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"A valid point. I came here in the hope of scratching an itch along time ago when believed that was never likely to happen. Ended up staying as addicted to the stories and living out my fantasies vicariously." All I can say is communicate. | |||
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"I have to ask you this, not in a judgemental way but don't you think that some of her fears are actually based in fact given that you're here alone? Women have an uncanny knack of identifying something isn't quite right even if they can't articulate what it is." Exactly this you've got veris from meets so kind of proving her point | |||
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"Thank you we are which is why we are at the point we are now. I just don't want to go to fast or far and ruin it all. After admitting feelings I felt like wieght was lifted off me. I love my wife and think she is wonderful. Really just want the best of experiences for her. Definitely want it to be about her. " Well good luck to you both. | |||
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"Have thought about it. But don't you have to be a member etc. Think might be a sensory overload.for first experience but will see how suggestion goes down " Some clubs don't need membership, like the Attic | |||
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"To be blunt about it I’d say given the fact you’ve been betraying her on here for over a year means your dream fantasy was dead in the water long ago. Maybe rather than continuing to prioritise your sexual desires over her (and push them onto her) you should pursue them as a single man. " This. Swinging is based on trust, and without it things will all end in tears. | |||
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"Obviously you need to discuss this with her, but have you considered attending a club together? You don’t have to do anything that you aren’t comfortable with, but maybe just attending a club and seeing a few naughty things plus maybe just playing with each other would be a good compromise?" | |||
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"Obviously you need to discuss this with her, but have you considered attending a club together? You don’t have to do anything that you aren’t comfortable with, but maybe just attending a club and seeing a few naughty things plus maybe just playing with each other would be a good compromise?" Good advice | |||
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"I like most on here have fantasised about my wife being shared for years. About 2 years ago I eventually told her about it as just couldn't get it out of my mind. It didn't go well she was discussed and didn't know why I would want it. All the usual thoughts followed like I didn't love her anymore or was just trying to get her to do it so I could then have another woman etc. That and I am just sick pervert and so on. Still to this day I think she thinks there is an alternative motivation behind it and she has always said its not something she wants. Over time we have adapted a little role play and I play whilst she says things about another man etc. But still doesn't want to do it or understand why I would want to. However the other night she suggested that wanking someone off wouldn't be the same as having sex and should be ok. We were playing at the time so not sure how serious she was or not. We have had some mind blow blindfold role play after that. And just playing would be awesome for me. All the naughty without the actual emotional headache. And I am sure most men would except boundaries if they got to cum So my question is how do I gently encourage this without being pushy. The last thing I want to do is put her off the idea altogether. If it stays roleplay I am fine with this too. But would really like a womans imput here please.did other initially have reservations and how did you over come them?" You're on here to meet people without her knowledge or consent, based on your profile wording. You want her to do something YOU fantasise about, which she has been clear she doesn't feel comfortable with. You later say you want it to be about her. How exactly do you think that works? | |||
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"I like most on here have fantasised about my wife being shared for years. About 2 years ago I eventually told her about it as just couldn't get it out of my mind. It didn't go well she was discussed and didn't know why I would want it. All the usual thoughts followed like I didn't love her anymore or was just trying to get her to do it so I could then have another woman etc. That and I am just sick pervert and so on. Still to this day I think she thinks there is an alternative motivation behind it and she has always said its not something she wants. Over time we have adapted a little role play and I play whilst she says things about another man etc. But still doesn't want to do it or understand why I would want to. However the other night she suggested that wanking someone off wouldn't be the same as having sex and should be ok. We were playing at the time so not sure how serious she was or not. We have had some mind blow blindfold role play after that. And just playing would be awesome for me. All the naughty without the actual emotional headache. And I am sure most men would except boundaries if they got to cum So my question is how do I gently encourage this without being pushy. The last thing I want to do is put her off the idea altogether. If it stays roleplay I am fine with this too. But would really like a womans imput here please.did other initially have reservations and how did you over come them?" Next time you're balls deep in her, tell her all about the men you fucked. And how you discussed her private feelings on a sex site. She'll be hurling herself at cock before you can suck it. | |||
