FabSwingers.com forum: First time mmf advice

By *ouple2view OP Couple
over a year ago

watford

Myself and my partner want another guy to join us. As its the first time we are obviously both a bit dubious and unsure about the best way to do it. Meeting a guy and getting a hotel or going to a club and hoping someone joins in. There seems to be pros and cons to both scenarios. One guy in a hotel seems like pressure. But going to a club is a bit daunting as there may be lots of unwanted attention (we only want a guy, not women or couples).

Any advice on first time experiences?

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By *eecekydawn100Couple
over a year ago

Hedge End

We tried the single guy joining us twice now and the pressure got to both of them!

I would go for the club scenario as you can see what you’re getting first. Take him to a private room. Have fun!!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe try a club in the daytime when it's quieter

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Our first ever meet was a threesome with a guy. He was very experienced, we went to his flat and apart from nerves on my part (I'm the woman) it went very well. After my initial awkwardness things flowed very well.

Don't overthink would be my advice. Chat between about how to initiate things and with him about what you do and don't want to happen.

Hope you enjoy the experience

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Go to a Club and assume you will not play the first time. Socialise, chat, be flirty, play on your own & if you want to, invite others to play with you. Clubs are safe, no pressure environments where you will not get hassled. Perhaps ask the staff tomintroduce you to people, just remember no means no & have fun!

We tried hotel meets & found the pressure too much, Clubs are a whole different vibe

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Chat between you two that should say

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

"Myself and my partner want another guy to join us. As its the first time we are obviously both a bit dubious and unsure about the best way to do it. Meeting a guy and getting a hotel or going to a club and hoping someone joins in. There seems to be pros and cons to both scenarios. One guy in a hotel seems like pressure. But going to a club is a bit daunting as there may be lots of unwanted attention (we only want a guy, not women or couples).

Any advice on first time experiences?

I would recommend you find another guy who understands that it may not happen on the first time you meet to take the pressure off both of you.

I saw one couple three times before we ended up enjoying ourselves together. No pressure makes it so much easier for all.

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple
over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border

Any advice on first time experiences?

I would recommend you find another guy who understands that it may not happen on the first time you meet to take the pressure off both of you.

I saw one couple three times before we ended up enjoying ourselves together. No pressure makes it so much easier for all. "

This is good, sound advice.

Many people either forget, or simply don't realise, it's also nerve-racking for the single guy. We've had many bottle out, even for a social meet.

For us, we like to meet them socially first, several times if necessary. Then let things develop.

You may prefer the club environment, but you are probably correct, in that you will likely receive lots of attention from the guys present.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start off with

Are they what they claimed to be, EG look like their pic, then their presenation as per messages, if at this stage you have doubts, so a polite "we will get in touch, nice meeting you, bye."

Those that are telling the truth will look and behave like what they said and its easy to just chat just like meeting a stranger on hols and build it up from there and see where it goes

Good luck

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

Any advice on first time experiences?

I’d suggest first option as a club but taking into account said above I think meeting a guy local to him at a pub with potential to go to his if it goes well.

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By *4funXXXMan
over a year ago

cheshire

Many years a go before I lost my mrs it was something I’d always wanted to see. The mrs wasn’t sure but we went to a club must have been at least times. We watched a few guys fuck wife’s but the mrs wasn’t up for it. Then one afternoon in the club a guy came up chatting like many others had but I noticed she seemed to like him and I noticed she had opened her legs so he got a view of her pussy. Half hour of chatting and she’s asking me to take her to a private room for a play. He followed and she didn’t stop him coming in the room. Before long she’s got him between her legs and getting lick to her first orgasum then he’s balls deep in her both cumming together. She said afterwards it just felt right and she loved it. Think you will know when time and person is right. But definitely go to a club where to can control things and use a private room

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By *ickv1Man
over a year ago

Chatham

I would say, for your first time, meet a guy for a social first.

Say a pub. Then all the pressure is off and you can put your mind at ease while getting to know each other.

Then can arrange to meet at a club or hotel another time.

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By *arleycplCouple
over a year ago

Leyburn

My first 3some was with a couple, for me it was chat for a while, then a social and set boundries that we were all happy with and a couple of days later a play meet

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Many years a go before I lost my mrs it was something I’d always wanted to see. The mrs wasn’t sure but we went to a club must have been at least times. We watched a few guys fuck wife’s but the mrs wasn’t up for it. Then one afternoon in the club a guy came up chatting like many others had but I noticed she seemed to like him and I noticed she had opened her legs so he got a view of her pussy. Half hour of chatting and she’s asking me to take her to a private room for a play. He followed and she didn’t stop him coming in the room. Before long she’s got him between her legs and getting lick to her first orgasum then he’s balls deep in her both cumming together. She said afterwards it just felt right and she loved it. Think you will know when time and person is right. But definitely go to a club where to can control things and use a private room "

This has very much been our experience. Sometimes you just click and then it is wild. Even when we don’t click with anyone, we always managed to have fun at Clubs on our own - sometimes giving a show, sometimes in a private room

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By *nlyfunsMan
over a year ago

Def start with a no pressure social. Make sure everyone is comfortable and having a few laughs. Nothing worse than awkwardness when you meet with the expectation of fun

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There's no pressure at clubs to engage in anything at all. You can prearrange meeting or just find guys on the day. And using a private room is fine, after you've got relaxed socially elsewhere.

If it doesn't work with him, there could be others who you may like enough to explore with.

