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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Me and my girlfriend has been talking about introducing other people into our sex life for some time now and she has expressed a lot of interest. We have a good relationship and are very open and open minded. However, I have no idea on how to start the next step. She said she would like to but doesn't have the confidence to go to a swinging club so how could I get us to start searching profiles together by bringing it up in conversation. Any ideas would be welcome and if anyone has any further questions ill do my best to answer them. Thanks.

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By *exykirstyWoman
over a year ago

North of Manchester

Create a couples profile first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Delete your profile

2. Talk to her about it openly

3. Make a new profile together

Easy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's what I was thinking but how do I bring up the subject of creating a couples profile without sounding pushy. I was thinking of talking about just telling her we should set one up to get a little more information?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just come out with it, she's either interested enough to join in and have a look or not I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete this profile and set up a couple's profile. You've said that she is interested and you have discussed going to clubs so she is clearly open to idea. Be very honest with the text in the way that you have been here. Non of the talk of fantasies that you have on yours, just honest that you are new couple thinking of dipping your toes in the scene and see where it leads.

And if she is nervous of the idea of a club then depending on music tastes maybe something like antiChrist or Torture Garden which are more nightclubs with couples rooms could be a plan.

Most importantly, never let her feel pressurised or pushed in to anything that she's not comfortable with and make sure that you are doing this to explore both your fantasies and not just yours.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Of you've discussed it and she has said she's willing to explore further suggest that you set up a couples profile together. Whether you delete your singles profile is for the pair of you to decide. If she is worried about clubs (and they aren't for everyone) discuss what she would be comfortable with and make it clear in your profile. Take it slowly don't try and persuade her into anything and I'm sure you'll both get a lot out of it

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Agree with all of the above - create a couples profile as she is obviously receptive and from your profile you've discussed this in some depth apparently, i really can't see much of a dilema as you're 3/4 of the way there. Z

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