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By *angerdave OP   Man
over a year ago

ingoldmells

Hi just like to ask ladys out there for help I have been married 37 years and sex was always good put like all women wife went through change and sex stopped then she lost her mum and dad close together and we have not had any sex not even kissing for the last 3 years tryed talking to her about it and all she says I'm going on and and to shut up it's like I'm just some one she lives with and it's getting me down to the point where i think why bother and leave her but I do love her so much can any one help

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By *ch WellMan
over a year ago

Scotland

Well you've been meeting here alot longer than that behind her back so I doubt you're gonna get much sympathy here tbh.

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By *aracarMan
over a year ago

waterford


"Well you've been meeting here alot longer than that behind her back so I doubt you're gonna get much sympathy here tbh."

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By *J and CBCouple
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi just like to ask ladys out there for help I have been married 37 years and sex was always good put like all women wife went through change and sex stopped then she lost her mum and dad close together and we have not had any sex not even kissing for the last 3 years tryed talking to her about it and all she says I'm going on and and to shut up it's like I'm just some one she lives with and it's getting me down to the point where i think why bother and leave her but I do love her so much can any one help"

Get rid. What use is she if she won't fuck you.

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By *J and CBCouple
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

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By *J and CBCouple
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Hope she finds out what you are doing behind her back!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hope she finds out what you are doing behind her back!!!"

Sounds like she found out around the time her parents died.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

37 years do you really want to throw that away.

Menopause & grieving is so very hard maybe you could try couple counselling.Tell her how you feel & be open tell her you want to help & understand what she is going through.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Leaving aside all the other considerations you've been together a very long time and as you say, you love her.

What would you like your relationship to be like, what would she like it to be like? That's a good place to start. Would your wife who let's face it, has had a tough few years, consider seeing someone to talk through how she's feeling, she's probably grieving the loss of her parents and the loss of her previous life. If she won't talk to you maybe she'll talk to a neutral person

I'm not going to comment on your presence here that's for you to deal with but if you want to stay with your wife you might consider couples counselling too. It's possible that it's not just her who has issues.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"37 years do you really want to throw that away.

Menopause & grieving is so very hard maybe you could try couple counselling.Tell her how you feel & be open tell her you want to help & understand what she is going through."

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By *heSilverFox1701Man
over a year ago

Near Sleaford

Introduce a third party into the relationship? Worked for us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi just like to ask ladys out there for help I have been married 37 years and sex was always good put like all women wife went through change and sex stopped then she lost her mum and dad close together and we have not had any sex not even kissing for the last 3 years tryed talking to her about it and all she says I'm going on and and to shut up it's like I'm just some one she lives with and it's getting me down to the point where i think why bother and leave her but I do love her so much can any one help"

Not sure what you are hoping for here.

Sympathy?

Advice?

Opinions?

You've been cheating on your wife for a quarter on your marriage.

I'm guessing she knows.

I wouldn't continue sleeping with a man that's cheating on me

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It is possible the ops wife knew about his profile and was happy for him to be here

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By *ouple4voyeurCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

You say u love her, but say, u think of ending it because you don't get sec off her?

That ain't love at all.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

no one can help you op no one knows you or your wife...

the menopause is so different for all women i went thru mine in my early 30s and did not even know until i went to the drs because my periods stopped i never went of sex if anything i got even more horny ...

you cant ask a group of strangers for help but what you will get is those damming you and yet they dont know you either ... go talk to your wife fix it or leave those are your options

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple
over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border

In simplest terms, maybe invest time and effort in to your wife. As in, what is good for HER.

If you don't know how to do this, try watching the film 'Fireproof'. It's not a great film, but at least it will give you some indication of how investing in your relationship provides it's own rewards.

(Side note: it's a religious film, but concentrate on the outline sentiment)

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By *hiny-SinnersCouple
over a year ago

Vale of Glamorgan

Jeez some really judgemental comments here, remember there but for the grace of god and all that! Assuming the OP is genuine, then couples counselling may help as sometimes introducing a third party intermediary can break stalemate situations. Clearly she is feeling fragile and will naturally be defensive when challenged, so focussing on the health of the relationship rather than the trigger topic of sex may be a safer approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you lost your in-laws, is that something you can talk with her about? My opinion is to focus on your marriage, your wife. She should hopefully be your priority as you should be hers. Sex is a part of relationships/marriage but finding a way for you both to communicate is more important.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Hi just like to ask ladys out there for help I have been married 37 years and sex was always good put like all women wife went through change and sex stopped then she lost her mum and dad close together and we have not had any sex not even kissing for the last 3 years tryed talking to her about it and all she says I'm going on and and to shut up it's like I'm just some one she lives with and it's getting me down to the point where i think why bother and leave her but I do love her so much can any one help"

Hi op

Love is a funny thing to have and to hold as the saying goes... Does she know that you are on here this much would explain the love

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

She's been through a tough time op and may be struggling .

If you're not prepared to go without ,then you need to sit and have an open conversation with her.Ask her if you can compromise and seek sex elsewhere maybe ..

Does she know you're on here op ,if not she may have her suspicions that something's off anyway

Miss

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