plus, if someone let's you down, there are loads of other lovely people to get to know.

My fab journey evolved from private meets to clubs now and I much prefer going to clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs seem to be the best way to meet people in general for both of us, we've both been on fab for a good long time with other profiles but most of the interest we've had on our new profile is from newbies who say they want to meet but when it comes down to it they never seem to be able to find the time.

We just like clubs as we can plan in advance, know we'll have a good time even if we don't play and saves lots of effort.

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By *razy ShenanigansCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Clubs all the way! There's so many advantages to going to a club...pick the right night for you and you get to meet like minded people at face value

If you hit it off socially with people then you've made potential new friends, if you hit it off sexually, then playtime is great. If you find you just want to mingle and take it all in, that's totally fine as well, or maybe you want to head off somewhere private and just enjoy each other, or maybe with an audience....

Most clubs have pool/hot tub facilities as well to enjoy as well as cinemas, dungeons etc...go to watch or join in!

We've not been since December because, you know, life

but as soon as we can get back to Abfabs we'll be buzzing

Fab has become a minefield for trying to meet now, worth keeping just in case a rare gem pops up but clubs are definitely the way to go!

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Our experience of Fab, for us, has been 99% guys contacting us for meets along with the occasional chat with a couple who then turn out to be incompatible or not really into swinging yet.

You're definitely not too old! There's a lot of fakes, time wasters and fantasists on here, so many choose to go to a club where there are real people already there. For us a club night is a 6 hour fun night and no 2 nights are the same. Sometimes we interact with others, sometimes just with each other. We do love to dance as well though, so that's part of our club night!

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

no swinging clubs and fab are tiny in comparison to the scene as a whole the main bulk of couples that swing do so privately ..

if every swinger couple one weekend decided to go to a club 99% would not be able to get in as they wouild be full with the 1% the scene is way way way bigger than clubs or any web site

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

and your never to old to swing we know plenty who are in there 70s ++ that still go to clubs or dogging or private

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

Much prefer private parties with around 5 couples. Too many pushy arrogant guys at clubs often. Am lucky though as been swinging since young and got lots of contacts for party fun

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

"and your never to old to swing we know plenty who are in there 70s ++ that still go to clubs or dogging or private"

Very true. Some of them also the best u will meet

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

We prefer clubs for sure

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By *woforfun 1000Couple
over a year ago

surrey

We gave up on fab meets as far too many time wasters! Much prefer clubs and seeing if the chemistry is there and if it’s not we can either have a social or go our separate ways and still have a fun night!

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Our experience of clubs seems to be a little different as we’ve found it really difficult to meet people in clubs.

maybe it’s us lol. Think we might be a little shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single lady, for meeting couples and general ambiance, clubs are better. Theres no worries about accommodating or child care or no shows. For single men i find fab a better place.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

We're serious, but we don't really do swingers clubs. We don't really use fab much for meets these days either.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Our experience of clubs seems to be a little different as we’ve found it really difficult to meet people in clubs.

maybe it’s us lol. Think we might be a little shy

We used to be the same, we've had club nights where we've hardly spoke to people. It can help if you go back to the same club, you'll recognise people and are more likely to get chatting. You can also use Fab to see who is also going the same night and maybe interact with them. Unfortunately many will say "yes we're going, we'll come and say hi" but they either don't turn up or stick with their mates.

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

We use clubs for meets and fab to perve and keep in touch with those we've met

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By *ornyfriendlygentlemanMan
over a year ago

Mid-Sussex

I would love to meet at a club,the nearest for me is BGHS which I have been to but even BGHS is a far distant away from me,saying that I was planning to go to a club in Sutton Surrey between 11 am to 3pm.I think it's a shame there isn't a club much nearer to me.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We don’t meet new people via fab anymore we tend to meet a lot of people through large group socials and clubs .It eliminates all the time wasters and it definitely works for us ..

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We definitely aren’t serious, but we do see Clubs as the best way to meet people we are interested in. Co-ordination 3 or 4 (or more) people outside of Clubs seems too challenging and you all have choices in a Club so it is way less stressful than meeting people and not feeling the spark in a hotel for example. Good advice and insight on here. We just need more Clubs!