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"I like most on here have fantasised about my wife being shared for years. About 2 years ago I eventually told her about it as just couldn't get it out of my mind. It didn't go well she was discussed and didn't know why I would want it. All the usual thoughts followed like I didn't love her anymore or was just trying to get her to do it so I could then have another woman etc. That and I am just sick pervert and so on. Still to this day I think she thinks there is an alternative motivation behind it and she has always said its not something she wants. Over time we have adapted a little role play and I play whilst she says things about another man etc. But still doesn't want to do it or understand why I would want to. However the other night she suggested that wanking someone off wouldn't be the same as having sex and should be ok. We were playing at the time so not sure how serious she was or not. We have had some mind blow blindfold role play after that. And just playing would be awesome for me. All the naughty without the actual emotional headache. And I am sure most men would except boundaries if they got to cum So my question is how do I gently encourage this without being pushy. The last thing I want to do is put her off the idea altogether. If it stays roleplay I am fine with this too. But would really like a womans imput here please.did other initially have reservations and how did you over come them? Next time you're balls deep in her, tell her all about the men you fucked. And how you discussed her private feelings on a sex site. She'll be hurling herself at cock before you can suck it. " I've just grown a six pack | |||
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"I like most on here have fantasised about my wife being shared for years. About 2 years ago I eventually told her about it as just couldn't get it out of my mind. It didn't go well she was discussed and didn't know why I would want it. All the usual thoughts followed like I didn't love her anymore or was just trying to get her to do it so I could then have another woman etc. That and I am just sick pervert and so on. Still to this day I think she thinks there is an alternative motivation behind it and she has always said its not something she wants. Over time we have adapted a little role play and I play whilst she says things about another man etc. But still doesn't want to do it or understand why I would want to. However the other night she suggested that wanking someone off wouldn't be the same as having sex and should be ok. We were playing at the time so not sure how serious she was or not. We have had some mind blow blindfold role play after that. And just playing would be awesome for me. All the naughty without the actual emotional headache. And I am sure most men would except boundaries if they got to cum So my question is how do I gently encourage this without being pushy. The last thing I want to do is put her off the idea altogether. If it stays roleplay I am fine with this too. But would really like a womans imput here please.did other initially have reservations and how did you over come them? Next time you're balls deep in her, tell her all about the men you fucked. And how you discussed her private feelings on a sex site. She'll be hurling herself at cock before you can suck it. " the best advice for sure!! | |||
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"I like most on here have fantasised about my wife being shared for years. About 2 years ago I eventually told her about it as just couldn't get it out of my mind. It didn't go well she was discussed and didn't know why I would want it. All the usual thoughts followed like I didn't love her anymore or was just trying to get her to do it so I could then have another woman etc. That and I am just sick pervert and so on. Still to this day I think she thinks there is an alternative motivation behind it and she has always said its not something she wants. Over time we have adapted a little role play and I play whilst she says things about another man etc. But still doesn't want to do it or understand why I would want to. However the other night she suggested that wanking someone off wouldn't be the same as having sex and should be ok. We were playing at the time so not sure how serious she was or not. We have had some mind blow blindfold role play after that. And just playing would be awesome for me. All the naughty without the actual emotional headache. And I am sure most men would except boundaries if they got to cum So my question is how do I gently encourage this without being pushy. The last thing I want to do is put her off the idea altogether. If it stays roleplay I am fine with this too. But would really like a womans imput here please.did other initially have reservations and how did you over come them?" we are amazed at how many single profile post begin with 'my wife.....' its no wonder why we dont really accommodate the thought of a single, we dont want the mess and hassle that COULD happen if.when people get caught out | |||
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"I like most on here have fantasised about my wife being shared for years. About 2 years ago I eventually told her about it as just couldn't get it out of my mind. It didn't go well she was discussed and didn't know why I would want it. All the usual thoughts followed like I didn't love her anymore or was just trying to get her to do it so I could then have another woman etc. That and I am just sick pervert and so on. Still to this day I think she thinks there is an alternative motivation behind it and she has always said its not something she wants. Over time we have adapted a little role play and I play whilst she says things about another man etc. But still doesn't want to do it or understand why I would want to. However the other night she suggested that wanking someone off wouldn't be the same as having sex and should be ok. We were playing at the time so not sure how serious she was or not. We have had some mind blow blindfold role play after that. And just playing would be awesome for me. All the naughty without the actual emotional headache. And I am sure most men would except boundaries if they got to cum So my question is how do I gently encourage this without being pushy. The last thing I want to do is put her off the idea altogether. If it stays roleplay I am fine with this too. But would really like a womans imput here please.did other initially have reservations and how did you over come them? we are amazed at how many single profile post begin with 'my wife.....' its no wonder why we dont really accommodate the thought of a single, we dont want the mess and hassle that COULD happen if.when people get caught out" The morality of married men is off subject. Ss others have said communication. You cannot push, in the end it will have to be her choice. | |||
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