The only rules are club rules and ones that you make.

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By *each888Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

I had a 3 way mmf with a couple in a hotel . I was very nervous, needed reassurance through messages before hand but as soon as they entered the room and the wife took off her coat to reveal sexy underwear the nerves seemed to disappear . We hardly chatted a few words before the me and her hubby were naked and his wife @ produced a dildo from her bag.

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By *ewdtenantMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

My first mmf was brilliant, met them in the hotel bar and chatted amicably. Both were really friendly, she was gorgeous. Drinks back to my room and as soon as we stripped he was down sucking me, first time a man had sucked me. After that any residual nerves evaporated and it was a horny couple of hours. We then cleaned up and had a final drink in the bar. A great intro. Wish I could recapture it.

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By *ung nine inchMan
over a year ago

leeds

We are discreet asian mf couple our first time we still see Steve if you want to know more inbox

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By *ouise69tTV/TS
over a year ago

midlands

"Go to a Club and assume you will not play the first time. Socialise, chat, be flirty, play on your own & if you want to, invite others to play with you. Clubs are safe, no pressure environments where you will not get hassled. Perhaps ask the staff tomintroduce you to people, just remember no means no & have fun!

We tried hotel meets & found the pressure too much, Clubs are a whole different vibe

My partner and myself m and f have been talking about doing this and how our first time will go!

We’ve been to a club before but only once.

We have said the same thing to each other in that we are going to go again with the intention of not playing with anyone else and just chat a feel the vibe. We will talk to each other a lot about how we feel, will certainly have a play between ourselves then if something does feel right between the right couple then we may go for it, but like I say first time is not putting any pressure on ourselves!

We wouldn’t even consider a one on one meet for the first time!

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By *ersuasion22Couple
over a year ago

Herts

Any advice on first time experiences?

Have a social first, that way there's a lot less pressure. We booked a day hotel for our first mfm. We decided that if it didn't work out we'd just enjoy the room as a couple. Since then we've played with guys in clubs, but that's been spontaneous rather than a planned meet.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

We recently invited a man to join us, his veri is really sweet. In our local club we were sat in the cinema, Miss giving Mr a very public HJ whilst we actively chatted to other club goers. One of them took our eye and when we went to a private room we straight up asked "do you want to join us?" and we had a lot of fun.

We have no qualms asking men, women or couples to join us. They are just people, they worst they can do is say no and seriously, if you asked us, we would definitely say yes and leave to both with huge grins on your faces

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"We tried the single guy joining us twice now and the pressure got to both of them!

I would go for the club scenario as you can see what you’re getting first. Take him to a private room. Have fun!!"

Absolutely this! We have arranged to meet guys at Clubs, sometimes it works out, sometimes not but you do get choice, opportunity and atmosphere at a Club which helps a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a mfm with a fuck buddy, first meeting was in his car, she gave him a blow job , week later we went to his house and after 5 minutes we were in bed naked, no awkward moments and great fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We opted for a couples night at a club and managed to full swap. We gave up trying to arrange a meet on Fab.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

The mmfs I joined, even with unsure newbies, were always like a date: First coffee, then to their place / hotel, then I start making out with her, handjob/blowjob, other guy joins, and then it's more natural.

Clubs are difficult, because many single men want to join in and you need to manage who gets to join and who doesn't. It's more difficult to say no.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"The mmfs I joined, even with unsure newbies, were always like a date: First coffee, then to their place / hotel, then I start making out with her, handjob/blowjob, other guy joins, and then it's more natural.

Clubs are difficult, because many single men want to join in and you need to manage who gets to join and who doesn't. It's more difficult to say no. "

Clubs are easy. No is no, and go to a private room and close the door. We have been to 10 different Clubs and never had an issue. We always feel safe and have never been ‘overwhelmed’. Clubs are way safer than a Pub/Bar on a Friday or Saturday night in town, plus you know why people are there

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

I would say, clubs are the best way to find your feet to explore your first mmf fun. Clubs offer tge oppurtunity to view meet, be social and decide if you want to invite anyone in then it's your choice. I've been to clubs as a single and with a lady friend always been a great day or night out.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

Clubs are difficult, because many single men want to join in and you need to manage who gets to join and who doesn't. It's more difficult to say no.

Yes, it's easy if you've done it before. But it's more difficult than if you're not in a club. But that doesn't mean it's overly diffcult. I just know some people in clubs have social pressure from all the amount of people asking, and then don't want to come back when all it was, is just them not saying no firm enough.

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By *antric_lover77Woman
over a year ago

south east

I thought you be more likely to get single men in clubs so sounds like clubs is the best place or on here. There's millions of them on here to choose from. Good luck op

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Clubs would be a good idea. Easier to back out if either of you get cold feet

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By *antric_lover77Woman
over a year ago

south east

Clubs are difficult, because many single men want to join in and you need to manage who gets to join and who doesn't. It's more difficult to say no. "

If anyone has any issues with anyone's behaviour , just report to reception or staff. Personally I think clubs are the best place to find someone to join. On here, they hide behind a screen and you wonder if they're anything like their online persona or even turn up. Going to a club eliminate all them issues. You chat, if like, go into private room and have fun. Enjoy

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By *andydan69Man
over a year ago

south west nr you mmm

I’m up for a chat guys

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Definitely a stand alone social is best first. Just a drink and chat with no pressure. It’s easier when you know the person. It breaks the ice and relaxes everyone.

Next meet can be a play meet if you’re all comfortable. Works for us.

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