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By *orl1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Wow. Overwhelming vote for clubs.

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By *orl1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"no swinging clubs and fab are tiny in comparison to the scene as a whole the main bulk of couples that swing do so privately ..

if every swinger couple one weekend decided to go to a club 99% would not be able to get in as they wouild be full with the 1% the scene is way way way bigger than clubs or any web site"

How do these people meet? Are we talking about repeat meets with people they have met online or are people converting vanilla friends?

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Many obviously do. Not sure it is most judging by people near me, people I know and veris flying around about private meets. Probably depends a lot on location as well as some are a lot closer to clubs than others. I have also heard the opposite point of view from some couples I've met who've been around a long time, full swap and care less about the social side (perhaps "serious"? Some have stopped going to clubs very often and focus on private meets/private groups as they find clubs have become too social with a lot of people having no intention of playing and just chatting, watching or being watched (their prerogative of course) but that also varies a lot from place to place and indeed night to night.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Clubs make it easier to meet new people but once established friends are made there's no reason meets can't happen at homes. Clubs have some advantages though, big bed or naked room have space for lots of people and most surfaces are wipe clean.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Clubs are so much easier as we just turn up and go with the flow. Sometimes very little happens but other times it's a sex fest. What a club gives is a haven from the outside world where we can just kick back and enjoy.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

"no swinging clubs and fab are tiny in comparison to the scene as a whole the main bulk of couples that swing do so privately ..

if every swinger couple one weekend decided to go to a club 99% would not be able to get in as they wouild be full with the 1% the scene is way way way bigger than clubs or any web site

How do these people meet? Are we talking about repeat meets with people they have met online or are people converting vanilla friends? "

easy word of mouth when you been on the scene for some time it gets so easy not to rely online or clubs ... id say 80% of my meets are word of mouth / private 10% clubs 10% online been on this scene for 30 + years one club vist could sprout several meets private ... we know one couple who are doggers 100% of their home meets come from people they meet out and about ... if im looking for a guy a night on the town could do that its not and never has been just about clubs or online ..

alot of clubs of late are getting filled with the social only crowd nothing against that but to alot thats just not swinging

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

I don’t know if we would be considered ‘serious swingers’, but we like both. Meets in private houses are more relaxed and therefore ultimately satisfying, but we have had fun in clubs. For us, the trouble with clubs is they are all miles away so an overnight stay is usually needed. We prefer everyone to be bi which is tricky to find in clubs on a Saturday night when we are most likely to attend. Clubs are fun for dancing and spontaneous encounters and to spice up a weekend away, but on balance, we would prefer to meet privately. But if all clubs were like Fata Morgana in Amsterdam, we may be persuaded otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think its just the amount of time wasters, wanking dead and fakes on here. Loads of people just go to clubs. Much easier. Don't have to speak to people months or even a year, trying to organise a meet. Just turn up and chat to people face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We rarely use clubs, much prefer meeting in real life (via friends etc) or via this sites

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

"I would love to meet at a club,the nearest for me is BGHS which I have been to but even BGHS is a far distant away from me,saying that I was planning to go to a club in Sutton Surrey between 11 am to 3pm.I think it's a shame there isn't a club much nearer to me. "

What or where is BGHS please ?

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By *FF69Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Clubs work really well for us too. You can gauge instant attraction, go with the flow, and no cat fish pictures in sight!

It helps for us that a big part of our kink is playing publicly being watched, and watching others. So we can have an equally good night just doing that, or actively playing with others, so it’s a win win for us.xx

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By *ore4fundevonCouple
over a year ago

West Devon

Pre covid we met mostly guys because it suited our circumstances and requirements/desires at the time.

Now we've resumed and find ourselves prioritising couples and/or single ladies we're finding that going to clubs is far easier to meet a lot of people socially or physically in one evening with a view to being able to meet privately as and when timings work out.

Fab is turning into a tool to stay in touch rather than find meets.

