FabSwingers.com forum: My profile.

By *igcovcock OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

I could do with a bit of advice, serious advice please. Is there any thing i could chance on my profile so that i get more woman interested in meeting me. Serious help and advice please thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could do with a bit of advice, serious advice please. Is there any thing i could chance on my profile so that i get more woman interested in meeting me. Serious help and advice please thank you."

I take it the advice you got last time you posted the same thread yielded no results

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It starts off aggressive and shouty - not good.

7 cock pics is possibly overkill.

You have a picture where your room look a mess. And then a bit about meeting with your flatmate at home and staying in your room. While it's good that you've explained the situation it does sound a little seedy and your room looks far from inviting.

You might want to say a little bit about you, what you like and what you can offer.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

If your that annoyed with being bombarded with messages out of your age range set your filters then lose the shouty rant.

Pics are pretty grim, half a dozen cock shots is not necessary, get some variation.

Your text tells us nothing about you at all. Have a look at other profiles for ideas.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

For starters get rid of the rant about people outside the age range contacting you.....and just use the filters that are available.

I stopped reading at that sentence as it just sounds so aggressive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pants round your ankles. Very unattractive.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

We'd never enter someone's home for sex where they have a flat mate "around"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you need to smile a little in your pics...you look quite serious and startled in your main pic,like a bunny in car headlights.

Say some nice points about yourself and what kind of lady your looking for, and maybe a little homour. Also, yes comes across as a little aggresive.

Good luck and hope you find some fun soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....the same as another respondee has mentioned.....you asked this same question not long ago and have changed precisely nothing since then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has to be the 6th whats wrong with my profile this week. Maybe if we directed them to this "guide" they might stop asking

Single guy profile guide

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/63845

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By *igcovcock OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Just up dated my profile now. Is it any better? Thanks for the advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just up dated my profile now. Is it any better? Thanks for the advice."

Not really no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol,chuckling away to myself here.

The Hi,im Jamie is brill,but the rest is still the same. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just up dated my profile now. Is it any better? Thanks for the advice.

Not really no."

....I agree i'm afraid and am struggling to provide constructive advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself don't ask people to give you ideas if you meet someone and thay are not the same as your profile it will end there and then and if you have had the same post in the past you will know what people think.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Sorry, I didn't see your original profile, but I think your current one is still pretty poor!

Pics, text, it all needs improved!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"....the same as another respondee has mentioned.....you asked this same question not long ago and have changed precisely nothing since then.

Last week I believe. I would make sure the background in your pics is tidy, eg. Clothes in wardrobe, plastic boxes of records put away etc. Smile as well.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Just up dated my profile now. Is it any better? Thanks for the advice."

I didn't realise you had changed it!

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"This has to be the 6th whats wrong with my profile this week. Maybe if we directed them to this "guide" they might stop asking

Single guy profile guide

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/63845

I just looked at that and thought it very informative.

I can't help but think that these rate my profile threads are simply please look at my profile. I notice that the advice is rarely taken on board and quite often misunderstood.

When I wrote my cv, I looked at others for inspiration. I would suggest that looking at other members profiles would be the best. In particular the gentlemen who frequent the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does great head for pussys mean??????

You might want to lose that and maybe say you like oral sex?

Men only on friends list might put some ladies off?

Tidy your room mate

Hope this helps and best of luck .

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By *igcovcock OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Tidy my room. In one picture there's two books that have fallen on the floor. I'm not putting my records aways cos for one i've got no were to put them and for two i play them all the time. And the only clothes that are out are my jackets which are hunging up.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Tidy my room. In one picture there's two books that have fallen on the floor. I'm not putting my records aways cos for one i've got no were to put them and for two i play them all the time. And the only clothes that are out are my jackets which are hunging up. "

All the other advice given re profile text and pictures and the only thing you pick up on is your messy room.

Lol.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

If you don't want help, then please don't ask.

You could hide all the boxes just for the purpose of the picture.

It is your profile after all, your decision what you show and say. Maybe you will find someone who does not mind squeezing into a cluttered room.

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By *igcovcock OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Well my room isn't messy.

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By *igcovcock OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

I do want the help and advice but feel that saying my room is untidy is not fair. And just for the record there's plenty of room and its not cluttered so no one will be squeezing in.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"I do want the help and advice but feel that saying my room is untidy is not fair. And just for the record there's plenty of room and its not cluttered so no one will be squeezing in."

You might know that because you live there but it doesn't appear that way in pics.

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By *igcovcock OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Ok well if thats the way it looks in my pictures i don't see that there's much i can do bout that.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Also I'd display your verification as people like to see them as like a reference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok well had a look and have to say we agree with all the above !!

1. Pics are poor, your profile avatar looks like you have seen something shocking on the screen lol !! In our opinion ladies are not attracted to your kind of pics, perhaps get someone to take some slightly more arty / semi naked shots instead of full on cock and naked pics.

2. You may feel your room is tidy but that is not what people want to see initially.

3. Try being more polite and courteous in your description, your wording doesnt say much other than you want to give to pussy ?? How about im looking to meet socially and then if we get on perhaps some fun or naughtiness ??

4. If you ask for advice on your profile expect some negatives and constructive criticism, especially when the people doing so have been on fab a good while and know what they are talking about

That is all lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do want the help and advice but feel that saying my room is untidy is not fair. And just for the record there's plenty of room and its not cluttered so no one will be squeezing in."

But neither is it in the slightest bit inviting for the reasons people have said.

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By *witch mix vanillaCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Too many cock pictures, we all know what one looks like.

Smile in the picture!