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By *am and johnCouple
over a year ago

york

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By *am and johnCouple
over a year ago

york

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By *am and johnCouple
over a year ago

york

Fab is fine for sorting out wheat from burks; clubs are fine for meeting those sorted out from the burks-but it takes antennae to detect the bleeders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At a club, at least the people there turned up, which is more than can be said for fab meets where (in my experience) there is a good 80% of guys that have a dying granny / sick pet / lack of babysitter / car blown up at the last minute.

At a club, you know that everyone there has actually got out the house from behind their phone screen and you can see what they look like to gauge attraction.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Our experience of Fab, for us, has been 99% guys contacting us for meets along with the occasional chat with a couple who then turn out to be incompatible or not really into swinging yet.

Plenty of people the same age - and older - attending clubs here in the Midlands, plus you look great, so you'll absolutely fond yourselves welcome and in demand if you decide to dip your toes in.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

We do like a club and have been there to just do our own thing

And we have been with the intention to have a look around and see who grabs our attention

We have had great nights in clubs and have been totally blanked as well

We find that couples can be tough going , for us theres also the fully bi , not just fab bi lady to throw into the mix , so everyone getting on can be a tough ask

We go from clubs to hotels , to house meets

Happy with all them , if they go well !

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Being over 50 does reduce the interest and blocking single guys might make Fab less frustrating.

We find clubs work best for us but have had meets through fab, so it is possible.

I would definitely recommend giving clubs a try. If nothing else, its a night out.

Nita

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

Clubs are great for some and not for others. As a couple it seems to be the best place, you can go and meet lots of people and it's no biggie if you don't get on with some as much as others, people haven't made a special trip just to meet with one couple or person.

The same can be said for singles too, as I'm not sure if you've heard, some people don't turn up to meets. So a club is good to just brush off no show.

As a single male, clubs can be intimidating places, but perseverance is the key and confidence. Still they are not the only place to meet and have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes clubs are definitely easier than here in our experience, this takes up way too much time with very little reward! We much prefer to just go to a club and if anything happens it's a bonus if not its a good night out

Exactly why we’ve started to prefer club meets recently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only ever meet at clubs. We probably would meet the rift guy if fab but it never seems to happen.

Club meets just feel more natural and easier

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Bit of both really. On here you can chat for a bit, maybe build a connection. Makes the meet more relaxed. In the Clubs it's more fun based, whether having a natter and a drink, dancing(for some

) or a bit of horny spontaneous play. As for age OP, forget about it, no age limit on sexiness

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

I'm not a couple so technically not even a swinger but I love the clubs. I don't do normal things like go to the pub

so clubs ARE my social life. I love that I don't need to have anyone near my home , that I have made the best friends, the loveliest fuck buddies and always manage to find some naughtiness without sending any messages

Added bonus as a couple youcan fuck each other whilst you are there

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"I'm not a couple so technically not even a swinger but I love the clubs. I don't do normal things like go to the pub

Added bonus as a couple youcan fuck each other whilst you are there

For singles and couples, this is spot on, framing the original question of "serious" swingers implies one is somehow better than another where it is more important that people have the option and can do whatever makes them happy

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

"I'm not a couple so technically not even a swinger but I love the clubs. I don't do normal things like go to the pub

Added bonus as a couple youcan fuck each other whilst you are there

Both of these sum it up perfectly

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By *orl1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I'm not a couple so technically not even a swinger but I love the clubs. I don't do normal things like go to the pub

Added bonus as a couple youcan fuck each other whilst you are there

We didn’t mean to imply anyone was better than anyone else. By serious we mean people who actually play rather than those that talk about it lots but never play. No better, just different but we’re looking for people who do play

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We rarely meet couples away from clubs (unless we've met before) as it's an easier way to gauge whether we feel compatible with both halves of the couple honestly. Makes it much easier to sit and talk together instead of relying on fab

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

We love clubs and find it much easier than on fab to find what we are looking for, also if you don't find enyone you can just socials in the bar

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By *ouplecu2015Couple
over a year ago

Reading

we met our friend at the club, we met him a couple of times at the club where we socialized and talked about each other's wishes and he then became my wife's lover

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By *merald-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Torksey

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By *merald-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Torksey

We have found it hard work finding couples outside clubs.

And the amount of last min cancellations. If you actually get a planned social is bonkers too..

Then don't get me started on the effort made on club vs other meets.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

I don’t know if we’re a ‘serious’ couple but 99% of our meets are in clubs. Clubs are a great night out even if you don’t play.

Meeting outside we’ve found is really hard work.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

What or where is BGHS please ? "

BGHS is a spa in Brighton with playrooms on an upper floor . It's not a club as such but a fun place to go. Couples only nights available as well.

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By *orl1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Sounds like we should definitely get along to a club. CJs in Glasgow is too close to home with our jobs as they are so a couples night in an English club sounds like a plan.

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

South Essex

Another vote for clubs. We have such little free time that socials can feel like a waste when all you want to do is tear each other’s clothes off. Similarly we’ve been messed about enough in the past to know that unless you’re standing there looking at a playmate you never really know if they’re going to show up!

We love the vibe of swinging clubs, too, and we can indulge our exhibitionist tendencies too

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By *rsandMrJCouple
over a year ago

ALDERSHOT

Another vote for clubs!!! We find we meet so many people and have a much better time.

Outside of clubs so many time wasters, couples that want the fantasy but not the reality... it becomes painful and hard work.

Doesn't mean to say we wouldn't meet privately and do, we've just found clubs better.

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

"no swinging clubs and fab are tiny in comparison to the scene as a whole the main bulk of couples that swing do so privately ..

if every swinger couple one weekend decided to go to a club 99% would not be able to get in as they wouild be full with the 1% the scene is way way way bigger than clubs or any web site"

So true. We started swinging back in the days of contact magazines, when it was far more difficult for the dreamers and fakes to dabble......they never knew when the postman might deliver an envelope which wifey might question!

We love the intimacy of meeting single and couples away from the club scene. Soon the entire art of seduction will be lost!

Being friendly and chatty with nice people works wonders, in bars and on the beach where we spend the winter months. Over many years we've met and played with couple and women from all around Northern Europe. We value genuine friendship every bit as much as the intimacy. 'Fuck and go' we aren't!

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

We run a sort of a hybrid model where we use fab primarily for obtaining contact with new playmates but clubs primarily for actually meeting them (where possible, for some playmates it's impractical)

We find we aren't really the "approach uninvited in person" types so we get very little play in clubs if we go stag. But as a venue for meeting someone you have met elsewhere there's nothing better.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Cut the bullshit head to a club but do your research first find a club or club night that matches your interests.

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

We find clubs good cos at the least you know the people are real humans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs for us as far easier than trying to arrange meetings on Fab

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We only meet new people at clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When doing this as a couple we did have a few good meets of here but then once we started going to the clubs we soon realised how much easier and cheaper it was, and now on here as a single guy going to a club is much more of a far better option, I've been lucky enough to have built up a lovely circle of friends there so even if I don't play I always have such a good night just socialising, I do still have the odd private meet but it's always with people I've met at the club. And it's definitely not your age, there are couples and singles of all ages that attend the clubs as there is on here, I'd recommend blocking us single guys on here though so you can concentrate on looking more of what you are looking for without the hassle of being bombarded with messages, if you do fancy a meet with single guys once you manage us we can then reply even if you do have single guys blocked.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Not sure what serious means but no, not "just" clubs. Huge number of couples are meeting privately all the time (look for veri blasts on local update over the weekend) and many are going to clubs AND doing private meets. Come across many who meet one week at a club and then next week privately - private meets more intimate. Also know quite a few couples who refuse to go to clubs anymore as too social. They just meet another couple with agreement that if all happy play on the night after a drink and a chat.

One big factor is that some are lucky with a club on their doorstep and have the time (and possibly money) but many not so lucky. If nearest club is 1-2 hours away and quite possibly nothing happens until late and perhaps you've got a babysitter then a few hours say 7-11pm relatively locally is a much easier option.

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