Would you meet a woman who was not smiling in her pictures?

As per all the others, look at the pictures as if you were looking at a profile.

The naked one of you, there are boxes and clothes all over the room.

Why would anyone want to come round and be in your room with your house mate in the house?

Take some body pictures, with camera's that have a timer on, does not take that much!

If you cannot take the comments, then suggest you do not ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your picture looks like you should be on guard outside the palace

And drop the flat mate thing , remember women feel a little insecure at times which you can't blame them ! And like someone else said Smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also I'd display your verification as people like to see them as like a reference. "
maybe not got any

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Also I'd display your verification as people like to see them as like a reference. maybe not got any "

He's got the green tick

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By *igcovcock OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Right i will re do my pictures and re write my text thanks for the feed back. But as for my flat mate well sorry but thats really nothing i can do bout that. I live in a shared house i can't throw my flat mate out now can i? The reason i put that on my profile is because i know not every one wants to come to a house for a meet when there's other people in the house, i think that is sensible. If people don't wanna meet me while my flat mate's in the house thats cool and understandable. He work's nights so come round when he's at work.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

It's the way you word it i think.

Try 'can accom sometimes due to having a flat mate but meets can be arranged for when he's working evenings' or something like that.

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By *igcovcock OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Ok i've just chanced my profile. What do you think of it now?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Ok well if thats the way it looks in my pictures i don't see that there's much i can do bout that. "

Yes, there is. Take a photo that doesn't include the plastic boxes of records in the background. Perhaps you could move them, take the photo, then move them back. Or perhaps you could take a photo from an angle whereby they don't show up. You know your room is not cluttered but no one else can tell that. For an uninterested and objective point of view, the first thing I thought was "yuk, untidy bedroom" not "I want to meet this guy" and if mr normal average me thinks that, you can safely assume lots of other people might do so too.

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By *igcovcock OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"We'd never enter someone's home for sex where they have a flat mate "around" "
Then its a good thing that i've mentioned it on my profile isn't it. Save's any nasty surprise's when you get here.

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By *igcovcock OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"Also I'd display your verification as people like to see them as like a reference. "
The reason i don't show my verification is that personily when i look at some one's profile and they've meet up with lots of people and have lots of verification's on it puts me off them. I do have a green tick on my profile.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Also I'd display your verification as people like to see them as like a reference. The reason i don't show my verification is that personily when i look at some one's profile and they've meet up with lots of people and have lots of verification's on it puts me off them. I do have a green tick on my profile."

So, someone with 1 or 2 verifications wouldn't put you off, but lots of veris would....... Don't forget those people showing 1 or 2 could well have 200 others but hide them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will never understand why people feel the need to specify no scat or watersports . I take it as read that people don't do that, they're not that common even as a fetish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could do with a bit of advice, serious advice please. Is there any thing i could chance on my profile so that i get more woman interested in meeting me. Serious help and advice please thank you."

Start by removing the ridiculous 'shades' so people can see your eyes. The 'flatmate' lurking around makes us feel creepy. Apart from that seems to read OK, but you won't get within a million miles of Rio .. sorry.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"I could do with a bit of advice, serious advice please. Is there any thing i could chance on my profile so that i get more woman interested in meeting me. Serious help and advice please thank you.

He wouldn't message her anyway,

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

And while I'm here what 'shades'

He's wearing glasses. Not ray bans

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"And while I'm here what 'shades'

He's wearing glasses. Not ray bans "

Maybe they were called 'shades' in the 1950's lol!

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

My advice OP is to completely remove the reference to a flat mate. Just arrange your meets around him\her not being there.

No issue for anyone then. Good luck.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

Some peoples comments on here give the impression their so far up their own ass, its a wonder they found their way out to post

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

hope you realize that Swingers who have been active for a few years will have met "lots" of people.i'm not giving my same advise again,re-read your last Forum thread.

As for your tick:that could just be a Webcam veri which not every Fabsters accepts as a genuine "will meet" veri

(susie)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP: I can see that you've made changes to your profile, compared to when you asked a few days ago, so good to see that you are acting on constructive criticism. I am not in your target age group, so I can be impartial in my suggestions.

I would agree that the 'flat-mate' comment could be presented more positively. Something like "I can accommodate some evenings or weekends, but need to work around my flatmate's plans (he works nights)".

I would also suggest that you could be a bit more positive about your own likes. As an earlier poster said, you don't really need to say "no pain/poo/watersports" in your profile - most people aren't going to ask you for that (and if they do, you can respond individually, through inbox messages). Your comment that you will do "anything except...." suggests a) that you're a bit desperate and b) that you haven't really thought through what you DO want/have to offer. Perhaps be a bit more descriptive about what you DO like, rather than what you don't. This gives people a better idea about what kind of person you are, and you can still cover all bases by adding (at the end) "but I'm willing to consider any other suggestions".

My final suggestion (and some peeps will flame me for this) is that your glasses aren't really fashionable. Could you maybe look into contact lenses or getting a new pair of glasses? I am shortsighted, and I am usually attracted to men who wear glasses..... but your glasses just don't do it for me - sorry! I know that contact lenses and specs are expensive, but you don't have to get designer frames... just something maybe a little less heavy along the top.

And when you get them ... take some new pics and smile!

Good luck!

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By *igcovcock OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"OP: I can see that you've made changes to your profile, compared to when you asked a few days ago, so good to see that you are acting on constructive criticism. I am not in your target age group, so I can be impartial in my suggestions.

And when you get them ... take some new pics and smile!

Good luck!"
Thank you very much for your positive comments. I will take them on board and act on them.

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